₦airaland Forum

GreatAchiever1:
And that's because the bible is traditional. Smh. I can tell that you've never read the Bible before, hence using the lens of the modern cultures to assume what the bible actually says.

Instead of projecting your ignorance on me, develop your IQ by dedicating some time to reading the Bible and comprehending it properly.

6ixpaq:
The world has no shortage of fools..

You are right; there has been an increase lately. There used to be a shortage before people like you filled the gap.

luminouz:
Ladies wake up to do what? Not submit? 🙂🙂🙂🙂. Women are always the greatest enemies of women. See mûmû advice oh

Such a clown you are. Shiloh starts today....I hope you are there asking for help

I would have wished for zombies to attack you, but zombies are only attracted to brains.

Many marriage sermons are based on traditional philosophy rather than Biblical principles. Period!

😂🤣🤣 Calling me ugly, useless, and all sorts of names will not change the facts.

Ladies, wake up! The fact that these misogynistic men are crying and attacking me without providing any Biblical evidence to counter my statements speaks volumes.

dkidd:
Lol..You have said it all... A very stupid senseless post to create baseless arguments. Why marry when Ur not ready to submit? Abi which man in his right senses will marry a disrespectful unsubmissive woman in the first place?

Natural selection at its finest.

Fahvvy:
The werey is looking for someone to challenge her, as if those people have their time or even know of her existence ...

Women if you know you cannot submit, then don't marry the man, cause SUBMISSION TO YOUR HUSBAND IS AN UNCONDITIONAL REQUIREMENT ...

I refuse to be silenced. People are afraid of challenging wrong teachings, which is why such teachings are still in circulation.

immortalcrown:
Then, a woman should not accept a man for marriage until he shows genuine love.

Submission in marriage is unconditional unless you are mad

1+1= Egg roll 😂

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Not all men deserve submission.

malcom1X:
You said last borns this is not their first child. Don't play.

Which freezing of eggs. Do you know the country that you are in?

Reputable clinics and hospitals do exist in Nigeria, their services may not just be affordable for everyone.

There are clinics in Nigeria that offer a variety of fertility services, including IVF, surrogacy, and egg freezing, with some even specializing in these areas.

Yes, they do. I have a friend who received a monthly allowance for her upkeep from her husband before they got married. I was her maid of honour. He was 36, and she was 38. On the day he proposed to her, he gifted her a car. True men can easily recognize potential.

The guy even had to reassure her that he was different. She was skeptical about men because her long-term ex bf exploited her.

Saidfx:
Only and I repeat only men love unconditionally. Women should just submit and respect their husbands inrespective of their financial status..there is nothing like a woman being the bread winner..it's just a weak statement to pull men off their full potentials.

No, it is not only men that can love unconditionally.

A man doesn't have to make his wife financially dependent on him in order to ensure that she respects him.

Being financially independent does not automatically make a woman the primary breadwinner. A man can have a financially independent wife and still be the primary breadwinner, and there is nothing even wrong with a woman being the primary breadwinner. Every family should establish its own arrangements based on what works best for them.

Maysdevices:
Like I said. She is foolish for starting a thread on Nairaland as a woman and the attention she was looking for, she has seen it

Anyone is foolish for starting a topic here without expecting insults from obscure idiots but as a woman? You are doubly foolish

Drive that question to your fellow men here. If only you know how many intelligent women used to be here years ago, all have fled from the bitterness of your gender who seem to hate women with scary intense passion

I left for many years myself but can’t resist coming from time to time because it is nostalgic to me, these people literally drew me in a disfigured manner and started trollling my entire family, just because of banter

With that said, Bleep Nairaland and its commenters ✌️

Just know your worth as a woman, and you will be okay. Don't let other people's words pressure you or get to you.

Besides, not all men here say hateful things to women; there are reasonable guys as well.

