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vickydevoka:
Toto is not any sweet. It's de cum that is sweet. Your mindset n imagination towards something determines how u handle it. If u see toto as everything it will becomes everything.
How can a man will be receiving 100k and a lady will be receiving 150k ( de both reside in Abuja). The man will be de one spending heavily on de gal. Why can't he leave relationship and develop himself n try to grow. If he wants to go into relationship look for someone that has same Vision with u n is ready to grow with u. Why can't men have Sense. My pastor will tell u that , "use de energy in chasing a gal to chase Money. Most men dat fall for dis are even de handsome guys. One meet me de begin say village people de follow am.

You want men to leave women and only chase money instead of advising your fellow Nigerian women to stop putting eyes on man's money, get a job and spend their own money on themselves. Only Nigerian women lack this in the whole world.

If men leave women alone, do you think women will like it that way? It will be easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than to see the Nigerian woman who will grow with you in the present Nigeria.

vickydevoka:
I don't mean all men. Most men. How normal human being go forget him family members bcus of toto. Most men do dis

You are very correct. Toto na the sweetest thing to such men. They can do anything for Toto. One of my guy say he fit even tell Jesus to wait if he dey cum when Jesus dey come.

However, some different guys like me dey o. We understand say girls like d.ick very well too (some na even more than guys like Toto sef). We dey f.uck free without spending anything.

Most guys no just get the OT to get girls for you to be both enjoying yourselves without spending anything as a guy. Girls have seen that weakness in most guys and they are using it to their advantage.

socialmediaman:
Feminism is misunderstood by many Nigerian women who advocate for it. I also do not agree with certain parts of feminism, especially the ones that advocate for equality of leadership in the household. I will get back to feminism in a moment, let me address something in the next 2 paragraphs.

Our parents understood there is something called role play in the house. The man is the head of household whether he makes less income or not. The decisions should be made by him after due consideration with the wife, but that responsibility should be left to him for the good of the home.

It’s like CEO and CFO. The CFO is the person who does the finances, and advises the CEO on budgets, expenditure and income. But the CEO is empowered and trusted to make decisions for the company. In the home, the man is the CEO while the wife is the CFO. If you don’t think your man should lead your family, don’t marry him, stay single or find someone else. You stifle the man’s ability to lead when you continue to contest leadership of the home with him. Many of us make more money than our parents yet we allow them to lead and make decisions, but in the home we want to lead our husbands.

Back to the topic of feminism. When it comes to equal pay, right to inheritance, right to vote, right to lead in organizations, right to be respected as humans, right of social association, I think many men already subscribe to feminism, though many Nigerian men struggle with that. Women should be able to have nights out with their friends and colleagues, belong to social and political groups etc but you see those household chores like doing dishes and laundry, vacuuming, cleaning and making food available? It’s her job, just like most men do the trash, wash the car, do the yard work and also help out sometimes

Anyway, feminism is about being treated fairly though the advocates almost always want to go beyond what it is, which is why many men oppose it. It’s a game, feminism will likely never be accepted by men because it threatens their role in the society and they not it’s not not just about equity, it’s something more. Nigerian feminism is worse, it’s about challenging gender roles on a platter of entitlement which is why it may never succeed.

My problem with the Nigerian Feminism is that even outside the Home, Nigerian feminists don't know how to avoid being mannerless, toxic and wicked.

I will keep saying it. The devil is out to play another game with the Woman using Feminism, like the Apple story in the garden of Eden.

Feminism is questioning God's order.

ityP:
Stupid take. Twitter is no party to any government, it's a personal blogging company. There are terms and conditions to using the app. If you post a tweet that calls for self harm or the harming of a person or group of persons, regardless of who the Bleep you are, if it's reported, it would be deleted. If you continue on such path, your account may even be suspended or banned. Twitter is not bothered if you use other social media platforms to spew hate. It just would tolerate it. Same thing applies to nairaland. It is a personal forum. If Buhari comes here and sends a vile, hateful and reckless message, direct to Nigerians or a select group of Nigerians, if it's reported, he will be sanctioned. He can decide never to use nairaland or in this case, Twitter. And that's his fucking business

Brilliant submission

greggng:
The response here reminds me of Nigeria . A country where one part of the country sees nothing wrong in ruling at the detriment of the others . As a man that believes in fairness ..,I am 100 percent with pere on this one . White mobey told the whole world that he doesn't cook at home...so is he now using bbn as a training ground? He is simply fake and strategic ...he lied ...cooking for many people takes some kind of serious practice ....is not something u do without practice ...otherwise house mate would 've being complaining about the quality of the food. At the end of this program white money fans will be disappointed how fake he is

BBNaija itself is a game won with strategy (whether fake or real). So, no fan who knows it will be dissapointed my dear.

