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NuissancePolice:
What is then is the difference between girlfriend and olosho?

Girlfriend is leased and olosho is short-term hire...while your wife is your title deed.

Sniper101:
Not hurting anyone you say?

I'll have to wait until a gay approaches me and sets me on a 'kill mode' before I can say they're actually hurting people just by being who they are?

I can actually harm a gay for making passes at me you know.

Or you can just politely turn him down the same way we women have to turn down guys that we cant stand

You dont necessarily have to like someone to respect their humanity

NuissancePolice:
Is it boyfriend's job to give you money?

Yes na

So what then is his job

Sniper101:
This has nothing to do with the issue at hand.

But anyway, in such a situation, most people will rather die than let those "atrocities" save their life.

Well we can agree to disagree but i think you should loosen up. They are not hurting anybody by being themselves

bukatyne:
1. Ok

2. I said moving around is disruptive. I also said not all pastors are transferred out of their station. I also said some others are transfered in their locality e.g. They were worshipping at Gbagada and posted to Oworoshoki or Ogudu.

They don't need to move their families.

3. OK.

P. S. : a pastor's experience in RCCG is different from MFM.

Full time pastors and part time also have different experience.

The founding pastor vs the appointed/posted pastor have different tales.

2. Ok i get it now, you are right.

to your PS yes, they are all different, no doubt. But seriously a pastor is a pastor and a pastors wife is a pastors wife. Its clear that you are expected to adjust your life to some degree if you marry a pastor. They should have discussed this eventuality a long time ago, thats just my point

Sniper101:
If it's about being accommodating with the LGBT community you're talking about, then I'll rather remain archaic than be accommodating to such "things"

If you were ill (tufiakwa) and a transgender doctor was the only one available, would you complain?

You have to open your mind, what people do with their private parts is not anybodys business

JLM:
Never use these disrespective tone to refer to parents. They are like small gods on earth. No one can ever love you like them. If things go wrong with you everyone else will abandon you, the nairaland people here will not be there to help you.

Believe me , I am talking from experience. Have a heart to heart talk with your parents and trust their decision. They have seen far. Except by nature you know that your parents do not have fair character or sense of judgement. Believe me many wish they had listened and obeyed, especially ladies, of which I am one.

God help you

Yes but when things go wrong with your husband you will face it alone without your parents.

Sorry but for all those ones who wished they had listened, as many wish that they hadnt

Not everything parents do is completely altruistic. Some parents act selfishly because they dont want you embarrass them by marrying from the wrong place ( and before that, do the wrong job and before that, study the wrong course, go to the wrong university, etc.) Parents can use you to flex and if you dont spot their motives you are done for.

Plus with "typical" African parenting you are still a child no matter your age, so your opinions or feelings dont necessarily matter to them as much as theirs when it comes to serious issues

Sometimes the love is tied in with vanity and selfish interest, the OP needs to look at the situation objectively and not just blindly follow her parents. This is so important

spiritedtete:
If i hear mbaise... i go run too oo. It is not funny at all... i am sorry if anyone is offended by my "primitive statement" sha.

I go still run ....

To be honest when i get to know the origin of some people I cant help but avoid them due to the propaganda my parents drilled into me growing up..

Its not really good but fear just dey catch me

Sniper101:
Who gives a fvck about their feelings?

I know I don't.

you have to learn how to adapt to the changing times so that you wont become obsolete like CDs and floppy Disks

carlleung:
An old saying goes thus; if a snake crawls into your house and an mbaise indigene comes in too,first kill mbaise before snake.


Don't know if it's just a myth or a Caricature

Lol. Dr Sir warrior and kabaka...the 2pac and biggie of their time

see wetin dem don cause...

fatymore:
Sit them down and ask why?

People these days can't talk and sort out things physically, instead they run to social media to ask from people.


Ask them please.

You dont know some parents will not give you any tangible answer, they will just be shouting and cursing

Let her ask somebody, no knowledge is a waste

elsom:
Lol...why don't u try it...u might grow one

biko i dont want

Lol. it seems you havent heard...

