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Mercisharelove:
You were very angry while you were typing these. Please learn how to control your anger.


You talk like a female, which of course I can't talk like you.


If you love your wife and cares for your wife and pray and fast for your relationship, you will enjoy your marriage until death do you apart.


I am married for over 20yrs. My husband is my best friend. We are not perfect. But divorce is nononono.


The church is Jesus's wife, he will never divorce her. But will keep washing her with the washing of the water by the word of God Almighty.



I said God Almighty provided divorce for the hardness of men's heart. Check out the Bible that's what Jesus said to folks like you. Get it please sir.

Adultery is a serious sin. If any man can put up with an adulterous wife, good for such man. But what will make marriage last long is if both parties respect the matrimonial bed.

Any marriage whose matrimonial bed has been infiltrated with adultery will take the grace of God for such marriage to continue. Both parties will just be living in self denials. There is no way an adulterous wife will change.

No amount of washing will ever make an adulterous wife to repent from such a grievous sin. Even the bible said it that an unrepentant sinner is worst than an unbeliever. Most religions will excommunicate such an adulterous person if she is found committing such sin repeatedly. She is simply unrepentant. How long is she going to be washed with the words of God?

And it is left for the man to be sharing where he is eating from with other men outside. How will the children feel if they learnt that another man is smashing their mummy in their father's absence? You will agree with me that will be very shameful.

It is only a woman that does not respect her man and marriage that will sleep with other men and expect to be washed with the words of God. Among the type of sins, adultery is classied as one of the grievous sins. That sin is not in any way a small sin that's why the Bible classified it as grievous.

Adultery is bad and every married women should desist from it if she wants her marriage to last.

Smashing with other men when married is not only traumatizing to one's partner, it might also result to one fathering another man's child. Definitely when pregnancy result from a woman promiscuity, she will hang it on her husband.

All that can be avoided if a woman remain faithful to her husband to eternity. There is no room to play away matches.

MadeINchenzen2:
... 100% Accuracy

Oya I don come, let me park my Lamborghini first.

I don balance. Oya give me the shocker.

crixuss:
What does it mean when a girl tells a guy: "I care about you ALOT."

Don't believe whatever a girl tells you bro. That's scam. That's audio love. You still need to be on your guard. Don't let your guard down.

Anything can happen.

MrBrownJay1:
as i said earlier.... just because today you guys do the same things, doesnt mean it will always be that way. the older person will age faster thus eventually be in a certain mindset different than the younger babe... like when he reaches 50 or 60, and the babe is still fresh and energetic.

can you imagine that, by the time Regina's child will be in his early twenties, Regina will need to also change Ned's diapers? how long do you thinks she would last, before she runs out with the little money he has left (and go get her groove on with some fit young mandingo brotha)?!?!?

nothing wrong with age difference, but let us be honest here!

Ned and Regina is out of this. That's not the type of age gap we are talking about. Women age faster than men, that's why u see a girl of 20yrs looking like 30yrs.

A man of 30yrs can comfortably marry a girl of 20yrs and I see no reason why we will say the guy is too old for the girl. We are not talking about 20yrs age difference.

A 35yrs old gallant young man can comfortably marry a 24 to 26 yrs old girl and they will both match well. That's why you see some guys looking younger than their wives but for age, they are older than the wife ( for guys that married their age mates)

If you marry your age mate, trust me, it will be hard to tell whether she is your wife or your aunty.

I can't marry my age mate cuz all my age mates look older than me in appearance. In fact, I will call them my aunties. And that's why, when choosing a partner, it is advisable for the guy to go for someone he is older than with atleast 3yrs and at most 10yrs and above cuz women age faster in all raminification except those that are keeping fit.

Mercisharelove:
Divorce for the hardness of your mind

Majority of women who cheat will counter a man divorcing his wife due to adultery because those type of women are doing the same.

Will you prefer to bring another man's child to your husband without him finding out but later on discover the child he has been a father to is not his? Most of you ladies always want to eat your cake and have it.

Many are married but still want to Bleep around like hoes. Madam do know you cannot Bleep around in marriage. That's why it is called marriage not boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. Even a mere boyfriend and girlfriend relationship that will lead to marriage, you don't even have that gut to Bleep around cuz the guy will just dump u when it is time for him to settle down.

