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bigfat01:
this incident is happening   somewhere in an area known as  ebute in ebute metta ,wood houses ,church ,mosque , hotel motel ,hall e.tc you name it  which were  built just under third mainland bridge have been burnt down by fire .it started around 11.30pm and still on now .this bridge was badly damaged by the fire ,phcn transformer burnt to pices plus eletric poles .now who is at fault is it the caretakers who have been  allowing people to build wood houses nd collecting rent from them under third mainland bridge or the people themselves who have no choice plus no hope and are poverty striken who do not want to go stealing and robin people on the street are now they at fault by building their homes under the bridge (wood houses) e.c.t .dont know what to say ,

@OP could you elaborate on the bold text? How so?

If there's any truth to that it is time for the government agencies involved to be proactive and quickly assess the damage to determine whether it is worth shutting off the bridge before some greater calamity such as bridge collapse happens.

I would be very grateful for a friendly conversation helping me to understand my story.

You don't seem to be asking any question(s) so I guess it's in place to ask some. . .

How long ago did you find out about his other girlfriend?

What are your plans here? Have you ended it or are you still turning it over in your mind? I mean, his 'sins' seem to be plenty and serious, even involving criminality as you suggested, so what's the 411.

If you're leaving him would it be because of this other girl you recently discovered or any or all of the others? It seems to me the guy has crossed the line long since. Just saying.

A welcome development. The marriage of Nigerian ethnic nationalities is clearly a failure and we are nearing that point where we must confront the sad truth that the Nigerian state is a failed state, whether or not the politicians like it. It isn't too far away now.

Better we separate peacefully than have a full-scale war. I shudder to think of the consequences of the later.

samstradam:
Villain = GEJ
Heroes = Those corpers that served in the north for an inherently ungrateful country

Seconded.

Mrs, Chima:
I don't think it is Babe, but I am sure it is someone from the YIM convention. The "newbie" seems to know his/her way around the threads.

Trying to incite JOBLESS drama=EPIC FAIL. LMAO@Ms. Darkskin needing my protection, from what I heard YIM convention been begging HER TO "soften her blows".

Lol @YIM convention. And @ 4am in the morning no less. . .Think they should get a second, third or fourth job if they have so much free time on their hands

Freesia:
The connection is the blue-font

I see that now. My bad

BABE!:
What's so difficult to decipher? Co[i]r[/i]k and I are related; we both type in blue fonts. Cork2059=BABE!=Mr Cork.

Sorry Mrs Cork. Seeing as you two are one, I wouldn't want to put asunder. Long live the Corks then. . .errrm, btw, go to bed will you? So your typing doesn't rouse the shildrens

BABE!:
Yes, it is I. I am Cork2059. I'm based in Europe; Finland to be precise.  I happen to be on the internet at 4am.; suffering from Insomnia I guess. Any problem  Miss?

MsDarkSkin:
LMAO!!!

trust me, i'm not the one with the problem!

I'm not quite getting the BABE - Cork2059 connection. Thought it was Mr Cork, the blue-font comedian.

MsDarkSkin:
^^ more like legion of losers!! 

more than likely this tard is based in the UK/Europe and may i inform you that they are
5-6 hours ahead of us. So some jobless prick is on the internet at 3 or 4 am
registering and referring to themselves in the plural form. "Who does that?" 

I really hope it isn't BABE! 

. That is so on point!

cork2059:
@Marc

When it comes to failing at simple tasks, you are in a class of your own because we---the Corks---have ordered you not to utter a word and you have not, not because you dont want to, but because you cannot. The Corks fear that your illness is far worse than they imagined.


Do not mess with the Corks.

Go to bed you silly goat!

cork2059:
@Marc
It is understandable that you are angry, for it is that time of the month. However, we---the Corks---will not suffer you to continue uttering meaningless words. Hold your tongue you he-woman while you still have the chance.
Do not mess with the Corks.

Lol. You were given a simple task and you couldn't even do it, olodo.

Pray, tell, 'you the Corks', how many are you? You sound like you're possessed by a legion of demons. . .

cork2059:
@MarcAnthon
We---the Corks---do not expect a simpleton as yourself to understand any discourse that concerns ratiocination. Be silent.

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Do not mess with the Corks.

