Best case scenario is to lift the total lockdown and institute a partial lockdown
This has shown the complete lockdown isnt effective. We already have an emergency health situation and only limited testing is giving us false security. If you want to flatten the curve then you may well have to wait for months

Would we stay closed till then. Our economy simply cant and we should design a suitable policy tailored for ourselves and not this borrow borrow approach

Interesting conversations. Dude did what must dudes did at that age. Luckily this didnt lead to marriage as both of them aren't even close to ready

She is too young for marriage anyway and even though she may have lied to the OP, she simply wasn't ready. Let me give you an analogy. If Buhari didnt win the election in 2015, many Nigerians would today think that our electricity would have been 24hrs non stop, naira equal to dollar, Boko Haram a thing of the past etc etc

If she had wound up with this dude, same scenario. She would never have known the value of what she has. After going through life and other men's harsh lessons like Nigerians are going through under Buhari, she would realise the mistakes of the past. School of hard knocks tend to teach us better. Life lessons

She may or may not regret it. It doesnt really matter. He has nothing to gain whether she does or not but these are simple life lessons we learn growing up

10 years from now they would both look at this with various understanding and wishes

Best

Kingrefreshed:



Thank you but let me point this out quickly.

Marriage changes people and does is pregnancy. In my own case its different in the sense that i was there with my wife all through the process because just like the OP thats our first child.

So i went in to the counselling section with my wife and the doctors inform us that after the CS it will take 3 to 6 months for the womb and her body to heal completely.

I understood it. As it was my first experience with of having a child of my own so it was for her too.


She did the CS and after like 3 months i wanted to habe sex as man but she quickly reminded me that it will be risky and the stitches on the lower abdomen might loosen up because of the thrusting from me.

Instead she decided to give mw some head and i held on just like that till about 5 months by then she has healed completely.

Then i devored her.

Marriage is all about understanding,love and tolerance.

If not you CANNOT DO IT!!!!

This has said it all. If the wife of the op has explained to him with love, or even with annoyance, he wont be here complaining

By the way, that 3 to 6 months is old and outdated medical science. Once she feels good, two weeks is good to go post CS op

supereagle:

My wife of thirteen years behaves like that too. She only wants sex when she sees money. I used to tell her that she is possessed.

I have had cause to discuss something similar to a couple. Like I said earlier women can hold off sex for weeks, months and even years. They are biologically wired for this. Imagine a man's sex drive hormone ranging from 280 to 1,100 ng per deciliter of blood. And a woman's a mere 15 to 75 ng/dl. Men are already at a disadvantage hence the begging

A woman that allows her husband to beg, especially if the man has always been fair is dealing with her, is courting disaster. No one had monopoly over nastiness

The couple I counselled, the wife ignored the advise ostensibly because she believed she had full control of her meek husband

One day something snapped in the man. He started doing facetime and WhatsApp video call at home with his new side chic oo. Madam didnt understand the change and his effontry. Like play oga would disappear for days with explanation and doesnt pick her calls. She couldnt believe her meek husband could be that "wicked"

She angrily packed and left and oga didnt say pim. She was the one that started calling everyone to talk to him and later to beg him

Moral of the story...if there are no cracks in the wall, the lizard wont have entered the house

snradewale:
From my perspective, your wife dey fear of not getting anoda pregnant.... What to do is get enough pack of condom and let her know she's safe with you... She no go tell u when she need am

If this is the case why hasnt she told him this rather than have him beg for what is actually his and refusing in the end.

She simply believes she can say No to him and nothing would happen or even if anything happens to hell with it

I have seen a lot of couples acting this weird way

Acmepreneur:

It is you that I blame for showing all these stupid men. If im the one, i will only have sex until after 6months

It's people like you that would over give their own husband but advise people otherwise.

Would you do this to your man simply because you can or just as a form of retribution to him for which imaginary crime? Or just so you show him you are a woman??