Kuriosmynd:
With respect to the reality Tv show, BBN, If you wish hate on Pere, I like him for seeing that bullshit and calling it out. How many Nigerian men will stay in kitchen all day, all week cooking where there are countless ladies playin about.?

It takes a man with balls, wit and gut to stir that house and disrupt that kitchen monopoly being weilded by WhiteMoney, while other house mates are acting like a family zombies.
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BBN is a game, not a place for acting with herd mentality. Stir things up, that makes it interesting
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Doesn't make sense for a man to be in kitchen all day all week, when there are ladies everywhere in the house. If it's a strategy, then it's a smart strategy for another housemate to see through it and quash it.
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And if it's not a strategy, game aware men shouldnt encourage such kitchen monopoly, as it gives undue advantage to the person holding the monopoly, unless all other housemates are too dumb to know BBN is a game where 90 million is at stake. And all is fair, if within the house rules, in such game of one winner.

It's not a question of hatred...it's a matter of being smart to see certain moves that are trying to play on the intelligence of other players

In all matters of the house, White Money has been playing on the intelligence of other housemates, who are too dumb anyway. Even viewers aren't seeing it WhiteMoneys strategy.
.Pere sees it

Will the new selected cooks win the heart of viewers or votes? Whitemoney came with a strategy. BBNaija is a game. Pere should play his own game. He can be washing the Housemates' clothes as a strategy. There are different strategies anyone can use.

They have issues - the struggle for Maria and how Whitemoney almost exposed his Wildcard status. Relieving Whitemoney from the kitchen was pure hatred.

Who can help me confirm if that guy in the fourth picture laughing truly has links and sells Fixed games. He is King Henry and a big boy.

Juliusmomoh:
I will personally advice anyone who want to start business with ibaji people to venture into "yam" business. Yeah with 'yam' business, you can't loss your capital. Just ask anyone you knew from idah how many tons of 'yam' were heading to igbo land every season.

How much can someone start with? Minimum capital. Profit dey am well well abi? Igbo no get land to use anyhow for farming. Land na gold there.

In my school days, I hear one gist say Idah near Igboland very well. I don forget the neighboring Igbo state wey I hear.

The Drip is like an ocean.
#Opòr

Juliusmomoh:
We have many security here now in idah. If you form cultist, na u sabi. 32 persons was killed and dumb into the river. Just ask anyone you have living in idah..... 9 was recovered by some ibaji fishermen. ..... Yeah, our problem na money which i think that one na general problem. .... Attah igala case na cruise e be. Imagine four brothers fight for who to emerge the throne. And if they fail to choose within themselves who is going to be the next attah within two years (according to tradition) , they should forget about throne. Cos another clan will find someone to emerge the throne. ..... Igala land don spoil. Una wey de lagos own better.

If I wan use Ibaji connection to invest money into farming or sale of food crops, e go make sense abi? Or wetin you think?

Which business you fit advise somebody to invest in?

Not him.
Morata is.
Morata may appear slow. But he is very handsome.

This opportunist is a senseless m.oron. Paying workers 6k, 4k no project and you want to contest for president because you are a youth not because of good works.

Juliusmomoh:
@ MNDY ... Omo see question . Ok lemme answer some.... Yeah i can testify to dat, ayingba na cultist dem sabi. But idah own bad pass. Ayingba boys still de learn work for where idah boys de when it comes to cultism. Can you imagine 32 boys was kill on 7th.. And was trown into the river for celebrating 7:7. .. I wonder why e never come nairaland fp yet. ..... Yeah we have free food from waterside, we don't buy it cheap, we got it free.... Just help them park out from boat, and your life will never remain thesame. . And again water don de come now, so their farm produce plenty. Just help them pack inside boat, and you will have what to eat a month. We will just enter boat, enter ibaji, go to their farm, help them small. Then when comin back, na dangote u be. Yes we sell some. ..... Attah igala isuee have become something else for kogi now o. Four people (four families) are fighting themselves because of who to mount the throne . And the four of them has access to it. We can't choose anyone yet.