Maysdevices:
The attention she was looking from Nairaland guys, she has gotten it

Anyone woman that starts a topic here is foolish, me included, which is why I deleted my old account

There's nothing foolish about a woman starting a topic here. This particular topic isn't even harmful; she's not revealing anything overly personal or saying anything shameful.

DeeScan:
yet, I bet it didn't stop you from having waste his money getting lunch for you ..


You deserve such treatment at this point...

I still don’t understand why random acts that are often done by guys are perceived as big deals online.

Buying lunch for someone is just a kind gesture. There are guys who even approach ladies at restaurants or fast food places and pay for their meals without even asking for their phone numbers.

Saidfx:
If I marry woman and she get money nah for her pocket, because nah me suppose take care of am and give her unconditional love. All this rubbish about women considering thier financial status before marriage nah bull shiiiit. If woman wan marry make she just respect her husband and the people at large... Make she just see herself as woman and nah Nature[/color] set am like that...Men, pls women need you more than you need them. Just live according to your conscience and capacity. No forget the Equatorial Guinea[color=#990000] shit. E still dey for minds o...Men don take am as deep excuse to treaaaaat any potential woman as just lust mate. E deep well!

Being a woman does not entail sacrificing one's potential or goals, and unconditional love should not involve controlling your wife or expecting her to settle for less when she has the ability to aim higher and achieve more.

Only manipulative and toxic men want their capable wives to be financially dependent. Many responsible men understand that their wives' achievements would also benefit them, so they actively support their wives in starting businesses or finding jobs.

Respect is a natural quality that flows in healthy relationships. A woman does not need to render herself useless or devoid of potential to show respect for her husband.

Responsible men don’t make excuses for inappropriate behaviour; such tendencies are only found in irresponsible ones.

Merry100:
Please, I need help with this. I have been experiencing it since 2022. I often find myself speaking uncontrollably in a language or languages that I don't understand.

As a logical person, I visited both a doctor and a psychiatrist, and both said that I am okay, so I accepted that it is Spiritual.

I prefer to pray on my own rather than have just any pastor lay hands on me. I visited three of Ayo Babalola's mountains to pray and also to bathe with the water from the mountains: one in Kwara State and two in Ekiti State. I met with the pastors in charge, and they prayed for me and advised me to develop my relationship with the Holy Spirit. I called a pastor I know at MFM, and he also told me that it is the Holy Spirit. I visited Ori-Oke Baba Abiye Ede, where I stayed in a guesthouse on the mountain. During my stay, I prayed and fasted for three days. The experience subsided for a time and it returned stronger and more persistent.

I grew up attending a Spirit-filled Church that strongly endorsed the Holy Spirit, but the Church I am currently attending focuses primarily on preaching the Word of God and prayer.

I am confused because I have not found any gift of the Spirit in the Bible that is similar to this. Even if it is a gift, what is it purpose since I cannot comprehend or interpret it? It can happen at any time or place, even when I am just talking with friends or strangers.

When it starts, I can barely control it. Trying to suppress it makes my body feel like I’m trying to hold back vomit. Sometimes, I feel a breeze around me, and my ear start to tingle.

Please kindly respond if you know how this issue can be resolved. I'm not satisfied with this situation.

MondayOmoAdugbo:
We can all do better,... For the greater purpose tho.

Okay. What are your expectations for the government?

MondayOmoAdugbo:
Bad, could have been worse,..

Do you believe the current government is doing enough for Nigeria, or do you have greater expectations for its performance?

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This means you will be exempt from paying taxes if your monthly income is 83,333.33 naira or less. This exemption will primarily benefit very low-income earners.

What is the situation in Nigeria?

🌍 Nigeria is a country rich in potential. There are many questions that need answers, and the concerns on most people's minds are:

What strategic plans are in place to turn our nation around? Is there a roadmap to greatness, or are we simply crossing our fingers and hoping for a miracle or a stroke of luck? 🤔✨

Only the President can provide answers to these questions. 🇳🇬❤️

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Criticizing the government is not new to Nigeria; Nigerians have a long history of expressing their grievances but regardless of the state of the economy, we continue to struggle and move forward. What makes this time different is the increased rate of insecurity in the country.

