LD's are very hard. I am in one and we are making it. It takes a huge commitment, it is the greatest emotional and spiritual commitment that I have ever had. I konw if we survive this we can survive anything. I think it is well worth it if your looking for a life mate. One thing I like about it is that in our letters and phone conversations, your more free to express how you really feel, because it seems that social barriers are let go. So LD allows for more openness, so you can really let the person know how you feel about things. Seems to be less reservations. I believe it also builds a better foundation for a relationship. I believe, if you guys make it your will be strong.

One of the greatest values I learned of LD is you learn not take the simple things for granted. For me even to hold my partners hand or a kiss has great relevance. LD tempers the heart. We both have learned how to really appreciate the other. We are not in an open relationship. We are committed. Sometimes I think how easy it would be to walk away. But my partner's strength and commitment feeds you and your strong again. We have invested a lot of energy into our relationship. It is well worth it and is greater value than anything in the world. When things get tough, we return to our relationship to draw on its strength. Sometimes you have to fight for you relationship. Like some post here are discouraging or worldly. But love is beyond the grasp of the world, so find the strength to live beyond worldly worries or fears. Eventually, you will discover the whole world will revolve around your relationship. Just think about it, think about how society and the world is set up. Everything is made more for pairs. You will begin to see life as it accommodates the two of you. So I am cheering for you. If you and your partner believe, I will believe also. Assume you will make it and it will happen.


Good luck

In your future I see friends with benefits. I hope to be a guy friend of yours for some late night booty call. Sorry it is hard to hear, but that is how guys think. So cut it off and save your love for your future soul mate.

Your friend did you a huge favor. Keep him around for any future women that you are considering. Don't take things so personal, it was not meant to be. Get over your hurt feelings. Consider youself blessed, you just dodged a bullet, your friend saved you.

Crazy people, Move on with your life. Don't look back, just go forward. Life to short to hang on or make amends of the past. Past is dead. kick the dust off your boots and leave it all behind.

your allowed to beat your girlfriend? Nigeria has some weird customs. Oh well, maybe your women are dedicated, cause they been taught to be a whipping post.

Anyways, sounds like a trust issue. Or bf not spending enough time really loving you. These kind of behaviours are fear based. Mayby someone cheated on him in the past, or maybe he is afraid of loosing control. Who knows, either way fear based love is not love. It's more of a love of himself and his own identity. It's a selfish love.

You should re eval your relationship. Don't get married, until you know he can really love you.

Give me a break, so many Judgmental people worried about baggy clothes? What makes your attire right? Some western society view? So many people here have been culturally conditioned, domesticated, up tight, walk straight light you got a banana up your butt, Cherrio, good day sir, pardon me. blah blah blah western society. I wonder what you would think of your ancestors, if you saw what they wore. Do you call them savages?

Ok in Texas, its ok to date, but I would not; however, I was once accused along with other three other men of having sex with a minor in the state of Louisiana. The only thing that saved me was that my father always told me never to mess with jail bait. I was 19, she was 17; I steered clear of her, and never was alone with this girl. The police arrested the other three men.

I'm just saying hey man, just wait until she is a legal adult or you have parental consent in writing. Follow the law, I know guys get away with it, but still Y risk you life.

Yeah, sad pathetic truth, beautiful woman will only value a man with money. If your average or low income, go for the ugly ones. They appreciate you.

Oh please, Give me a break!!! BBW is hot not be choice, that's the only choice left. Women and men alike getting tuby everywhere, eating all ."those carbs and junk food. We are a society of Fat people. What next, you going to ask," why do Nigerian Abroad love women with diabetes."

she focused numb nut, what you expect. She is bettering herself. Sheesh stop being so selfish, thinking of your self all the time. No wonder Y Nigerian educated women have so many problems. Guys like you wanting to get into their panties. Now go and masturbate, get that school girl out your head.

Stay away from that skank. Loving two brothers in the same family. Who is next, father? you friend is a sicko.

First off Naija brothers, do not consider African American woman, Think about it. You can hook up with a african american woman, who straightens her hair, bleaches her skin, wears blue contact lenses, all trying to look as white as possible. OR You can just hook up with the real thing (white woman). White women like black men here. Another thing, Black women in U.S. . want some nice strong good looking black African brother, with money to take care of them and their children from other men. But they only offer you a wiggly jello butt and a vampire mentality. White women treat you good, I know for a fact.

LOL. Dude, you have no testicles. Your a whipping post. You will make a good submissive, and she can be your Dominatrix. Kinky couples, so funny, boot licker.

When your with the one your love, who cares about public kissing. What you let public views or social stigma determine how you express your self.

Men weak? Learn how to masturbate, and watch porn. No more need for women. No weakness.

@ C2H5OH 5'9"

Yeah, a midget like Tom Cruise does not even have a chance with a tall woman like your self. Thing is, he won't even consider you to wash his toilet. shallow tall women. Yet, again. another numb nut.

Another numb nut, what do you expect, she a model. You don't deserve her, your to shallow and not very educated. Send her my way. I will be so much supportive of her.

If she is 17 and your an adult, your a sick bastard. thinking about having sex with her makes you a potential paedophile. Let me know where you live so I can call the cops on you, and you will be thrown in jail. In jail the men will have there way with you. I know I am harsh, but your a young man, and I'd hate to see your compromise your life for a piece of pussy.

To find my compliment and enhance our lives for happiness together. I am looking for my one true love. A love I have that is so great that nothing else in the universe really matters.

With all your properties and money, you should be able to afford counseling. Hey man, if you divorce think about you children. They will be at a disadvantage compared to a two parent home. Another thing, no sense being in a celibate marriage. In the u.s. I think it is grounds for divorce. Get your problem fixed.

Love Doctor prescription: Go out, party, Get laid like crazy. In six months you won't even remember her name.

Life is to short, don't you might to to subtle. He may never get your message. just let him know how your feel or it may pass bye and you always wonder what if?

Sounds like the roomy would make a good love-vendor. Hope your gentleman friend won't decide to be like a love-vendor.

She right she don't love you.  She using you to feed her Drama.  I understand your frustration, she is feeding on your emotional energy like a vampire.  If you love her, which I would not recommend, stop feeding into her drama.  Just make sure you react when something positive comes from her.  Encourage her.

Come on 24 year old man, sight seeing with a platonic friendship!!!!? If anything at your age you should be sight seeing some booty watching with you parters. You may not know this, but spending time with this woman, part of you is courting her. Know yourself and pay attention to all parts of your mind.

@ Reptyle

I believe your are saying that that the difference between the sin of homosexuality and other sins are that in todays age the agenda of homosexuality is for it to be accepted as a non-sin when it actually is.

Well said Reptyle, I never thought about looking at it from this angle.

I hope so, unless you have a wolf in sheep's clothing. Go with your intuition, if your pay attention and really study the guy, you will know if he is the right one.

We are all sinners. How come people that fornicate are not condemned like homosexuals? How about thieves and liars? I think and have lustful thoughts. How come a Gay is treated worse? All sinners should be treated equal. I wonder if the church discriminates against people who are Gay.

I don't care how fake she is. If I only had a chance to get some of that, my life would finally have meaning.