Olodo. Could you go over your analogy again SLOWLY, then read the poster's poser again SLOWLY and come tell us whether you make any sense?

cork2037:
We---the Corks---are amazed at the inordinate amount of stupidity embedded in the question posed by the OP. Not all questions deserve to be asked! Does the self awareness, or lack thereof, of a womans beauty affect her attractiveness?

If yes, wouldnt that imply that pretty women, while sleeping, or unconscious, are not unattractive since they are not actively aware of their own bodies. And if no, that would imply that pretty women who know that they are pretty would be unattractive.

As you can see, we the Corks have used a simple form of syllogism to show that your question is absurd, for the conclusion, whether right or wrong, is illogical.

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Do not mess with the Corks.

They've banned you again abi? I see why. This your analogy is not the least bit logical.
@Topic, completely. Being unaware of it, or at least not flaunting it, adds the innocence virtue to it making it even more attractive.

Mehn. I am actually lost for words. . . Sad. Being a Nigerian is just one heavy burden most of the time. Like Chinua Achebe said, being a Nigerian is abysmally frustrating and unbelievably exciting. This goes with the first part.

Mrs, Chima:
Did I say I was? Read OP's question again and read it SLOWLY.

You've become a full-blooded Nigerian, answering a question with a question

Btw, you've still not answered the question

Mrs, Chima:
Me too!

Mrs Chima is in the market for a second hubby?

MsDarkSkin:
But before i completely "dead the argument" 

allow me to share a true story. two weeks ago (EXACTLY), the same week of my birthday my Liberian ex who i've physically cared for when he was ill during our relationship and made soo many sacrifices for even AFTER we broke up told me he never wanted to see me again and i replied "good as a matter of a fact erase my number and erase me from your memory!"

you want to know why that was the ending to our "lovely night" of early celebration of my b-day?

he was mad because I PAID FOR OUR DINNER!!  called me all sorts of names, and even threatened me on the way home because @ the table when the lady brought us our tabs i pulled out my card in preparation to pay the bill when he (who didn't have a cent because it really wasn't even planned) nudged my foot under the table and asked me if i had cash on me. i replied "yes" he then said "give it to me". so i'm like 'why?'. According to him "African men don't ask women for anything and how would it look if we are at an elegant restaurant and a woman is paying for an African man?" I told him "this isn't Liberia" that he should be grateful and paid the bill. We left, got in the car and it was on!! next thing i know we are arguing and have not spoken to each other in two weeks.

Good riddance!!  I refuse to put up with that mentality. Such men finally get women who are not gold diggers and can do for their own yet they treat them with so much test0sterone filled aggression? seriously.

Mrs, Chima:
Your statement that women should put out more positives to prevent Mr. Cork and Co from running to the white chicks has nothing to do with affirmation.  

Affirmation and "positives" are two separate things and you have basically stated that women should do whatever they have to do to keep certain white loving black men from running to white women.  Any grown man will know that a woman can't make a man do what he doesn't want to do regardless how many time she kisses his arse or praise him.  

Black women aren't at fault or responsible for GROWN BLACK MEN's actions.  Only childish men place blame elsewhere but SELF.  

Nigerian women complains just as well as Nigerian men complains daily.  Only different is the gender and why are men crying like biatches?  

Why is it black women responsibility to ensure that she maintain a positive footstep to keep her man?  Black men put down black women ALL THE TIME AND YET black women still stand by her black man.  I think you been watching too much TYLER PERRY movies.  

A couple of disrespectful black women are no comparison to an ocean of sorry arse men.  

You are right, sorry arse men are someone's else gold.   Bottom biatches in jail or dead.

Affirmation = positive assertion. That was the point.

I knew you would bring up that taking responsibility for your actions angle. And I agree completely. But in seeking to remedy a situation and finding the immediate and remote causes of an action/trend, these reasons come up. No one is saying keep your man at all cost: a stray dog will always stray. But make sure it isn't 'straying' because you locked it out.

We must admit the black family in America isn't what it should be, and I respect what Tyler Perry is hitting at. It goes so far for the women as it does for the men.

And I find your statement(bolded) hilarious. A 'few black women' indeed! And and 'ocean' of sorry arse niggas no less. TOUCHE!

cold:
Your stat may be right judging from this write up;

The Angry Black Woman can be identified by her attitude, her conversation and sometimes, even her body language.

Sometimes it’s in the twist of the neck, or a dismissive roll of the eyes during normal conversation. Sometimes it’s in the sharp tongue that lashes out with shrill, unsolicited criticism or advice, which is typically baseless and negative.

