₦airaland Forum

dollyjoy:
how do you manage to pass exams?

Hahaha. Nor mind am. I like your diary by the way bit you hide details. You may wanna study in US. Education isn't that stressful in US. They know your limit and give you doable examinations.

You won't have to write full scripts as you do in Nigeria law exams

pretydiva:
Awwww. Hubby n son r so cute

u too like better thing

Lexusgs430:
What I would have done was, simply leave the queue and come back when the smelly head had left.
If her head smelt that awful, imagine the odour from the VJ!!!
NB: Did I just mention odour from VJ?

Don't let Linda Ikeji arrest you o

Hadez:
I dnt like his baby mama. He could hv gone 4 a better girl

What makes a girl better? what is wrong with her? A woman dat didn't born slowpoke or sick child for him! The woman is good jor better than any one you can think of.

OKDnigeria:
l fully support d govt as far as subsidy removal is concern.

My grouse with dem is their stinking hypocrisy. They opposed it in 2012, telling d pple dat subsidy removal is anti pple. We would have gone past dis issue as a nation 4 yrs ago. APC have set us back by 4 yrs by opposing subsidy removal in 2012. not dat they didn't know d benefit of it, they just wanted to turn d pple against d govt then just to grab power.

+ 1000000 likes. This is the real issues. I am anti- subsidy. Govt cannot pay for daily fuel.consumption and diversion of 180 million people. That is like throwing away our collective wealth. I preached these a through 2012. I stood firmly with Jonathan then because I know subsidy removal will ultimately stimulate our economy, ensures savings and help individuals build power and refineries.

But no. APC and lai Mohammed's with not let progress come in 2012. The hunger f oya r power made them discredit the bold action of Jonathan. Now, they are becoming to see the benefit. It is either they are daft for now realizing till now or they are anti - progress of our dear country.

I am glad they finally removed subsidy but sad we have to face it anew wen we ought to be reaping the benefit just about now! Mtcheeeewwww

Dfinex:
u are just so correct. ...I can hardly go out with a young guy...they are so inexperienced and annoying.

but my major challenge with him is that he's got some kids from his previous marriage and they are not little kids that I can manage.

If truly that is your challenge, then you don't have any except his kids insult you. In my opinion, it is far easier to manage adults than kids. Just be nice and friendly. Don't impress them or overdo anything. Just be yourself but always be patient with people. That is great virtue.

The thing with kids is that they always feel maltreated once you are not their mother. A simple shout will send them to depression but we be all be all over their mum the next min even if their mum broke their head. Adult appreciates goodwill and your limitations.

If you are marrying him, insist on court to protect ur ends.

Dfinex:
Yeah. ..I'm enjoying so much attention and love that I don't want to quit but I can't help my state of confusion either.

Yeah...yeah. I can even feel it in your tone. Let am reach my side o. Seriously, you should consider marrying him. Does he still fire well? . You may think the relationship outside of this would be better with a young guy. It will be hard for you to cope with a young guy. They demand a lot of respect and wanna control you to your thoughts.

They are jealous too and many times, broke. It's not their fault. They are still learning how to become a man. because you were faster than yourself, you are already enjoying a grown man. Won't be easy to come down to annoying guys.

Dfinex:
Yeah I know cos I'm dating one now....but the thought of getting married to him makes me sick..lolss

You are hooked why are sick of the idea? Is it that you don't love him or is it the thought of what the society will say?