Insecurity is one of the leading causes of hunger and starvation in the land. Many farmers and hunters face restrictions due to insecurity, hence a significant reason for the rising prices of agricultural produce.

OfeAchi:
This woman has no atom of respect for her husband!
A full adult made a decision and you rudely went to the stage to drag him out. What insolence! If I were to be the husband, I would have landed a heavy slap on the woman who call herself my wife.

If her husband were a responsible man, wouldn't he have declined?

Only a beast raises his hand to his wife. I wish good ladies would stop falling prey to guys like you, and I hope those in toxic relationships find the courage to leave.

BluntCrazeMan:
Then, you guys should concentrate on talking and talking and knowing each other more..

No fun, No Romance, No Pleasing..

JUST TALKS.!!

A sexless relationship can be meaningful and enjoyable; it’s not just about talking and talking.

There can also be fun, romance, and pleasure in a sexless relationship.

Here are just fifteen aspects, among many, that can make a sexless relationship enjoyable:

1. Create a Supportive Environment: Be each other’s cheerleaders. Offer emotional support during tough times and celebrate the good moments together.

2. Strengthen Spiritual Connection: Spend time together in prayer and reflection. Engage in Spiritual practices, such as praying or fasting to strengthen your bond and provide mutual support in your Spiritual journeys.

3. Support Personal Development: Focus on encouraging each other’s growth in various areas, such as finances, career, and personal interests. Celebrate each other’s achievements and provide motivation during challenges.

4. Expand Networks: Actively help each other build connections by introducing one another to new opportunities and valuable contacts. This can lead to personal and professional growth for both partners.

5. Show Care and Compassion: Be there for each other, especially during times of illness or difficulty, by offering support and nurturing one another.

6. Offer Praise and Compliments: Take the time to compliment each other on your appearance, style, or unique features. Acknowledging each other’s qualities can strengthen your bond and boost confidence.

7. Engage in Playful Activities: Engage in games or fun challenges to create joyful moments and share laughter.

8. Enjoy Hobbies Together: Engage in activities you both love, whether it’s cooking, hiking, playing video or board games, listening to music, singing, dancing, working out, reading books, or watching movies. Shared experiences can create lasting memories and strengthen your relationship.

9. Create a Routine: Establish regular date nights or activities to strengthen your bond and enhance intimacy.

10. Share meals together: Explore new recipes, get creative in the kitchen, or enjoy dining at restaurants or fast food spots while engaging in meaningful conversations.

11. Read Books or Watch Movies Together: Spend quality time reading books or watching films together. You can discuss a book or movie that you both enjoy, which can spark engaging conversations and deepen your shared insights.

12. Travel Together: Plan weekend getaways or trips to deepen your connection and create new memories and experiences.

13. Attending Events: Attend concerts, art shows, or community events together. Experiencing new things can create lasting memories.

14. Connect with nature: Enjoy activities like walking, stargazing, camping, hiking, biking, and climbing hills together. Simple gestures, such as holding hands while walking or engaging in heartfelt discussions, can strengthen emotional closeness and deepen your connection.

15. Engage in Open and Meaningful Conversations: Share your dreams, goals, aspirations and fears with each other. Consider creating a vision board together to visualize your future. This practice can foster a deeper understanding and connection between you.

Badmashiii:
Oh I see.

From your write-up you have no qualms about being the weaker party but the person should endeavour not to rub it in your face by being a bit nice which is what you mean by "mutual respect" ,correct?

Many men like myself have mastered such like an art. We would assumed the dominant position but occasionally act nice and defer to some of your whims to massage your ego while still maintaining overall dominance.

Are you still talking about a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship? It seems more like a friendship than a controlling dynamic.

Do you enjoy using your words out of context?

