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MJBOLT:
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CaveAdullam:
DAY 11, REDPILL 2022

Better to listen to yourself!

If you follow her advice and you fail, you take all the blame while she sees you more less of a leader.

If you follow your advice and fail, you take all the blame and it boosts her attraction level. It insinuates you are more of a risk taker and don't give a damn. You even tend to learn better and introspect effectively when blames aren't tossed to and fro.

Only in rare circumstances where a woman has proven her qualities beyond the average women should her words be considered for usage. Because feelings are not always alright and women are feelings.

Authority: Be wise!

Junnior:
A redpilled man can choose to do as he pleases, including having sex. A high value man does not operate by the same rules that govern minions. All a man needs to avoid simping is the redpill. Game is secondary. Game is optional. Game is like an extra fun added to the redpill. However, not everyone has time for that.

I never mentioned anything about Zuckerberg's marriage. So, it's either you lack basic comprehension or you're deliberately misleading. I said gaming doesn't suit everyone.
To buttress my point, I only pointed out his personality which we all are very aware of. He is a stark nerd. Dude literally talks like a robot.
I went ahead to say such a nerd will suck at gaming women. However, he can be redpilled if he chooses to be. And that's all he needs to be safe (from female manipulation).
I would not mention anything about his marriage, because of course I have no idea what's going on in it.

Some guys need game to get what they want. Some don't.

Every guy should know what works for him.

Calibrator:
You see why people say most guys here know nothing about the subject matter of the thread.

@ last sentence, this one thinks that the only way to enjoy his sweat is to spend it on pussy and being celibate means he will be working for other people to enjoy.

You can't make this up

Chiagozieking:
I have a problem, I can't be chasing money and women at the same time, even if I try, it requires more mental energy, I'm thinking going celibate all over again, celibacy is hard but at least you have only one thing in mind which is success, it's not like I can't grab my balls and focus, but while on celibacy the money I'm making can't be enjoyed rather it will be enjoyed by the people around me,

SOZINN:
Let me just say this, a man who is unwilling to learn game must cut all sexual ties with women. Even platonic associations should not be encouraged. He should keep himself away from the sexual market place because if he enters he is going to simp hard and get burnt.

I saw you in another post analyzing Mark Zuckerberg, lol. You cannot always judge a marriage from the outside,  especially one where they don't give out much information to the media. You don't know who controls the frame in that marriage, for all we know, Mark could be in her frame or vice versa so let us stick to the ones we have ample knowledge about.

Remember, Bill Gates and Jeff Bozos.

luminouz:
Wow...I must have shared my life goals with you to make such a conclusion.

Your answer is what makes some men to suffer. Society tells you to marry so as not to be alone in old age, so you fear to be alone in your own house. The truth is men are always alone. So any man who marries so as to cure his boredom is making a mistake because that marriage will be hell for him. I have seen some men who never married and were cool with it. Those who want to marry should at least try to make sure that's it's their decision,not the society's ( like you are trying to push on me).

Polynek:
Pls stop beating around the bush okay, we are talking of 1st hand marriage and u are talking about pple who lost there 1st wife very early and they decided to remarry.

If marriage is really scam why did ur Uncle marry again after loosing his 1st wife?

Even U wey de here de Tok against marriage go still marry b4 2030 . Abeg make una de preach wetin una go fit do in reality.

I hate it wen men criticize marriage yet the idea of getting married in reality cannot leave there memory?.

I challenge any Redpiller in Dix thread to come and boldly say He won't get married and He won't hv any child throughout his lifetime.
Pls stop deceiving yourself okay.
One love

Dliquidmetal:
Noted,I didn't even check the profile before replying,if I did I might not have. Many people on the thread a lazy bleeps who don't even know what this thread is about but wanna join the band wagon

Chiagozieking:
Greenlight blinds me as I read through

Dliquidmetal:
NAWALT advocates lol we've trashed this topic over and over on this thread and I'm sure you are one on those people that are too lazy to start reading from the start una go come jump come last page dey type rubbish. You dey abuse am you are vouching for women? Do you know what they doing/have done behind your back?
Mom,sisters,babe,all the wonderful ladies you know are women and their are some instinctive characteristics in them you should be aware of but na you sabi abeg

Skepticus:
Also, don't let any man shame you for your choice, if you made a deliberate intention to stay away from women temporarily or permanently for whatever individual reasons, when you can attract them. Some men, don't even like the player lifestyle and find the attention of too much women, distressing and distracting to their life.

