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It is obvious that you never loved him if you chose to leave him just because your roommate told you to. It seems like you're only bitter because you are not there to enjoy his success with him. Some guys don't have money presently, but they do have potential. Your roommate was wise enough to notice his potentials and take him away from you.

How many women wey marry as virgin dey go around boasting of their virginity? Virginity no be forever, na one time thing.

See as you dey advise women to marry men wey fear God, as if that one na the secret to a good marriage. Say na every woman go find her soul mate for Church, no be king palace Esther go compete before getting her soul mate.

Some people go dey even do matchmaking for Church, dey think say if a brother dey spiritual he is good for a particular sister, meanwhile the brother and sister might not even be compatible. Some temperaments no even suppose live under the same roof.

Social status and religion no fit determine a person's personality, the monster wey kill Osinachi be billionaire or na for club or bar Osinachi meet am? E be like say you never hear of pastor wey beat him wife to death because he get hot temper.

If Church guy no get good character he no be husband material, if rich guy no get good character he no be husband material. Compatibility is the key to a successful marriage, not spirituality or social status.

Palazee:
Women are the gatekeeper of sex, they determine when sex should happen

Now the real question is:


Why do women sleep around and get pregnant for multiple men

Thieves no dey respect gatekeepers, they look for other routes to gain entrance.

To answer this question you need to first discover why men sleep around and impregnate multiple women.

Amen......... And may we jam good men that will dash us 500 million with no strings attached. Amen Amen Amen!!!

Fahvvy:
Calling me names and throwing shades still doesn't validate the trash you wrote up there ...

I suggest you try another approach ...

🤣Baba say nah name calling and throwing shades, just because your tiny brain can't comprehend a post doesn't mean it's trash.

Okoroawusa:
Clap for yourself

Pa pa pa pa pa.

Fahvvy:
@ advanceDNA seriously you're a strong man for engaging with that fellow ...

I mean, how do you have a conversation with a fellow that keeps shifting the goal post like someone hawking gala on express ...

@OP...
Any female that thinks the way you described is a wh.ore ...

If a guy wants to have s.ex with you and you're not feeling it, you can simply say no ...

Wanting to "gain something" in exchange for s.ex is nothing short of prostitution ...

Gala hawker is not human being abi, dindinrin.

If a lady demands money from you, since it is so simple to say no you should be able to open your big mouth to say no, instead of coming here to bleat like goat on top my post.

Only a gigolo will date a lady with the intention of using her and dumping her. Show your intention stop deceiving ladies, it is as simple as that. It's still you people that will complain about a lady's body count.

I did not even encourage ladies to demand money from their boyfriend, I only stated the obvious and you are crying here like egbere.

godgrace777:
@op today you go explain tire .... Shey na person force you to create this topic ni The way i dey see am even with evidence of wetin you dey talk you go still dey explain..

🤣 Shey na person force you to read my post ni, you self you go explain explain taya.

advanceDNA:
I'm tired madam....dialogue with u is hard....

Have a great night

Good night my dear, it's past your bedtime.

advanceDNA:
U have shifted goal post.... u have shifted to a guy giving his girl money...

U said girls demand for money becos they don't want to lose....And I said Any Girl that meets a guy or is in a relationship with such mind set has a prostituté mindset....

If ur boyfriend give u money...how's that's demanding?? U didn't ask so u can quickly collect and not lose......he gave u himself...

Please explain free sex??

Whether a lady is demanding money from her guy or not as long as she is having sex with him, it is still called premarital sex. If a man wants to demand sex he should simply get married, he can't be using someone else future wife especially when he knows within him that he is not interested in marrying her.

advanceDNA:
What u have been describing is prostitution using other words.....only women with prostitute mentality think or say "I must gain money so let me quickly demand so I don't lose"

Free sex?? What is free sex?? I nor get that english....can u please explain ma.??


What is free sex?? I don't get that english....