And no sane man will put up with a cheating wife unless such man doesn't know his self worth.

You mean a woman should continue to Bleep around in marriage and the husband should continue to put up with her? If that's what you meant by your counter reaction, then woman have really gotten so bad in this generation.

Was it not yesterday here a guy created a thread that a newly married young lady in their neighbourhood has almost bleeped all the guys in their neighbourhood? This was someone a sane man got married to fucking all the dicks in the neighbourhoods and sending nudes to all the guys on WhatsApp. Now, if that young innocent man finds out that his wife has been fucking all the guys he rolls with, you think he will just act like a puppy and push such grievous sin under the foot match?

Birds of same feather flock together, I know. This is how we know them. They will always support adultery in marriage because they do it.

If u are married and u still Bleep around and ur husband caught you, he has every reason to divorce you cuz no sane man will put up with an adulterous woman. That thought of his wife fucking another man will always pop up in his mind and he will never love her the same again.

You can't serve two masters. He will divorce you so that you can face hoeing around at will. Cuz if he doesn't divorce you, you are still legally bound to him. To give you that freedom to hoe around and prevent him from living with regret with a hoe in the same house who will never repent from her shameful hoeing lifestyle, the right thing to do is divorce you so you can have the whole freedom to Bleep as many men as possible.

No man will like to father another man's child in this life.

You better change if that's what you are doing right now. Don't be caught first.

MrBrownJay1:
of course it will affect her in the future, but if she loves him and had no problem dating him so far, why suddenly care about what people think?!

Bro Jay, how will it affect her in the future? Seriously? So you meant a 35 years old guy can't marry a 25yrs lady?

Do you know how fast women age?

ImaIma1:
Oh ok, let me get this straight. So ladies must only fall in love with not-rich guys.

If they fall in love with a rich guy, it is because of money. But if she falls in love with a poor guy, it is ok since he doesn't have money.

Ok. That's your opinion. You can advise ladies around you only to allow themselves fall for guys without money.

Case closed

My point is clear. We have more ladies who are materialistic in our days than those who are simply looking for a man to share their love with.

I am not saying ladies should not fall in love with already made men. But the point is even if they fall in love, the man is still the one to make the choice either to wife her or just keep her as a mere fling. The man still remain the one with more power to decide whether to wife such a lady who falls in love with him or not.

The lady has no say to decide the fate of such relationship if the guy sees nothing valuable to get from her. That is why I said, ladies should improve themselves so that if eventually they meet a made young man and fall in love, the young man will see that value in her that will make him make up his mind to wife her. That's because already made men are very selective when it comes to choosing a wife, and if that value is not there, he will just lead such a girl on and on without marrying her.

A lady should add a value to a man's life and see how fast he will wife her.

ImaIma1:
It is not every lady who marries up marries for the sake of gold digging.

It still happens constantly that wealthy men marry not well to do ladies. In fact one I know denied the wife from going to law school and married her straight up without an income.

Not every man has your mindset, upbringing and mentality. People do things for reasons best known to them while outsiders are there debating about whether it is for money or not, right or wrong, etc.

People that don't have money (some, not all); who have never had the taste of being wealthy are the ones who see money as a god and as something they will use to torment others.

If not every lady marry for money, then that boiled down to what Op said. You said not every lady go into marriage for money, but why must it be a wealthy man they must marry?

That simply tells it all that it is still for the money they are looking for wealthy men to tie down if not they will simply start life with a any well to do guy with potentials from the scracth.

Don't say it is not for the money. If it is not for the money why are many still looking for wealthy men which possibility of getting one is almost impossible.

You think wealthy men are fools right? No wealthy man is a fool. They are very selective. They are high valued men. That's why as lady, you have to improve yourself for any potential wealthy man to even have a fling with you.

Wealthy men don't need liabilities as wives. They need supporters who will help them make more money. But what do we have today? Ladies that are materialistic and unresourceful.

For any wealthy man to take you as a wive, he must see that you can add value to his life, support him and help him create more wealth.

