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Ategberoson:
no one make it in their comfort zone. if your parents hustle down for you with many investments, you won't have any reason to even think of staying put with them



I don't think this Op have experience indirect insult before? I'll rather stay with friends if I haven't make it than stay in my comfort zone. staying in your comfort zone will only give you reason to managed your Pains and challenges


pains and challenges are meant to tackle not to manage hence staying in your parents house would demoralized you of your goals&life objectives

I 100% disagree

Vyzz:
What works for u might not work for me.....





Some parents wouldn't even allow it at age 22..... Life no b competition..... No go kill yasef

No be this Nigeria, I never see parents wey pursue children at age 22. Both in the North and West, how many people have gotten a job at 22years?

Hmmn

BarristerAlarig:
I have given up on Nigerians. This story and people's reactions were the last straw...


If you are a Nigerian hoping to start a business or a foreigner hoping to invest in Nigeria... Kindly understand one important fact,


NIGERIANS ARE CRIMINALS.

Not some Nigerians,
Not most,

ALL....

If 90% of a product is defective, the entire product is defective.


If you live in Benin, you would be familiar with CROWN COMPUTERS and how his workers ran that business down. The owner is in millions of debt today and they've all left.

I'm Nigerian, and I'm honest. I do not and will not agree that all Nigerians are corn artists, I have been cheated, I have felt hurt, but I won't use the actions of some to judge the actions of all. I would not partake in such collective blaming because it would be unfair to the few good people and would be a discouragement, and would only turn them to bad people because being good won't make any difference either, and neither would I give up on helping Nigerians or fellow black people because giving up itself is a weakness.

My generations and blood would always be
tied to Nigeria and I would do the little I could during the course of my life to help in anyway I could. If early Americans had given up, I'm sure you wouldn't see the Americans of today, and likewise all other advanced countries.
I understand that you are mad at these people, but you should understand that someday your children/ties would be bullied by peers by telling them ''go back home'' if you happened to live outside Nigeria. Today, I blame the old generations for making Nigerians this way, with almost nothing to be proud of as a Nigerian, one day is coming that our generations to come would CURSED on our own generation for doing nothing to help.

Also I'd advise you go back to history and read the crimes many of the countries we deem advanced today have committed against humanity, and how the spirit of the few good people have helped them.
On behalf of Nigerians, I'm saying sorry for all the bad things that happened in your company and I'm not going to tell you to start employing Nigerians, no need for that, but I need you to forgive and see deep into this problem and how we can raise our voices on such topics so that our society can clean up such cultures and if we win, our coming generation would be proud of us.

prekumohtim:
This is really bad but I still believe that there are still many honest Nigerians

Sure, and I can proudly say I am one.
But truth is in Nigeria, honest people are the ones that are unlucky to get those jobs. This is a reason why I think maybe Nigeria is cursed sometimes. Our good people are unfortunate and get thier lives messed up, this makes other people think ''bad'' is the only way to make it in Nigeria and thus follow suit

BarristerAlarig:
It is difficult for Start ups to do this, SME's are struggling in this country...

Imagine making a budget and including things you won't need if Nigerians were more trustworthy.....

Bare in my mind that resources are limited.

I agree with you, and thats one of the campaigns I make. Nigerians refer to THEFT as SMARTNESS, and exactly why our politicians are corrupt, because to them its not corruption but a smart move, and since they are product of the society, they steal when they get into offices.

And thats also why lots of Nigerians are into yahoo, this problem is a very deep psychological problem and as a patriotic African/Nigerian, I believe we should help these people because its nothing but mental sickness that actually draw them backward at the end of the day.

Yes, our culture is good, but there are things we need to wash off in our culture. Part of them is legit stealing

Real talent

Wow, I just watched Ka3na, shes more like me, I hate seeing dirts in the kitchen, or people not cleaning up after using the kitchen, also, I hate people not washing toilets after use, all those behaviours depress me, but we are a little different, I have learnt how to accommodate people and force myself not to complain, I prefer to go inside and cry, pour out my useless anger out and not on anyone.

That's because I'm from a humble background and thus, would just be fighting with people every time. I have learnt to take away face, by fire by force. I just live with them depress and pretend I'm fine, I would help them clean there and not get angry with them, because most of them are actually good people in some other areas of life, might even be better than me.
And also, I have taught myself to be nice to people no matter what.

I remember living with someone who doesn't flush after urinating, sometimes, I just rush inside and cry. And if it looks extremely dirty, I would just leave the house and lie to them I need to go somewhere. And when i clean and clean and they keep dirtying, and I become so angry, instead of pouring out the anger on them, I just tell myself that, girl they are not the reason why you are so broke and rented an apartment with them, you could have rented a whole hotel to yourself, or a flat, so just work harder so you can have something better for yourself

ThatCEO:
I believe she can, d certifications are just needed when she gets to Canada, not before she gets there.

