am not saying you are a failure with magic word i mean. thats the word people can use to get under your skin. your Achisels heel.
your biggest nightmare. the fear to fail in anything you do

they say the truth is painful.
you fear failure. i think that the magic word for your failure in what ever you do.
its all about achievements and not your personal philosophy of life

am sure auntie made up this story, its too good to be true.
long time ago my daughter was a baby , i had her on my arm and was in a shop standing in line to pay when she farted.
she fated so loud that everyone looked at me and thought It was me,
very embarrassing moment i must say.

to add to that sending of cards. you get so many cards that you can plaster your wall with them . my mum used to tie rope all over the sitting room like washing line and hang all the cards , and other things. we used(thats my dad) will drive off and come back with a big Christmas tree. even or dog used to get a part of the Christmas dish(the bones)
after the church and lunch we will go to the town to see masquerade.the girls with dad and mum in the car. but my brother will go on his own with his friends to get chased by the masquerade.
We never travelled at that time of the year then too many accidents were happening.
The next day it was all about visiting and getting visited.

please there is a difference between respect and fear.

But why are your hands n your pocket. its as if she is the one holding you by force.
body language. just hope your wedding pic is not like that

nice picture.

crying is showing or better expressing feelings should that be forbidden

that a man falls in love with an ugly girl dose not make her beatiful .
The man is just not bothered by her looks.
I have fat friends but i do not see fat friends i see friends.
that i only see friends dose not make them less fat.

To ad to that i do not think his mother is old old like 80 or so she may be at about 54 to 64 years old if that is her first child

Teriba:

@ mamaput,

Adetina herself has disclosed that her boyfriend did introduce her to his relatives in the States; why then should we be looking for an interpreter at this stage, mamaput ? And from what we have been reading here, how is this guy suppose to introduce Adetina to the old woman in Nigeria ? Something along the line of ``mum I want you to say hello to my girl-friend, who is not likely to marry me because of my status``, right ? Because I know that even if the two of them are Nigerians residing in Nigeria, the guy is not likely to introduce Adetina to his mum until he`s sure that a relationship that is likely to culminate in marriage exists between them.

Are we talking of the same Nigeria and the same Yoruba.
Yoruba that whats his girlfriend to "knee down" for his mother.?
the relatives in the us do not count only god knows who he is brothering and sistering.
even my kids have a "cousin" that is not related to us in any way the mother is not even Nigerian. they tell every one that there mums are half sisters.
But even if they are related , these relatives are his mates and that dose not count.

you seeask your self why they ask. am sure they think you are one of those lost children that do not know their dad.
I have to admitt they are many like that,
Be you here or in Nigeria , there is no difference, only in the questions

romeo the way you shout into the forest is the way it comes back to you.
That i do not see eyr e to eye with almondjoy dose not mean i have to insult her.
and i think she has had loads of that here for no just reason

maybe she felt that you would not like to be introduced as the boyfriend yet.
how long do you know yourselves

1nOnlyAde it has always been like that but people will deny.
They will never let you forget you are not really one of them,
It its yourmum that is Nigerian its worse for you they will think she is a prostitute.
I bet a lot of people ask you who is white (mother or father) that question has a lot of meaning beheind it,.

almondjoy i do tell my kids many things that go on in Nigeria, but they will not understand half,.
My kids also do domestic work to brush up their pocket money.
And they can make alot considering they have no expenses.
And i find it sad that my daughter can make in germany more money on a holiday job here than a 20 year old student in Nigeria,.
My daughter was able to pay her driving permit 2000€ on a holiday job she did. well a holiday and a half.
she now has a part time job once a week the whole day the pay is enough for all her needs, (as she lives with me she has no bills to pay).


The way you put things sound harsh . question , do you think they have no feelings.
do you think they are not wise enough to wish they were rich.?
or is it white man mentality (all blacks are dull)

jintujinta granted that a graduate makes more money than a houseboy(that did not go to school) but the employer cannot talk to the house boy any how.IN German its like in french two forms of you . one for your mates and one for your Seniors.
and if he dose not allow it the employer cannot call the houseboy by his first name.
And he is protected by a contract. The court of law will not listen less to him.
And with all the extras he can feed his family. and afford them a standard life,

Hi almondjoy your statement or and observations about the househelp/gateman people made me think of the good old slave trade.
The white man said just about the same thing when he came

Teriba tell me why has she not greeted his mother,. and you know what i mean by that.
When they say "come and greet my mum"
even if he will have to translate for the mother. and the girl.
since when do they marry in Nigeria without greeting mama

Find out about your law.
they changed the law in germany now people without stay only want the babies without marrage.
If he fathers a us citizen his stay is guaranteed

Even if his mother dose not speak English he would have let you talk to her.
he speaks his language so that you will not hear what he is saying.
no one in Nigeria that will not hear even if its only "Good afternoon ma"

A houseboy in Germany gets minimum 7 € an hour
7€ times 8 hours= 56 a day
times 5 day a week because he must have 2 day off is 280 € a week
Times 4 weeks is1120€ a month
that is without extras like extra hours or working on sundays. or at night.
if he works on christmaChristmasic holiday its double pay.
we are talking of housboy that did not go to school

jintujinta  i have been saying it all along maids in Nigeria = to modern slavery.
look it up with amnesty international

my kids are not on this forum. they will never come were i am.But i did regester myself on their forums just to keep an eye on what they are up to

ADICK:

Whats wrong with him wanting the poster, one way the other, for citizenship? Why advice the poster to run away? Who in this world is not selfish? Why people are considering the poster an innocent party? In my opinion, the poster is sticking to him for her own selfish purpose, companionship.

everything is wrong is marrage for better for worse only with your kind fellow Nigerian. everything is wrong with it . it starts with stealing a few years off the person.

jintujinta:


It is obvious that you are from the bush part of Nigeria and your generations must have been slaves before you left Nigeria


Come home and mix with reasonable people so that they can cleanse you of your unreasonable past experience in Nigeria. And learn to respect your elders. Did your parents teach you that? What you don't have, you can't give though.

respect elders? did you not just call his people slaves there are parts of the world that even a 14 year old boy will kill you for this statement.

This forum is full of very young people we the few old ones are on their territory so we act like visitors.
respect only to those that give it,
what will you say if Seun bans you he about 23 .

romeo is right in everything he says and to add to it, if you want to help keep the kids off the road, go and build an sos village for kids with your friends.

Am not asking you to stay with him am just thinking loud.
The man will not change then he has no respect for black people.
I know many of his kind

If your husband had been allowing you to send home money, they would never have been against him

did she say she is nigerian? she is not Nigerian

And finnland is big. after calling all the names in the world he could not even call the town in finnland.

have you spoken to his mum has he met yours.
Nigerians are very into family. if this is not the case forget him.