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Vanity007:
@concho and @mamaoo I think both of you should look for drama thread to go and pick insults on each other. People come here for serious issues that affect their lives and that of their families and its not worth wasting this thread on something that doesn't add to the knowledge of visitors of this thread. Its so immature of both of you because if u guys actually have any iota of respect for yourself, you wouldn't pick a fight in a public forum like touts. Please you both can get the hell out of here and let's appreciate people with success stories. WTH!

Wait. Are you mad? If you had any iota of respect for yourself, you won’t have said anything at all. Were you blind when he started throwing insults at me? Or what was I supposed to do? Look the other way right? The post where I answered her about why she stayed so long in the US, did I insult her?

Please, respect is reciprocal, so I would implore you to respect yourself. I am not your wife/sister/kid. Don’t come here looking to score cheap points, I am not that person. I’ll advise you to go concentrate on making your make-believe interview at the US Embassy a reality and stop flexing stupid muscle. In you life! I repeat, in your life!! Never you address me the way you just did.

concho:
Chai.....God pls save me from this kind of woman wen i wan marry o.

And I pray my husband doesn’t regress and become a man like you. A man that will spend all his productive years attacking people on the internet!

Do you have the intention of coming to the US and working under the table? Because I don’t see why you’re crying more than the bereaved. I told the original poster the truth. She spent too much time in the US with very little stay in Nigeria. But what do I know? I’m just hating

MumJJJ:
Thanks mama,
Could ela be a reaction to something?
we use Johnson products and we are on breastmilk ,formula,and water. could it be as a result of what I eat.
They are twins but one does not have it.

It could be atopic dermatitis, it could be milk intolerance, it could be anything. Take the baby to the ped and also a dermatologist for proper evaluation

zaynie:
Hello mamas.
I see and acknowledge all mentions.
Thank you all.


All through MHC, Muna was acting up, throwing every thing she ate up.
Just after MHC, she started running temperature.
Gave her pcm, the temp went down ,some minutes later, she threw it up and the temp went up again.
Gave her some few minutes, oya eat yam and egg. She slept for a long time, with a high temp, kept mopping with damp towel. At a point I had to wrap her head to toe in a wet towel. She kept throwing up all the drugs I gave her.
By 10pm, I called the dad (he was downstairs) let's go to the hospital, so he ate and changed and we set off for Gbaja at around 10.45pm. Got there and we had to go and buy a card seeing as this was the first time she was seeing a doctor. Card was taken to the Nurse's station. Around 11.50pm I saw a known Paed leaving the consultation room, fully dressed for home. I went to the nurse's to ask why we weren't called up. She said they've been calling us and we refused to answer...... Me that was on a watch out o. My husband was like.... Are they alright sha?
Nurse found out Paed had gone, she comes back to their station and drops our file on the table like..... I don't care. She goes into a room, turns on the fan and I guess she went to sleep. You're on night duty and you're snoozing by 12.15am?
Na so I vex, carry MD phone number written on the wall, called MD. Told her all I'd done to stabilize my child from home and how her temp was spiking again because of the stress. How the nurse was nonchalant in her attitude. MD said I should carry my phone to the nurse. I knock tire, nurse don sleep go. MD said I should look for any hospital staff and give the phone to them, just then, another Paed walked into the emergency unit. Her eyes are red from sleep and I give the phone to her. MD speaks with her and she treats Muna.
We were given mosquito bites in our bonbom, 3 sef (I don't know why I just don't want to call injection for her) and we got home around 1.20am. Moyo was the only one at home, asleep.
All the nurse had to do was call the Paed via intercom that a patient needed to be attended to OR is it only when I run in unclad with a child in my arms and me screaming for help while crying like a banshee that I will be regarded as emergency?



We all want change but it really begins with you.
Look at the man in the mirror and tell him to change.
Change his attitude to work.
Someone once told me its called 'work' because it's for you to actually stress yourself and get out of your comfort zone.
When you go to work, do so with the intent of coming back home tired. You can't work and mise your energy....
I know medical personnels don't have it easy: understaffed and overwhelmed with patients but it's still your job to answer the patients as long as they're coming in. What will you do when there's a crisis like a really huge fire outbreak, a storm or serious flooding or a natural disaster? Will you fold?


