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Super33999:
Hope you've consoled yourself. I hope you use your time well

Sabi, why you dey cry? Shey my wristwatch dey on top your head, abi how the way I use my time go affect you? No be me go marry you now.

No deceive yourself, I no need console, I no even dey follow you cry before. Na you sabi wetin you lose.

Super33999:
If as a woman you don't have a partner at 34 or 35, just know it's important you have a good job.
You'll make a good sugar mummy if you have a good job.
Obviously, the primary reason men settle down with women is because of sex and the moment you are 26, for a woman, that tight pussyyyy sexual flavour is gone

Its important you use your time wisely

35, sugar mummy?

Many people like you do not fully understand what relationships entail and are being misled by the media. If you conduct proper research, you will discover that many men, including those of high status, are still marrying women in their 30s.

Most men prioritize qualities such as maturity, physical appearance, intelligence, compatibility, and social connections - which can encompass sexual performance - over age.

Beauty, youthful appearance, and sexual appeal are not confined by age; they can be found in women of all age groups.

Yemike:
Your own forefathers refer to sicke cell as abiku. Abiku is different entirely from sickle cell. Perhaps you want to type olokunrun.

I am so tired; I can't school you right now, try to do your own research.

Please, I need help with this. I have been experiencing it since 2022. I often find myself speaking uncontrollably in a language or languages that I don't understand.

As a logical person, I visited both a doctor and a psychiatrist, and both said that I am okay, so I accepted that it is Spiritual.

I prefer to pray on my own rather than have just any pastor lay hands on me. I visited three of Ayo Babalola's mountains to pray and also to bathe with the water from the mountains: one in Kwara State and two in Ekiti State. I met with the pastors in charge, and they prayed for me and advised me to develop my relationship with the Holy Spirit. I called a pastor I know at MFM, and he also told me that it is the Holy Spirit. I visited Ori-Oke Baba Abiye Ede, where I stayed in a guesthouse on the mountain. During my stay, I prayed and fasted for three days. The experience subsided for a time and it returned stronger and more persistent.

I grew up attending a Spirit-filled Church that strongly endorsed the Holy Spirit, but the Church I am currently attending focuses primarily on preaching the Word of God and prayer.

I am confused because I have not found any gift of the Spirit in the Bible that is similar to this. Even if it is a gift, what is it purpose since I cannot comprehend or interpret it? It can happen at any time or place, even when I am just talking with friends or strangers.

When it starts, I can barely control it. Trying to suppress it makes my body feel like I’m trying to hold back vomit. Sometimes, I feel a breeze around me, and my ear start to tingle.

Lonestar124:
35years is too far for women to get married oo, to avoid bearing disformed and hormonal imbalance children..

Let's stop misleading our younger generation, we are not wiser than our fore fathers.

Which forefathers are you referring to? Are you talking about the ones who referred to people with sickle cell anemia as "Abiku"? We have advanced significantly beyond our forefathers, and our understanding has evolved.

Most women aged 35 and older have healthy pregnancies and give birth to healthy children; however, the risks associated with childbearing do increase significantly for women aged 40 and above. Fortunately, advancements in technology have enabled women to take proactive steps to ensure healthy pregnancies or to preserve their eggs for future use. This approach is a better option than unplanned pregnancies.

It is ideal to wait until you are capable of caring for children before having them. The welfare of children should always be a priority. In fact, the government needs to take steps to address the issue of irresponsible parenting, as this could even help reduce the crime rate in the country. Many children from low-income families face malnutrition; some live on the streets, and some are even introduced to crime at an early age as a means of survival. In sane societies, children have the right to a safe and healthy upbringing.

I advise you to strive for your own financial independence as a woman. Even if you plan to marry a wealthy man, you may still face several disadvantages, as a man can be wealthy yet uncaring and stingy.

Here are a few steps to take:

1. Avoid all forms of distractions during your youth; success should be your only goal. In fact, don't start dating until you are twenty-four or twenty-five, unless you achieve success before then.