Prostitutes engage in sexual intercourse or other sex acts with different guys for money while girlfriend is a guy's regular female companion with whom he has a romantic or sexual relationship.

If a guy gives his gf money how is she a prostitute.

advanceDNA:
They must gain something ??

Lol...how u don't seem to notice U are describing prostitution and how prostitutes think baffles me...

I don't encourage prostitution, I only stated the obvious.

So as long as it is free sex it is okay.

immortalcrown:
How does collection of money prevent the discard?

Why not read properly before commenting? It does not prevent the discard, it only ensures they gain something from the relationship.

immortalcrown:
So, the money they collect in the relationship makes the relationship last forever?

You are even contradicting yourself. Your caption says the fear of being dumped is the reason girls demand for money in relationships. A paragraph in the post says emphasis on sex is the reason girls demand for money in relationships. Stand one place nah!

Read the caption again: the fear of being used and discarded.

The fear of being used and discarded is one of the reasons why some Nigerian women demand money in relationships.

In general, Nigerian women are very supportive; they do not prioritize their partner's financial status or income. Once they have fallen in love, they are willing to support their partner through thick and thin. However, some women in certain parts of Nigeria, such as Lagos, are more demanding.

Lagos is an expensive city, and as a result, the lifestyle can be quite extravagant. There is an abundance of bars, clubs, and other nightlife options in Lagos compared to other cities, which has led to a culture where sex is overhyped and frequently demanded. If the emphasis on sex were reduced, the demand for money and other financial gestures would also decrease.

In Lagos, many guys prioritize sex greatly in relationships. Some even date women whom they don't perceive as their ideal spouse, solely because they need a sexual partner. A guy can utilize a lady as his girlfriend just to satisfy his sexual urges for up to six years, breaking her heart. Many women in Lagos are already aware of these tactics. That is the reason some choose to date men who can spoil them with material things, ensuring they gain something from the relationship. This way, they won't feel used if they happen to fall into such an unfortunate situation.

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me4323753:
is like so many people here do not cook and store in refrigerators

mehhn i do make plenty of different soups and store for frig wey go even ICE like mumu
nah microwave go renew ham

Exactly

DCmaverick:
How long should someone have to wait before having s*x in a new relationship

If it were to be a lady, guys would have been throwing Biblical quotes at her and also criticising her. Guy, stop fornicating and try to remain celibate till marriage.

Okay, if you prefer the society standard wait till six months by then you would have been more familiar with each other.

I agree with this guy. He spoke the fact, we are not complicated o 😂

I don't know why some guys are pained, don't they also have their own standard of evaluating ladies? Guys also need to provide reasons why they should be preferred to other guys. I don't support ladies being liabilities but you can't just be useless to us. Nobody will go to the market to purchase unripe fruit except ripe fruits are unavailable.

A guy doesn't know how to approach a lady, he does not provide emotional support and he now top it up with stinginess, he should better marry his sister.

I would pick 4 or 2.

Emekaphilip360:
see this one relaying on guys money to survive. No wonder yahoo boys use you guys to do suya. I pity you. Don’t learn how to be independent yourself. You will learn the hard way.

Na broke guys dey do rituals pass, dey fit sell human being for one thousand naira airtime. Ask broke guys why they are broke and some will tell you it is because they are not yahoo boys. No work hard and get confirm money, you think say every rich man na yahoo boy.

I am blessed I don't need someone else money to survive but additional money no bad. You don't worry you go still marry mami water.

Dey play, you think na everybody yahoo boy fit use do rituals. As small as frog be e dey pass in front of pot of soup wey dey on fire but the person wey dey cook the soup no fit add am to the soup, e get why.

tundebasic:
The passage you quoted above is about a daughter sold as a slave, and betrothed to the son of the master. Who provides food for a slave?

So, I will like to know. You are trying to say a woman has no financial responsibility in the home?

