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Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 10:07pm On Oct 07, 2019
djoe21:
Madam, there's nothing you can explain or quote. It is fallacy to state categorically like you did that women mature faster than men. You have no study to prove that. In fact, I have seen a study that proves that men age faster and yet it wasn't as conclusive as your statements.

You even said a 23year old female and male are not same wrt maturity; implying that the female is always more mature.

Firstly, what is your understanding of maturity? I can now see you are clearly limiting the meaning the word.

Secondly, you have not seen all male and female 23year-olds to draw such a conclusion.

Like I said earlier, you cannot categorically state your position. That is an unfounded generalisation.
Lol, you are not serious. You didnt ask me for a study, did you? https://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=175876 https://www.mic.com/articles/111226/science-explains-why-women-are-faster-to-mature-than-men https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/12/131219131153.htm

You mentioned sociology and psychology, thats why i talked about those

I dont know if youre being deliberately obtuse or what... of course its a generalisation..! Theyre traipsing all over the thread suggesting that all 30+ women who give birth look like grandmas, i dont see you castigating any of them for making generalisations. A generalisation is not necessarily false, depending on how you apply it

If i am making a short comment to answer the rubbish thats happening on the thread, of course i will imply things, it doesnt mean you should apply it to every single 23 year old man on the planet

You are just being purposely glib, for no real reason other than simple biology seeming to irk you
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 9:51pm On Oct 07, 2019
LocalNietzsche:
There is a twist. An interesting one. Female are more socialised than men or earlier socialize than men. But the immaturity of most men means in some cases they are more stupidier but in rare cases more intelligent than most men and women (I think is associated with something called latent inhibition and sexual selection theory). So the distribution goes: average woman is smarter than the average man. But when it comes to genius; men far exceed women in nearly all endeavor.
Interesting. You mean like a bell curve?
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 9:42pm On Oct 07, 2019
Jman06:
You failed this one Mr Adeshina!

Any lady up to the age of 18 is very due for marriage and can be married by any adult male of any age provided the both of them are in agreement.
So why is our age of consent 11 years old? Is it not an national and international disgrace?
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 9:32pm On Oct 07, 2019
micxwell:
Lol.... grin
lol youre laughing. Hope youre not taming anybody in your place...ontop this bad economic condition
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 9:31pm On Oct 07, 2019
eni4real:
Nice theories cool
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Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 9:31pm On Oct 07, 2019
fabiano09:
haha that's not true,no offence but why do people say women have fish brains ??
Lol i dont know, but if youre one of them please stop it oh
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f):
djoe21:
Does people saying it make it right? A fallacy doesn't become a fact because people are saying it.

Biology is not the entire constitution of humans. We are also psychological, social, to mention two. So when you talk about maturity, you do not limit it to biological alone. And even biologically, your position is not always the case. Except of course you are talking about prepubescence.
Just because you dont like it, doesnt make it a fallacy. you havent checked it, so you dont know if its false

Women stop being able to give birth after around age 50. Its very sad and nobody likes it, but its true. Does that make it a fallacy?

Psychology is a branch of biology that arises from both biological and social effects

In terms of sociology, female children are conditioned to be more mature than their male counterparts. You can observe it when girls are told to stay with their moms in the kitchen, have to be more particular about neatness and are scolded for rowdy or even licentious behaviour "because you are a girl"..while boys are allowed to get away with a lot more

It creates a hyper-responsibility in girls that still affects them into adulthood
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 9:21pm On Oct 07, 2019
fabiano09:
the man has to be older ,not the other way around
I know, i meant in terms of mentality, like you are 4 years behind
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f):
fabiano09:
true ,so my wife is probably like 15 now lol
Lol if your wife is 15 then *mentally* you are 11...women's brains are fully developed by age 21 while men's is age 25
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 8:47pm On Oct 07, 2019
LocalNietzsche:
You are absolutely right. For the female, survival means more that to a male evolutionary speaking. Because females are the only sex that can carry babies.