How did you get to date him? Is he looking to marry you? You need to decide on your path. You don't wanna waste your own time sis

delishpot:
Happens both ways, driver could seduce madam and gate man could have the same effect on her too but she has to think twice based on her environment and the fact that there is 99.9% chances of losing her husband and may not find a man to accept her fault when she gets thrown out. But a man with 10knowm wives will still get women even prettier ones who will still date and marry him even of he has 19wives at home already. And if madam catches him cheating, there is every likelihood that he will be forgiven and won over again by her.
So you see, instinct to bang randomly when sexually aroused abounds in both sexes just that for one it is expected to be controlled and suppressed until after marriage and even in marriage, she may be looked from the corners of the eyes if she suddenly develops some kind of sexual skills and adventure in bed. While the man has the right and freedom to explore and conquer to ease the "tension"

Hmmmm. I just like you delishpot. I like the way you attack issues. Makes sense. I just learnt something now. I never knew women has natural instinct to have sex too with whoever! Thought is man thing.

greenpasture:
It takes longer for men to get jobs, women overlook them in favour of wealthier older men, parental expectations are broken, the very definition of manhood has changed from courage and principle to wealth and power. They feel helpless, more like victims of a powerful system and so something dies in them and is replaced with abuse, ( you get a lot of that here on NL) posturing and boasting ( see how many girls I've bleeped) and violence as perhaps in this case.

Truth is a male generation brought up by house helps and not parents, disciplined but not nurtured is out there pretending everything is OK but it's not and the first people to find out are the people that need to trust and depend on them. Wives and children.

This is one of the unseen pains of a corrupt system that has turned men and women in this country to house and field slaves with women as trophy and victim.

And if it's bad for the men, the women aren't far behind. But women weren't on your question list.

Besides your theories, one major reason is the changing world of women in Nigeria. Before now, women were subservient and obey and fear her husband mumuishly. Men then provides solely for their homes and women are forced to keep quiet to avoid beatings at any slightest provocation.

Now, women have education and have learned to make their own money. They talk wen hubby mess up or make foolish decisions. Insecure men are no longer able to tolerate their challenge, so they abuse them just so to keep them quiet.

Feneyi:
Very sad. In Abuja. Interested in helping. How do I reach her or her rep? May God continue to help us.

So kind of you. This is your first post on Nairaland and it's gear towards saving a soul. May God bless you richly. I hope the OP get to you soon

Funjosh:
Husband beating wife is now rampant, na wa o

It has always been. They just started talking!

delishpot:
Yes that is if she still doesn't want it. Then it is called sexual assault/harassment not rape. Rape happens when she still rejects the advancement but the man still went ahead to force her and have sex with her.
If the touch sweet her, she come enjoy am come agree to do the do and enjoy it E Don commit from rape. E Don enter consensual sex.

Yes. Technically you are correct but in practice, the lady can report rape against you and finger you to manipulating her into sex. You aroused her against her will initially because you know she can't resist you or touches.

There are lots of girls that once your lips touch her's. That is the end. You could force to get her to her weakness. It happens everyday. It is rape. That is how we see it here

delishpot:
Because we have been allowed for centuries to see sleeping with women as an achievement. We make the woman feel shame if she acts like men in sexuality department hence they (women) have been for centuries told that it is a shame to allow a man who does not value you and marry you sleep with you. So.e even get told that if they try it in marriage, they stand the risk of loosing their family through mysterious deaths, even some culture believe that complicated child birthing is as a result of the wife cheating. So they wire them to keep themselves to avoid all these negative effect of sexual exploration. Look around you and tell me if our culture and society would allow a woman do as a man will do. Even if the woman was wired so from heaven by accident society will never hear of it that she behaves just the way she was wired. But a am an that does same is not looked upon that badly. Plus women have been made to accept rivalry and the choice of their men to marry more than one. Women married to the same man and living in peace are praised and honoured while men married to one woman and living in peace are tagged "Jazed" and the community where this is happening would want nothing to do with such an household.
So our upbringing influences our sexual behaviour mostly.

Very well correct! Our makeup is a combination of environment, learning and feelings. The environment has wire men to go Scot free with casual sex unlike women Esp in Africa. Times are changing anyway. If you go to sexuality section here, people are now opened to seek their sexual needs including gay relationships.

I can't tell if women naturally feel the urge for casual sex but the society frown at it. For men, apart from having societal nodding, men actually naturally feel the need for casual sex like animals and can easily be led to it.