It's only the man that will do everything? If you believe a woman has financial responsibilities in the home, then what are her responsibilities?

My own argument is that both of them are told to provide, not just the man.

Now, you'll see how a woman should provide here: Proverbs 32:13-16.

She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.

So, what are you saying about a woman should not work if she likes?

Your man should provide for you fine, you too play your own part, just do something for your husband and family.

Many significant women in the Bible were just homemakers. Does that mean they were not virtuous women?

The Bible is a collection of different stories at different points in time. Every story is unique and has its own pattern. Sarah, Deborah and Esther are all godly women but they didn't share the same patterns. Different consequences needs different approaches.

Every significant men and women in the Bible had their own specific pattern and way of life, they were not a photocopy of one another. Even Solomon had a different pattern and principle from that of his father, David.

Let me site an example, Psalm 58:10 was written by David and Proverb 24:17 was written by the son of David, Solomon but Proverb 24:17 gave a different concept from that of David.

Psalms 58:10
“The righteous shall rejoice when he seeth the vengeance: he shall wash his feet in the blood of the wicked.”
Proverbs 24:17
“Rejoice not when thine enemy falleth, and let not thine heart be glad when he stumbleth:.”

God majorly want us to worship Him, love Him, love our neighbours and co-exist peacefully with others, He did not ask us to become a photocopy of someone else. Study your own situation and handle it responsibly. God has given us dominion over all things, most of the rules today were set by man. We don't have to live in fear or live by unnecessary rules that threatens our peace of mind. We are all kings on earth and we are the author of our own happiness.

I can never be a liability. I'm just playing your own game with you and showing you how the Bible can be used to any gender's advantage.

tundebasic:
I really may not have time to be going back and forth on this.

However, this is another translation of the same verse you are quoting:
New Living Translation (1 Tim 5

5:8. But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.

5:16 If a woman who is a believer has relatives who are widows, she must take care of them and not put the responsibility on the church. Then the church can care for the widows who are truly alone.

How would you take care of someone if you are unemployed yourself?

You said widows are even justified if they don't work. Well. Why I will not want to concern myself with that, we are not focusing on widows here.

We are discussing the issue of man and woman, husband and wife.

1 Timothy 5:16
If any man or woman that believeth have widows, let them relieve them, and let not the church be charged; that it may relieve them that are widows indeed.

Try to be logical, in other verses including the verse 16 you quoted genders where specified, it is only in verse 8 that it was not specified. NLT is a new translation Bible, the older translations used the term "he and his" to specify in verse 8. Anyway, I won't agrue with you on this.

Personally, I don't advise women to become liabilities but it is very well known that Biblically men are expected to provide for their family.

In Exodus 21:10 Moses urged men not to stop providing for their first wives even after they marry another wife, which means men usually provide for their wives. Though in the same verse, Moses permitted marrying more than one wife because of the hardness of people's heart but Jesus explained the law better when He came to the world.

Exodus 21:10
If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.

tundebasic:
Whether you are keeping it to honour God, or your husband it doesn't matter. What matters is obedience to God's word, simple.

Moreover, if you have the opinion that one can do whatever they like with their body (since God will forgive them and they don't want to keep it for a mere husband), then, why were you asking me about the guy you mentioned earlier? Is this not the same thing he was reiterating?

The guy I mentioned earlier was just criticising ladies.

Sure, what matters is obedience to God's word but God is able to forgive all sins and we are not even permitted to judge anyone. What is my business with how someone lived his/her life in the past? Are my the judge of the world?

tundebasic:
I am not the one. Maybe it was someone else. No, you should not play that game. I've come to realise that the corruption of this world will make people who don't do it seem to miss out at the end of the day.

Imagine keeping yourself as a man or woman and you couldn't find a member of the opposite sex, who even claimed to be christian like you being chaste/pure?

Men and women keeping themselves till marriage is both scriptural and cultural.