A nice fact: Humans have more female ancestors than male ancestors. A ratio of 2:1 for Female:male ancestors. Another way of putting it is, every female that has ever existed has successfully reproduced while only half the male had reproduced.
Yes, exactly. It's interesting right

And another fact: in times of famine or hardship, birth of males is suppressed to increase likelihood of survival because males are more likely to die without living long enough to procreate than females
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 8:46pm On Oct 07, 2019
djoe21:
I don't buy this your school of thought. I wonder why people keep saying it. It is not a given.
It's not a school of thought, it's biology. You can go and check it

It's also not a given that women look like grandmas at age 35 or after childbirth,so why do people keep saying it?
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 7:54pm On Oct 07, 2019
Paulo3ree:
I hope those are not just assumptions cause class performances says otherwise
No its true, you can go and check it

are you talking about secondary school classes?
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 7:41pm On Oct 07, 2019
Paulo3ree:
So both sex of same age have different brain development, that's to say the female will have more developed brain?
Not that females have a more developed brain. But female brains develop faster. The brain cells of female children begin to make more meaningful connections at an earlier age. After a while males will catch up

So yes, during early life and young adulthood, females have more developed brains
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 6:42pm On Oct 07, 2019
sammyonal:
what he meant was someone who he can control that's all.
Its ok as long as he is open to being controlled back... i dont think he would like to be married to a robot, right? Or somebody who has no mind of their own

Like on Nollywood movies... the child will be sick...the woman will sit at home crying all day and waiting for the man to come back before they will both go to the hospital....the child later dies... thats the kind of zombified "helpmate" you people want??

why not check if the woman has the kind of manners and orientation you want instead of writing all these diktats
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 6:32pm On Oct 07, 2019
friendlyadvice:
Woman no get sense na is it today you are noticing? That's why men use them anyhow they want cause they know they are nothing without men
Women use men and men use women the same... but women occupy a lower space in society so when they lose, they lose big.

After like 35 years + an unmarried man will also begin to attract insults

i am open to changing as per relationship matters but not being "tamed"...that sounds like abuse
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f):
friendlyadvice:
Very funny so you don't know women are animals that men have to control
I think both exhibit a form of control on one another...in fact all human beings in relationships exert a certain amount of control over each other

He said "mould" and "tame"... is it not terrible huh she is not a child...hope his spec is not reading.. smh...
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f):
Women get old fast, women blah blah...actually men take longer to mature...a 23 year old man and woman are not the same thing...they have different stages of brain development and maturation...so thats the reason to marry an older man, if you so choose.
Romance › Re: Akinwunmi Adesina: Stop Marrying Small Girls; Marry Your Age Mates by midnighter(f): 6:18pm On Oct 07, 2019
lilwetdick:
for men it is better to marry someone you can mode and tame to the woman you want
Cant believe what Im reading...Who and what are you taming? Is she a hyena huh
Romance › Re: Should I Break Up Or Continue With The Relationship by midnighter(f): 5:43pm On Oct 07, 2019
taiwozainab:
As for the tummy pain, I have same problem and I've been battling with it for almost seven years, we've done several tests and it all showed nothing was wrong with me
I used to have that..went for tests..nothing...now its completely gone...didnt even know when it left me sef

I think sometimes we just have to leave ourselves alone...maybe your own will be like mine...
Romance › Re: Should I Break Up Or Continue With The Relationship by midnighter(f):
Lol ....revelation ontop swollen appendix that could burst any moment....na real end of Bible story be that

Take her to the hospital if you have the money...she might be lying about it, dont see why somebody would play with their life like that

I havent read through all the replies but it sounds like she needs an abdominal ultrasound, first of all
Properties › Re: 'Mama Put' Causes Fire Outbreak In Enugu Park, Bus Burnt (Photos, Video) by midnighter(f): 3:06pm On Oct 07, 2019
Jaqenhghar:
Shithole. Open fire in public places then there is no fire department. If this shithole is the best Africa has to offer the world then its no wonder Africa is one major dump
There is a fire department on the other side of town..dont know if anybody called them
Properties › Re: 'Mama Put' Causes Fire Outbreak In Enugu Park, Bus Burnt (Photos, Video) by midnighter(f): 2:53pm On Oct 07, 2019
Gosh! but that place was always too crowded... i guess it was only a matter of time
Christianity Etc › Re: Sharon Oyakhilome And Phillip Frimpong Celebrate 1st Wedding Anniversary by midnighter(f): 12:40pm On Oct 07, 2019
MrsNwaAmaikpe:
shocked This trophy wife never still get Belle?

I don't trust her father sef ...he may have used her pants to get spiritual power
Nawao...hope you and your new husband go soon born??
Health › Re: I Have A Skin Problem, Please Advise by midnighter(f):
How is your diet...the cream is not going to work if you dont eat well. do you take a lot of oil, and fried food? what about fruit...

Is this thing only on your face or on other areas like your back, crook of your arms...

If you think its eczema, do you have any other allergies..or asthma..do you get easily sick/irritated by dust/cobwebs/flour...