2. Either remain celibate or use very effective contraceptives to avoid pregnancy. No matter what you do, try as much as possible to prevent unplanned pregnancies.

3. Don’t allow anyone to pressure you; wait until you are established and successful enough to get married.

Here are a few disadvantages of rushing into marriage as a woman:

1. While you should be comfortably managing your responsibilities, you will end up viewing them as burdens.

2. Your children will not receive the best care.

3. Your husband might perceive you as a burden.

This is not good. The woman should not expect applause for such toxic behaviour, even if her husband is bad.

Some women are naturally pompous, while others insult and disrespect their husbands as a way to retaliate for past actions. However, a woman who feels bitter toward her husband still has the option to walk away from the marriage rather than retaliate in an unpleasant manner. In fact, the best payback is walking away. Cheating is grounds for divorce, and for other toxic behaviours, one can choose to separate and remain unmarried.

Though forgiveness is not easy, and if one is not in the situation, it might be difficult to understand. One can forgive a brutal experience but still find it difficult to forget. It is better for a good woman not to allow a man's brutal attitude toward her to change who she is. Children do not deserve to grow up in a toxic environment, and those who do not know what she has been through may misjudge her and assume she is simply a wicked woman.

I know a woman in the UK who insults and disrespects her husband at every opportunity. She is richer than he is; in fact, she is very wealthy.

I initially assumed her husband was a gentle and kind man, and I pleaded with her to be kind to him. However, when she shared her story, I began to understand her pain. She used to be very humble and respectful, but her husband mistreated her; he would beat her, cheat on her, and insult her at every opportunity.

She was a virgin when she married him, and they had six children together, both male and female. However, he still impregnated other women and had children outside their marriage. She was broke and depended solely on him, and at times, she even had suicidal thoughts. But with great determination, she became a successful woman.

Marriage is supposed to be a private affair, not a public spectacle. If you can't tolerate each other, why not separate in peace? Husbands and wives should avoid speaking ill of each other in public. Such a marriage is toxic and lacks love and respect. Healthy marriages are built on mutual support and understanding.

Some couples are merely tenants in their marriage; their relationship may have ended a long time ago.

ziemcorp:
Normal boss, you know that guys will always f**k up and give attention to anything in skirt so I don't blame her for having an inflated ego. I don't even doubt that she has guys in her friend zone. But that dosent change the fact that she's not pretty. Her head even looks superimposed on her body.

When you say my inflated ego na guys dey cause am, you no lie at all.

Dem wan use compliment kill me! I dey waka for road, dem dey stop me to tell me say I fine. I dey inside my car, dem dey sign to me say I fine. I dey on train, dem dey tell me say I fine. I dey on plane, dem dey tell me say I fine. Dem go just dey make my head swell every time.

My head looks superimposed on my body 😂😂😂

You no fit carry wire go flog God.

Anny69:
😂😂You said it all o. Dem dey vex me sometimes, yeye boys.

😂😂😂

Anny69:
You that your face looks like a used rag with beards have the guts to call a woman ugly? Lol, you're fooling.

Ye, this one enter! Leave the poor guy alone o. If e starts crying now, even coaster biscuit no go fit stop e tears.

But e go better make e stop hating on beautiful ladies. If one gree manage am, e go favour im unborn pikins.

Wetin you expect from a guy like this. Na handsome guys dey give women princess treatment. All this kind guy no get level.

I no even mind am; I just dey follow am yarn to catch cruise. Normal normal, na insecure guys dey cry on top ladies' pictures. Dem dey like abuse beautiful ladies to feel good about themselves. The beauty go dey pepper them😂

dkidd:
Keep quiet there... Which useless men on friend zone? With Ur face like who no well. Fake cheap heavy make-up and dead eyebrows. Looking like Ur smelling mess 😂

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 This is so hilarious

But the funniest part is that even if the fact is argued or frowned upon, it won't change. 🤣🤣🤣

I agree that my mess is smelly; mess was never meant to be smell-free. 🤣🤣🤣

But if I look like my mess, that means my mess is beloved, considering the number of guys that admire me on a daily basis. 🤣🤣🤣

Don't insult my makeup o; I will not take that! My makeup kit is more expensive than a bag of rice.

ziemcorp:
😁😁😁
This made me laugh.
You're not a serious person.

😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ziemcorp:
You try small.

That my guy, you self dey type "you try small" like say you sabi.

Na just 28 comments you get, you never even reach divided by 20 of my comments yet, but no wahala, keep going, I dey your back. You no see as I dey hype say you sabi English, I even say make dem give you a round of applause.

Very soon, your beholder go show, but guy, no overdo. You know say you no fine, you no get quality, and you no come get intellect. Na English you wan use as cover to attract your beholder, no spoil packaging o. Abi you no wan marry again?

😂 Just 28 comments, and you don dey get errors! That sensational liies wey you write for one post like that go correct am fast before people start noticing. Person wey dey correct someone else no suppose dey make that kind mistake, Na sensational lies e suppose be.

No worry, if you continue like this, beholder go show up quick quick. Pele.

This advice comes from someone who has ventured into several businesses: don't enter any business that you don't know about personally. Even in the ones you are familiar with, you need to be there to monitor them from time to time.

Consider yourself lucky to have discovered him early. I lost millions in my drink business after I hired someone to manage it for me. I had successfully managed the business myself for up a year without any losses before employing him. I needed time to travel and attend workshops, conferences and seminars, which is why I decided to employ him.

He couldn't account for more than 50% of the goods in the store. I had ordered a full truck of bottled water, which consisted of 1,600 packs from Viju Milk Company, and two trucks of Biggi drinks from Rite Food Limited, with each truck containing more than 1,700 packs of drinks. I was away for about a month for a program, and I had asked a family member to help monitor him.

I couldn't take action against him because I wasn't sure if the issue was entirely his fault or if it also involved the family member I had asked to monitor him.

ziemcorp:
If that's your real pix on your profile, I'm sorry. You're not pretty. See as makeup and filter full everywhere. You're unlikely to have the type
of men you mentioned. You also seem to be getting on in age. You can't demand a top value man, unless your father or family is extremely wealthy. Your best bet would be to develop your intelligence and a good character and probably lower your expectations to fully focus on those 'men with potential' you talked about before.

😂😂😂This one think say na from Nairaland I go select husband? If e pain you well, well, you go carry my picture go all social media and try convince all guys say I be ugly lady, make dey no marry me. You think say I dey date yeye guys like you? If you see the kind classy guys wey dey my friend zone alone, you go bow!

idahme:
Bitter leaf I don't have your strength, go and meet your ex I'm not the cause of your troubles.

😂🤣🤣See frustration

Let me leave the poor boy alone before he starts crying again.

Codes151:
I still want you to understand.
Everyone on nairaland isn’t living on your assumptions.

Okay, I don hear you. Hope you dey satisfied?

Proserpina:
You go about quoting any monicker that sounds feminine with slurs and you expect a pat on the shoulder?
Are we not done with the caveman idea that being a man/boy gives you the privilege to be unnecessarily rude and condescending to anything perceived feminine? This is what you do on every thread and I wonder what stone age you are locked in.

If to say I mention you first, I go talk say na me go look for madman trouble .

Until you learn to hold conversations in a civil way, please stay away from my monicker. Go do that machismo for your family compound!

idahme:
It has triggered that innate feelings of women to never be accountable, test of irresponsibility and not being accountable confirmed. Enjoy bitter leaf

Idahme, the lazy one is that you. You don reach here.

Nitoriolohun1:
Was your wife a virgin?

If no, you wasted time and money.

You no see by the grace of God for him write-up, e mean say him no do am for your validation, so your opinion no matter at all.

babajero:
in my opinion I think every girl should be a virgin till marriage. Not after uselessly using your body as a kolanut or should I say free meat to different irresponsible men, you will now be looking for a responsible man to dictate for and later destroy.

If guy dey responsible, shey na only the lady go benefit? No be both of them? If you like, born pikin and throw am away or leave your wife to dey care for am alone, na your business.