I sincerely dont understand some responses. By all account if there were post op issues, I do not imagine any sane man would want to deliberately harm the wife, all things being equal. So why would you plan to do this if the surgery, which by the way is routine, was successful. Medically a woman can have sex a week post uncomplicated CS op. So what's all the hue about 6 months except of course you want to use this as some form of punishment. If there are some complications this would be known to the two parties and sex would be the last thing they would want until full recovery

Is this simply to show you are a badass or what.

Kingrefreshed:



It's a normal thing. My Wife did the same thing! Hold your Ding dong for a while Mr porn star!!! You will not die.

Your wife is still healing!!

3 months after CS?? Mine I had to wait for 5 months sef

Nice try

I am sure in the process you were perfectly ok with it as she carried you along and made sure you understood why she wouldnt have sex.

In marriage, it is not much about words but about actions. You cant tell your spouse you love them but your actions speaks a different thing. Both your actions and words have to match

I am sure this husband wont be here complaining if the wife carried him along with her decisions. Just as I am sure you perfectly had this understanding to be able to stand by your wife. If she had brushed you off whenever you made a move, trust me , that 5 months she denied you would have been brutal on your psyche. Action and reactions are equal and...

olalat:

Are you married

Over 2 decades. Marriage is a continuous work in process for the both parties. If you think marriage success is by default get ready for nonsense

Oluneutral:
How come nobody is seeing.........
1. Their baby is just 3 months old and the baby is their first child.

2. She delivered through CS.

3. She started refusing sex when she was seven months pregnant.



Na wa o! Women, always at the receiving end.

Mr Man, try and empathize with your wife.

She has fears, maturely find out the cause of her fears and not by ignoring her.

I pray for wisdom for you.

What did she do when the first bolded happened. What explanation did she give the husband? Or did she assume she owed him no explanation cos if she explained why she wouldnt continue he wouldn't be here complaining

The second bolded. Let's even not start on this as millions of women go through this daily and none acts this way. You that wrote this wont act this way to your husband so why would you justify this. Has she even bothered to explain her reasons to him so that he can at least reason with her.

Finally, why do we expect consideration for an inconsiderate person. Who should empathize with whom here. If she doesnt want to have sex with her husband by all account it is her body and she can do whatever she wants with it. She too should not expect sacrifices from the husband when he refuses things to her. She can emphasize with him too when that happens

In marriage if you sow wind, you must reap the whirlwind

What is the essense of peace without justice?

A man's testosterone level is between 280 to 1,100 ng per dl whereas a woman's between 15 to 70 ng/dl. Biologically men are already at a disadvantage with raging sexual hormones

Ordinarily one would expect a woman to build her marriage and her home. There is a saying that if there was no crack in the wall, the lizard wont have entered the house. Should anything go wrong, she would accuse this unfortunate man of being this and that, evil and inconsiderate bla bla bla

A normal woman wont refuse sex to her husband without a just explanation. At 7 months she medically would require regular intercourse in preparation to delivery. She had a completely different attitude to her husband simply because she didnt feel up to it. There was no consideration to his needs, rather her needs trumped everything.

After her CS delivery, she is claiming not ready even when after 4 weeks her body is fully ready for it. But cos she wasnt up to it, his needs don't matter. It is only when her majesty feels up to it that anything should happen

Marriage is about sacrifices. Whatever you do for others only when it is convenient for you should elicit reciprocal treatment in return. That a wife would act this way and expect no consequences is telling

The point here is this. For men, treat everyone, including your partners fairly. But return the favour when people treat you unfairly. That way they would learn that life is give and take. People should learn that if they cant make sacrifices to please you, likewise they cannot expect sacrifices from you. If you show wind, by all account, you must reap the whirlwind

In conclusion, your wife is inconsiderate. Self serving and immature. She is out to subdue you and direct the course the marriage would head. It is up to you to allow her or take back control as the head of the union. No woman that respects her man and his feelings, would do this. Forget the people telling you to allow her. She has post partum syndrome etc. They won't do this in their own marriages but would advise you to stand on one leg in yours

If she doesn't want to keep her marriage together, maybe she shouldn't expect much from it anyway

Sorry for the long post

Like I said earlier, this virus is fully airborne. Despite weeks of Lockdown, cases have been jumping. I, for one, fully believe that by simply breathing, transmission can occur

Masks seems to be more effective. Pls wear one whenever outside

Stay safe

daddytime:
Eyaaa...