The Angry Black Woman may refer to herself as a strong Black woman, or an independent woman, but may be called a pregnant dog by men and women. This woman will refer to ALL Black men as weak, lazy and beneath her, while identifying them as the sole source of all of her woes, particularly her inability to find her desired mate. Her conversation with other women is rife with hopelessness and negativity.

The Angry Black Woman may be otherwise desirable, but is unable to move beyond past pain and fear, which sits on her shoulders as bitterness and anger, driving most good things out of her life.

Holding on to that bitterness can bring dire consequences.

In her struggle for both the rights of Blacks and the rights of women, Maida S. Kemp, the former president of the National Council of Negro Women cautioned women against bitterness.

“Unless a woman learns not to be bitter about defeats and not to be arrogant about successes, each of them, both your success and your defeat can limit you,” Kemp warned

I agree with you 100%. Another thread discusses why Nigerian men in the US kill their wives, and even if it is inexcusable the bolded seem to be at the root of it, not some inability of the men to assimilate the culture here which puts women at some higher than back home. A man would have to be completely nuts to not treat well a wife that earns more than him and STILL respects him. (Maybe those men are nuts sha)

Incidentally, I went to this Christmas day party with a friend of mine at a successful couple's house. The man is an architect and the women a registered nurse. Talk had it that she earns more than he does (those medical peeps salary na wa o) but you could see the way she respects and adores her man. I ABSOLUTELY LOVED IT! Now you can count statistics all you like but there isn't going to be any murders in that house if they keep on like that.

What our women should understand is that culture changes nothing. At the heart of a man is a desire to be seen as a man - to be respected as such. God Himself knows this. Was why he commanded that the woman should RESPECT her man, and the man should LOVE his woman. Culture doesn't change that innate desire. That is where the society here gets it wrong. If the woman allows success to get into her head and disrespects the man the home takes on a different hue thenceforth.

Mrs, Chima:
You want us to coddle sorry arse niggas in order for them not to run to white chicks? Seriously?

Putting out the positives in an individual is not cuddling. It's affirmation. Everyone needs that now and again. Men as well as women. No one likes to be in a place where they are constantly put down, like our Naija sisters here complain daily.

Btw, I heard a disturbing stat that 45% of African-American men are in jail and 70% of black children are raised by single moms or dads, and the narrator seems to think it is because black women here are full of drama and always pulling down their men. The reverse appears to be the case in Africa.

Then again your 'sorry arse nigga' is someone else's goldmine, apparently.

I love this!

Black/Naija sisters take note. If y'all have been putting out these positives about us, thereby propping our egos we would not have eternally lost lefulefu, Cork and 190 to white women.

@MzD, you seem on a mission to reopen all year-old threads. . . Kilode?

In that case let's try asusu ala nnanyi . a ma'm na oburo tata ka e fu r'efu. Lol. Hope I got that right myself.

Ah, okay. But are you then saying the stats for the US are lower?

MsDarkSkin:
lol.

@topic and i thought we americans were h0es.

And for all the brothers that got turned down what I'd like to know is, did she want to continue with the relationship (I'd like to assume you really had one), or did that signify the end of the relationship?

If she wanted to continue, it simply means the time wasn't right in her opinion so that shouldn't be a big deal. Get to know her more, build a stronger relationship and ask again at a more auspicious time.

IMO some dudes rush with the proposal thing. I think that if you aren't very certain she'd say YES, she'd probably say NO. How do I mean? In the course of the relationship you guys should have gotten to be best friends (I'd like my fiancee to be my best friend too, or at least one of my best friends), you should have shared your dreams with her, and gotten a FEEL of what she thinks about it, and have her share her dreams with you too.

You should also have gotten a feel of your compatibility levels. And then once in a while say something about the future and gauge her response to it. In all of this and in the course of knowing her personality and dreams, whether she wants to settle down at all and at what age, and knowing whether or not she loves you, you kind of arrive at a point where you KNOW she would say YES. I mean some guys don't even propose, they simply take the girls hand and put a ring to it and that settles the matter!
I know with human you can't be 100% certain, but I think you know what I mean.

On the other hand if saying NO means she doesn't want to continue with the relationship anymore, then you should move on cos IMO you never had her in the first place.