He is a high valued man and all high value men look for high valued ladies to wife.

Don't let anyone deceive you that any wealthy man will just come your way and wife you without having any value to add to his life.

Kranediggy:
In such scenerio something must be wrong somewhere, it could be that the man is bewitched or the woman did something really painful to him he can't forgive. Nothing really goes for nothing. Ain't nothing guaranteed in life tho. But its better to grow with ur man, than wait for an already made man. If u must wait, develop urself so u'll be valuable. Thanks

Let those who wants to wait for for already made men wait. That is if at all those already made men are available for marriage.

Already made men are wiser now. They are not fools. For instance, in the western world where the law always favor women, no wealthy young man will go into any marriage of any form. They are all doing baby mamas because they know women are gold diggers who will file for divorce just to inherit half of their wealth.

It is only here in Africa that some already made men are still getting married. And they mostly go for the most reserved girls not the ones that flock around them.

But in the Western world where the law is always against men, wealthy men always stay off women. If at all they go into any relationship, it is just a fling that won't lead to any marriage. And they prefer baby mamas.

Wealthy men are wiser now.


That's why our ladies should take this your write up seriously and think out of the box and learn how to start a life from scratch with a man with a hustling spirit.

ImaIma1:
Ladies are of different types; the ones that can have the patience to grow with someone and the ones that cannot. It has always been that way right from our parents' time and it will still be.

Not all ladies will grow with someone and they shouldn't be faulted for it. The ones who choose to start from small and grow with their men, it's their choice too. And there are no guarantees in both. It doesn't mean all the marriage with growing together will end good and it doesn't mean the ones who married a rich guy will turn out bad.

Besides, who will marry the single rich guys? Should they remain single because they have money.

Everyone should be allowed to make their choice and live with it.

No single wealthy guy will foolishly jump into marrying a liability who simply comes for his money in form of wanting to be his wife. That's why many wealthy guys are still single because we have too many entitlement ladies looking for a wealthy man to tie down and inherit his wealth and reap where they did not sow.

Ladies should learn how to hustle like guys and create wealth for themselves order than looking for already made men to marry for their personal selfish interest.

Marriage shouldn't be a poverty alleviation program to women.

The earlier all our marriageable ladies of our days develop the mindset to hustle like guys and create wealth for themselves, the better for them.

Our ladies entitlement mentality is just too much in this part of the world.

drnoel:
Thank u

Read the write up and understand it very well. The op is simply saying, ladies should not always have that mindset of "it is a wealthy, already made man" they must marry as most ladies have already conditioned their minds.

He is simply saying, if our entitlement kind of ladies of our days see a hustling guy who is being able to fed for himself and has a hustling spirit, they should wait no further to start a life with such a man.

All already made men are wise now because no already made man or wealthy man will just accept a girl and marry her straight up cuz many had be gold dig by ladies.

And any lady that is coming closer to them displaying all form of niceness, they will sense it from afar as a gold digger. They will believe that it is because of their money they are flocking around him. He will never marry any of such girls that flock around him.

That's why our ladies should learn how to start life from scratch with a man not always looking for already made men who have wise up.

Mgtowmonk:
smell of new bank notes

I love this smell no be lie. Fresh minted bank notes. That you can get from Union Bank always. They don't fail to dispense fresh bank notes.

And a smell of a newly bought refrigerator. They almost smell the same. Though I won't call any good smell a smell. I will prefer calling it scent.

But any horrible odour a smell.

Hdanny:
I LOVE VIRGINS
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land wey I don buy ehn, I no fit count, as I dey buy dem dey drag am with me, e be like say I go just get guard to watch over my next land

Go for a virgin land that's the best. Nobody will drag a virgin land with you. No one has owned it beforennor built on it prior to you, so you will have peace of mind.

Records showed that some lands that were owned prior to you coming across them have the possibility of being dragged with you by the former land owners who have once built on it before you.

That's why virgin lands are Bae. No prior owner before you. You will be the first to build on it and no possibility of the land getting shared between 2 ,3, 4 or even more past occupants.

So you see why virhin lands are Bae?

The Bible didn't condemn divorce. It is clearly stated that you can divorce your partner only on the ground of adultery.