Have you tried an emollient wash/cream? like cetraben, e45

If it comes back around the same time every year, do you mean during the cold months? When it goes away again and your face is clear, do you notice any other improvement anywhere else in your body...?

What is the source/quality of the water that you use to bathe... if the water is not too great, do you disinfect with ***a very small amount*** of dettol before bathing..

How often do you change your bedding and what detergent do you use to wash it...do you dry your bedding in a nice environment...?

It actually just looks dry and scaly...rather than pimply/inflamed...do you drink enough water...of good quality...?

It seems that you dont grow a beard but if you do, what do you rub on your face to shave it...

It started in your teenage years...your hormones are a part of it..plus some other factor...does anybody else in your family like your dad or elder brother have this...?

Have you always lived in the same area? When you move to a different town/place with different weather...does it still show up...?

After thinking about it it seems to be something to do with the weather + an added sensitivity from your own body. Or else something that you do every year that brings it out again...maybe a particular seasonal food you cant tolerate

Have you actually visited a doctor for this problem before...? somebody needs to examine your face up-close wtih a full history, and an explanation of your health and lifestyle before they can come up with the answer...
Crime › Re: Man Shot By Phone Snatchers Bleeds To Death In Zamfara (Graphic Photos) by midnighter(f): 11:05am On Oct 07, 2019
Hmm.. do we have doctors that do "black market" operations? in other countries they will take the gunshot/stab victim to the house of one dubious doctor to treat so that they will not have to file a police report
Romance › Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy That Earns N30k? by midnighter(f): 10:12am On Oct 07, 2019
ewo
Fashion › Re: Lord's Chosen Members Wed Without Makeup In Lagos (Photos) by midnighter(f):
abdullahi45:
Sure, but no one should be castigated from not decorating her face. Lol, the one we see now I doubt is an advancement of the ancient styles, but a new total deception. In the past, ladies used powder and pencil lead which doesn't really mask their looks, but the reverse is the case today. Maybe the one am talking about is extreme make-up.
Nobody should be castigated for not decorating their face but at the same time people shouldnt pretend that our ancestors were living in some kind of pre-colonial bubble where nobody cared about their appearance or chose to adorn or decorate themselves...it didnt just start now.. people shouldnt be made to feel bad for whats a normal part of humanity. Its just that you shouldnt rely on it or overdo it and fall victim to your own vanity

On the other hand the materialism of todays society has made it so that people feel a lot of pressure to pretend to be something they are not in order to keep up.. the "extreme make-up" is just a symptom of it

In my opinion the bride could/should at least have put on some light powder and lipgloss for the sake of her wedding occasion... not to do with make-up but to do with looking tidy and decent as a human being celebrating a special day and presenting herself as a bride to the world

In that vein you may as well say she shouldnt have bothered wearing wedding gown and should just wear her normal clothes to wed
Fashion › Re: Lord's Chosen Members Wed Without Makeup In Lagos (Photos) by midnighter(f): 8:15am On Oct 07, 2019
mikkyjagga1:
did our grand mothers and great grandmothers use make-up?
Our grandmothers definitely used make-up, it was just the native kind
Fashion › Re: Lord's Chosen Members Wed Without Makeup In Lagos (Photos) by midnighter(f): 8:12am On Oct 07, 2019
abdullahi45:
So, in the past when there was no makeup people don't get attracted to ladies right? Just because make-up is global now doesn't mean every one must accept it. Leave them to their decisions, at least don't judge them, not everyone love to be unnatural..
I agree with you to an extent but there has always, always been make-up. What we're seeing now is just a development of beauty enhancements from the past. Even our ancestors would not be plain on their wedding day, its in the nature of humans to decorate themselves
Fashion › Re: Lord's Chosen Members Wed Without Makeup In Lagos (Photos) by midnighter(f): 12:02am On Oct 07, 2019
fidelmarshal199:
I thought this joint marriage is only affiliated to the North. It has been imported to the west now
At least it will help people who cant afford to wed
Crime › Re: Man Shot By Phone Snatchers Bleeds To Death In Zamfara (Graphic Photos) by midnighter(f): 10:11pm On Oct 06, 2019
Those robbers are on serious drugs/alcohol/charms i doubt they even get what theyre doing
Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Accept This Job Offer Or Continue Job Hunting??? by midnighter(f): 9:29pm On Oct 06, 2019
highbee02:
Are u sure u are an Igbo girl? u typed in Yoruba. U have cajoled me
wink

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