₦airaland Forum

Will there ever come a time in Nigeria when the cries of the citizens will reach the ears of the government, and the government will stop claiming they were unaware of the people's pain?

Uniform without reform is just costume. And in this country, the performance is always tragic.

My car was recently involved in a serious accident. It veered off the road and was completely destroyed. By some miracle, no lives were lost; only minor injuries were sustained. But what happened afterward revealed a deeper rot in our system than the accident itself.

Less than an hour after the crash, policemen arrived; not to check on the victims, not to secure the scene, and certainly not to help. Their only concern was towing the car to their station, even though:

• The car was off the road and not obstructing traffic.

• A towing vehicle had already been called and was on its way.

• Victims were still being treated at the scene.

They didn’t care. They were focused on one thing: extorting money.

Despite being told the accident had just occurred and that help was already on the way, they insisted on towing the car.

By the time my mum arrived, they had already taken money and were still demanding more. They only backed off after she put a call through to her brother; a senior officer. Until then, they had shown no compassion, no patience, and no understanding of the situation.

And then there was the hospital.

One woman was visibly bleeding, yet the staff barely treated her. They didn’t examine her properly, left her wound exposed, and hardly even cleaned it. And despite this lack of basic care, they still demanded payment.

Is this what it means to be a citizen in this country?

Our police force meant to protect lives and property; now specializes in harassment and exploitation.
Hospitals meant to save lives; treat people like numbers, or worse, like burdens.
And the average Nigerian is left to fend for themselves at their most vulnerable.

I remember being in a minor accident in the UK; not a scratch on anyone and the police kept asking, “Are you okay? Do you need medical attention?” That is what duty and humanity should look like.

Here, you're lucky to survive the accident. But surviving the system; that’s the real miracle.

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bukatyne:
Marriage was designed for the benefit of men.

According to the Bible, God said it is not good for a man to be alone & created a woman. So naturally, women bring more to the 'table' ( to mirror the OP).

The ask is that men bring something commensurate; 40% will do.

Nice write-up but this is not totally right.

Reality3080:
in your own family abi?

The reason y I said d question is dumb is that many factors are attached to it

It's juts like saying who breathes most betweeñ man n woman?

U have to consider weight, health, obesity, breathing problems n co n it varies from individuals to individuals

So the same thing applies to your question

Calling facts dumb won’t cancel them; it just shows your own inability to face them.

Saying ‘it varies’ doesn’t cancel the fact that women are often the backbone across board. That’s like saying poverty isn’t real because some people are rich.

Reality3080:
which kind of dumb question is this

It depends on d family now

While men are often praised for income, women quietly carry both the home and the hustle. And still, they’re expected to submit, even when they’re the ones holding everything together.

Zonefree:
What do they bring to the table?

Women don’t just bring something to the table; many times, they are the table.

They bring emotional intelligence, resilience, vision, and daily sacrifices that keep families and society going.

In my opinion, Nigerian women bring more to the table

Kobojunkie:
Do you at least accept that the one brandishing the foolishness I am to walk away from here is your person?

I can't argue with a shadow. If my acceptance will make you feel justified, I accept, you are right and I am wrong.

A man who calls the mirror ugly walks away unchanged.

Be blessed!

Kobojunkie:
Walk away from what? Try to pay close attention to the advise given to gain understanding rather than these attempts at imposing ideas different from the contained message.

Yes, walk away, is there a problem? Proverb 14:7 TLV.

Understanding comes when we seek truth with an open heart, not by engaging in discussions that lack intellectual or Spiritual nourishment. May the good God heal you. Be Blessed.

Kobojunkie:
Pay close attention to what that message is infact trying to teach you.

Okay, sweetie, I get you; but when the Word says walk away, who am I to argue? Proverbs 14:7. Be blessed.

Kobojunkie:
1. What you seek from these theologians isn't truth, but rather you want them to validate your own ideas, which is likely never going to happen, particularly since submission is considered a core tenet of the religion you belong to.

2. The foolish one here happens to be you, the one seeking validation from others, your theologians, as far as what to believe.

Proverb 1:5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:

suckprick:
If it's a punishment. Then stay single all your life this girl!!. Marriage no be by force. Avoid the punishment.

Fortunately, it’s not only your type of men that exist. With the kind of men I date and surround myself with, I doubt I’ll end up with rubbish as a husband.

No other generation of women should be led by fear and misinterpreted Scriptures. If the truth stings, sit with it. It’s supposed to.

You’re probably one of those whose control depends on the ignorance of women. You’re scared of the truth because it will break that leash you’ve got going.

Kobojunkie:
This isn't about me or my grievances, but the fact that you, a Christian, are attempting to argue against a theological doctrine— wholly religious with no biblical origin whatsoever— while at the same time insisting the answers must come from the very same people who hold and propagate the very idea you are against. It is a sort of mental laziness... is what it seems.

You call it lazy to seek the truth. But Proverbs 18:2 says, 'A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.