That one is a no bargainer. But if you feel you can live with that horrible mark in your life of an infidelity partner, then you are free to forgive him or her.

But the truth is that, I can never live with an adulterous wife in the same house. That's why one needs to watch very well before jumping into marriage cuz if u enter marriage with the wrong type of person, you will regret it big time especially for cheating wives.

Most issues that result in marriages come about as a result of infidelity. 90% of marriages that crash is either as as result of infidelity or domestic violence.

So, watch before you jump into marriage with anyone. Court yourself for not less than 1 year or more before you even think of marrying her. During this period you will get to know each other and decide whether to proceed the relationship to marriage or not.

Horlasod:
My own relationship they've stolen the cement....infact the land wey I buy dey talk say na government own am

You meant to say the land is a public land? There is nothing you can do about a public land. Almost everyone does have access to a public land. Is that the kind of land you want?

You just have to move on. There are better lands ahead of you.

Benitam:
Foundation,
Roofing,
Finishing,
Painting,
Or you've not even gotten a land.




As for me, the land I had before got to the finishing stage before it was demolished, can't build on that land again...

You will still go back to that land, that's the truth. Even if you see any new land right now, you will just use it as a back up land until you settle matters with the former land that got demolished.

IamWonderful:
Are you married? before commenting on marriage stay married for at least 10 years, saying marriage goes beyond sex and a virgin wife is completely myopic and delusion, with a virgin wife you are guarantee of no comparison in your sex life, the way you train your wife sexually is the way she will be, someone that have been sleeping with a guy that last 30 minutes on her with big di*k, how can your own 30 seconds with average di*k satisfy her? another thing is that she didn't commit fornication when she was free to do so, the tendency of committing adultery is very low, she would be filled with bitterness and frustration of the past relationship, no secret or criminating past, no divided attention between you and her exes, I can go on and on and on. I will even open a thread on it very soon

Gbam! You have said it all. Ladies that dated several partners in the past have higher probability of cheating in marriages of which a virgin lady will hardly do because she has only be sexual with just one person which is the man she married.

Non virgin ladies have an unstable emotions that once they have some issues with their men, they immediately start seeking love and attention elsewhere paving way for them to commit adultery at that point.

iTearHerToto:
However, if you got a golden heart unlike me you should go try marrying one of these cum tanks and tell me how that works out for you. Come tell me what it feels like swimming in a cum factory for the rest of your life. Just try!
As for me and my entire household we will rather snatch a virgin wife from a nice guy and wife than settle with a non-virgin for a sec. Am I communicating?






NB: Non-virgins should steer off this thread for their own good. Move move move


Pukes

I support you on this bro. After reading so much about this of the probability of a girl who dated several partners cheating to that with no single sexual partner prior to meeting you, I changed my mind that virgins all the way.

dangermouse:
Mrbrownjay, you have said it all. Bbn showcases nothing but immorality.

Show like Ultimate Gulder Search that year was scrabbled because it does not promote sex but smartness.

That show how deteriorated our society has become.

SukaBlyat:
I know a full grown man that still watches Naruto cartoon.
This man always sit in his room and watch Naruto on his laptop for hours upon hours.

Now this same man is busy calling people who watch Bbnaija foolish.
Meanwhile if you call him foolish for spending hours watching Naruto he will start feeling pained.
It's like an almajiri calling his fellow almajiri a beggar.

If you don't like watching reality TV show
Why complian
Anoda man's meat is anoda man poison
Only people who are selfish with low IQ complain about what makes others happy.

Whenever you see someone complain about Bbnaija, just know that person is not wise at all. His is a foolish fellow

They should organize show like ULTIMATE GULDER SEARCH.

That seems more smart than BBnaija. But the prob is that sex and immorality sell more in our society of today.

Op you cannot handle lady 2. She will control you and turn herself as the man while you become the woman in the relationship.

It is guys like us that can handle lady 2.

As for lady 1, she seems like a girl that will friend zone you. If you've not done anything to attract her sexually, she will reject your proposal if you ask her out.

