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Ethereal0110:
Moderators please push this forward I need all the advice I can get thanks.

I have been seeing this guy for some months now we were friends before we started dating i will call him Leo,things happened so fast we talked about marriage, leo is from Akure he talked about me with his family his Dad is Late, his Mom told him she does not want an Igbo girl,

leo told me that if his family wont support him we will travel faraway from them & marry without their consent, we hoped that with time his mother will change her mind but from the beginning till now the mother is still insisting though she has not met me before , she even came from village to his house unannounced just to see if she would find me there, so that she can warn me to stay away from her son, and am wondering if am such a trouble to her, unfortunately for her their was no sign of me or my clothes there, she spent 2 days,
he
couldn't stay home because his mom will keep on ranting, he was devastated and told me to free him for now so I decided that this could be a good time to fast, I never knew what that meant in his terms because we were still seeing each other .

The thing is the love we have for each other is so strong, we fight a lot almost every day, just when I think we will breakup the love only gets stronger, like we are falling in love over and over again, everyday he tells me how stubborn I am. I have never met someone that loves like this,

My problem is this is not the only puzzling circumstances on my neck, their was a day we quarrelled and I told him its over between us, he threatened me , all the things he said gave me the impression that he must have been a former cultist,


I kept asking him what and who he was before he told me that its his past he is not going back to it neither is he gonna talk about it., after the argument he pulled me close hugged & kissed me and left. all that drama happened inside my office.

I felt lost, each time theirs issue either from me or his mom he goes out to drink and calm himself , if the issue is really heated he does something even crazier, like when his mom came & harassed him he drank & smoked weed .
I
was confused , I kept telling myself that I had entered one-chance, my heart broke, after some days Leo was normal and sweet again.. After the moms visit he planned to go and see if he can convince his families and settle things amicably, he didn't pick their calls for 2 weeks, eventually he made his line available and started communicating with them, last night he told me that his family said they don't want to see me, I was so angry I told him to give it a rest and not spoil my mind , the fact that he smokes annoys me I hate him for that, I feel trapped like I can't leave him, he annoys me because he is not acting like a man that he is he gave his mother and family the power and right to control him, now I don't know how things will go, because he still loves me and won't let go...

I just need advice from married and about to marry nlanders tell me the problems you encountered in courtship and how you handled or tackled them.... Because I may go krazy before its too late......

my advice would be that you move on. Take it or leave it, family are active paties in any marriage. If he goes ahead and marries you against the families wish, they could alienate him and if anything turns out wrong he would blame you for that. You on the other hand need to be at peace and have the rightful position as a woman married into a family rather than a stranger.

Unconfirmed and it was made a fp topic. Ok

nicholasis:
I just graduated and the next phase of my education is to serve my country for one year, but i later realised that if i am given an opportunity to select a state to serve for my NYSC i won't even know what to say because i don't even know the best states that will be a huge advantage to a corper . In order for me to be able to make a good choice on the states i decided to do a little digging on this topic , i didn't do this for myself alone but for the sake of other corpers like me .

For the sake of those students graduating this year and the once that has graduated and preparing for their NYSC services ( National Youth Service Corps) i have compilled this list of Best States For NYSC In Nigeria. Graduating from school is one thing but making choice of the best Nigeria cities or state to serve is another thing . The esssense of this article is to guilde students going for their NYSC service the best states and cities to serve considering factors like security , standard of living and pay (also called ALAWI).
Best 5 States to serve in Nigeria And They Are The Hishest Paying States

1.Ogun
2. Lagos
3.Plateau
4.Enugu
5. Anambra
6. Rivers
7. Abuja
8. Osun
9. Akwa Ibom
10. Cross River
11. Osun
12. Ekiti
13. Ekiti State
14. Delta
15. Abia

Source

lubbish! When I served on the Plateau and received not even a kobo from the state. Everybody be forming consultant. Lubbish again.

my own Kanam?

well i have o gadget that dails a preset number whenever there is sound around it. there are lst of others too. contact me via my signature let's get to talk more

i can if u can make it to cv for 4k, LG to be precise

lol

I am not one to be seen as pro-Buhari, but I think his job is to lead Nigeria, ours to support him. Methinks the tools (people) he needs to use to achieve his task is totally up-to him so long as there are no constitutional requirements to the contrary. So why not we cut him some slack, since the assessment of his performance would be based on his achievements and not those he used to achieve them.

mikaj:
Yes it did. The one I was using was the older version. This one rocks.

dalu... it has been my personal best for years... any one who buys a system from me gets to use it but because they don't partner like Norton and the likes people don't know or trust them

mikaj:
Thanks man

did it work for you?

mikaj:
Pls have got some major issue on my windows 7 laptop. Its been infected with shortcut virus/malware. I have tried almost everything available. Using cmd, shortcut virus remover, usb fixit, Samdav etc but nothing. Pls anyone got any other suggestions?

download and install eset anti virus, notice the emphasis on download as old dumps might do you no good

kstadaura:
I have seen many young ladies that have given birth to bastards, in their parent's house,although they still look pretty and have suitors but that sounds awkward to me. i am not saying that they should be isolated or hated for having bastards but i just cant do it.

just recently a friend of mine(lady) whom i have crush on,is pregnant out of wedlock, the moment i heared that i just dont feel the way i use to feel about her.......its really disturbing.

guys can you marry a lady who had a bstard?

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oyizaoyiza:
hello my fellow nairalanders,

My name is oyiza, I am from kogi state in nigeria, An event happened to me in the course of growing up as a child that is still ever fresh in my memory and something similar is happening in my marriage presently.

My dad was from kogi state kabba precisely, My mum is from idoma but she lived in lagos and understands yoruba to a fault. My mum is a primary school teacher, My dad was a civil servant in one of the ministries in lagos then.