But they cant stop you, if you trust yourself, go ahead. At least for the Mbaise people to exist until now, somebody must have married them and bore their children

So they cant all be 100% bad

But on second thought i find it hard to believe that you can be surprised at your parents reaction. I think my parents would sound like that too. maybe you grew up in a detribalised environment where you wont be hearing these stereotypes

Well to answer your question, in my mothers words

"Mbaise people are over-wise in marriage"

bukatyne:
1. My answer in my post. They are different things

2. I meant pastors and their families. Some are static even though full time. Others are rotated within the same axis so they are not moving the family.

3. While I agree they might have discussed it, the OP sounds like someone who shifts goal posts.

1. I dont see any difference and you havent explained it at all. Churches operate according to a belief in God so i do not see a difference there.

2. You said its very disruptive, now youre saying they are either static or not moving the family so I dont get you.

3. Its not about what he sounds like, he needs to tell us what actually happened before he starts complaining. I cant believe someone married to a pastor thought they would be in the same place for their entire married life and thought they could strong-arm him into staying where she planted a school just because she said so... everybody knows what a pastors life looks like

bukatyne:
A church appoints a pastor is different from God calling a man to be a pastor.

If you don't know the difference, you can't understand my post.

2ndly, not all pastor's wives move around.

It is actually very disruptive especially when the kids are younger.

Little wonder a lot of pastors can't train their kids.

For instance, the model of Peter or Philip's ministry was very different from Paul's who was single.

You arent understanding me either, how can a church appoint a pastor outside of God's will? If he is not up to the task, will they appoint him? If God calls somebody via his church, isnt that what the church is for?

as for your 2nd point maybe its because we attend different churches because I have never witnessed where somebody is transferred and the wife and kids dont join them, even when the person is transferred to the core north or some strange country everybody has to go there at least until kids are old enough to board if the schools in that place are not up to scratch.

Yea you are right about Peter but I am going according to what is practiced...the lady should have known what to expect, which is why i am asking OP if they discussed it before marriage

Emmymarvel:
Me dont understand shit...if u want our advice tell us d business both of u are doing then we can advice if both can prosper simultaneously or not

He is a pastor, she is the headmistress of a school.

He also teaches in the school, and hes the one running everything there, according to him because he is an experienced teacher

Now he wants to move his ministry but she doesnt want to go because the school is starting to become popular.

So he's asking for advice

bukatyne:
The husband been called by God is different from been transferred by his Church.

To me those two things are the same...the church is making a decision under God's guidance, no?

What i was trying to get out of the guy is whether they discussed this possibility before marrying...if they were on the same page then why is she so opposed to moving when thats what pastors' wives usually do

She's acting surprised that the guy expects her to pack up and move but thats what usually happens now..

if you dont like it then why marry a pastor

Sussan1:
I'm sure you did not resemble your dad the way the girls look so much like their dad.

Lol

The first one does more than the second. havent seen them before but Imade looks exactly like him...

26 with 3 kids and counting..

Davido the Wazobia man..

born yoruba, married igbo, procreated like hausa...

fireback:
God forbid

I dont think some of these monikers have real human beings behind them...just imagine

dominique:
All these days sha, when is national son day?

every day is son day...let's have our own for once...

MedicH:
On the first paragraph, HIV is not an exception in the general characteristics of a virus.

On the second, I do not know exactly where you got this from.

On the last I will tell you why it is necessary to worry about contracting the virus from a hair clipper. You see HIV virus is one that subsists in blood cells of hosts and hardly on body fluids except in people with a high viral load. What this means is that in using a hair clipper, hardly does blood come out as hardly is blood vessels ruptured in barbing and as a result one is not very likely to contract the virus. If a barber intentionally ruptures the blood vessel of an infected person with a hair clipper and uses the same clipper on another person, you simply have a transmission.

This is different from Ebola virus with a very high virulence such that u only need to inhale respiratory droplets of a person with ebola to contract.

