₦airaland Forum

jimmychang:
The way she go take fail ehhhhhhhhhhh ....

Smartguyboy:
Exactly what this movie was all about “sharper”
a professional player who makes a living by cheating.

Jashub:
I don't think you're in love ; I just think you've met a beautiful girl who's willing to give you good pùssy in exchange for filling a certain emptiness inside you. But think deeply about your decision. Cheers

chatinent:
I wanted to send you N10k until I saw your account number.


You are posing with fake profiles.

Don't argue please, I am a web geek.

chatinent:
I wanted to send you N10k until I saw your account number.


You are posing with fake profiles.

Don't argue please, I am a web geek.

Chaos14:
you are a 🤡🤡🤡

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

You're a big fool

onumadu:
Well, thanks for the explanation.

But did you say "a gender that just stopped having more than two women legally at a time"?

When did polygamy become illegal in Nigeria?

If you marry traditionally in Nigeria, you can marry 50 women. And it is LEGAL.

Na awa culture be dat.



I would say that science agrees with BOTH OF US.



However, is it possible to still have one wife who handles a man well enough for him to not need a second wife?
Of course YES!


My position on such things is unique to me (and all discerning persons out there); and it is that "THE NOTION THAT ALL MEN (OR WOMEN) ARE CREATED EQUAL IS A LIE".
Certain man may be able to COMFORTABLY satisfy 10 women in a single day, while some men struggle to satisfy even one wife once a week. Same applies to women.
That is why COMPATIBILITY is KEY in marriage.

Kobicove:
You want to kill someone so you're using style to sound out our opinion abi?

Klass99:
🤣😄. I'm asking hard questions because I like to know things I don't, I like to understand how your minds work as men, I also enjoy interacting and engaging with decent folks like you.

Deep pockets or not, I am usually drawn to a man's physique and looks, then his attitude before anything else. It's even hard to tell how deep your pockets are from your looks alone, if you are not a public figure like Federer or Elumelu.

You are not the only ones moved by what you see o, I like good looking men and I have no qualms with telling a man he is fine, even random strangers in public places. I love their reaction to my compliment and I get a real kick out of sincerely giving those compliments.

onumadu:
You would NEVER find a single post from me in this Nairaland where I supported marrying only "sexually pure woman".
NEVER. Find it and show me! lol
If anything, I am in constant battle with the type of men I call "Virgin hunters" here.
They are the hypocrites you are alluding to, not me.
I believe that every woman can find a COMPATIBLE MATE for herself. The problem lies in that compatibility issue.
Not all men like "sexually pure" wife. In fact some men actively encourage their wives to date other men. it is their own sexual fantasy, believe it or not.
Marriage is like a finger-print. There are no two similar marriages. To each his (or her) own!



Can you read yourself?
How can a man marry a side-chic as first wife? Does this make sense to you?

A side-chic is a side chic (second woman or third or whatever nth wife) because there was a gap in the man's first marriage somehow (NOT ALL THINGS ARE SEXUAL IN MARRIAGE. In fact a lot is MENTAL -intellectual, wisdom, understanding, cordiality of worldview, etc)
It is not a zero-sum game as you are desperately trying to make it.
A LOT of men are happily married with only one wife who understands them and FILLS them somehow.

Not all men need side-chics. Believe it or not.

Side-chics mostly come in when a wife failed to apply wisdom and understanding in handling her husbands social needs.

onumadu:
It is exactly due to the sensitive nature of the information that I spoke in parables.

The secret lies in that lion metaphor I used.

All I can say is that some women "get it" while others don't. I pity the ones that don't.

All men are not the same though. A woman is advised to study her man properly before deciding on her strategy to keeping him happy sexually.

The only thing I can tell women (heck all married persons whether male or female) is to ENGAGE YOUR SPOUSE IN DEEP SEXUAL CONVERSATION. Find out what his sexual fantasies are, and try your level best to meet them. Else, he will find a woman who would fulfill them. Most side-chics merely do just that - meet a man's sexual fantasy.
A lot of men even cheat because they can't discuss certain sexual matters with their wives. Their wives are too uptight and stiff as sticks. lol

I watched one Ghana woman advising women on this same issue. Her "lectures" were far more detailed than mine here. lol

Klass99:
. The same way I dey wonder for you. My post was as clear as day and night na. You are free to think or believe what you want, the same way I am. I don't even understand why that particular issue is a bone of contention for some of you.

Just last night I saw a fat man who had boobs like a woman and a beer belly like a 6 months pregnant womam. I was instantly put off in my mind and in my head, if I as a woman can be turned off by such an appearance, what makes you people think or doubt that a man won't be put off too by a similar appearance? Or that he won't cheat because of it?