Such a hunk of a man.

Rest well handsome man.

And in the end his obsession with his looks took his life. Vanity upon vanity...

This clinic is toast

These acts are why most people patronise western treatment

ITbomb:
Something fishy here but they won't listen to him because he is black

Absolutely

If he is a white American ot British, this wont go this way. They would rather believe those than a call girl claiming rape

I strongly would not believe a Nigerian would rape a prostitute. Something isn't adding up and this lad has immoraly put himself in a bind as no one would believe his own side of the atory

What's the essence of this nonsensical post?

People should be prepared for a further 7 days extension.

At the end Home is sweet

Olodo24:
Why didn't they exclude banks from the lockdown?

How would most of them get to work if buses are not operating seeing as most bank staff are contract staff and most dont have private cars

Also the exemptions has to do with critical services of the banks like IT and ATM services so that electronic channels would be working

Its posts like this that put unnecessary pressure on men. These things are about give and take and understanding between the two

A man should not be unduly pressured when with a woman. That's the definition of a toxic relationship. If you are with a woman whom you are not comfortable with in the bedroom that is toxic and won't last

A good woman is such that you know her fully. She tells you things directly or through her body language. She makes you feel comfortable

She appreciates whatever you can offer making you do more

Enough

This is true. Under our money laundering laws, making cash transactions exceeding a certain limit is a crime.

How come billions of naira are paid as cash if not to loot

shuttox:
Very important...As Coronavirus is trending..some fake and quack doctors that discovers any respiratory problem thinks you have contacted Covid-19

What do you mean by this? So you don't know that tests are a major part of the diagnostic steps. Mass testing is advocated all over the world and you are here calling people quacks

Have you heard of the number of doctors getting infected and dying? Pls be civil with your words. These are your frontline defenders. They face risks everyday while you cost at home and call them quacks

Sabenko:
Dont know what to believe about this covid-19 again sef...someone miraculously recovers after 5/6days of testing when the actual incubation period of the virus is 14days. Not hating on the man ooo but What happens to isolating him for another 14days to verify this claim? One part of my brain is telling me covid-19 in Nigeria might not actually be true. Hmmmm, this is Nigeria!

It is the same COVID 19 everywhere. Some researchers have noted the impressive recovery and mortality rates in Africa with the exception of Congo DRC. Some of the reasons adduced for these are:

Malaria endemicity and the relatively high residual serum level of hydroxychloroquine in the African population;

The protective cross immunity is putative role of consistent and universal BCG vaccination.

The type IV hypersensitivity following the BCG vaccination leaves a large pool of CD4 helper T-cells and Natural Killer Cells Lymphocytes that help in Viral eradication, minimizing replication and thus enhancing Host immunity to fight the fatal secondary bacterial pneumonia.

It was observed that Countries with high Covid-19 fatality like Italy and Spain were said to have abandoned BCG vaccination since the 1950s and those with low fatality like Japan are said to have maintained BCG vaccination all through the years

The last factor is the humidity. The virus do not survive for long in-vitro beyond 28 degree Celsius of temperature and the average temperature in Africa now is around 35 degree Celsius. This may help in eradicating sequestered Corona viruses in the environment.


I have said this time and again and would continue to say it. We won't see the kind of fatalities seen in Europe, America and China. Many that do get them would recover and very easily. Over 99% of us that are infected would not even know it until full recovery. If Seyi Makinde, the UCH CMD and Bala were not tested, they wouldnt have known they had this

I would advise you make external enquiries from others that know the family well just to be double sure

Apply Neo Medrol BID X 7 days

That should clear it

Hahaha

dollarnaira:


Have you ever worder why Russia report less covid 19 cases despite been cold?

