@ poster"Women expect very little from men in terms of companionship, personal care, and fidelity. Their relationships exist without the emotional elements..

Now why am I not surprised?

Is she a trophy?

wrong post.

I find it kind of addictive and distracting. But it sure good than bad.

can't understand why calls and text messages are now the parameters for judging the status of relationships. question is hw did our parents survive it all without cell phones et al? where did this addictive habit come from-like calls and sms are now hard drugs or something.

The fact that you are concerned about peoples opinion about the whole situation reveals your true stand [intentions]. You are attracted to this "friend"and before you know it ,
Will advice you to redefine the relationship.

That's really open and honest. I would appreciate if you strike a balance cos I understand men also are to blame as much as the women. Thanks once again.

Only time will tell. So let him be.

Too Little, Too late-Jojo

Most Violent movie-The Godfather Trilogy

The perfect function of man is to LIVE, not EXIST. Get your priorities right and work it out.
Accept the job and meet whatever challenges that come your way.

If he says drink, then drink it is. If it gets farther than that, shoot him in the head

I'll simply move on

Psychological illusions?
Hormonal imbalance?
whatever, still thinking
I seriously believe you should get over it and understand that it's not every wish that comes true-forget about what you've seen, read, heard-just about anything.

@ poster, I have just one question for you; can you cook love?

Whatever it is that compelled the guys to search churches would definitely be the same reasons why the ladies would also be in church. But that is not to say it applies to everyone.

Must commend you on your feat and advice that you keep away from her.

I enjoy solving problems and I'm thrilled when I get an opportunity to create something out of nothing.
I design-just about anything [ I'm a practicing Architect by profession]. I also love music with a passion and have so far been able to attend music workshops and seminars, play guitars,write and compose songs and produce music as well. I'm crazy about fast cars , but I guess it's a little late for me to make it to F1 [though I play a lot of simulated games-GT,NFS et al]. Thinking, Reading and Basketball also count in that order.
So, basically I am happy if I get to make a change in my environment through whichever means of expression I am allowed.

As humans, we test God's patience time after time-again and again. He is patient with us-that is what I expect from your friend. They should sit down and discuss things like grown-ups.
Forget about the other fella, things happen and there are consequences which she might not be able to live with.

I am yet to relate what we call "Naija Hip-Hop" with our African/Nigerian cultural roots because it still lacks expression in quite a number of records published/released so far. My candid opinion is that we need to re-educate ourselves and appreciate our value system-that way it'll find dynamic expression in our music.
It [Nigerian Hip-Hop] is still in the elemental phase and our artistes deserve credit for what they've achieved so far. It'll take time but I see a greater future.

Backtrack to the very begining. What do you think got him attracted? Work it out and find a way to effect changes to yourself [if any]. You could also sit down and talk it out. Let him know how you feel about what he said-guess that should ease your pain. WHATEVER HAPPENS, JUST BE YOURSELF AND BE HAPPY-COS YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE HAPPY.

@ topic-Guess you have to re-evaluate yourself as an individual and I'll advice you to focus on the relationship and don't make the financial angle the fulcrum or else,
It's only logical to feel that way considering the cultural perspective which I believe you have to dissociate from.
@ texazzpete-totally agree with you.

Candid advice-forget about the guy. Life is a blessing that is more imagined,
She has a great life ahead and if this is n't working the way she expects it to, I see no reason why she's still with him.
PS: She's dealing with a human and there are no guarantees.

That's touching. Really made my day.
Thanks.

LOL.
Bros dat one dey sha.

I believe she was aware of the law/regulations and chose to ignore them [maybe]-guess we all break rules once in a while and get away with it. Pity is she got the bullet for that.

Live this life on your own terms-thats what I believe. You will agree that the convinience derived in owning [and maintaining] a car far outweigh any reasons you might present [for me]. As our cities develop and exponentially increase in size, the space we need to cover becomes greater [not ignoring all the hype about connectivity/globalisation/communication et al].
If it serves the function for which it was procured, I have no problem and if you ask me a still an investment-why you may ask? TIME is the only currency for some of us and as such we place a high value on getting things done without any over-runs.
PS-Try surviving on the Government's Transport system in a city like Abuja and tell me what you think about it.

@ topic:
I believe you still understood the message communicated. If you think it's flawed you could contact the agency in question. Things are getting better and we should appreciate that fact.

Black cat, White cat, Red cat , or even Yellow cat!
As long as it cathces mice, it's a GOOD cat.
Bottomline: Nigerians running Nigerian companies.
EOD

@ topic:
There are exceptions and I believe relationships fare better if time is taken to define the relationship. [although this rarely happens]. A vital component in any relationship is communication. However, we must also understand that we are humans dealing with each other and there are no guarantees.