₦airaland Forum

Titi03:
When I was a child, my parents took me and left Nigeria to start a brand new life in the States. As an only child it was such a painful and lonely experience for me to leave all my extended family and friends behind.

Years later, after graduating from the University, I planned to relocate for NYSC but my boyfriend (now husband) proposed and my plans took a back sit with all wedding preparations. Mind you, my husband is also Nigerian. Anyway, we got married and things have been great.. we both have great careers and doing very well financially.

The problem is my husband wants to remain here. He refuses to return back as he suffered in Nigeria before coming to the States.  He tells me Nigeria is not what I think it is and he doesn't see any prospects for his career in Nigeria. But I can't seem to shake off the strong desire to return back home. I have longed for this since I was brought here by my parents. I feel trapped in the States against my wish - first by my parents and now my husband. I refused to integrate into the system because I always thought I wouldn't be here forever. Aside from my husband I live a lonely life.

Should I relocate without my husband? I have strong ties with family back home. Please any advise or comment will be appreciated.

please stay there with your loving husband o? Absence they say makes the heart grow fonder, your being over there and comfortable could be one reason you think you have strong ties at home. That tie may not subsist for long after your return home. Please for the love of God, stay back and only visit when you can and must.

kov624665:
Just discovered dis night another prob wit my PC. The touch pad moves the cursor on the screen but it doesn't click. What should I do? Pls reply ASAP!

install synaptics driver.

paulinoace0:
Its better you go to the state own cause it has happened to my bro and they fixed it

thanks, I appreciate even though I never wanted to travel, guess I have no choice now

paulinoace0:
Yeah go to waec office give the your full name and the year you sat for the exam and school... Mind you you will be charged

you mean any waec office or most be from the state I took it? Thanks

Hello house,
Please I need my WAEC results for something urgent, it happens not to be handy. I am wondering if there is a service I can use to search for my details. I don't fancy travelling now to get it.

Any help? Thanks

Get help: a loyal woman for wifey

Sometimes I wonder if;

You are really a mother,
You are qualified to be called one
You understand marriage and parent hood
You got into marriage prepared.

Everytime complaints, if not your husband, it will be mother in-law, now it is your son, only God knows what it will be tomorrow

Fedric:
pls how can i install laserjet m1005 in to my newly formatted system, i have download the driver at www.<hpdrivers.net> i tried to install it but it didn't communicate with the printer.

it stop installing after telling me to connect the printer to the system. what should i do?

my system is detecting that a hardward is imputed but the priver couldn't connect with the printer, stoped at connect your printer to system. any solution?

go to device manager, (type device manager on the search bar if you don't know how to get there) you should find the printer with a question mark beside it listed there from the list of items there, right click on it and choose the update option, from the next screen, choose search and update automatically or choose the next option and navigate to the local directory where the driver is. Thank me later

Izen:
What is the big deal about a man doing his laundry? My day still does good laundry till today and no one has ever bitched about it in my house. He's cool with it, he is still married to my mum. And that doesn't mean my mum doesn't influence his dress sense. Not every problem is a woman's fault biko.

ayam not saying it is the woman's fault o? But obviously, the man isn't seeing it as a problem and since the woman does otherwise, ayam helping her seek a solution for the problem she has seen mbok?

bright1985:
pls new or used one

which one do you have and what are the costs?

You didn't do your work well as a girlfriend and you aren't doing it well as a wife either. Rather than gross about his dress sense, I will suggest you step up and assume responsibility for his wardrobe. I hope you are not the type that would say you're not a washing machine and watch him do his laundry?

I had a girlfriend (can't believe I can't stop talking about this girl) who wouldn't let me leave the house if I wasn't dressed as she deems good enough, she would follow me to the salon and insist on a particular haircut as against my idgaf mola, even though I pretended I didn't care, I enjoyed it and saw where she was coming from. So swerrie, there are better ways to make a statement, you can do that by dressing him up, it will definitely add romance to the marriage. If you're not very bouyant, make savings and get at least a pair of trousers and shirts that meet the way you want him to dress, make him admire himself in the mirror and watch if he would love to go back to the way he used to dress. Thank you as you make effort to become a perfect help meet.

ayokenny37:
my hp 15 hinges got damaged so i scrapped the thing.

i have the board i can sell to you. i dey alausa ikeja

is there a way to reach you?

francisbiz:
I have for hp pavillion dv9000 and dv6500 and other not-working laptops

I specifically need those ones mentioned, what are the not working parts u mean?

If you have motherboards for the following laptops please indicate.

1. HP pavillon g6
2. HP g62
3. HP 2000 (amd)
4. HP 255
Thanks. Call or text 08065145793

You need to unlock your device first.

I mean your phone pass word

I guess they conceived the 18 year old silently too. Interesting!

CBN ayaf crash

nice one

Mimzyy:
It takes less than a minute to get a mail notification on NL. I am yet to receive any.

and why must she?