Jesus Christ! 32 boys? I bin hear say Idah don make law to kill any criminal or cultist.

Wow...una no fit hungry nau. Na money be una only problem be dat nau. Ibaji dey help una ministry very well fa. No be small enjoyment una dey o, I'm jealous.

Make una try choose better Attah o. Igalaland need serious cleansing.

Juliusmomoh:
But u really fuckup o.. Look at idah, and look at ugwolawo. Just 49 min journey if una motor fast.... Idah develop pass ayingba, just dat ksu is located at ayingba. Na wetin make ayingba develop small be dat. Leaving in idah is good o compare to ayingba because for u go see free food chop if u go waterside. Ibaji and idah share dsame bondary, so food no be our problem like dat... Ankpa has big men living there but hunger wey de there fit remove person eyes. . Light no be our problem for idah. If u go G.R.A idah e be like say na V.I you de.

I must know Idah and Ankpa when I return to Igalaland. I don put am for mind since. I small when I dey Ugwolawo. Na why I no fit travel to go know Idah then be dat.

I sure say Anyigba big pass Idah and Ankpa sha and our light sef don dey try small small now. Anyigba big and deep wella, even me son of the soil fit lost in some parts of Anyigba. Hunger dey Anyigba too o. Our boys na cult wan finish dem. Cultism don take over Anyigba.

How you fit see food chop from waterside and Ibaji? Abi you mean to buy am very cheap from Ibaji? I know say Ibaji get food sha, especially yams.

Una still neva select a new Attah-Igala up till now? Wetin happen?

jbreezy:
So the story goes like, my gf and I have been dating for 2 years now. I really love her cos she's so interesting, extremely caring and so good to me. She's a pretty one too. So I finished school ahead of her (We were in same school).

But we couldn't let each other go because we already love each other, so we continued the romance. I loved her after and I really gat plans to marry her even though I'm like 5 years older than her. I was going to wait till she finishes school (She was in 200 level when I left). So I went to visit her in school and out of curiosity, I checked her whatsapp chat...I read her chat with her very close friend (the best place to find the truth) Well well well...There was this gist about her having sex with a friend. Then another was about her trying to date a guy..It really broke me, but till today, I haven't challenged her...

Actually, I would have broken up if I dont love her up to this level cos I hate it when I'm being cheated on... But I don't think I'm ready to lose the girl..

So I met a very pretty lady lately... We've been talking and she's really been giving me all the greenlight a normal guy needs to see... This one is more mature (I felt like my gf is still probably at what y'all call the hoeing stage cos she's 21)... So I've been contemplating on leaving her for this one, by bringing up the cheating part (something like a chess game)...

Seriously, I still think I love her, and would have married her if she didn't do that... So I'm lost between challenging her and giving her another chance (cos she's going to obviously beg) or challenge her to leave her...Thanks and sorry for the long essay

I read an intelligent piece yesterday related to this. The writer analyzed how a prostitute sleeping with men for money is better than a woman who sleeps with another man because her spouse starves her of attention, care and sex.

Juliusmomoh:
No ...
I have them at idah my hometown

E be like say Idah go make sense pass Anyigba fa. I don hear dat yarn from people mouth very well. Fine fine houses by rich Idah sons and daughters.

I also hear say Ankpa bam pass Anyigba wella. But I no visit the 2 places to confam am before I finally comot.

Juliusmomoh:
No ...
I have them at idah my hometown

E be like say Idah go make sense pass Anyigba fa. I don hear dat yarn from people mouth very well. Fine fine houses by rich Idah sons and daughters.

I also hear say Ankpa bam pass Anyigba wella. But I no visit the 2 places before I finally comot.

Sense and Sharp IQ.

Juliusmomoh:
Yea..
Ksu

OK
You no get relatives in Anyigba?

Iceyjayz:
Feeding off simps

Lolz
You had to correct him

Juliusmomoh:
Ogwu-oko ? God forbid o ... U know say i no fit do money ritual na..
But come to think of it, God no de answer prayer quick quick nowadays again...omaye relax money go come

You know Anyigba very well ba?

Juliusmomoh:
Better days ahead ? ...
E be like say i go carry bike go meet am o .. Wetin carry am go ahead ? And am still here ? ...... Omaye, you would not belive i accidentally pray a wrong prayer today ... I said 'lord if na butter de delay my daily bread, bring am i get beans'..... Me sef shock.