Big sigh.....


Muna is better now. Using her drugs and playing rough play already (tumbled with her bike on the stairs this afternoon, fought with her brother just before she slept off )

Let me sleep the remainder of my sleep from last night.

First of all. Alhamdulilah Robil Alameen for you sis. Alhamdulilah that your story was one of joyful ending. God will not let you mourn any of you kids.

The situation in Nigeria is a very sad one and scary at that. Imagine nurse going to sleep and leaving you sitting? What if you didn’t have the initiative to call the MD? What if the MD hadn’t picked up? I pray we never know the answer to that question.

When I made a post last year about my sons encounter with neonatal jaundice and how I’m pretty sure the situation might be different if this was Nigeria, some people started writing long posts pretty much accusing me of seeing everything wrong and not seeing anything right in Nigeria just because I lived outside the shores of Nigeria.

They forgot that “If mad man don chase you before, tear your clothes join. When you see a mechanic in his work clothes you will borrow yourself sense and pick race.” Common pleural effusion that my mom had as a result of chemotherapy in Luth, turned to gaping hole in her chest and side, turned to lung collapse and finally killed her. All because of I don’t care attitude and “It was not me that attended to her before” and “The doctor is busy right now” she was too weak to fly, so no hope of treatment abroad.

The change begins with all of us. But I’m not even sure where to start from. I hope you tear madness for the nurse well well. Alakoba.

wanle22:
There! ( who kept buying tickets for her to go back and forth without a job ) Madam, how did you know she has no job? Do you know her worth / Status? That's one little thing about Internet that keeps F*ckin with me , everyone and their mothers talks by the side of their neck.

Your brain must be filled with rocks! I guess you had amnesia and your brain blanked the area where she said she had a job but quit the job in 2016.

You sound really pained! Talk about crying more than the bereaved. If she is confident she didn’t do anything illegal while she was in the US, why is she scared of renewal? And since you’re talking about people’s mom on the Internet, I’ll welcome you to go visit mine where she’s currently at.

perfectcrown:
Huh?!?! Really?

Ampiclox caps on baby's skin?
Mama,no vex o abeg. I hope ders no aftermath of this?

Don’t use skineal for baby oo. I learned the hard way. It burned my son’s skin! And yes, I only used a tiny portion. The only thing that worked for him was Agbo. I only bathed him with it, I didn’t give him to drink.

His doctor also prescribed Aveeno soothing bath, Aquaphor and a prescription only triamcinolone

wanle22:
I'm sure the founder of this forum is somewhat disappointed with what most of y'all talk about on here, I don't read advises, all I read is judging, insults, badgering & all, which is very sad. Reading comments from people lole@MamaOO & @Beautyaddy makes me sick, condemning someone that ask simple questions based on her travel history. In ny option, this forum has lost its original purpose.

Where did we condemn her? I only said the truth. And I’m glad I am not the only person who shared that sentiment. How was she able to live in the US for 9 months without a job? Who kept buying the tickets for her to go back and forth without a job? I am honestly surprised the CBP guys didn’t question here for coming back so soon after her last exit and staying for long.

Why am I even going back and forth with you? If my answer sickens you, go puke for bathroom or go to the hospital. Abeg, go Sidon somewhere jare.

Lamide123:
I applied for US visa and approved for 2 year tourist visa in February 2016. I have used this visa 3 times.
I used it in May 2016 - I stayed in US for only 1 month
I used it in September 2016 - I stayed for 5 months
I used it in August 2017- I stayed for 3 months.

I never overstayed or give birth while in USA

About to go for visa renewal in December or January. Need advice from gurus in the house

Ma'am, truthfully, you can only pray that you don't get grilled bases on the length of stay in the US. First visit was for 1 month, which is still okay. Let's say you left in June 2016. You went back three months after in September 2016 and stayed for 5 months! You probably left by February 2017. You went back again 6 months after again and stayed for 3 months. Lets be truthful, I am convinced you were working while in the US and I am pretty sure the VO will also think the same.

