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Sixfeetbelle:
Well, if you do the bold, can I be your girlfriend?



As for the money hungry behavior of women, I have no argument.

Lol I just added a new one. They are now 8. If u will like to be the 9th one no prob.

I only count those that I have met one on one and have paid a visit though. I still have couples of others line up that are yet to visit.

I will only add u to the fleet once we meet one on one. You might end up being 12 on the fleet o

KaluwisxPRO:
Oga, you need to upgrade whatever you do and earn better please. You will need it. FYI, I am a man.

Bro if you will like to spend money, look for any orphanage home and go and help them with money. They will pray for you and your business will flourish.

One of my future project is to help the orphanages. That's what will make you a real man not the one u spend on women.

Any money you spend on any lady is a waste. There are a lot of fatherless children out there. Why not locate such less privilege ones and assist them with money. It will go a long way. Don't you think so?

CHANNELStv2020:
My Brothers and sisters I no know who send me come back Nigeria seriously, I graduated 2018 from a Top university in Europe,I graduated with a 2.1 in Petroleum Engineering ( I speak 3 international languages) did my Nysc 2019 waited for months before getting a mini job of 30000 naira here in PH,my Tp alone covers half of the salary,I still stay with my uncle,GOD
pity for me Pick my call Abeg.

Damn! You must be among those team Nigeria will be better.

You came home now you are regretting it. Why didn't you establish yourself there? You still believe in this country any way that's why you came back to your father's land.

Sixfeetbelle:
My point of asking that question was to see how much of a "virtuous woman" your girlfriend is. I can't imagine being in a sexual relationship and having to make all these expenses by myself. Never. Transport to and fro to see the guy, have pvssy destruction during my visit, possibly buy food items to cook for him, and not forgetting the endless calls just because we're in a "relationship" only to now have the guy to give me money or spend on me only when he 'feels' like it? Wow.


Please, marry her fast. She's a real gem.

It will never be me.

Lol pussy destruction indeed. Something that ladies enjoy than men.

I do give tfare, make them feel at home during visit and anything food, I take care of all that. But what I don't like is giving them money whether they need it or not.

That's because I don't want to be using money as a tool to influence their minds. I don't want to condition her or their minds towards that direction in which the day I do not give, her attitude will change.

That's what I don't want. If she is patient enough, I will reward her maybe later in the future for not having that money entitlement mindset. It's good I am doing this to filter the just gold diggers from the genuine ones.

Once I meet a lady, ask her out, just after the first visit, billing will start. For some I flow along leading them on but nothing will fall from my pocket. Some still like hanging around though after giving them good treats but not money.

Even though I am not giving them money, they still find my other aspect of my personality irresistible making them to still hang around. But I place them as side chicks cuz of that money mentality they already displaced. Sometimes I feel like helping out but ladies always turn generousity to foolishness.

That was how one day I just decided to help one with 1k airtime. Can you imagine the next day, she went on asking me for her house rent? Seriously? That's just because I helped her with airtime.

I usually sub with N3500 and she has been video calling me on WhatsApp, so I just decided to transfer her 1k airtime directly from my account. But she was too greedy to want to use that good gesture to start to bill me for her house rent. I simply told her I don't have. From that day, her video calling and chat reduced. Though she still chat me up once a while.

That mentality is truly not a good one. For some, they don't even wait enough before starting to bill a guy. Just because a guy is fresh , that will immediately activate their money hormone. For their mind, this guy go hold bar o. My hand don catch this one. I will bill am his eyes go clear. Unknown to them, I don't like using money to buy the interest of a girl.

I treat them well of course, but I don't find it interesting dashing them money or giving in to their money demands cuz there is a more important aspect I am fulfilling order than just using money as a tool to attract their interests.

Sixfeetbelle:
Wait, are you guys in a sexual relationship? Your "wife" is who I'm referring to here.

I am still single o. I am not married. Even if I am dating any lady, I have that mindset that I am still very much single. I consider myself a single man until any deserving lady prove me wrong. The most I can give is tfare and maybe cooking for them.

I have personally decided never to spend on any lady whether we are in sexual relationship or not to see if their attitudes will change along the line.

And from my experiment, only one is able to prove me wrong out of 7.

The rest are too money conscious.

jaelz how will you know she truly loves you with the way you are spending money on her? She is just with you for the money.

I have up to 7 babes but only one is a wife material among them all. I am doing this to know who truly loves me for who I am and not just for financial benefit.

The highest money I have given the wife material one was N1500 for tfare when she came visiting.