Hahahahaha....funny guy!
No go do ogwu-ókó fa.
You better wait for God's time.

Juliusmomoh:
Na my phone i take learn graphic design. But when i came to lagos to visit a friend, boom. Lagos boys rob the hell out of me . I no wise by then. . Since then, i just de look for way to take get laptop. But guess what. Local man is damn broke ... Since am alive, na my motivation be dat. Omaye things no easy o.

E go better.
Better days ahead.

Ogbotobo77:
It is not a man's duty to retain a woman...a man's duty is to attain a woman...a woman's duty is to retain the man post-sex...and how do u do this?...STAND OUT..how do u stand out from other women?...add value in his life...be an asset not a liability...when u do this,a man's interest amplifies....women control access to sex..men control access to commitment and marriage...men have done their part to get the sex...it's the woman's turn to gain a man's commitment and ring

Gold input from a psychological angle.
Unfortunately, women think doing all that would amount to desperation.

Pharaoh4rin:
There's nothing complex about women. They are allowed by gentlemen to have their ways doesn't make them complex. The word "gentleman" is designed to relegate a man to a controlled situation. It's a crap and nonsense.

I have no RIP to waste on any "gentle"man who gets killed by a woman because of leave-am-na-woman. Before it even gets to that, every man should at least be no-nonsense natured. That could even save him.

frozen70:
You guys should learn to understand women

They have a complex nature

Only men who care to understand can survive them

With the way things are going, that complex nature is getting out of hand. You depress a man because you think you can badmouth very well or kill him because of "leave-am-na-woman."

My neighbour is now almost a single mother with her husband still alive and still married to her. The man has been away for months now leaving her with the kids. She has been calling him and wanting him back. She must have driven him away with her toxicity.

cooltola:
Challenge of being a woman in today society- if u are not married at certain age, u know how far.
If u are married and you have not given birth, you know how far.
If you have given birth, when are you going to have another child?
If u are successful in Naija , u must be sleeping with someone which is very false
If u talk back or fight back when u are being harassed, then u are considered rude and disrespectful.
It is okay to take a cheating boyfriend or husband because at the end of the day boys will be boys- a woman has to sit down and deal with such men because boys will be boys.
If u born and the father of your kids run away , then u forced to take of your kid on your own.
It is not easy for a woman also . My advise to young women, avoid toxic and irresponsible men so your life will not be miserable. Your life will be better

Rubbish and out of point.

WHAT OF MEN?

If you are broke and poor, you don't have a voice.

Do you know the painful hustle & struggle men go through to make money?

If you are the first born male, responsibilities will finish you.

FORWARDEVERLY:
Lol..
I remember when I dey do NYSC for UYO..
One day I dey bus from PH to UYO..
Driver come dey drive nonsense, na em I caution am in a humane way..
Em no reply me but some young ladies started ranting that i should leave the driver to drive as he likes and bla bla bla..
Naso me blast Dem.. Dem blast me.. naso we exchange words till we reach ikot ekpene, almost close to UYO as the journey continued..
We were only 3 men in the bus excluding the driver...
The ladies were all shocked that I didn't stomach their abuse but returned fire for fire.. I cursed their mothers and fathers.. their stinky cunts and whatnots...
Lol..
E shock Dem.. just as the poster said, when you keep mute, it has a way of making you depressed in the long run, abuse of any kind do affect mental health..
And I would never have anyone either male or female abuse me..
Dem think say I go form gentle man corper.. cos I was wearing the crested polo abi na verst.. me no send.. I Sabi speak all three languages, I curse Dem for hausa, igbo, Yoruba, Pidgin and also fluent English language.. plus small Ibibio too..
I got nothing to prove to them cos I no my self worth, i engaged them thoroughly and defeated all of the ladies in the bus in the war of words.. cos my insults was So Vulgar and laced with Enough body shaming, height shaming, skin shaming and sexual organ curses.. lol..
And I use to travel with that company frequently every two weeks to UYO..
Anytime I meet some of them for park or Bus, don't even recognize them.. I no send anybody na Dem go dey hail me.. Corper Corper.. I go say, do i know you?? Dem go say.. you remember that Bus that day..
Dem go laugh come tell me say make I take am easy say my blood too dey hot..
My dear..
E come be say woman slap me..
I go kill am and go to jail with a smiling face.. Wallahi, I go annihilate am..
Nobody has the Monopoly of madness..