My advice, work on lady 2 and be the man in the relationship. Put her in her place. You are the man in the relationship. So do the needful by earning her respect and make her pledge her full loyalty to you if not, she seems controlling. Take your power back as the man.

tellsblinks:
If you want to write a book now, how would you do your book research?

Sorry I asked these please don't ignore or skip

To verify the competition of a keyword, go to Amazon search bar and type in your keyword. It will bring out results showing you the number of books already published on that keyword.

For me, I usually go for keywords between 1-1000 search results.

To search for new keywords, go to Amazon categories and browse through all the categories one by one looking at the titles of the different books. If you see any title that catches your attention, write it down. Look for up to 10 titles, then use Amazon search bar (www. amazon. com) to search their competition to see if they falls between 1 to 1000 search results criteria.

Sometimes, still go for keywords with search results of 1500 to 2000.

Preshieben:
what is this one even saying?

Shut up my friend. Ugly girls always make the loudest noise.

If truly you have good personalities, everyone won't be avoiding you.

Praising yourself shows you have low self esteem. Let others be the ones to praise you.

Girls that praise themselves are nothing to write about. They are slay queens.

You will take this one to your family house and she will wake up and expect your mum to wash plates and sweep for her because she thinks she is down to earth.

I don't take under age girls like these serious.

Highwave:
Pictures. Go come! I honestly came on here to delete the tread but i wont again.. Make i ginger people jhaare

Bro, how does one delete a thread on Nairaland? Any trick?

Samysearch:
Some dude go for some women so that people Will say these guys are enjoying. If a lady has some traits of a slayqueen, wifing her will be the biggest mistake ever. Look for a decent lady with religious inclination, then u thank me later

I have warned guys to stay away from slay queens when planning to settle down. Any girl that is fond of clubbing and slaying on Instagram posting pictures up and down is a slay queen.

Any lady that always look for attention and validation on Facebook by posting pictures for likes on Facebook is a slay queen. Girls that seek attentions on social media platforms are slay queens.

Any guy who is wise should watch out for such girls and stay away from such type of girls when planning to settle down.

Slay queens are the worst set of girls to take as wives.

Kokaine:
I agree sha. It all boils down to hone training. If a lady is well brought up and she is not broke. Then chances are that she already knows what she is doing. Girls from very broke background with eyes on big things don't really stay in one place because they didn't experience life at home. But a mature lady that has a stable income will do reasonably okay in terms of commitment in my opinion

Exactly. Home training is one thing that separate some girls from others and it's very important. I have noticed that ladies that stay with just one of the parent for example mostly single mothers hardly possess that serious home training required of ladies cuz most of the times, some mothers can't control their female children once they clock that adult age.

They go clubbing, hang out with friends with bad influences and do all sorts of things. Some even go on taking hard drugs, smoking and drinking and hanging out with random guys.

Majority are not ready to have something doing for themselves. They mostly depend on guys for a living. That's why many double date, dating up to 3 to 5 guys at the same time. And the funny thing is that they take money from all the guys they are dating.

Give these sets of girls money to start something for themselves , they will squander it up to buy irrelevant beauty stuffs, bags, make up and the rest. They believe guys will remain their only source of income for life.

But those who are well brought up with both parents present do possess some atom of discipline and mostly homely. They have this motivation to have something doing for themselves that will give them money.

That's why guys are advised to go for girls that at least have something doing for themselves not slay queens. Those types know nothing order than hopping on different dicks on a daily basis.

For guys who want to go into serious relationships should avoid slay queens and date well brought up girls.

Those ones are more homely than the ones that received no home training from their parents from young age till their adult age.

That's why, a girl's background and the way she is brought up matters a lot.

Otuamaka:
Hello guys, my pussy stinks. How do I prevent it from smelling?

Very simple. Simply stop sleeping with random guys and wash it with alum.

Otuamaka:
I am a runs girl. I bleep around with men but if you say you will fund me with $150, then I am ready to repent from hoeing around

Now you are talking Bitch.

Otuamaka:
I am ready to leave my okpo life

Please say it again.

Otuamaka:
21

No wonder. When you get to 25, I will reason your matter. By then you must have known what life is all about.

But for now, you are still living in fantasies.