She has never asked me for money and I have never nurtured the thought of giving her money. Why? Because I want to see if she will still stay even as I am not spending on her.

She does call me with her own airtime. She has never asked me for an airtime or money. When I was giving her that tfare I mentioned above, she was even asking me what I was giving her for? It looked strange to her. And I simply told her to take it for her tfare.

Sometimes I feel like giving her money but no I don't want to use money to buy her love. She still call me frequently and all.

Now, this shows me that she truly wants me.

Why the rest are demanding for money unnecessarily. I shouted at one two days ago to stop asking me for money. We are still quarrelling till now.

I do politely turn them down any time they ask for money.

Now you can see it's only one that is good among them all. That's the one that never ask me for money but she is still there.

Still trying to watch her. But that doesn't mean I will spend on her or use money to buy her love. If I do that, it means the foundation of the relationship only be based on money just like what you are doing now.

I can tell you that your girl is only with you cux of the finanical benefit she is getting from you. If this seems like a lie to you, just put this to test. Stop giving her money and watch if her attitude won't change within a week.

Do not spend on a girl that may end up leaving you tomorrow. Withdraw that monetary benefit and watch if she will not show you her bad side cuz what you are doing is using money as a tool to buy her love and make her stay with you which may backfire later in time when she eventually leaves you if you are no longer spending on her.

The possibility of her leaving you is high if you withdraw that monetary benefit because that's how you have positioned her right from the beginning. You've conditioned her mind that you must give her money. The month you do not give her, she will start giving you attitude.

If she leaves you today, you will feel pained because you have invested so much money on her.

Do not invest in a girlfriend. You can only invest in a wife not girlfriend that may leave you anytime.

I will advise you to reconsider this financial burden you are championing.

Preshieben:
she politely asked you if she could send 500 or 200 as she didn't have 1k at the moment..

Bro no reason for this breakup...you should have told her you can't afford the new shoes and jeans instead of shattering the poor girl the way you did

NIGERIAN MEN EHN
date one at your peril....tufiakwa

Read to understand. It wasn't the girl that asked him if she could send N500, N200 or even N100.

It was the guy that asked her if she could send even N100 he won't mind. But she still acted she was broke to help someone who lavished 47k on her.

When will ladies start to realize that relationship is all about two persons supporting each other.

Men should be wise. Some of you ladies are leeches . Many guys are getting exposure day by day.

When we say 80% of girls are parasitic in nature that's an understatement. Only few have shame.

Samakus:
Well said. Immediately, she made frantic moves to make me change my mind, I knew that this girl dey game . For her eye, I resemble John .

Anyways we move. She likes me sha. I know when a girl likes me.

If she likes you don't just bother taking her out. Just invite her straight to your grib. She will definitely come.

Once a girl likes you, it makes things easy. You won't do much.

Samakus:
Exactly my belief. She's using church yo masquerade

I had same experience with a girl sometime ago. But mine I invited her straight to my house. I no longer take girls to fast food. So she asked for my place and immediately I told her she said she won't come again. I was surprised.

So I started asking her what the issue was. Why she suddenly changed her mind? But she was just beating around the bush how boys in my areas are play boys so and so and that.

I simply told her, that can't be the reason why she changed her mind. I started pressing forward trying to know why. After so much back and forth talk, she finally opened up to me that she has an ex in my area.

So I asked if she was still seeing the guy so she said no. I tried making her comfortable by convincing her that she shouldn't see that as an issue.

When a girl refuses to come over to a place you suggested, there is 100% possibility that she has someone in that area or she has some skeletons she is trying to hide away from in that area of which she doesn't want anyone that knows her in the area to see her.

pannyman:
I have been receiving WhatsApp messages of recent from girls I don't know. When I ask them how they got my number they say a girlffriend of theirs gave it to them, then they mention the name of the friend and I don't know who she is. I'm really baffled. Does anybody know what's going on? Have you been having a similar experience? Please help me to unravel this mystery.

It's a set up. Be wise. If I receive a message from a strange number on WhatsApp, I will ask such a lady where she knew me from. If she ends up saying gibberish things like oh you have forgotten Cynthia that met u long time ago?

Really? You must be a joker I will reply. I know all the girls I have met in my life. So long as you can tell me where we met even if it is 20 yrs ago, I will remember.

If she can't pin point how we met or how she knew me, I already know such a person is a spy. That's a big set up.

If someone wants to set you up, they will use a girl cuz they believe that men don't use eye to see ladies. That's why most even get scammed by their fellow guys using a female name and pics because they know once you see she is a girl, your dick will start to rise and you will begin to flow disclosing everything she ask u to her.

