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I watched the program live on the eve of Christmas on Human rights tv berekete family, na God catch all those politicians. Ordinary Ahmad Isa did justice to the rice by sharing it for the less privileged. The driver was given 120k that morning, 50k from Ahmed Isa and 70k from two good persons.

Since you've sat her down and talked to her and she's still not cooperating, let everybody handle his/her finances. Let her pay her shop rent, buy her clothes and her other needs herself, then you can handle the house rent, school fees, foodstuffs, utility bills.

blackboy:
Contact Human Rights Radio in Abuja . Brekete Family for assistance.

Yes OP contact Berekete family, ordinary Ahmed Isah, they are very good at solving this kind of problem as long as all your dad's documents are intact.

NiRfreak:
Don't invest on her yet. Use the money to invest in yourself or your own personal business since you are going to bear the financial responsibility of the family. Use your head. Don't bring stress early in your marriage into ya life.

It seems she will respect you more when u have all the money and cater for the family exclusively
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Create a business in ya own name and run it...so when u have enough money u can give away without feeling pained of the consequences, u may now give her to invest in herself. Thats even in the name of love

Op thank this adviser very well because the advice strong very well. You can go ahead with the marriage but anything money shouldn't join you and her.

engrgd:
Thanks a lot man. You are amazing. I feel like giving you a hug.
Your second paragraph is so instructive and I appreciate a lot. Cheers man and compliments of the season.

Much welcome. Wish you same cheers!

Op get her a very fine scarf made with confirm cotton material. Abi she doesn't wear scarf? I know most elderly women like to tie scarf.

In as much as marriage is a good thing a responsible adult should do, it shouldn't also be rushed into. You've to think it through very well. As a guy you're still young.Take your time and gradually search for a lifetime partner, someone who has a sincere fear of God, because when someone has fear of God, then be rest assured that every other things will fall into place.

While searching for a soulmate, continue to save so that you can invest in cool business later, try to be buying your home furnitures and equipment small small, especially those large equipments, price of things are getting higher daily no be say income de increase.

All the best.

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Mareeiaam:
No contact on signature @mardis

I just added contact, check original post

Sicilyjoe:
Can u waybill to east ?

Won't it be expensive?

What is wrong with it? Reason for sale

Sicilyjoe:
Post pictures

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Four set of 1ron chairs for clearance sale. 1 arm chair, 1 double sitter, 2 single sitters, small table. Price 35k slightly negotiable, location Kaduna

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Try testing her and see. Like just don't call, message or chat and see if she will be concerned to know what's up with you or fake illness and see her level of caring, or stop giving her money and pretend you're broke to see if she'll understand.

Is it not you guys that will say "i want a decent lady more or like a church girl with a sprinke of ashawo vibes" see am now, you're now complaining. Bros please enjoy you wife, just tell her to sofree sofree

First of all, have you gotten the job in Canada or you want to go and settle first before looking for job?

If you choose to stay with him then try as much as possible to be calming him down with soothing words. Also try as much as possible to avoid getting into argument with him, if argument eventually happens try to remain calm and quiet. Most importantly, keep praying hard cos there is nothing God can't do and keep going for medical checks.

If satan enter her mind and she poison them now, they will say all househelps are evils. People get mind sha. Someone your food and children is in her hands. Imagine

How can a man just be mumu like this ehn... A girl is using you to play ludo you are seeking for advice. Which advice do you want us to give you now. Oya go and beg her, continue begging her till she agree since you've subjected yourself to beggar.

Ssumtry:
You're even fighting for space in your own thread...crazy OP

Immediately i created the topic as i was typing my experience, something came up which i had to attend to.

Some families are so large that till you die you won't get to meet all of them. Extended extended things.
Well, it happened to me, some years back during, 2go era.
So, i met this guy on 2go, one of those chat rooms, we started chatting privately, exchanged numbers and start making calls. Thank God say na just normal chats, we even exchanged pics. This lasted for some couple of month like 4-5 months. As in we were already beginning to fall in love without meeting physically.
We were already preparing meet up when we met coincidentally at a wedding. I was in lagos then while he stays and schools at kaduna. Although, we told each other were going to attend a wedding but we didnt go into details about who the couples were.
When we saw each other, it was my mum who introduced him to me. As in, his pics was nothing compared to his physical looks, God he looks so charming compared to the pics. But i still wasn't sure whether it was the 2go guy or the cousin i just met for the first time even though the name is thesame ofcourse.
I just wanted to clear my doubt. So after the intro, i chatted him up. A cousin i have neva met was introduced to me and he looks just like you in your pics. He said same. He called me immediately and described what i was wearing, i did same. God, my heart was beating. It was just like film to me then. We decided to meet outside, lo and behold it was my cousin who i was communicating with. Alot of what ifs was just going through my mind, what if we went deeper into the relationship.

Long story short, we just couldn't let go, we became close cousin but nothing more. At a time i wished our tribe permitted cousins to marry each other. Till now we are still found of each other. We are both married now sha.

Op are you sure those kids are yours? Have you proven that? Ehn. Your parents have nothing to do with your current predicament. Everybody has his or her own life to live.

Maybe she has nothing else to offer aside physical looks.

Iseoluwani:
Pls confront her, show her evidence and help her to change.

help her to change means. Dear, let's go and do the house chores, I will fetch water, cook and you will wash the cloths and help with the baby. seems she is naturally dirty.

you can always teach her to wash her undies when she wakes up in the morning and she must shower in the night too, she should wash her pant. ladies tend to use 2 to 3 panties in a day. so she must have them washed and put in the room, probably a corner in the room where it can dry on time

3rdly buy her just 10panties. And tell her to dispose what she has been using, that they are old. Then monitor her. After 2weeks tell her to show you the panties. or/and always UnCloth your wife every night. Not necessarily for sex, but to know what she is wearing. if she is smart enough she will know that at bedtime her husband will check her pant, therefore she must wear a clean pant.


As regards food. start doing the cooking. women shouldn't be seen as the cook alone. Do the cooking, serve her and the child and take your food.

WTH, is this sh!ty advice coming from a man or woman. Imagine o....you sha want to turn the husband to pant inspector.

Women are stronger than men by default, i have known this since 1700

Zzor:
I'm so used to sleeping alone, I don't think I will be able to to sleep in same bed with any man,its hard, sex timetable could be an advantage here

You're kidding me right? R u sure your body chemistry will let you do that

ImaIma1:
We will have to figure it out in a way that doesn't include them sleeping in our bed. Besides, my daughter is trying to settle in her room. Then the new baby will sleep in the baby bed on our room.

We will sha find a way.

Ok much thanks

ImaIma1:
Abeg we decided that our bed is for us alone. We didn't want the problem of allowing our child sleep with us because getting them to sleep in their beds later becomes extremely difficult. Besides, it is a major intimacy killer.

So she had her bed beside us and started sleeping there straight from the hospital. Off course there were days she needed attention we would bring her to sleep with us. But once she falls asleep, she's back in her bed. It helped her get used to sleeping in her bed.

My colleague complained about the fact that intimacy is hard because their child has been sleeping with them. And my friend told me how the other night her five year old son who still sleeps with them was rummaging her body with his hands looking for breast .

The best thing is don't start what you cannot finish. Once they start by sleeping with you, just deal with it.

I like you guys method, what about when you have more than one?