Op. since the issue here is about raising two that you kill the first child atleast that would help save some money as there won't be expenses until the second is born. It will also give you the opportunity to start afresh with the new born. In the end everything will be ok

Prettychiz4real:
For The Men in the house: If you want to give your child a surname, whose name will you give to your child? Yours? Your dad's? Your grandfather's? Your great-grandfather's? Etc. Which is appropriate and why? I really need answers. Think am well before answering biko.

well my father's name and if I can, I will insist my offsprings bear the name to the 10th generation

bbmpin:
Take into consideration the fact that she is a single mother and is possibly struggling to feed the first!

She has a life ahead of her, How does having another fatherless child aid her future?

Do you have a child?
Do you have any idea the demands it entails?
Do you think that it is logical for a child to be born fatherless?

Committing an innocent child to a future without promise or love is wrong!

You have every right to air and stand by your opinions but try to empathize things from the view of the child

If you can't love and provide for kids DON'T HAVE THEM! #think about the child.

and you think the best choice for the child is to never give them a chance to live? Op I am very sure your mind is made up already, all you came here for is moral support, I won't preach to you about anything, I won't pretend it is about the child, but listen, killing that child won't save you from depression, it can only save you from the stigma but it is just for a while, it will get to a point where you lose sleep over what would have been had you kept the child, a point where you wonder if every misfortune you suffer is as a result of you killing an innocent child, now tell me what could be more depressing when you wish you could take back the hands of time but couldn't... Think dear, think... No matter how hard life is going to be for that child, he/she needs a shot at it.

Thank you

AntiWailer:
Your poverty mind is out of this world.

Listen up, You can't get my used in Nigeria ride for less than 9Million.

You can come for inspection if you stay in Lagos.

Carry your frustration else where. I am not responsible for your predicament and stay out of my lane please.

bro, abeg I need like 100k abeg make I take put for business. Thanks in anticipation

Life has always treated one based on his financial muscle, it can't be different for those in prison.

How do you expect that someone who gets constant visits by friends and cronies in prison will look the same as one whose relatives probably don't know where he or she is?

olasmith10:
my projection is that, although the current economic climate might be tilting backward but it has a prosperous undertone.. A time will come when groups, sects would find it extremely difficult and unnecessary to hold the nation to ransom over mundane issues..its good news should this exercise comes futile

u just want speak oyibo, what is futile?

Hotzik2:
abi she is taking now by a strong man from the north

Lil, take good care of her and all the best in your married life

Hotzik2:
Its Adizik wedding coming up on the 5th of November.[img]Its Hotzik's wedding coming up on the 5th of November.[/img]Its Hotzik's wedding coming up on the 5th of November.

so na u make if I dey chyke Blessing, she go dey do shakara abi?

I will tell you what helped when my daughter was born..

Her mothe read a lot and learnt almost all the signs, what to expect and all that. So when the edd drew near, the panic wasnt there when she started feeling those apprehension but only prepped and went to the hospital. She was quite impresive for a first-time mum. Reading and mastering those signs by both of them would help a lot. Congrats ahead of you safe delivey of a sweet baby abi na triplets?

silvoice:
Hi my lovely and respectable nairalanders, I need us to help this young husband manage this childbirth anxiety. His wife is pregnant and is more than 35 weeks now, so the midwife has already told them to start preparing for the child's delivery.
Interesting thing here is that anxiety has taken over him as his wife look restless each day that passes, with either complain of waist, weakness, painful joint or an urge to throw up..
He feels helpless at each occasion, not knowing what to do, sometimes in the middle of the night. Though midwife says her situation is perfectly normal.
The problem is that he has heard of men who have had to wake their neighbors at mid night to seek for help simply because their wife is in labour.
Such an experience look very scary for him since he love his wife so much, and he just could not wait to see her deliver safely.
In the light of this, is their anything he should do that will help him prepare for this and possibly overcome this anxiety.
Fathers in the house, what was your experience with your wife's first childbirth and how did you prepare and managed it.
Even when he goes to work, he kept thinking that, perhaps labour may start in his absence, since he is not sure how women feel at such moments: not sure if she will be able to call him on phone, as it's only her at home most times.

Candid opinion needed pls

hopeless28:
Where can I get snipers insecticide please?
Hope it still works?

My days are numbered here

can u call me on this phone 08065145793 or give me a number to call u with? U can even text me. Please, I beg u

I would say accept them as no one is going to have your meat; if for nothing, for ur late dad's sake and for the uncle who stood by your mum and late dad. I'd say nature has punished them enough for deserting ur mum. Do not make the same mistake they made and stand to regret letter, u might never get a chance to make up for your mistake like they ae tying to do. Talk your mum into forgiveness and enlist the help of your stepdad who have poven to be a good and understanding man. God bless and guide you.

LegendDrogba:
This is MY REAL LIFE STORY not some nollywood movie, pls help me out. lalasticlala pls help.