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First and foremost, you are living with the toxicity within yourself and you have to confront it first before you can nurture the esteem to deal with your present predicament.

You are not his wife neither is he your husband, you just share a child and you give off the vibe you are comfortable with the co-habitation likewise your mum, if not your family in extension.

You both should come up with an arrangement for co-parenting. Your baby daddy's mother have no right when it comes to the custody of your daughter, so let your family make arrangements to get somewhere you will stay before you can re-unite with your mum.

The alternative you have is to continue with the co-habitation, he either kills you or you kill him, one of you in the grave while the other behind bars while both families fight over your daughter.

Hmm...

omopapa:
Oh interesting, never knew you could start from band 7 thought it’s either 5 or 6.

Notwithstanding band 7 hourly rate is still £19.89/hr

Although, you can get more with private organisations or agencies but job security is very important.

Example is with this covid-19 era most private companies have laid off their staff and agency staff have been forced to terminate their contracts.

You are right, one needs to put job security into high consideration. I believe one can work for a CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services) of a NHS Trust and still be eligible to take on private clients in addition to the paid employment when one is free as I have read many play therapists do there.

Another tales by moonlight.

justwise:
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Lower your expectation else you will be shocked to find out that very very few graduates earns £25/hr and you must be good to earn that much in very early of your career.

Thanks for your input. For what I intend to practice, I will have to be working about 25hrs weekly (about 25 therapy sessions). From the income, am expected to pay for my own regular personal therapy and also paying for my supervision. One supervision session will cost me not less than £40.

omopapa:
I understand you said “personally” but be mindful that even NHS band 5 (graduate entry) is at £12.74/hr only rises with experience up to £15/hr

Thanks for the insight. Upon graduation, I intend to practice as a Play therapist and the attached is guiding me.

Re-assigned.

They give birth to children they have made no provisions for.

Be grateful for whichever you have been blessed with.

SPOLO:
i swear believe me except if it hadnt happend to u.
I was having dysentry that day i visited the toilet 5 times.
I tried all my best not to break my fasting that day.
My body became weak so after i broke my fastinng in the evening i went to doctor thats my neighbour he gave me an injection and pescribed the drugs together with Flageen.


That ciprotab use to be recomended for people with fever and typhoid.
Pls go and make a research about it or read the menu inside u will see the effects to the body.
It also treat patient with fever and not infection only

Stop swearing, you can go ask your girlfriend(s) for help, after all you were spending on them or is relationship all about sex.

STENON:
I think it's time for everyone to be very blunt on this forum. Travelling to UK for some irrelevant courses is just out of it. Please if you have money to spend, spend on something that can secure good future for you and your family . Go for courses that is an Avenue for good life. Getting 8-11 p/hr work after graduation is nothing to survive, settle down, get a car/ house and live a comfortable life.

Shuddering at the thought of getting paid 8-11 p/hr work after graduation, after all the investment! Personally, after graduation anything less than £25/hr as a starting wage will make no sense to me.

Genoa:
That woman is barren for goodness shake.

May we not marry and Abortion specialist IJN.

I do empathize with you knowing where you are operating from as the abnormality in the chemicals in your brain is the root cause of what you are spewing, which is a clear symptom of schizoaffective disorder. Make sure you locate the nearest psychiatric hospital because after assessment, you will certainly need a prescription of Invega.

ahnie:
I have discovered that my little son of 3yrs is a mobile walking food bank.
All he does is to eat,eat,eat and eat.....and his head is also getting bigger.


My grudge against him

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Boy!!! I can't stand the steps of his poopoo
Whenever he's pooing.
And whenever I complained of the stench of his poopoo...he tells me to hide my face.
Or wear face mask.

You cannot send him to run simple errands He must complain.
Ohhhh mummy am tired,mummy I'm busy.

Busy doing what?

Since you said she can stand and hold the chair or any object and be walking/leaning on it then rickets is ruled out as the probable cause. I will advise you to have her favourite music played then you, the mum and the sister dance to it in the middle of the room with no object around, she would want to join and the brain would gradually pass the message to her legs that it is okay to move away from the object of support, it is a gradual process but consistency is very important.

It is not yet a thing of concern and do note that siblings' developmental milestones will not be the same as each child is unique.

Hmm.....I shudder at the thought.

Sighs.....

kuuljay:
where are you I can get you connected maybe you can help

Unfortunately, I am presently not in Nigeria.

kuuljay:
she refused to be tested and threatened the medical personnel that came to her so they left her alone,no doctor is happy having to deal with a suspected case that his or her character is unstable

Then there is need to get a psychologist involved, I work in a psychiatric hospital and I know the role the psychologists play in seeing that the patients agree to take the medication the psychiatrist has prescribed.

Make your own informed decisions, live your own life and ignore the rants of people who have fixations they yet to deal with but opt to use displacement as their defence mechanism.

Has she been re-tested? Is she still positive? What is the NCDC position on her case?
Being "locked up" under such circumstance can be mind altering.

Is the civil service not bloated?

Both at the Federal and state levels, there need to be toll free lines and certified therapists at the other end to listen to people who wants to unburden as many are dealing with issues that needs a listening ear while sensing not being judged.

Be bold enough to go against the tide, to avoid going through a "second missionary journey" to achieve your dream profession.

gsk4reality:
If the person is employed and is now on Tier 2, it is possible ..yes I think so

Thanks. Yes, someone had earlier confirmed same.

southniyikaye:
you can train yourself to correct this notion

Which notion?

Sighs.....

Hmm....all I see are petri dishes, the coming weeks will be scary with positive results.

otipoju:
One of the things I have learned in the last one year is to say a simple NO. Without looking at your face.

I have some people I have come to see as proffessional beggars. Always needing or having one problem or the other every six months...dem no dey shame. Once you give them once, they will always be coming back till Jesus come.

Funny enough those who have contributed positively to my life dont bother asking me for any money.

Nowadays I give to the person my spirit wants to give...giving feels good but not to those who think they are entitled to your own money.

You are right by saying NO.

For both men and women, when intending to get married observe how the guy's father treats the guy's mother while men should observe how the lady's mother treats the father because behaviours tends to be learnt, consciously and unconsciously. Irrational behaviours of parents tend to be normalized and children take such scripts into relationships and ultimately, marriage except for some who intentionally recognize those behaviours, challenge them and set motions for intentional change.

yelei:
Thanks for your response.
One More thing, is the conversion course compulsory?
Cos I saw a school that accepts Applicants for MSc health psychology if they have a background in health related course like nursing or public health but haven't been registered with the British psychology society.

Also, would this not be an issue when job hunting?

I will encourage you to go for the MSc health psychology if you meet the criteria. I took health psychology as a unit in my undergraduate studies and I can tell you it is worth specializing in it.

MMotimo:
Mba, I no dey do but threads like this are along the same line so he who has ears should listen.

During this 1 month lockdown, for anyone that has had to beg and/or lie to feed their kids, this is the wake up call you’ve been waiting for that you are not doing well financially and need to stop/suspend having more kids.

Unfortunately, they will have more kids because of the irrational belief that God would send helpers their way.