I am pretty sure you told the VO that you were working when you went for you visa interview.. they will ask you how you were able to leave your job and be on vacation for so long... Goodluck o

Liftedhands:
Birthday alert

To God alone be all the Glory, meet my good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over gift from God.


Its been 2 wonderful and awesome years, this guy came into my world! And its been sweetness having him in my life ever since

Join me to celebrate my son, the one who made me a mother.

EkenediriChukwu Luther .A-O


1- Day one

2- 6 month old

3- 1 year old

4- 18 month old

5- 2 year old.

Say happy birthday to my birthday mate for me. May the good Lord keep him safe and sound for you.

grandstar:
He said that term he used is s common term in the U.S.

You misjudged him.

That’s a lie. It’s certainly not a common term. Never heard anybody say that before and I’ve never read it anywhere as well. Cancer is a bad disease and I doubt anybody will want to make light of such situation in that manner.

cummando:
I took real time to ponder on what you wrote and I will tell you this. I meant no harm by saying a walking nuclear bomb because radiation is its composition. And his body contains lots of it. Its a saying here in the states.


Now to the second part of your heinous message. I claim it in the name of Jesus. I will be the best story to tell the young ones. I'm made now and I pray I will be better than I am. I will keep touching lives and making people smile.
However whatever you think while you wrote that I pray that it will come to you in a hundred fold. Be it good or bad. Have a nice day

In as much as I hate what the guy you replied to said, you’re also not better off!

Your first posts was so insensitive!! Jeez! Where is yoUr humankindness? A lot of people (including myself) who have lost people to cancer will find that post distasteful and run them the wrong way. Let’s try and mind what we say on cyberspace.

P.S: the man said he had chemotherapy and not radiation treatment, you might wanna read up on both kinds of cancer treatments to educate yourself. Both are not the same. Chemotherapy uses no radiation at all.
And where in the US is what you said a saying? I’ve never heard or seen it anywhere. Never!

Rachie83:
I don't think she will be allowed to take your child along.

She can. She either needs to provide a consent letter for the grandmother to take to her interview or go with the kid and her mom to the interview. I’ve seen grandmothers bring their grandkids to the US.

sugah:
I think you are struggling with comprehenshion.
Save your argument for who is interested in arguing with you.

Stop arguing with him, he won’t listen. Food is definitely allowed. My then bf (now husband) and I have taken Jollof Rice and Suya past security at Houston George Bush International, twice. And we bought it outside the airport too. The only thing that’s not allowed is liquids.

[quote author=wwwmaster post=62665328]Seems like you are in America. This is Africa, a man cannot totally take responsibility of a child that is bearing the name of another man (that impregnated his wife). The contention here is not whom will have custody or take responsibility but whose child.
The biological father is well established but it doesn't automatically made him the father.

In Igboland, a lot of unmarried pregnant ladies get married to another man, deliver the child in the man's house and the child automatically becomes of the family.
Thanks.[/quote]Even in America, if you don’t establish paternity within 2years, the law doesn’t recognize you as the father, even if DNA proves that you indeed gathered the kid.

The family of the baby Daddy better pray that the girl does not leave Nigeria. Cos if she does... e don be be that. Who do you get someone who is not in the country to subject a child to DNA test? She cannot be forcefully dragged to Nigeria if she’s out of the country. If they go to court to seek an injunction, we know the snail speed of court proceedings in Nigeria and we also know how hard it is to enforce court judgments.

That should also teach men who shirk their responsibilities after getting women pregnant a lesson. Last last, accept the pregnancy, accept responsibility to save you and your family from this kind of messy situation. The parents of the man that are even running upandan should have taught their son how to man up and own up to mistakes, this would have been avoided. #IssaMess

wholesomegrace:
Fine boy. He looks like one naija celebrity. Wehdon mum

Hahaha. Thanks ma’am.

sugah:
Tchai! That na correct Nigerian version Thanksgiving! I'd just take the eja panla Kika, ponmo and snails. We are watching our weight

Ondo men like fat women. Which weight are you watching?

hunniesuzie:
Lol @ no 8. Your boy is beautiful. Happy thanksgiving!