Truth be told, you are not missing a damn thing and your red pill is still intact as you are your first point of focus.

If you don't like the player lifestyle or staying away from women, you still have to learn the game as Ubunja, and other brothers spill it from basic facts and their "on-the-field/street" experiences. There is a lot to be learn from it in understanding women as you'll be dealing with them as random strangers, coworkers, bosses/subordinate, business partners etc. Even if you decide to stay permanently away from women and society (going "off-grid" in MGTOW terms) or becoming a hermit monk for religious reasons, the knowledge of sex game is knowledgeable in advising other men.

mesTania:
First and foremost

100% - 99.8% is not 2% but 0.2%
Let's even say you made a mistake. So you are saying given opportunity, all women will cheat if approached by an upgraded version of her current man.

Therefore I am assuming those All include my Mum, my sister, my babe and a lot of wonderful ladies I know

Can you see that you don't have sense?

If you've only been meeting opposite gender who are terrible, sorry bro look no where else but within. Likes attract likes

In fact I would advise you to work on yourself and be more successful, be more Honest, be a better human being and draw close to God

erniok:
Too much ignorance in just one post. People default for so many reasons. Ask yourself why does CBN give money banks 91 days before a loan can be classified as non performing. Show me where it's legally to tag someone a fraudster for loan defaults.
The problem is that this country doesn't work else that loan company wouldn't have tried that rubbish.
I've always advocated that these loan apps should be regulated. This will stop these nonsense.

erniok:
How does defaulting make one fraudulently, so USA that has defaulted severally is fraudulent or some businessmen that are months overdue are fraudulent too?

heartofcity12:
You can’t make this sh* up

temi4fash:
Hello Bro,

Obviously your wife has a weakness with Money so you cant not trust her judgement on that subject.

For peace, you need to forget the 2M and assume you used for the school fees in the school of hard knocks.

Just begin to plan for your family on your own, maybe open an account or something and save up money for children school fees among other incase of eventualities.

Except she is overall a bad woman, then other actions can be considered but if its just the money issue bro, you just need to get strict with her and since her family are enabling bad behaviour you would need to just give her enough to get by while you make plans your family on your own.

Herbsworks:
I always get angry when I hear people telling others to forget about things like it didn’t matter. Nigeria is where it is today because of the forgiveness doctrine which is why people can misbehave and expect you to forgive and forget like it never happened. People should be made to pay for their sins.

I’m not advising the man to divorce his wife cos of that but he should teach her a lesson in his own way so that she won’t try such nonsense next time. Mind you 2M is not small money that he should just let go like that.

temi4fash:
If he does not forget the 2M, it would give him BP bro, He would need to leave knowing the 2M is gone and it would not be recovered. Looking for it would flogging a dead horse.

That is why i said he should assume he had paid school fees in the school of hard knocks and take valuable leassons he would use to engage her going forward. Marriage with 4 Kids is no joke. He would need compromise make he fit get peace of mind.

Herbsworks:
I have always been reading about men tolerating shit simply because kids are already involved but the truth is that women knows this and use it to manipulate. The first thing on an average African woman’s mind immediately after wedding is how to get pregnant and give birth and some men blindly follow. Women strive to give birth cos they know that having one or two children will give them a stronghold in the marriage and a stronger hold if she happens to give birth to a male child.

Haven’t you noticed that once a woman gives birth for her husband her attitude changes most especially when the child is a boy cos she now feels she has a voice and you can’t chase her out of your house cos you won’t want to lose the custody of your kids. I was discussing with my elder sister sometime ago and she told me that ladies nowadays don’t want to get married and that they only get married to suppress societal pressure and to have kids legitimately.

When a woman wants to leave a marriage the first thing she think of leaving with are mostly the kids because she knows that she can use the kids to keep collecting money in form of child support from the man. That’s why most divorce women receiving child support from their ex husbands don’t work cos they feed on the money sent for child support. So as a man, your wife leaves and probably gets married to another man or starts dating other men, instead of you to focus on your life you’re busy working day and night so you can send money to her for children’s school fees and upkeeps. It becomes very bad when you decide to remarry and have kids. So you will be taking care of your new home and also your other children Ahh.