Some of you want to argue and debate a point made by a man, when you are not a man yourself. The same way some men want to argue and debate feminine issues with us, on menstruation, pregnancy and the fact that penetrative sex rarely does jack shit for us, unlike clitoral stimulation.

Klass99:
Sweetheart I feel you, I will be back shortly.



So, while the answer is NO for you, it is a YES for me. Yes, because I have heard that excuse and narrative too many times not to believe it. It is not only online I've heard it but offline as well. An anonymous forum particularly gives people the boldness and courage to be their true selves or to be brutally honest with their thoughts, anonymity makes it easy for people to shed their usual pretences in real life.

Notice I said excuse, because men will use any excuse to justify their cheating and their excuses range from fallen boobs, loose vjays, a dirty wife, sex starvation to men are polygamous in nature, my wife disrespects me, she has body odour and more. Are their excuses valid? Perhaps, I don't know, but I won't criticize or judge them because I can't and I won't sleep with a man who has body odour either.

You and I, may think or feel differently about this but one thing I know for certain is that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. In other words, what a man says reveals what is in his heart. So, if majority are saying un-firm bodies cause them to lose their desire and erections, I will take them at their word and not debate the issue. In the mouth of many witnesses a thing is established, abi? 371 likes was not a joke but rather a concurrence with what was said, even if the other 371 people didn't say it themselves, they agreed with it.

Like you, I am all for companionship more than sex itself but men are from Mars and women are from Jupiter. We think differently about these things. It takes a thoroughly self disciplined man to not cheat because of the usual excuses we hear.

Chaos14:
You seem to be pained by the fact i didn't stress my self all the way to reply you. Seeing that your opinion doesn't matter to me but because you thought that you decided To type yawn when you clearly could have just avoided me but you were really pained i didn't give you the response you expected but i knew that i don't need to fight with a person who thinks their opinion matters on a public forum.

Chaos14:
Your tears are even sweeter

Chaos14:
Your tears are sweet

ShadowCracker:
I mean if a woman is a virgin or not to a large degree of accuracy that can be confirmed, but that's not my point.

My point is how do you know a virgin man.

ShadowCracker:
Very good but the problem is you don't know which man is a Virgin or not.

Qatar2022:
You're a bastard, i understand and it show how bad your upbringing is

Qatar2022:
You people don't disappoint

letstalksense:
I have this lady I'm looking forward to get married to. We met like 3 months now. We are both from Christian background and we both love God.
I'm not asking her for sex and anything of such. I'm Just looking for a good woman I can settle down with.
We get into deep talk and she told me how she has sex with just 2 guys all her life. And that was after her ex broke her heart.
But promised she has repeat from that. And don't have any sexual engagement with those 2 guys anymore.
Then I told her I still love her despite her action.

BUT I told her she has to delete the contacts of those 2 guys she had sex with and the ex. So she won't have anything doing with them again. But she refused and told me, I didn't trust her. That she is just in friendship with them and have nothing doing with any of them.

Now, my fear is, will she be cheating or have anything doing with those guys if I eventually got married to her?
This is already already bring misunderstanding between the both of us.

I hate cheating and don't cheat either. So I don't like any situation that may bring these exs into our relationship.

But she is not letting them go. Claiming they have been helping her one way and the other, encouraging her in business (she is hard working though). She told me, she got nothing sexual with any of them anymore and will never do. That she has repeated from such. They are just friends now. That I should have to trust her.

Please I don't know if I should trust her truly or I should quit the relationship?

Please what can you advise me? Please mature advise. Thanks

Zonefree:
Women are the major problem of the world. The world would have been peaceful without women.

God and Adam were paddy until Eve came. Ponder on that.

Justbehave:
Lol. No woman offered to help. Chaii. Shame.I can see you are no longer busy as soon as I mentioned rape. Shameless akwuna busy sucking dick.

Justbehave:
Women supporting women by marrying her off. Nice idea.But come ooh. Women on this forum are fucking broke. So non of you could volunteer to help out your fellow woman? You women only talk Cho Cho Cho without any action. Make Una help your fellow woman before her mum marries her off. Make Una no dey wait for a men to come bail Una gender out. Shame on Una.Lol .Where is Jennyclay? She don hide abi? If nah to call men broke she for be the first to comment. Broke Akwunas wey full here.

Mustiboy:
Dahuum!


Respect to the family for admitting that he does and looking to prioritize his health at this point.


I implore Tinubu’s family and associates to do the same and give the man the befitting retirement that he deserves

Angrygoat:
No be when your life dey in danger u go wear am. Shey AC dey inside the cap. U want male heat kill am.

Wsx2:
Guess you are a female so you don’t really know how a proof works do you. Even shooting someone for a long range while putting on a vest if such person is hypertensive he won’t survive. A bullet on very close range will hit a vest as if a trailer hit the person not to talk of pointing a at a very close range straight to the head

A proof protect at its maximum when the range is far