That is why housemaid can easily seduce Oga. Have u told any guy he has a good smell or sexy lips? He will go numb on the kneel. Men are easy prey sis.

delishpot:
That no be rape Na. She did not physically overpower him, he wasn't in any danger, he had every chance to say No and push her out of his car, she proposed a deal if he had rejected it, there would not be any negative consequence, he did not do it out of fear or after he was incapacitated by her. So he consented after he had a taste of the goody goody she had to offer for waving her debt aside.
If he had stopped her before he "fell" he could have charged her with sexual assault or abuse. Just like a girl can not say she was raped afyer giving a story like this..........I did not want to but he touched my breasts and I couldn't resist the sexual excitement so I decided to get laid.

You know in western world, who are the owner of the word "rape", they defined ur last paragraph as rape. Someone touching your breast against your will thereby setting ur hormone on fire is rape. White peeps say you need to ask her, do I touch your breast? Are you ready for me? . That is seeking consent otherwise is rape

calliope:
Then you have no idea what love, trust and respect is all about. That's why it's a commitment, regardless whatsoever you stand faithful, it's not easy to I must confess but this things are put in place for worst case scenario just like what happened, At this point if he truly loved and respect his wife, he wud desist from the temptation, A wise man puts his family first and if he had them at heart, he wud do no such ... Now he may loose both his friend, wife and family for? Sex. So forget the spirituality bullshît, we r all humans, it takes more Dan Dat.

You are very right on what it should be! You speak from a woman' s perspective who mostly have restraints on their feelings and sexual actions.

I speak from a man's perspective, sadly, you are not a man to understand. Take it from me! Men don't necessarily invest their heart before engaging in sex. The feelings comes and off we go. We can be so dedicated to out wives and love her to.high heavens, yet we can still do casual sex.

Not so for women. They commit their hearts before launching out for sex and most likely get stucked to the man if she had a good time with him while detaching hersef emotionally from her husband. It is easier to detect a cheating wife than a cheating husband because of this behavioural changes.

Ever wonder while men like pastors, Bill Clinton, Tiger woo cheat? They do love their wives but restraint is hard for men. Many women may not know but their loving husbands cheat or had a minor fling one time or the other. It's just bad but that is how we are wired. Do you wanna fall any decent man? Go wink at them and see them crawling up to u.

By the way do men lose their wife by cheating? very rare! Except you are poor. Yet poor men still got pardoned.

RichYoungNigga:
Tied you up the first day and raped you, tied you up the second time and raped you, tied you up for a year and raped you and you're still with him ??


Wait, let me call my 4 year old son, he may believe this.

You know nothing about abuse. You become God to the victim and fear him in his absence. It will psychologically disorient you. Don't ever blame victims rather reach out to help them

calliope:
I fear friends, Most are wolf in sheep clothing...

But it will be hard for the man to resist a woman squeezing his ball in this case if the story is true. The wife is to blame here. Men find it out to resist women's offer. In truth, here lies the power of everywoman to get any husband of her choice.

Only spirit filled men survive such situations.

Dfinex:
marrying @70??........Mercy me!!! na love or na wetin?....If na Naija now, them for don carry dey talk say the babe na gold-digger.

Anyway their lives...their business.

babe, nor be small thing o. One thing is sure. Older men gives you comfort and peace and overlook your shortcomings. You don't wanna try it out. You will forever be drawn to older men

bebe2:
rip

only God knows if better treatment facilities wud ave saved her life.

Of course. Leg shud be the last of ailment to condemn anyone to mother earth. Clearly, she missed out on good Medicare.

On this occasion, the doctor made a grievous mistake! You may not know, the number of dead relating to doctors fatigue, incompetency and lack of inspiration kill more than 30 % of patients.

Check well before u visit hospital

franchizy:
In America PMS is sold for $80 in Europe it goes for $90. in most African countries it is sold equivalent to 175 Naira even when they have a working refinery refining the products.

I must commend the federal govt on this increase. This will curb corruption and add value to the growth and development of Nigeria.