But she should run both Vietnam and Canada together. If Vietnam comes first, she can still run Canada from Vietnam.

Please is Vietnam same with Canada?

postmann:
Foolish woman! I've only just begun toying with you and you're complaining.

Just tarry a bit and I'll show you gross. You thought I'd treat you with kids glove. Bloody feminist.

If you have a score to settle, then settle it with yourself, not men. Your thighs were yours to open or to close.

You have won. Congratulations
I don't have time abeg, its a disgrace on my personality replying to an untrained ucouth dirty talking person. leave my mention abeg, go look for your type that you would be talking dirty to one another. Gross, bye

postmann:
Tell me what kinda prayer would come from a misandrist like you if not the echoes of woes emanating from your dark and putrid heart.

Oh, you're married and had the guts to pour invective on someone else's husband. Tells the kinda 'wife' you are -- a graceless bald ogress who competes with men in beer parlours and farts through her loose anus in a town hall meeting.

Remember me in prayer indeed. While the marine spirits reign supreme over your cursed life.

You so gross, look at things you are uttering. Disgusting, you need deliverance bro

NoToPile:
Na wa ooo, I would have thought he would foot you guys travel expenses since he was coming to see your parents for marriage, he also made you share transport fare to go visit your own people


I guess you have to stop talking about some things you do without discussing initially with him because all what you have posted are very trivial issues infact nom issues at all. These are things normal couples just mention to each other and hardly elicits any negative reaction. Did he think you kept the difference in the sienna/saloon car tfare for yourself or what.
Men that are petty are really difficult to deal with So you cannot do chochocho with your husband in peace again.


I used work with one very petty guy like that in my place of work very frustrating experience, I almost turned him to a prayer point despite the fact he was not my boss we were just in the same team oo, going to work was becoming a daily night mare and I have said it time without number that whoever marries him is in for a deep shit, I can't imagine a friend of mine marrying him Someone we just see few hours in a days frustrating me and others to that extent I can't imagine what living with him will be like. The most annoying part is people like that don't see anything wrong in what they are doing.

Its simple, they need to see a psychiatrist because its not normal and such behaviour is toxic for anyone around them. They are sick and need treatment

postmann:
Calling you a bìtch would be putting it mildly. You're a toxic dross whose relationship mishaps have made a roving, bitter feminist.

Your ultimate goal is to bring sadness and desolation to any woman who is a relationship, making them like you -- a love-less slag.

Calling someone else's husband stupid explains why you're still an unmarried ogress.

Lol, you are referring to your ex, you sounded so bitter and so pained on someone else's ish. You must have been very frustrated in life to utter such, you are trying to pour your anger on your miserable and relationship life on me, please direct it somewhere else because you dont make any sense at all, you lack coherence, and your imaginative assumptions that im not married shows you have a mental problem. please go see a psychologist as well and leave my mention. I will remember you in prayer. Peace

uboma:
Rubbish!

A big fall usually follows a haughty spirit.

Lol, you felt threatened? Did I bruise your ego

Valyoung:

Guy u no get head at all i bin think say you wise but na water full your head

Hi bros, how are you sir

eyinjuege:
Sorry to say, but your husband is a control freak.
For your peace of mind and his own too, avoid doing chochochocho- meaning learn to keep your mouth shut and don't discuss certain issues with him/decisions you've made.
He is not ready for any form of communication, so don't waste your time with that.
You can always find other things to gist about as a couple, but avoid things you know he thinks in his warped mind he should have the power over.
While at this, always prepare for any eventuality, because he may well carry out his threat about leaving the marriage.



What you have mentioned should have been a red flag NOT to marry him, though unfortunately it was too close to the marriage ceremony. You didn't do anything wrong or untrustworthy.
It's a pity he either doesn't trust your decision making abilities or he has an over inflated ego which I suspect the latter is the case. Anyway, learn to make financially prudent decisions for yourself, and keep quiet about it so far it's your money. I'm sure he is ready to always question any decision you make regarding money you have worked for even though it doesn't affect the running of your home. If he doesn't like you asking others to remeber him in prayers, then don't do it. But that shouldn't stop you from asking others to pray for your own self if that's what you want/believe in.

What you want the op to do is not possible, your partner should be your friend, and your confidant. Who would she gist with if not the husband, the marriage is too early for such now. A woman wants to tell her husband everything, gist everything about her day. The woman would become depressed if she has to choose what she tell her husband and might start flirting with men that she could tell things to at her work place.
A marriage should be something to enjoy, her marriage is just 6months and she would start to pretend and keep quiet, that would suffocate her my brother. And also, she would still make mistakes sometimes or if after the shutting up, the husband finds out of one thing she did for about a year ago, that would result in a lot of explosion in the house and fights.