Badmashiii:
You nailed it absolutely. Guess i wasn't wrong when i said you were among the outstanding players.

Power dynamics is the correct term.

Now tell me,in any relationship with a person,whether same sex or otherwise would you rather be the weak party or the one in control?

I tend to be assertive, but I can take on a controlling role when necessary.

My position - whether weak or dominant - often varies based on the type of relationship and the individual I'm interacting with.

I prioritize mutual respect and collaboration in my interactions.

Badmashiii:
No ma'am,power struggles exist in all relationships involving humans.

You as a lady should know better. Women are naturally proficient in the game of power compared to men.

Most ladies will rather die than make the first move to a man they fancy. Why's that? They inherently know the outcome of starting a relationship as the needy party.

The term "playing hard to get" is something mainly associated with women and that tells a lot.

Playing hard to get is an effective way of either increasing your leverage by demonstrating non-neediness or balancing the scale of power if you start the relationship on wrong footings.

There's a saying that goes without saying;"women are Machiavellian as water is wet." You're probably playing dumb on the existence of or even your awareness of the "game" when in reality you're among the outstanding players.

Nice input 👍

However, I believe "power dynamics" is a more suitable term.

Power dynamics exist in all relationships, but not all lead to power struggles. Some partners find effective ways to balance these dynamics.

Power struggle imply a competition for control while power dynamics encompass the structures and mechanisms through which power is distributed within relationships.

Badmashiii:
Ma'am,you sounded respectful and I'll try my best to do the same. It may require an open mind for you to grasp it though.

Any relationship involving two or more is usually governed by needs. One party must have a need that he hopes the other party will give him/her. It could be anything;money,sex,emotional support,social value,fame you name it.

If this need is too much on one part,this will automatically translate to neediness.

Now the other party might not even have a single need for the other but with the huge neediness of the other the leverage in the relationship already lies with him/her.

This explains why some men spend crazy amount on ladies who have serious boyfriends they genuinely care about. And men banging that girl head over heels over them while being nice to and planning wedding with their fiancee.


Same also applies in business settings. Companies will treat you better and be more willing to pay you more when you have unique experience or skills compared to employee that will be easy to replace.

Bottom-line is the power games is being played even indefinitely.

From this, we can conclude that power struggles do exist in some relationships, but they are not inherent to all relationships.

Badmashiii:
Mate,there's already a power struggle right from when they exchanged names and contacts.

Who needs the other party the most? You can't tell me they need each other the same way.

I am not aware of any power struggles that exist in relationships involving two mature individuals.

Women often express their love for men primarily through care, emotional support, and sometimes gifts, while men often show their love and affection for women mainly through financial support and sometimes emotional support.

Money is a man's love language. Even if a woman is not the demanding type, some men will insist that she ask for things or will even offer her gifts on their own. When they genuinely love a woman, men are willing to go the extra mile to show their affection and prove that they are ideal partners.

Badmashiii:
You're trying to paint a picture of an equally balanced power relationship which is far from possible and not very ideal.

In any relationship between two people,whether platonic or romantic,one party must inevitably hold the most power.

The boyfriend-girlfriend relationship is still in the selection stage. There is no power struggle; it simply entails mutual understanding. Both parties have to put in enough effort to ensure satisfaction for one another.

Shugafree:
Thanks, but arent u a female ?

I am seeking the opinion of Mature Men

Yes, I am. Mature women are in a better position to answer questions about women.

Shugafree:
Good day ,mature men in the house, i urgently need your input on this

What is the best response to a female who said i am sexualising her.


Some info

She is 20yrs in 200 L

We were chatting n i playfully called her small breast, then she got angry.(she claims to be a virgin)

She loves me but trying to hide it (her elder sis told me)

I hope you won't be offended if she was the one who said 'small prick' to you.

If I were the one, I wouldn't even take offense; I would just do something similar and see how you would react.

It's enough reason for her to be angry, so apologize to her.