That's how most men get tracked. The power of women.

Don't fall for that.

I usually block such numbers instantly.

Kekereekun123:
this is a scam. Do not borrow money to give scammers.

Exactly what I told him. They have brainwashed him.

Canada for that matter.

Fynestboi20:
Canda, Work permit visa (2years), 1 Million

But this seems like you are about to be scammed.

If that's how easy to get Canada work permit visa, everyone would have travelled out by now.

Don't fall for all those scamming agents that promise visa. 1 million naira?

You are about to be scammed bro.

Michdaf:
If you want to know why I stopped chatting and calling you, why didn't you tell me yesterday. why did you have to bring it here. I don't know what you wanted me to do then. I ask why haven't you eaten and you said you don't have much. And I was not that buoyant then. And I explained everything to you. Then you start giving me attitude. that period, I was invited to court and you know the reason. I was face with the court issue for six weeks. At first I was arrested and my phone was taken from me. All this period you didn't call. and the best thing you could do is to bring it up here. Am very disappointed

Bro don't stress yourself. I asked her the same question. Why didn't she feel the need to check up on you when she discovered that you weren't reaching out to her any more?

Most times it is unwanted ego that makes most ladies never to check up on those on their WhatsApp list.

Imagine having some on your list for a whole year they will never say hi nor ask how you are faring except you take it by yourself to chat them up.

That attitude is quite bad of some persons. You were passing through alot that period, a wise lady will pick up her phone and call you but heck no, relationship this days is filled with so much ego.

I will not call him. I will not chat him up if he don't chat me up. But they forget that one person can't sustain a relationship or friendship.

As a lady she supposed to check up on you that period she discovered you weren't checking up on her. If she truly values you, that's what any wise lady is supposed to do.

CalliDora1:
Helloooo.. what do you mean by did she ask? Ask for what exactly? All I want to know is why he stopped calling and chatting and not why he didn't offer to help or not. Please!

Friendship is two ways thing. When you noticed he wasn't chatting you up, did you take it by yourself to chat him up? Did you bother to find out if he could have been passing through?

Most ladies are guilty of this. They will never check up on guys if they don't check up on them.

My verdict: most ladies hardly check up on a guy except they have gotten intimate. But before the intimacy, it is only the guy that usually do the check up all the time which is bad.

Friendship is two dimensional. Have you taken time to check up on those on your WhatsApp list to find out what's going on in their lives?

Reach out to people from time to time if you discover that they have not been checking up on you. You might not know what they are passing through that period.

Reach out to someone and not always have the habit of waiting for someone to check up on you first.

Afam4eva:
I've come to realize that when people ask you "How are you?"/ They're not asking because they care or wan to help if you have any issues. They're asking because they feel it's a courtesy to do so. And they expect you to answer that you're fine.

I try as much as possible to dodge any further discussion once I ask a lady how are u and she says not fine.

Sometimes I will still be kind enough to probe further to ask what's the issue and my guess is always right. Always money issues.

CalliDora1:
Delete this now otherwise I'll give you e-punch.

Frosh, now!!!

Why your instance might not be the type that you ain't the one that told him you had not eaten for three consecutive days of asking you, looking at it from men angles, that sent him a wrong impression. He felt that you might be those type of girls that will bill a man simply because he asks if you have eaten.

Why you may not be that type of a lady, the truth is that men these days don't want to shoulder any unnecessary financial burden from any lady when there is no actual commitment on the part of the lady. He was only trying to avoid unnecessary financial implications. That's why.

For instance, I lost interest in a lady I met on Facebook simply because the first message she sent me on WhatsApp was she has not eaten since 2 days. I simply told her I have not eaten for 2 weeks. She then said ok. That was the last time we chatted. I simply deleted her number. Why? She gave me that impression that she will be a parasite.

If I were the guy, I will still do the same. I will surely withdraw because of the impression you created of always saying you have not eaten any time he asks you if you have eaten.

To me, that's a wrong impression to give a guy of a friendship that is just starting off.

shashaperry:
No i'm not but i'm the blunt type

I see!

shashaperry:
I never painted myself as one

Oh does that means you are the insulting type?

ogoloray:
Seconded! She definitely needs a good smashing to feel right

Now the question is can Williams deliver in that aspect? To me yes. Cool people like William are monsters in the oza room.

femi4:
Holy spirit indeed....you didn't see ugly poor man to slide into his dm

Lol, that holy spirit side cut my attention. People just use the holy spirit any how to trend. Why not a poor guy?

shashaperry:
Mehn! it's so shameful! their parents did a very terrible job!