Covid 19 is not yet airborne in Nigeria.

Russia has a confirmed case of 4,731

On a daily they report an average of over 100 cases even with their Gestapo style citizen isolation

Face masks is the solution to this. And continued viral droplet prevention methods of hand washing, sanitizing and personal hygiene

Lockdown won't work. By mere breathing you can be infected, anywhere, anytime

Good points. Especially the removal of bans on importation of certain items. And replacing the ban with higher tariffs. This is how the UK does it with alcohol and tobacco

Spending 1% of our consolidated funds on healthcare and education is a brilliant idea, backed by law. However, who is to say that those entrusted with this wont loot it. We have a corrupt culture and no matter how much is released to us, the money would line private pockets. Good idea though

On COVID 19, it is my view that a 30 days quarantine enforced by police and the army as you wrote, is part of the elite saving corpulent behaviour we have witnessed since this crises began. Kingsley, you are worried the poor, many of whom cannot afford to survive if locked down for 7 days let alone 30 days, would continue to be up and about, and infect your precious you and your people

You are scared they would jostle and smash you and your elite precious egg nest. You are willing to use all form of strong arm tactics to ensure your survival, along with your fellow elites residing in your mansions laden with enough goodies to last you a year. Sadly Mr Kingsley, the over 70% of people in Nigeria whom you want soldiers and olopa to beat back into their homes, dont have such privilege. They cannot afford to stay indoors for 30days otherwise they and their kids would die of hunger

You and your fellow elites made this so. You people stole their commonwealth together. Impoverished them. They die everyday of preventable illness like malaria lass fever, hepatitis, HIV, etc because they are too poor to pay for healthcare and you and your mates have continually looted funds meant to improve the health services in nigeria

So comes Mr COVID 19. A plague that can equally afflict the rich like you. For the first time you guys are jittery and scared. These poor people without a means to support themselves can come into your homes as cooks, plumbers, maid etc and infect you and your type. You are donating billions to fight it. None of you had deemed it fit to donate billions to fight lassa fever or malaria..disease of the poor and even common maternal mortality

Yeah right. Now you want these poor people to stay home for 30 days on a fathom N20k they wont even see. They can't oga Kingsley. They cannot. We are all in this mess together

We die here

excanny:


The lockdown is a stupid decision. No idiot should extend this stupid 14 days nonsense any further. What nonsense.

People should wear facemask if they are afraid of going out.

Let everyone go about their normal lives. The panic is overrated.

I agree completely

My research on this virus suggest its fully airborne and where you are at is irrelevant. By simply breathing, you are at risk

Our saving grace: our weather. The hot temperature attacks the aerosol droplets and kills them before they get the chance to infect people in the open. The cooler where this is released the longer they linger in d air and able to infect people

Have you wondered why people in Italy, Spain, UK and US, who have been on Lockdowk for over 3 weeks continue to report case rates in their thousands. Virtually everyone is indoors yet the cases mount daily in thousands

Like you said, I strongly agree. Masks is the solution not locked indoors

This is a personal opinion as no research into this is definite at this stage

Lorazepam:
At least Lagos rest small today

Is there a particular reason you chose this username?

A benzodiazepine med?

Wonderful news. Who writes this drivel sef. It's like saying the sun riseth from the east. Everyone already knows. Tell us what we do not already know pls

Crap. I don't get this sensational headline. Which one is drive through test? As long as we can only do PCR tests, this is simply not possible

We currently do not have the rapid test kits so I do not understand what this write up is all about

This lacks basic information. Itchy how? Does the itch comes with rashes? Which area of the organ? Have you done STI panel screening when you visited the hospital? What about U/S culture?

You need to answer those to enable a proper advise. On the off chance I would probably think this should be fungal and mycoten solution rubbed thoroughly on the itchy area twice daily for a month should take care of this

However, without answers to the above questions it is impossible to have a good idea how to sort you

I weep for Nigeria