Mrs, Chima:
The real morale is, you are too scary to respond to a brother that dissed and laughed at your dumb arse and you are mad because you have slipped and announced online that you can't get a chick to marry you!

Sucks to be you biatch!

Mrs, Chima:
Now you got the nigga mad and swinging like a sugary gay.

Mrs Chima takes no prisoners.
That wasn't the intention o. Never meant it as a diss, was just being mischievous.

Chiori:
I can see how married you are, trash can to a 9ja loser. Go get an autopsy, that's all that's left for you around here, you dead meat.

Calm down bro. Don't take things around here too seriously pls. It was all just a joke. Hope you understand.

dayokanu:
Thank you my brother.

Are you Ibo? Cos I cant believe anyone fell for that poorly written story

So Boko Haram wants to attack what does it take them to get someone to dress in T shirt and jeans?

They even took IEDS on them to go buy cigarrette

Abi o. Yes I am. The story never did add up. . . Poor attempt to regain credibility.

This is such a dumbass story by a police force looking to regain whatever shred of credibility it can after their already legendary incompetence was taken to new levels by the Christmas day bombings. Please stop all the talk of provocation and read the tori again:

Justcash:
An attempt to bomb the University of Nigeria, Nsukka, by members of the Boko Haram sect has been foiled by police(indeed) and the neighbourhood watch, in Udenu local government area of Enugu State.

On the eve of Christmas, an alleged member of the Boko Haram was arrested(and we heard nothing of it till today) between Imilike Agu and Ogboduaba communities in Udenu LGA, Enugu State, allegedly on a mission to bomb University of Nigeria, Nsukka and one other higher institution of learning in Enugu State capital.

A source who pleaded anonymity, said the neighbourhood watch cited a man with strange movement and alien dressing, accosted him for clarification, explaining that[b] he confessed his membership of the Boko Haram sect on a mission to bomb the University of Nigeria, Nsukka.[/b] just like that

The alleged Boko Haram member came out of a fores[/b]t where he and his accomplices had stayed for several days[b] to buy cigarette but could not locate his way back to the forest before his arrest.

“When he was searched, some explosives were discovered on him, (na wa o. You're out to buy cigarette yet you carry IED on you, considering how volatile those things are. smh. these guys must think we are all slow) while he was later handed over to Obollo-Afor police division for further interrogation,” the source said.

He further said that the apprehended member of the sect also took them to their hide-out in the forest[b] only for others to flee on sensing danger.[/b]

It would be recalled that earlier this year, the Boko Haram issued stern threat to bomb the University of Nigeria, Nsukka and other universities in the South East zone.

Contacted for comment, Enugu State Police Public Relations Officers, PPRO, Mr. Ebere Amarizu, confirmed the report, saying the alleged Boko Haram member who hailed from Kano State, behaved as though he was insane. (Most likely. Now how does picking up a mad man on the street become news?)

The PPRO, noted that there were no explosives recovered from him as widely rumoured, explained that the suspect was currently in police custody while investigation was ongoing.

Source; http://www.vanguardngr.com/2011/12/police-vigilante-foil-alleged-attempt-to-bomb-unn/

Mrs, Chima:
I think you are slick.   

^^^ And here I was thinking I threw him words of comfort . . .

dayokanu:
^^ What a Retarddd

How can a grown man like you chose to lick balls for a living?

. Wow! That one na technical knockout! Chai!

Chiori:
It has happened to me so much it don't bother me no more.

. That has to be one of the funniest things I  have read here in a while. Emmm bros, how come you haven't learnt anything from the 1st or 2nd time it happened? So many times? na wa o!

If even the news is true, it is probably just the same internal Hausa community thing like the first one was a while ago.
For those already crying the war song, let's all pray it doesn't come to that. Those that have seen war before never want to see it again and there's a reason for that. So fan your blood back to room temperature. But if for any reason these Boko Haram bombings escalate to some nationwide bomb slinging, history will not forgive Jon Dumbo for his cluelessness and indecisiveness in dealing with this issue.
May God spare us any kind of war.

It is said that a people deserve the kind of leadership they get, but I don't think Nigerians, even in their wildest imaginations, reckoned with the kind of ineptitude this government has displayed. It begs the question whether there exists any security outfit in Nigeria at all! What happened to drawing on history and their recent bloody exchanges with this people to put the security forces on red alert on a day like this? Instead all we get is a reactionary force. Lord knows I am tired already.