As a young teenager i knew that my uncles and my aunties where always coming to our house to resolve issues between my dad and my mum ,My father was the one always telling his siblings about how USELESS and disobidient my mother was.

Eventually the issue of my dad letting his families into there marriage became a very BIG ISSUE as every one tagged my mother as the BAD WIFE.

It was a tug of war that lasted for years,Eventually my dad sisters came to our house and threw my mum loads out of the house.

My mum pleaded to come back into the suffering as my mum was always been beating in our presence frequently by my dad.

My mum left and my dads relative had oppurtunity to take over all what my dad and mum had built over the years. Eventually my dad became responsible for the payment of his siblings children school bill at the detriment of his childrens education.

*Me and my folks had to pick up sales girl and sales boy job to further our education with support from the tiny salary mummy was getting.

His business that was booming went into demurage ,he started begging from hand to mouth his sisters and brother abandonded him for that period,i was almost graduadting from school when this strange ailment came upon him, we took him from different hospital to another, Doctors took different tests but nothing was found in his body, we took him to three different churches and we were told that its a spiritual attack that was placed on him by one of his family members that asked for money from him but he didn't give.Fast

forwarded my Dad died 2months to my wedding day. My dad and mum had the best of marriage but trouble started when my dad was always labelling my mum as Evil to his siblings.The most painful thing is that all they laboured for got wiped away in there very eyes as my mum dare not talk where my aunties and uncles are simply because of the way my dad had spoken of her in there presence.

Hence i need help, I have been married for just 3yrs ,we have fought in our marriage but my husband had reported me to his friends and parents more than 3 times his friends call me to now find out what transpired between us.To me i feel so ridiculed as i sincerely hate people putting there mouth in my home affairs, except COUNSELLORS if need should be.

My husband had beaten me before without mentioning it to a single soul. But if its him he wont hesitate to feed his friend and siblings,The first time it happened we talked about it but it happened again 5 days ago,I love my Husband But i dont TRUST HIM AGAIN.I

felt Betrayed by my husband,i dont want what happened to my dad and mum to happen to me as this was the exact way there issues started way back then before it eventually resulted in divorce and then my father died mysteriously just two months to my day of joy.

Please no insult, Advise on how to resolve this is all i need.

*Note that i have been praying too*.constructive ideas,What are the consequences of Bringing Third parties into marriages, please share your experiences.

I have always been for a couple sorting themselves out no matter what, but in most cases, we especially when we have had experience as yours tend to live in it, we tell ourselves what we don't want our relationships to be like but tend to live in ways that can only take us their. try to talk to your husband about how you don't want others to be part of your marriage, but most importantly try not to give him cause or issues to take out. God bless your marriage and make it a better one for both of you.

Unless it has become more sophisticated, the last time I encountered a ransomeware on a client's laptop, an OS reinstall saved the day, I only installed a trusted antivirus before restoring files from windows.old

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go school u no gree

Women! Are you suggesting he comes out to the kitchen or room to spit instead. I get that you've got this mental picture that irks you rather than the spittle as nothing you've said so far suggests that you see the spittle afterwards as they apparently get washed by the bath water. What you do is called nagging

omaa4:
Thank you all for ur various opinions, they are all appreciate buh I think some people ain't understanding the real situation.. what we have is a bedroom with a bath innit, I have no ish with him wearing a bathroom slpps in d bath that's what it is for. the problem is after wards. There is a mat jus by d bathroom door of d bathroom which doesnt work for him. He ends up spilling water in d room. I usually clean up after him as often as everyday then considering we also have a 6mnths baby who is at the verge of crawling. I have explained the reasons why he needs to take charge of the situation. i have been gentle, I have been nice abt this I have even constantly cleaned up after him Buh my issues is that he doesn't make efforts as this didn't start today. I have suggested he should leave d slpps by d door as soon as he comes buh it hasn't worked.

Engrish it is hard my brother

blueto:
and what meaningful comment did you conbritue?

trying to victimized others while what you are doing is unanimous

Serves them right as they won't lend as low as 10k to budding enterprises with their neck choking terms

Interesting
Serves them right as they won't lend as low as 10k to budding enterprises with their neck choking terms

All I know is that 250 was never built with a 300gb hard drive, there is nothing like a 10.5" screen and the 250 only comes with a 15.6 inches screen. So u better watch what you're falling for. But that's what you get when you want something good for a cheap price

josepn:
Dis guy ask me to pay 40k for dis laptop.. New laptop bt i was lik d money is too low.. Check d configuration and tell me if the price worth more dan 40k or not....

HP 250: 300GB Hard drive, 2GB RAM,
10.5" screen Display, 2.16GHz, Intel celeron, DVD
RW, Battery, WiFi , HDMI, Bluetooth, Webcam,
Windows 8.
@40k.. New laptop.

polyte:
I honestly need a guide/advice from married, intelligent parents in the house:
I have 2 kids with a woman that we are no more living together under same roof but with her mum for 4 years now. Meanwhile, I have been responsible for their school fees and maintenance...only they are not with me.
But my issue is that their mother will never want them in my house even when they are on holiday.
The last discussion on the subject caused rancor between us and I decided I was going to halt the payment of their fees, if i would only be a financier and will not have privilege to take them out/to my house.
pls can somebody advise if it is a right step in the right direction.

try a more proactive but peaceful way to get to spend more time with your kids, make her realize that she might deny you access to them thinking she is hurting you while in actual sense she is hurting the kids. As for the financing, don't withdraw as that would be the kids suffering too and you wouldn't want your children to lack when you can afford it.

odikwa serious

trash or cool?

we have hear

the semo he made in d video? abeg free us

@beggarsunion

Is it 3015 or 2015? Besides y not just download from the web?