We the Nigerian youths are solidly behind the FG. NLC are toothless bulldogs.
INSHA ALLAH

There are advantages to gain for this increment so are many other disadvantages if not manage properly. It cud signal in hyper inflation. But you kicked against GEJ on this same policy! Why are you guys like this
I hope u r not follow follow

Congrats to him. His teeth though

Flickzvill:
When a guy is so possessive its bcz he loves you with all his heart he doesn't want to see u get hurt he bilivs staying close to him all the time will make u feel safe but u ladies over react acting all wild making him luk like his stalking wen he sees u with anoda guy u want him to he happy ? He will be so mad sometimes u women trigger this tinz but u don't notice he tells u wat to wear bcz he feels u will luk responsible in dat dress except u have one bobo u want to impress so u get mad and start nagging saying shits he tells u not to talk to a particular person bcz he feels dat person is a bad influence but not with your "family" that one is bad but d rest fvck dem see understand your partner most of u don't he loves you o u girls want freedom abi after u get this freedom u go Bleep other guys coming confessing mehn women r just complicated

You should learn to give people their space and freedom no matter how much u care for them. You will get tired too if a girl decided to stalk you.

Some love are just abusive. If you hv such tendency, you do need to see a counsellor

kindworld:
The mama for still try close legs na, haba...worizdis?

Those clothing and sitting position is normal everywhere here. Women bare their thigh everytime especiation for occasion and in summer

numericalguy:
Why are they looking at each other like lesbian lovers.



That girl is in trouble because she would not have had a normal undergraduate life in the university, she might not even have close girlfriends and any guy that dates her will have a lot of problems and interferences from the mother.

Where you see challenges, it is a plus for some family. I speak with my dota like my sister

chubbygal:
Lesson: Don't despise your litte begining that may be a ladder to your next level. Meanwhile not all men are after a lady's stuff

Yeah like me. I have helped many ladies to their utter dismay with no string attached

But they start falling in love with me some months after. one even blame me for her emotional woes for being too kind to her!

The devil is after the MD's cousin. Just imagine how a strange girl collected a job from him.

His bigger cousin MD wud hv submitted only his CV.

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Sweetguy25:
I personally don't see anything wrong with the remunerations of the ED's. As long as the banks are operating profitably, then there's no problem.
By the way, what percentage of Nigerians do you think earn between 50 million to 120 million a year? 3 percent or five percent or more?

Do u know what is 3%? To put it clearly, it means 3 out of 100 Nigerians earn upward 50 millions.

You can't even find 3 out of 100,000 EARNING that. So we are taking about 0.003%

Orikinla:
[size=18pt]Insanity caused by poverty.

The woman looks ill.[/size]

You shud start getting use to it. Africans are so uptight and closed even wen they are spoilt. White, Chinese, Indian even Arab unclothedness are all over Internet. Dem never kill them.

There are videos of real life couplez even doing it on Internet using video cam. This is nothing compared to them.

Nigerians will start acting blue films soon. Let Nigerians embrace their secualities joor. But u are almost naked on ur dp too o.

gurunlocker:
If no be say the person na born mugu.... how person go snap passport with the facial expression?

Do u even believe it? African probably planted someone to do it to seek attention or the person just wanted afro candy to.notice him.

It is all lies bro!

nsfreeman:
Good day everyone especially all the gurus on the thread.
I have been following the thread for sometime now and facinated with all the wonderful testimonies and am hoping to get mine soon. Amen
Please i need an advice on this.....
My boss is a frequent flyer,he waka pass Johnie walker self..lolz now he wants ti take me along on one of his trips but the challenge is i have no travel history
He will be renewing his family visa soon through dropbox and he wants to know if he can include my passport in his family visa just to ease things for me. We are a bit related and bear same surname. I eagerly await responses and advice,thanks.

Are you older than 21? Are u the one new person on board on renewing his family visa? If yes to both, you are on a long thing. The embassy will love to interview u bro