You can keep your virginity to honour God's law concerning sexual purity, you are not meant to keep your virginity for your wife at the first instance. Imagine my guy telling me he kept his virginity for me, what do I want to use his virginity for, all I want is for my guy to be faithful to me.

tundebasic:
I am not the one. Maybe it was someone else. No, you should not play that game. I've come to realise that the corruption of this world will make people who don't do it seem to miss out at the end of the day.

Imagine keeping yourself as a man or woman and you couldn't find a member of the opposite sex, who even claimed to be christian like you being chaste/pure?

Men and women keeping themselves till marriage is both scriptural and cultural.

But you replied me when I quoted the person that made the statement that means you are in support of what he said. You should have also quoted him if you are not bias.

If we are to go by the Bible it's not wrong for a woman to refuse to work, even widows are expected to be supported financially and in 1 Timothy 5, the term she was mentioned in some verses before verse 8 where he was mentioned, does this not imply that the message was directed to men?

1 Timothy 5
5 Now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate, trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day.
6 But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth.
7 And these things give in charge, that they may be blameless.
8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

tundebasic:
Where in my comment did you see any mention of sexual purity before wedding as a requisite for women only?

I was more concerned about you saying men are to work to provide for women. As if that's the purpose of creation of a man.

The passage you quoted says:
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

That text specifically did not say a man. I know you get why he was used in that context.

There are many wealthy women in the bible. The same bible that many women are using as an excuse to be lazy.

I also hope you know that the role of provision given to a woman is almost equal or even much more than of a man (If you need it, I'll post it here)?

Well, I support a man providing for his household, but when you say a man should "spoil" his wife, are the women also spoiling their husbands in return? Men are not robots too, they like to be "spoiled".

Most of you just enjoy twisting the Bible to your advantage.

Let me refresh your memories. In your first comment you wrote this "There’s a reason why your kpekus is sealed by God. It’s only for your husband."

Two can play the game.

tundebasic:
Can you show anywhere where God said broke men should not find love? Even the first wedding that Jesus attended, the wine finished. Wine dey finish for rich man wedding?

More so, where is it ever written that a man should till the ground to provide solely for his wife?

1 Timothy 5:8
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

It is God's design for man and woman to become one, and He provided reproductive organs that are intended for joint participation and not individual functioning. The reproductive organs in both male and female are needed by both genders and meant for the use of both genders, it seems God shared organs between both genders so that they can collaborate rather than giving each genders organs that will enable them to function individually. Hymen was simply assigned to women while God was doing the sharing. Its presence does not imply that the law concerning sexual purity applies exclusively to women. Its presence conveys a message of sexual purity to both genders, just as the reproductive organs in both genders functions collaboratively.

The law of sexual purity unquestionably applies to both men and women. If you believe that God excluded men from the law of sexual purity and permitted them to fornicate, who are they supposed to fornicate with?

Can you even specify a verse in the Bible where God declared that virginity is exclusively for women or permitted men to engage in fornication?

Why are you even crying? I thought you were playing a game of assumptions. Hope you know that two can play the game?

Emekaphilip360:
There’s a reason why your kpekus is sealed by God. It’s only for your husband. You can’t have many body counts and you expect an innocent man to pay for your bride price. Your past matters as a woman!

Broke guys don't deserve a partner.
There is a reason why God told men to till the ground and provide for their wives. Your wife deserves to be treated like a queen. You can't be broke and expect an innocent woman to marry you. Your financial status matters as a man!

tochez24:
Tactics of a poor man♂️

Oga if you won Bleep a girl, when she visits you.... just make a move if she resists you, call another girl in her presence and if she starts coming!!!

Tell the bitch another girl is on her way that she should be going... if she realizes what she has lost that day i bet you next time she will behave herself.

Women make rules for poor and SIMple guys⚠️

Thank God wealth is not limited to men. Even a responsible broke woman will not tolerate the nonsense you are proposing.