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All I can say i got my ex out of a lot of messy situations.even lied for him etc.Once he drove without a permitt and had an accident . He did not know what to do so i went to meet the people and made it clear to them that if they wanted their money from the insurance they better say it was me that was driving.
That is just one example.
But if it had to do with another woman i would have told him to go.

If you were in a boat with Mother and wife, brother and sister, son and daughter.
and all fall out of the boat and you can only save one? sounds more real.

you got me wrong I do care for a man , and i do give him my attention,
Every man needs space, some have hobbies.
Some men are happy with going out with their male friends for a drink or so .Or some have hobbies and would like to Travel to see car racing or what ever.Fine by me

But i will not make a fool of myself when it comes to another woman.
Am 42 now and i have friends that are fighting the husband every day because of woman story,
These are men in their midlife crise

Thats a wrong view point, it only goes to show u don't care about him, because if u did, u'd not be this carefree about whether he stays or leaves, u'd make him stay.
One thing i've discovered that many ladies have failed to understand is that we men also love attention, the moment u stop giving attention to your man, u've opened the doors to other women in his life and no matter how God-fearing or controlled he is, he will surely snap someday. I'm only speaking my mind and not insinuating anything, but if i were that guy, i'd feel unwanted and that will make me lose interest in the relationship because afterall, u don't care

So if a man wants to see if i care he will go out with other women?
so i should go out and fight him and the other women?
I can fight for a relationship if there are other problems but not if the man strays.
I will not belittle myself then am too proud for that.

And if he loves me he will stay and do other silly things but not women.

It all depends on the girl not all are the same.
My daughter had her first boyfriend with 14 but no sex.
When a girl wants to have sex she will do it with or with out permission.
Well when she had the second boyfriend she was 15 and i could tell that this relationship was different. I dropped a packet of condoms for her in her room .And i made an appointment with a very strict gynecologist and sent her there on her own.I made it clear to her that it was her Doctor and i cannot go there asking questions and if she felt she could have sex , she can also go to the Dr.
The Dr dose a check up every six months. she is now 17 and still with the same boyfriend.
The other two are too small 12 and 10.
That I allowed my Ada to have a boyfriend at that age dose not mean the others will start at the same time , Not every one matures the same.

But if i see i cant stop them i will use my hand to buy condom and send them to the Dr

then lets be real we can only make things difficult for them , but we cant stop them.

send him a message on the cell phone or tell him you need a break to think.

I dont want to keep what i have to hold.
if he stays then on his own free will

I did not say it was easy . i did love him and i owed him a lot.
He helped me get over a messy relationship.
Do you know the feeling when after one man none is good enough foryou and you are only down and depressed. and all of a sudden someone crosses your way and gives you life a meaning.
Thats how it was with him.
Even the way it ended. we just suddenly stopped seeing each other and started dating other people.
Its not very often that a relationship ends without stress.

love is not only about holding on but also letting go.

There was this boyfriend i had i was about 22 and his ex kept on comming over but when she saw me she will not say a word. I left the room for them to talk.
Once he had to go to her house to see her mum (his mum sent him message) i waited in the car.
Then one day we passed in the car he stopped to give her a lift. she did not get into the car but just turned her face away. But i saw she was crying and i felt sorry for her.
I knew deep in me she loved him more than i deed and that if he dropped me for her i will be able to deal with it better than her and get over it faster. (then i was already burned)
I even ask him if he dose not want to have her back But he did not.
He did wounder why i ask and i explained to him that i could see that she really loved him so bad and i was sure he was her first love. You know what they say about the first cut being the deepest.

ask if you can get u self a pet. for a start.

Its sick what some people here are writing.
Something like that is very normal in Kids that do not get enough love at home and want something to love and something that will love them back.
It has nothing to do with sex.

Is the man not my mate.
Or is a man a God or wannabe lesser god. Like we have in African traditional religion.
Like i said if a man wants a slave he can look for one but in that case don't call her wife but slave,

Me no
I am the type that will kiss and tell.
So if I do it am ready to break up with my boyfriend. Or i want to and need a reason.

Me too

Its normal at that age, we were a group of about of about 5 and some were closer to each other than others and sometimes 2 will move on to do something on their own. I never even visited all five at home just one or too ,
the problem is that your group is small.
My daughter also was in a group of three and she was best friends with one, somehow the other two became best friends and thats because they have more things in common.
Both of them smoke , drink and go to the club. my daughter is more into her schoolwork and has a steady Boyfriend. But i adviced her to take time out with her friends so she goes out with them now and then .
She knows they gossip about her , then when she is with one of them they gossip about the person that is not there.
every one gossips .
there is a saying , if everyone could hear what is said about them, there will be no two friends in this world.
But there is gossip and their is gossip.

And why are they dependent? the parents don't give them enough pocket money or they are greedy.
The grow up in an environment that tells them look for a man that can take care of you.
By the way its the men that stop their cars to talk to the girls.
I must admit its sad how cheap some girls give themselves for the little things like cola, mars hamburgers.
I will not allow my kids to go out with a man that is hiding them you are right there.
I don't thing that any man anywere in the world can take a high school girlfriend to an office party.
Not only in Nigeria.

He is talking bad about your sister, your sister is begging for his love.

I wish you luck in what ever you do.

when it comes to young people bushdrums are very fast.
Any girl in her right mind tries to find out as much as possible about her date .
And if she is going out with a boy that has a steady , she is playing, i call it gambling cos no one can tell what she wants.
I never went to face any of these girls.
But i let the boy friend know that i know , And i let him know that when i make up my mind am gone i don't stray too long on a problem.

Some girls know they have no control over their boyfriend so they try to go for the rivals.