Like BBNaija Tochi in the reunion giving that girl back to back with bad mouth. Women generally think say no man fit use bad mouth pass dem. Exactly what BBNaija reunion girls are doing - Badmouthing and trying to use the guys get star with badmouth.

I just dey pray for the day one idio.t girl go hit me first in private or public, if I no kill person na rush am dem go rush am go hospital.

LadyRosa:
Hmm...

The challenges of being a man in a modern world is the aftermath of precautionary measures the west and other civilized communities has put in place to reduce the brutal roles men played in women's lives in time past. Women have always been at the receiving end of men's egotistical excesses.

" Na woman she be leave am", may also be a reverse psychological to restrain men who on a normal day would never fight their fellow men standing on the street. I have seen men argue at moto parks, swear and curse each other, flex muscles as to what damage they are likely cause to each other, only for them to settle their disputes, go home and beat up their wives, sisters for issues as little as not putting enough meat on their meals.

Funny thing is many Nigeria men will always defend any brutality that will affect their mothers and sisters from their gender, but will want to exercise same thing to other people's female gender. If the thing dey vex you if them beat your mother like thief, why you come won beat another person pikin like thief. Talk about hypocrisy.
Una just won hustle, _4ck, let the woman born, If she no born push am comot carry another, beat them if them talk pass their mouth like the old days?! Na this modern times has really set a good precedence, and in no distant times I see pro women laws sweeping over the entire black continent. That time to do anyhow because say Una get _preek Don pass. These Era olosho dey slaughter billionaires like chicken...that fear e be like say e don dey comot for this generation of women body. After all Agbaya wey expose him big hairy white blockus for small girl hand gats no complain if she set the 'bush' on fire when the _preek 'spit' for her body.

I'm not here to advocate for women who throw the first punch, it's insane to want to fight that kind of battle, but we all know that men usually, more often throw the first punches. You all want a woman who don't nag, who swallow your _bullshiit just so the avoid those punches, you know you just want to get away with being a bully, messing up and expecting the emotional hurt to be swallowed like it's nothing BUT, you can't take half of what you dish if the roles are changed.

Guess what? That time is long gone.
Now women get to _4ck and cheat even better than you do. And you now get to wail and gnash your teeth all over the media. Now you get to open threads lamenting on how we sleep around and why you're gonna opt for being a baby papa as if you still gats to get away with it. Boy, you go Stull hustle bring money for your children and your baby mama go still squeeze some from the money to look good enough to _4ck another man. And if you tlak too much or won get strong head, at your old age when your bones are frail and your _preek looks like the hopeless remains of an overgrilled hotdog, we may get to decide if your children visits you or not.

You guys should stop crying foul, women have been through hell and still trying to manage their lives amidst societal expectations. From being called olosho even if their hustle legit, to being called old hag, then Evening newspapers even to the good ones who's dedicated their lives to their careers, to all manner of demeaning names, yet e no do Una. Make Una rest abeg.

Next complainant please!

For your mind now, you don yarn enough sense. Can you beat a man? What percentage of women out there can beat a man? Women are becoming brave bla bla bla. Na only dis mouth una get.

Stay on your own nau if you no like how men dey do anyhow make we see who go suffer am pass - MAN or WOMAN. Man wey na him come carry you from your papa house and spend on you you say make he nor get control over you.

Instead of working hard to keep their man, women of this modern age are struggling to be seen as the men. What did women suffer in the past that you are saying modernity is changing? Rather, there was peace and harmony among couples in the past because each gender took his and her own place.

Una better be careful because if it gets too much and men start facing una squarely, e nor go funny for women fa. You say men dey do anyhow but na woman still dey cause am.

Juliusmomoh:
Agbero ke ..
Omaye, so make people no call me agbero make i con de carry dictionary de type abi ?
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No work yet oo, and to make things worst no money... Travelling plan suspended.... Am even looking for laptot to do learn how to do graphic design sef... Very lucrative job here in idah.

Hehehehehe. You go be one very jovial person fa.

How I wish say I dey Igala-land, I for come Idah to meet you.

Lagos na "eju-enè" place. So, almost every Lagosian dey speak and behave polished apart from Agberos.

You don graduate ba? Try find somebody to teach you the graphics and typing very well before you start the business. Na wetin sustain me for KSU too. You go know KSU nau