And also, if she gets used to not telling her husband stuffs, it could strengthen her confidence to commit bad acts behind the back when they are not in good terms

grasiouso:
Well, there was a fundamental issue. We needed to travel home to see my people for marriage arrangements and were supposed to travel by road. He gave me his own part of the money for the trip while I was supposed to offset mine. The problem was that I eventually booked one that was slightly cheaper than what we agreed for our return (a Sienna instead of Salon car) even though I booked salon car for going. I did this in good faith to save a little money as we had a lot of expenses to plan for then and I thought the Sienna was equally comfortable. I told him after the booking and boom! The quarrel started. He said I betrayed his trust and ever since, he never fails to tell me how he cannot trust me with money. This is someone I don't even ask him for money. We share almost all our household bills equally and I am always ready to assist financially in the home yet he doesn't trust me with money. It's really a lot in this short time of our marriage (6 months) and I must say I am getting tired of it all.

Ma, I'm sorry, but I use God to beg you, do what I told you. Separate from him, request him to see a psychologist, or you both see one.
This man is TOXIC, I repeat, very TOXIC, ma, I'm pitying your mental health ni o. You need to stans your ground on it once and for all and decide.

Your marriage is 6months and he's already threatening divorce during quarrels, something is mentally wrong with your husband. And I don't know why he kept mentioning submission, on issues that has nothing to do with submission.

This man clearly sees a wife like a slave, and yet, he still allow you to contribute to the financial stability of the house. Hes just manipulating you with those words DIVORCE and SUBMISSION

Eileene:
what does he mean by you are not submissive enuff?Judging by what u said I don't see any unsubmissive behavior here at least you always informed him thereafter.Being married does not mean u lose yourself.Never change you for anyone.
Marriage is supposed to be complementary and not an act of domination.
since he keeps threatening with divorce and says your marriage is a mistake then I would suggest you let go.Life is too short to live it under someone else's shadow.You can't be the only one fighting for the marriage to work you will get exhausted.
If you continue like this you might fall into depression,have a high bp and guess what he may simply move on.

Exactly my point, why will a man be tagging someone not submissive in this century, when shes not flirting around nor commits some bad behaviour and at worst, hes threatening divorce.

Its because he sees the marriage as a favour to her.
Op looks like someone with low self esteem, that is why he thinks he can threaten her with divorce

Juliusmomoh:
Sorry , i don't know u are such an Homebreaker

You are in love with me ko?
Trust me, you can't even by the comb for my hair, I'm too expensive for you.
Go work harder and come back, you might be lucky to still meet me single by then

Juliusmomoh:
If u don' have any meaningful advice to give, please out of the thread.

2mentions, you are just looking for my attention, now you have it. How can I help you bruv?

Threatening divorce? I would leave such a stupid husband, sorry but not sorry. It's better to leave when the marriage is 6months than when its 16 years and it has caused a lot of damage on your mental health.

Anyway, pack your things and go separate, tell him you will come back only on the account of him seeing a psychologist, if he can't do that for you, please leave the asshole. He doesn't want you and probably seeing another woman who is pretending to be stupid, you know how side old chicks can pretend and treat men like heaven and say sorry to them after being cursed. He then expects you to act like that and thus he sees you not submissive. Nah, the issue has nothing to do wit submission, he should even be glad he has a nice wife who would help others during distress

If you don't do this, its possible you cheat on him, emotionally or sexually. Because it could lower your self esteem, and might want to raise it by dating someone who seems to say good things about you

I will comment when it makes front page

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Champion268:
Am in need of a low budget accommodation in ibadan around Sango area or Bodija.

I'm willing to adjust my area of choice to another area within the same axis provided that there is stable electricity

Single room or room in a flat I don't mind

My budget is between 30-40k

I don't mind spending my budget on 6month rent if the landlord can accept because my entire stay in ibadan cannot be more than 6months.

Real estate agents with friendly price should quote me!!

I can help you, I think I have an idea

God help us

Its not easy to get money, its not easy for a single woman to take care of children.

Whenever you want to collect money from her, kiss her cheeks, play with her and demand the money.
Also make sure you are not demanding money for rubbish, make sure its for something good, not weed and nonsense stuffs, she would be happy to give you

[quote author=HazzanTazzan post=92119061][/quote]Hi, what's up
Do you still deal in AGC?

I blame the ladies as well

I hate people that raise hands on anything (men, women, children) for no reason.
They are potential murderers