Lol. No kidding! I really saw terrible things. I slept on the living room floor for three months because my bed smelled weird. I throw up like 10 times a day for four months. I no dey gree leave my spot on the floor everyday, if I manage to leave the floor ehn, it’s like breeze will carry me go, no strength.

jazzyjazz:
He Is very handsome
Love your kitchen and the design on the walls

Thanks ma’am.

Rhemy2013:
Such a cutie

Thanks ma’am.

Liftedhands:
Awww see that smile God bless and keep us all! Happy Thanksgiving day to you too.

Amen sis. Thanks!

Graciouscharis:
MamaOO, your son is cute.

Thanks ma’am.

Based on Yoruba culture, we can argue and say the person who impregnated the girl is the father. But the man who got her pregnant and the girl herself are both Igbo and from what I’ve heard, the person who paid the bride price calls the shots. It’s even more sentimental to the girl’s family cos he denied the girl when she was pregnant.

If the boy’s family go the legal route, they might win or they might not, but even if they do, we know how hard it is to enforce justice in Nigeria. It’s is further complicated if the girl’s family do not want anything to do with the boy and his family for denying their daughter and if the husband flies the girl and the kid to Europe.

In America, you have two years (in most states) to prove and establish paternity. If you try to establish paternity or dispute paternity after the two years is over, it’s naught. Even if the DNA tests show you’re the real Dad, paternity is granted to the person who signed the birth certificate. And if you’re not the real Dad and you sign the birth certificate, you have two years to get out of that mess, else you will be the Dad for that kid and if you’re even more screwed and the baby mama asks for child support, you have to pay (or your wages will be garnished)... for a kid that’s not yours oo. You pay until the kid is 18....for pikin wey no be yours oo.

FloraEC:
When I saw the boy's picture, I was like 'is that not MamaOO boy' Fine boy, may God continue to bless you.

Amen. And may God bless yours too. Thanks ma’am.

sugah:
MamaOO Happy Thanksgiving. Bluetooth my turkey abeg.
A fine young man indeed! You are doing a great job. Welldone

Thanks sugah sugah! I’m not making a traditional American thanksgiving dinner tho, who turkey, cranberry and collard greens epp? But if you’re down for some Amala, ewedu and gbegiri with eja panla kika, ponmo and snails. Be my guest! No kidding! That’s our thanksgiving dinner.

Answer the questions about your First born. The one who made you a Mum!

1. Epidural - Yes
2. Father in room - Yup
3. Induced - No
4. Stitched - Yes—Epi
5. Knew gender beforehand - Yes.
6. Due date - 05/09/16
7. Birth date - 05/09/16
8. Morning sickness- I saw terrible things
9. Cravings - Pepper, anal burning pepper
10. Pounds gained - 40lbs, Lost 47lbs PP
11. Gender of the baby - boy
12. Place of birth - Bakersfield
13. Hours in labour - 12hours
14. Weight - 8.10lb, 4.2Kg
15. Age now - 15months

I just woke up and I’m here laying in bed, thinking about how it feels good not to be at work today. Then it dawned on me that today is thanksgiving!!! I started thinking about all I’m thankful for, and yeah! I have so much to be thankful for.

1. I’m thankful for life. That I’m still here today is not by my might but by Allah’s (SWT) mercy that kept me here. I am not pious than those who have departed and for that I am extremely grateful.

2. Thankful for family! My husband, the gift and awesomeness that is called my son, my parents, my siblings. Oh, I am thankful.

3. And most of all, the moms in this thread. Believe me, you all are the real MVP!!! From the advises, to the encouragements, to the help being rendered here to people in need, to the feel-good pick-me-ups, and even the cat fights and drama (I laugh like a hyena at times when I read some stuff here #CoversFace ). You all don’t know how grateful I am to have this resource. The amount of info and education that is bandied around here for free is just priceless. I pray none of you all, your kids or families(myself including) will go missing in year 2018 and may we all be alive to celebrate more thanksgivings.

Is it threadcuties day or nah? Oh welp! I’ll still post this here. I can’t get enough of my little man. He completes me. Make una no vex, I love taking pictures of him and saving memories.