But this your reply doesn't paint you as a cool girl either.

pretydiva:
Don't mind him. They must look for ways to bash Nigerian ladies. As if they don't have sisters, cousins or nieces. Goes to show they lack proper home training
I pity ladies that will end up with such guys

Your reply alone can scare a potential guy away and sees u as the rude type. What the guy simply said wasn't a bad statement.

He simply means our naija girls are not that bold to contact or walk up to a guy they like and strike a conversation.

Of course the environment also contributes to it cuz here in Naija we believe that the guy must be the one to do all the moves which is not same with ladies abroad.

Reason being that over there guys don't usually have ladies time. So most times, ladies make the move.

poiZon:
Help me tell dem.
And also even if they try it, they still need to verify their transactions with otp...

OTP is not important. Like now, adding your card details to PayPal account, and making transaction online with it. They usually don't send me any OTP.

Once I login my PayPal account and pay through them, the transaction usually go through without my bank sending me any OTP request cuz to them it is the owner that added it even if it is another person.

OTP would have been better but they hardly do that.

You are right but they still need your card pin to complete the transaction.

Once a girl tells you she is an extrovert, she mingles with every tom and jerry, don't make the mistake of dating that type of a lady. It is easy for even the least guy of all guys to bed that kind of lady let alone when she jams cassanovas.

I ask lots of questions when dealing with any lady so I will know where to place her.

A lady telling me she is an extrovert, she mingles with anybody, already give me that impression that she can easily be laid cuz that's the format cassanovas use to lay even the hardest girl, you now discover that wow this girl is so so free. She can do anything all in the name of being an extrovert.

I will not take such a lady serious cuz any of your friend can get her laid easily due to that attribute of being too free with everyone.

Playfully they will start pressing her Bobby when you are not around and she won't find anything wrong with that cuz after all she is an extrovert.

I blame guys who don't do underground work to find out the type of person a girl is before being committed to a girl.

obiekunie2:
fake!

guys will just stay and fake things just to trend.


check the time stamps. girls dont reply chat that fast.

they always waste some time.

they reply that fast only when they are expecting alert from you.

That's not true. 3 of my babes do reply me at the speed of light. They don't let me rest.

I almost broke up with one cuz of that. She will litter my WhatsApp up with messages and calls.

Even if we talk just now she will call again. I almost got fed up until I told her to reduce the obsession.

TheCork:
sweery tryin to impress wit coz am from London will no longer work..truss me. Why I love comin to naija is I get any women I want...u including.
..so are u telling me if I flash u £20 note(cash)..u will not follow me? Of couse u will. ..and if I want u for a week. I will pay u up to £50cash (truss me)

Bro that's too small na. £50 is just N25,000 ( 500 X £50) Haba. For a whole week? Even Naija runs girls don't charge that low na.

Dalil8:
Na only broke guys dey live their whole lives to please women.

Real men focus on long term goals. Woman no even follow at all.

Mr Rich london based guy post ur acct balance, make i post my own. Make nairalanders judge.

TheCork pls do the needful. We want to see your account balance to judge.


Crop off every detail. Just the balance we want to see.

We are waiting.

Dalil8 don't mind the guy. He dey chase clout.

TheCork:
son I have moiney ...U dont.
Be nice to me & i will post u £12 cash to buy your sef a nice suit there in Nigeria.... so u can get women!!! (THANK ME LATER)

You are a baller but non of those girls will love you for who you are if you keep giving them money. They will laugh at you in your back with their friends as the money bag that spend lavishly. Try and attract ladies with your other attributes order than money.

They will invite all their friends to cash out of you cux you have indirectly given them that vibe that you can spend recklessly. For some heartless ones, you might not even see their pants.

Don't use money to attract girls even if you have surplus of it. I might consider helping a girl I have known for some time who has a business idea to start up a business for herself rather than spending on some random girls lavishly. That is money miss road.

They will give you different funny names like the money bag, the maga man, the Muller Burger. Be ready to solve all their family financial issues once they make you a permanent money dispenser.

It's a nice experience bro.

TheCork:


^^^^^^STORY ((((same advise to u too sir))))
.....brother....i dont meannnto sound rude but ONLY broke guys that say women are gold digger.........Quit nagging & juss find a job, i beg!!!(no oofeinse)

TheCork you think so? I will arrange one babe for you then. You will lavish money on her. Deal?