Sometimes I ask myself can’t a couple get married and decide not to have kids? But the truth is most girls will never agree to it cos they know that they will lose if they get married without having kids cos they will be forced to love their husbands till old age. One reason while most women maltreat their husbands and love their kids is because they’re preparing for their old age by showing love to the children so that the children can take care of them in their old age even at the expense of their husbands happiness.

Tell that your babe that you want a marriage without kids, just you and her forever and I bet you she won’t agree to it

Dliquidmetal:
for some reasons I think you are more feminine than masculine from the comments you've been dropping here lately,how can you say redpill isn't for broke guys? And the other time you were telling someone to "shut up" You gotta check yourself mate,we are learning here its not emotional warfare zone.

Pacesetter2021:
God has hidden your progress in your ability to honor your mother.

When you are done ranting, pray to God for grace to do the needful. All the best.

BRATISLAVA:
If you read it, you would realize that the whole thing has to do with her denying him money in one way or the other. He begins his story from his compulsory military year. How he had 19000 and his mother wanted money but wouldn't give him any. On and on till present. If it were his father he would say he's a man and trying to toughen him up.

It's a submission on his mother and money associated with her. That's what his hate is all about.

The forum is full of complaints about wives, mothers, sisters, girlfriends, fiancees, females, etc, so it's not surprise this is another thread about such. It's clear where it is headed to.

He's gotten what he wanted. Angry boys are insulting his mother.

NOETHNICITY:
Better be careful. Mother's curse are as potent as anything. Secondly, yoruba women are some how. I pity you if you trust any yoruba person.
Third, you must at all cost make peace with ur mum. They are like ur god on earth

pansophist:
You're being a gentleman to your detriment, and that is your problem. You should have told your uncle that it's only 30k out of the 500k you received, and that he should send money to you directly next time. You don't cover shame for someone that is shameless.

Secondly, stop giving her money you don't have. Let her call Jesus and complain, don't give. Remove what's on your eye first, before someone's else, even your mum. If you realise how people quickly forget the dead, you will stop living to please people. Kobe Bryant died a few years ago, his news spread globally, now how many people talk about him? Oga give yourself a brain.

Be careful about what you tolerate, because you're teaching others how to treat you. How others treat you is a mirror to your standards, and no one will treat you better than you will accept. Your mothers behaviour will not bother you if you develop the inner strength to handle troublesome individuals. If she knows you to be tough, you'll be her exemption to her dirty behaviour, while she focuses on dealing with your father full time.

I understand the cultural expectations of respecting your parents, but to respect someone and to tolerate their excess is foolishness, and your respect has no value. When people know you as a man of honour, your respect will be valued, as well as your wrath. Know when to be a gentleman, and when to be a mentally deranged tout, because that's the language weak people understand. You can't be one, without strengthening the other. Just like the taller a tree, the deeper it's roots.

For now, seek on financial independence and don't sacrifice yourself stupidly. Your intuition is always telling you what to do but many times, people look outward, instead of inward. If something doesn't feel right, don't do it, and damn the consequences. What's worse? She would stop talking to you? Well for me, that will be great.

Love is thicker than water, not blood. If her existence in your life is more of pain than happiness, then you either choose yourself or her, and if its your mum, will she choose you instead of her happiness ? Learning to live is a skill, please develop it, and most things won't even bother you.

ayobamiJR:
At a time in my life, my mother wanted to keep me hostage out of love but though I was a desperate but legit hustler, she failed to understand....I developed a strong resentment towards her but it is unnecessary... See, I didn't even read your write up but please as an adult, try to understand your mum/dad, you really will miss them when they are no more...Just enjoy the moments when they are with you. When you start giving birth, you'd realise that they have made a lot of great sacrifices for you to be where you are today....Forgive and forget. Love your parents.

Isaacpromise1:
As much as we don’t know her side of the story, but as per your own explanation.

You need to fix your life ASAP;

and stop expecting anything from her, father or anyone else, if they assist it’s fine, if they don’t, you move on.

Don’t you think by now, your mum or your parents should be eating the fruit of their labor and not some unnecessary billing from you, it might be part of the silent issues too

Have you tried having a mother-son deep conversation with your mum too?

Like my pastor once said, “something must happen for something to happen” your mother can’t just turn that bad to you overnight, try to find out what went wrong.

laiperi:
Try to understand where she is coming from, could be tough love.

She may even want you or trying too hard to make you more responsible.

It boils down to how you see it and the difference it makes to your existence without expecting any support.