AroOkigbo:
Sweet narration!
Was hers a B1/B2 or just a B2?
If B1/B2, did she declare birthing at the visa interview?
DW is also flying KLM early December. ..but to LAX.
I'm escorting her and pray hours will also be a "breeze"

Getting into the US should not be an issue for you. LAX is pretty lax like it’s name. Renewal is where you should concentrate your fasting and prayers on

jesufifunmi:
Lol @ FBI agent

Pls guys, does the US issue 5 years visa to Nigerians? Someone just told me he got a 5yr B1/B2 visa after his second drop box renewal.

Cc LagosNIV, Ladyguinevere et al

That’s a lie, the max is 2 years for Nigerians. The person probably got denied.

Chijiuche:
Sis..please dont feel offended.......i did not mean to upset you from my last statement. Just airing my opinion. i am saying what is applicable for most of us in Naija. I am embarking on the birth tourism and I can categorically beat my chest that why i am doing this is for citizenship for my LO, likewise most of the people i know here too and is not a crime....There is still very good medical services here in Naija. Your last statement "cos I am pretty sure the story would have been different if this was Nigeria" looks very slighted to we that live here because I know it is not true and can never be true. You cant be sure when you live in Yankee. Anyway,No pun intended.

Sure. I understand. I was born in Nigeria. I lived there for a while as well. My Dad is still there and I visit often cos of him. I apologize if you felt slighted, that was not my intention but everybody has their own stories to tell. If you read my previous post, you would see reasons for my words. My mom died in the system, due to issues that could definitely have been avoided. I will always be bitter when/if I remember all that led to her death. We can always pray and hope for the tide to change.

Lalakas:
Congrats and thank God for your baby.

Your write up is very true and mothers must be careful and up to ask for jaundice test before leaving hospital.

However, I really do not like you last clause, I mean the bolded.

I had my baby in Nigeria and in LUTH. Had same experience and infact higher figure of bilirubin. My baby bilirubin was 18 and was told she would be transfused and they prepare her immediately for it but still put her under light to see how she will respond before finally deciding. We ran the test different labs to be sure of the figures and all came out same.

I cried when I heard transfused . Test was being ran on her every 6 hours. Yes, clina Licent come for her blood sample every six hours. And there is another type again that she ran for every 3 hours. To the glory of God and thanks to all the doctors she was discharged in 4 days! We got discharged on dat 6 and went back for a recheck on day 10, nothing was found I her, a week schedule again and she was finally cleared of jaundice, we were now issued jaundice free note.

To add to this, she was given some drugs aside the normal lighting thing and a list of others after we were discharged.

So even in Nigeria they could have done better! God bless my country NIGERIA.

I have lost loved ones (my mom included) to the incompetence of the Nigerian Medical system. I am really thankful and happy that you got topmost care and your baby is here for you to love and hold. The same LUTH was where my mom died in July of 2016 because of gross negligence and issues that could have been avoided. My baby sister has seen several doctors because of something that could have been so easy to treat to no avail. I took her to the doctor her and all it took to get her relief was one tiny pill. Once bitten, twice shy. My case was/is, many times bitten.

And no, I am not knocking on anybody's hustle, Nigerian hospitals do try, irrespective of the limited resources they have to work with, I just wish it can be better. It's gladdens my heart that they are striving to do better and I hope issues such as my mom's can be avoided in its entirety. Thanks

Chijiuche:
Congrats dear..we will not lose our young ones....But this is careless act from their end because Jaundice should always be part of the package pediatrics always check for while running routine check on new born.

Thank God for His intervention but there are still quite number of Nigeria hospitals that will still do better in terms of putting in proactive measure. The most important thing is when choosing a hospital - whether in Naija or Yankee, choose good one with good and experienced doctors . Let us even tell ourselves the truth - Most people that birth abroad, they do it not because of good medical service, na because of citizenship for their Lo

Congrats on your successful birth

Talk about jumping into conclusions. Ma, I live here. I did not come here to give birth (my son would have had the citizenship regardless of if he was born here or not). And no, I did not give birth in a substandard hospital or neither did I use inexperienced doctors. Thanks for your observation and prayers.