People that share syringes are at a high risk of contracting HIV from infected users of same syringe because the needle punctures blood vessels and when it's pulled out of the body, some red blood cells harbouring the virus dies after a while and the HIV crystallises immediately. In a crystal form it can stay longer than u can imagine if there's no exposure to radiation like microwave, UV, gamma as it's done in sterilization.

1. Yes it is not an exception but it only survives under very specific conditions that dont apply to most everyday conditions so there was almost no point in you mentioning it,

2. How long can HIV survive outside the body? "Unless the virus is kept in a syringe under specific conditions, the true answer is not very long. Although it causes a serious incurable disease that can’t be inactivated by the body, HIV is very fragile in the environment outside one’s body. It quickly gets damaged and becomes inactive (“dies”) and unable to transmit infection when the fluid it’s in is exposed to air. Once it’s inactive, HIV can’t become active again, so it’s the same as if it’s dead."

"HIV can’t survive for long in the air. As soon as fluid leaves the body and is exposed to air, it quickly begins to dry up. This damages the virus, making it inactive. Once it’s inactive, HIV is “dead” and no longer infectious."

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-long-does-hiv-live-outside-the-body

3. You are really frustrating me, stop spreading misinformation!

If, for some terrible reason, a barber were to nick a HIV positive person whilst shaving, draw blood and then use the same clipper on you again without cleaning/sterilising it, in order for him to infect you, he would literally have to:

a. Scratch enough into the other guys head so as to get enough blood to constitute a high enough viral load for transmission
b. Keep the blood at stable, room temperature for long enough to infect you
c. Not use any alkaline shaving balms or soaps or creams on you at all, which would kill the virus
d. Start digging into your scalp deep enough such that you are openly bleeding from your head, and start splashing large volumes infected blood onto the open wound
i. Remember that when you bleed you push blood out onto the surface of the skin, so you would need to rub the infected blood into your own bloodstream to counter-act your natural blood pressure that is forcing it out

The chance of somebody being infected with HIV by a barbers clippers (though technically possible) is extremely negligible! If this were not the case, dont you think most of us would have died by now?

(You can catch a lot of bad diseases from dirty (hepatitis C)/ rusty (tetanus) clippers though, and i always bring my own needles to the salon just to be on the safe side)

4. I dont know why youre talking about syringes but you are right, HIV is definitely spread when people share dirty hypodermic needles because the blood in the syringe is not exposed to air.

madgoat:
Then how do you type on nairaland or handle a fone to read msgs here? Just curious

I was wondering too, paraplegic means he only has an issue with his legs

Quadriplegic means arms and legs

So his case is much better

Try networking with people at your church/mosque

Did you attend university? Didn't see anyone there?

ednut1:
my dear too much risk. It is not fully functional. Complications always arise. To control piss na issue. Last last it gets infected

Lol

Sleevia:
historically, they hardly want to remove their original organs lol. That is why they usually switch back

Also will the pennis work ? Where will the sperm come from? Lol

They use a special device to pump it when they want to have sex

No sperm. Actually there's a landmark Case in the UK where a transgender man got pregnant with his partner (a natural man) and they are fighting for the baby not to have a "mother" on the birth certificate...just two fathers or "parents"

ednut1:
the dik cant bleep as he no fit charge

They can buy a special device to pump it when they want to have sex

It was originally created for men suffering from prostate cancer

adedayourt:
Still doesnt change the fact that its a misleading headline

Yeah it's confusing but they have refer to him as he is comfortable

Sleevia:
it does change the fact that she can still get pregnant if bleeped. All these is just cosmetics lol

What if he has had a hysterectomy...

oloriLFC:
I hear a long time ago say dem dey do hormones too o

Yea he takes testosterone to change his voice, grow a beard and build muscles

adedayourt:
Misleading headline

How can a son transit to male.

It ought to be,

. . . . . daughter completes transition to male

He considers himself a son so he has completed his transition to male.

If you call him a daughter it is offensive to trans people

Enemyofpeace:
Where them get the breasts and pussy dey them fix there?

They removed his breasts already