Kobojunkie:
There is no biblical submission. Rather, what you have are religious narratives constructed by your religious gods of men in attempts to keep you all subjugated/mentally controlled.

2. Well, theology is based almost entirely on the musings of the minds of the many men who rule over the narratives. So, isn't your first error expecting them to be able to tell you this difference?

I’m not looking to engage in a debate about my faith. This was intended to be a discussion of Christian beliefs; not an avenue for attacking the faith itself.

You’re clearly making this about personal grievances with Christianity rather than engaging in a sincere dialogue.

While you’re free to hold your views, mutual respect for differing perspectives is important.

Do have a nice day!

Kobojunkie:
A better question would be, "Should a woman, knowing fully well she has no desire to submit to any being, choose to enter into marriage with a man whose sole desire is for her to submit to him? Women need to take responsibility for their own failures here. They are usually not forced into these marriages, and divorce has been available from the very beginning to everyone convinced he/she had made an error in marriage.

Sweetie, I asked about biblical submission in the face of abuse, not for a tired lecture blaming women for their own mistreatment. Theology should be able to tell the difference between submission and enduring maltreatment.

Should a woman submit to a man who is cold, abusive or unfaithful; simply because he is her husband?

idahme:
Prostitute

"Prostitute" before ko? Is it not basically an anthem now? The default label weak guys throw around when a woman shakes their fragile ego.

Abeg, you guys should come up with new phrases jor. This one has expired. Outdated. Overused. It’s even giving zero creativity.

Virgin? Prostitute. Female pastor? Prostitute. Stay-at-home wife? Prostitute. Single babe? Prostitute. Working-class queen? Still prostitute.

Are you people short on vocabulary or just suffering from linguistic poverty? Why use the same tired buzzword - “prostitute”; for every woman who refuses to shrink herself? Explore other options nah.

Why not post a clearer picture of the person?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YOzXFXJJy6M?si

Most of the time, women blame themselves when things go wrong in their marriage, but often it's not even their fault.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YOzXFXJJy6M?si

Most Nigerian men don’t want wives. They want unpaid maids they can control, sleep with, and call ‘virtuous.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YOzXFXJJy6M?si

Submission is a punishment, not a commandment.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YOzXFXJJy6M?si

Submission is a punishment, not a commandment.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YOzXFXJJy6M?si

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YOzXFXJJy6M?si

I am writing this with tears in my eyes. Nigerian policemen have wasted my time and extorted money from me. If anything happens to me, hold the Nigerian police responsible, especially the Lagos State Commissioner of Police. He is a wicked and heartless man. Doesn't he understand how difficult it is to make money? Why has he decided to rob innocent citizens of their hard-earned income?

The policemen stationed at the traffic point along Berger Expressway, linking Ibadan, are stopping people and falsely accusing them of running the traffic light. They claim that the Lagos Commissioner of Police received a directive from Governor Sanwo-Olu to collect ₦150,000 from traffic offenders as today’s fine. According to them, this was because a pregnant woman was hit by a car there.

But how can you impose a fine of ₦150,000, an amount higher than the monthly minimum wage, on ordinary citizens? Governor Sanwo-Olu, if you truly gave this directive, it is deeply unfair. Why should a traffic light violation carry such an outrageous fine? And even if penalties must be enforced, why is this responsibility solely given to the police? Shouldn't there be CCTV cameras at every traffic light to ensure fairness and prevent innocent people from being falsely accused?

The officers falsely accused the driver of running the traffic light. When I offered to let them speak to someone over the phone, they refused. They kept threatening to tow the vehicle, and due to the urgency of my journey, I had no choice but to follow their instructions. I was forced to accompany them to a POS center to withdraw money for them.

This is nothing but daylight robbery.

givedemwotowoto:
One of the Most Costly Mistakes you make as a husband is choosing the wrong woman as your wife.

Marry a woman who was raised to be a wife, or at least one who is learning to become one (she must accept her role). If nobody taught her at home, society and experience should've taught her.

A woman raised to be a wife knows from Day 1 that your goal is to protect and provide for your family, and her role is to support you to do that. This is a quality/role that most feminists and ladies raised by single mothers (with no support from close male relatives) hardly bring to your home. They're usually in competition with you or in other cases, unaware of how to help, rather than be supportive of you. What they bring is chaos rather than peace.

Be careful out there. The woman you spend most hours of your life every day with can make or break your home, career, and life.

One of the most costly mistakes you can make as a wife is choosing the wrong man as your husband.

Marry a man who was raised to be a husband, or at least one who is learning to become one (he must accept his role). If nobody taught him at home, society and experience should've taught him.

A man raised to be a husband knows from day 1 that his goal is to protect and provide for his family, and his role is to support you in doing that. This is a quality/role that most misogynists and men raised by abusive men (with little support from close female relatives) often lack. They are usually dictators, see you as competition, or, in other cases, are unaware of how to help rather than being supportive of you. What they bring is chaos rather than peace.

Be careful out there. The man you spend most hours of your life with every day can make or break your home, career, and life.

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