Wetin ladies wan benefit from your opinion? If virginity dey for sale, you fit buy am. One time sex for virgin for UAE alone na 500,000 dirhams.

If premarital sex no dey prohibited according to religious standards, how many ladies go keep their virginity? And premarital sex dey prohibited for both men and women, no be for women alone.

Codes151:
was laughing since

Your previous laughter wasn't genuine; it was tinged with pain.

otherway:
You have changed the narrative.

A lazy man can be wealthy and an extremely hard working man can be poor.

No be only change the narrative, na super story.

There are obviously lazy men that are lucky, but they cannot be categorized as irresponsible unless they refuse to shoulder their responsibilities. There are also hardworking men that are struggling financially; they cannot be labeled as irresponsible as long as they are making every effort to fulfill their responsibilities.

Codes151:
go read our chats. Show you my wallet?
Me vex??
😂

Even if, I no fit play useless play with you.

Good. You are now laughing. This is how it is supposed to be.

Codes151:
e no cost. Buy am na.

No be una say una no fit marry Broke men.

You no fit satisfy small craving na men you Dey talk about?

Ordinary dessert, you don dey cry.

Who talk say e cost? Me, I don satisfy my craving already. You think say I go dey wait for you? 😂😂😂

Codes151:
no one is asking you to show. Na you dy talk about how I have nothing and I am cheap. No wahala.

If say you get, you no go type thrash

You call me thief, I no vex, but when I say make you show your wallet, you dey vex. A lot of people here too like to play the victim game. No lie for my head, I no talk say you have nothing.

RealityKings:
Is it that easy to have the money?

I must confess that men who shoulder the entire responsibilities of the family are really trying. As an independent woman who relies on her own income, I can attest that making money is not easy.

Money is like a spirit; you can not understand how it moves. There are months when you find yourself with just five figures while facing six-figure bills. It took me time to find my balance, I had even almost started regretting my decision. Being a virgin in this era has advantages, but it also has disadvantages because there are certain decisions you have to make to remain focused.

It is not easy to make money, but a man doesn't have to be rich to be responsible. There are some women who are married to lazy and irresponsible husbands and are forced to shoulder the entire responsibility of the family. Many of these women struggle financially, and the frustrating part is that their husbands are often unwilling to work; when offered a job, they frequently decline it. One of my staff members is a victim of this situation; her salary is only forty thousand naira, and she has four children to support.

Codes151:
lol...

i wont come online to post such trash.
if u were rich, you will never post this thrash.

so no wahala... Enjoy.

entitled hungry girl

You’re just boring me. I’m here to catch cruise, not to show off my financial success. When I even tell am say I dey rich, me I no rich o 😂

Rich in this humbling economy, in a country where fuel worth 70,000 naira (for car use alone) will barely last one through the week. Stop taking things personally, in this country nearly everyone is struggling😊

Codes151:
lol...

i wont come online to post such trash.
if u were rich, you will never post this thrash.

so no wahala... Enjoy.

entitled hungry girl

Guy, how you take know say I dey hungry? I no just dey hungry, I dey starve! As e be now, I dey crave chocolate cake and KitKat ice cream.

Codes151:
Dont play

Wetin dey your wallet? You say "don't play" Na cheap drugs dey cause this kind thing 😂😂😂

It is well o.

Join the Responsible Men's Association today and say NO to drugs.

Olabode211:
And that is why does marriage no dey last and plenty mad lady plenty for outside....olowonimobalo

Agba counselor, for marriage to last, women suppose dey marry lazy, pompous, and irresponsible guys! 😂🤣🤣

Codes151:
pasta.

Thief.

If you get money., you won’t bother to write this crap

When they say be wary of thieves, you too go dey hide your wallet. Wetin dey your wallet? 😂😂😂

Codes151:
pasta.

Thief.

If you get money., you won’t bother to write this crap

Thief like how? Who thief this one's money? This one don high o! Get a life; not every babe be 2k girlfriend o! 🤣🤣🤣