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This thread is an indication you are not in the mental space to delve into marriage but the child must be provided for.

A Prince is born, congratulations to the family.

Are they realistic options to you?

Stephenmoka4:
He was alive and healthy with dreams and everything, we smile, laugh and do guys stuff together. I had to cry.

Tears are therapeutic, shed them. In addition to some earlier suggestions by others, look into writing a letter addressed to your late friend, get a plain sheet of paper and pen, feel free to pour out what you would have wanted your friend to know. You don't have to finish this letter writing at a sitting, it can take days or weeks. You should re-read it as often as you can and when you feel you are through with it, then you "send" it to your friend as a way of saying goodbye by burning it. The burning of it should be something solemn, a ritual of letting go.

I hope this method in grief therapy, would be of help as you deal with the death of your friend.

Messed himself up, now his family will have to bear the embarrassment.

'Remanded till January 20, 2021.....will be "crossing over" while in custidy.

The reconciliation before the camera is so superficial. The truth of the health of that marriage would be pronounced when the media attention shifts away from them, then they both would know if there was true remorsefulness and forgiveness, if none is feeling repressed.

It will be good if they can move forward by going for couple therapy where a certified professional will take it up and is not expected to be biased but serve as a human mirror to the couple.

Gammfreak:
Chaiii....Escet wey I been dey go during my university time to pick and Bleep babes....bleeped up to 12gals there.... I enjoyed sha

Did you receive a Nobel prize for it?

What were the graduands using all these years as a proof of having studied there? So over the years, the management of the College were boldly admitting students into their non-accredited courses

CHIMCO:
The man has moved on since and has no negative intention. If the Ex has which he cannot vouche for her but will still resist her if she tries any funny thing.

Resist, fire!

Yenefer:
Buhari just don't want to appoint someone from the south. Buhari is suffering PTSD Of what IBB and others did to to him. He protecting himself not Nigerians

PTSD, Haba!

CHIMCO:
No. They will go together but the wife will present the gift.

Why wanting to force a wife to meet up with an Ex in the name of the man wanting to be a "good person"...Abort mission and let each marriage maintain their lane. If you as a man cannot imagine your wife "swallowing her pride" to go meet up her Ex and his wife to collect foodstuffs from them then why is it okay in the scenario?

If the man claims he has no feelings for the Ex, can he vouch with his life that his Ex has no feelings for him? Abi no be the human person we dey talk about!

May their souls rest in peace.

Generalization is a dangerous mindset.

From the narrative, Ben and Ifeoma never had a Church wedding which means the Church can officiate Ben's intending wedding but that would be after he, ifeoma and their families thrash out the refund of bride price, what each should contribute to providing for their children etc then would they both be free to move on with other people.

Starting out a new family when a man is in his 50s is certainly not easy.

At10tion:
So this is what counselors do now? Sleeping with vulnerable women, unh?

The man in question is certainly not a trained and certified counsellor as it is against professional conduct to have a sexual relationship with a client.

In therapy, if the therapist feels sexually attracted to the client or senses the client is giving off "signal", the rule states the therapist MUST discontinue the therapy session with the client and REFER the client to another therapist.

In countries where counselling professionals are well monitored, this man's practice license would have been revoked and his name reflected on the association's website with sexual misconduct beside his name and declared Not Fit to Practice.

Good she remembered her mother.

Good they were caught.

CHIMCO:
Well Said. The husband tried to convince the wife of the need to assist but she wouldn't listen. Alleging a lot of things( you know women). Honestly no strings attached, just to assist since the Ex swallowed pride and called. The wife will do delivery of the items.

The wife will go deliver the items to the Ex, as who? It seems the husband has a huge appetite for trouble!

When you marry someone you do not trust or someone who do not trust you but got married to you, sharing ideas/intentions with the spouse feels like being drained of blood.

Exodora:
This is total bullshit .
Is going to church Africa culture in the real sense.

An attribute of religion is it being dispersal, just like the phone you are using and the English language you are communicating with as a result of western education are not products of our African culture.

Which kain infrastructural development?

Eyah you are still within the level of "sharing" meat.

I grew up with both, 2 older sisters and an older brother, have no preference.

CHIMCO:
The husband resisted at first because Of the Ex husband but the Ex assured him that her husband will not mind. She is trying to survive here.and no dirty things on the mind.(both sides)

Is it not expected that the Ex would give such assurance and can the husband boldly say the Ex first discussed her calling him with her husband? When it comes to the mind, there are no assurances because emotions are fluid. You know very well as a man, that you will feel uncomfortable with your wife re-establishing contact with her Ex to seek help because it makes her emotionally vulnerable with the Ex.

CHIMCO:
Is it proper for a husband to give a gift to his Ex. through his wife.

An ex called the husband that she has financial problems and that she needed foodstuffs.

The husband is planning to assist her this December through his wife but the wife said no no no and she is raising dust over it.

The ex was kind to the husband before he changed location and married the wife.

Please is there and problem in the above.

Let's flip it, as a married man how will you feel if your wife contacts her Ex to help her out with foodstuffs because you have no meaningful job?

Should your wife let you know she is contacting her Ex?

Will you as a husband believe that her contacting the Ex will be a one off thing?

How best do you think your wife's Ex can help without causing friction in his own marriage?

Is the Catholic Faith a security risk to you or is it in any way a stumbling block in your personal relationship with your Creator?

cynthia500:
lolzzz,
you are confusing us here

What is confusing you, shey na inculturation abi na chasuble?

Nice one. The Catholic Church strongly supports inculturation and it reflects with those ishi agu prints on their chasubles.

She is OK where she is.

OP, what you wrote there are clear signs of brain fog (you can read it up). Please don't ever take any antidepressant medication without first being clinically diagnosed.

Mabizela:
OP I will advise you to contact thatfairguy1. he just recently came back from Yaba left and he might be of help in your effort to regain your sanity

Being discharged from a psychiatric hospital doesn't make one a mental health professional.

porshnuel:
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Just as your name implies ....I can only say you are blessed....so get d Bleep off my mention

Am glad you got so embarrassed by what you saw in the mirror, that you had to go edit your thread title and delete your original post/first post after realizing you demeaned yourself.

And by the way, redpiller no be work e no dey pay rent!

Have a nice life!