You say we are mad and sick in the head. Now, it's time to show us whether you are sick in the head too.
So answer me, can N250m fit into three suitcases?

Invictuse:
So the police that arrested the criminal Peter Peter Obi were lying ? Did the Pandora Criminal himself ever question the amount but rather claim he wanted to pay contractor in cash. You ask this type question shows that you are not only mad but sick in the head.

Please tell me, how does N250m fit into three suitcases?

Invictuse:
You fools think you can fool everybody.
Just imagine the question this God forsaken lunatic is asking after me. So we must wait before your father catch money in Peter Pandora's hand before your damaged head can comprehend he is a criminal.

Did your deluded father ask the same question about Ibori that was jailed in the UK, n every other politicians your fools accuse of being fraudsters ?

If N250M is not money to the Pandora Criminal why is he only able to gift your father N30 for the rubbish you are spewing here.

Concerning breweries please tell is if he did not sell it to his father after investing state fund every other rubbish you have to say you can take it to your father. This is how Tinubu invested state fund in Airtel n your fools call him thief how Pandora criminal doing the same thing n not labeled a thief is what I need your explanation on not the bs story you posted. Tinubu clearly did not later sold shares to himself unlike the bastard Peter Obi that sold shares to his armed robbers father.

When you are done with your foolishness you can list any Nigerian politician that is accuse of fraud that admitted n not deny like this fraudulent bastard Peter Peter Obi.

Apt.

Mercychen:


You're welcome.



How is my comment sounding bitter? O... Now because it's a man, you're trying to hold brief for him, right? Stop being insensitive.

What about the OPs experience with the so called husband? Is it not more bitter?
Can't you see what he's doing to her? A pregnant woman for that matter?. You people should learn to say the truth no matter how bitter.

A man who is not considerate enough to help his pregnant wife doesn't deserve any better. When he doesn't see anyone to cover his shameful acts anymore, sense will fall on him but as long as she's still there carrying his burden and financial responsibilities, he'll never get his acts together.

It's this kind of mentality you have that, any woman who speaks up against a man's incompetence is "bitter" that is making some men refuse to change and lead a more responsible life.
That "if she can't clean my mess, then shes not a wife material" kinda mentality should be erased.
You men should learn to clean up your mess yourself. Ain't no body gat time to be babysitting a grown ass man.

Buzz off!

Your first and last paragraphs can only come from a place of bitterness.

The other paragraphs in between are reasonable. I'd actually advise that too.

If a man hurt you that badly, maybe you should seek out closure. You sure ain't fine.

pocohantas:


Ego play. I think some things are better left unsaid when dealing with Nigerian in-laws. The husband shouldn’t have put it to his father in-law that he won’t pay. E fit just tell am say e no get all the money, lol. Okay o, let me pay school fees, you help with accommodation.

I suspect they overbilled him during the marriage rites.

This is his way of getting back at them.

Kobojunkie:
Do you even have a clue what it means to be a psychopath?

Indoctrinate Nigerians? Are you just here to attention-seek or what?

The question you asked me reeks of contempt. A Nigerian cannot know what a psychopath is?

You're clearly on a mission to indoctrinate Nigerians on Nairaland. You're not from here, you do not understand us, you are not even an onlooker trying to understand. You have been extremely opinionated on family issues, issues you have no clue about the undercurrents. You do not even give a da*n.

At times, you pretend to be a Christian quoting scriptures, at other times, you toss the scriptures to the dogs. The only constant is the ideology you're trying to sell.

Meanwhile, regarding your being a psychopath, you're gradually ticking all the boxes.

Iyaebe:
Please I would love to get a sincere and unbiased response from this question. Please who takes over the academic responsibilities(school fees,pocket money and others) when a lady still schooling decides to get married, is it the husband or the parents are to continue their responsibilities till she graduates?

To understand this, you have to see what transpired throughout the process of the wedding.

Most likely, the man was made to pass through a lot of unnecessary hurdles by his in-laws. This can lead to a situation where he would feel he owes his FIL nothing.

This would explain why he's taking such a hard stance immediately after the wedding. It's not normal.

If what I think happened is what really happened, then the FIL should know that there is no way on earth the groom will let his bride return back to her parents, yet he would not raise a finger to assist in her schooling. As a matter of fact, the lady would even take her husband's side secretly because he is justified.

The FIL should vomit out the funds he extorted from the young man for the wedding and pay his daughter's fees. People like him are the ones giving our traditions a bad rep.

Kobojunkie:
According to what culture/tradition abeg?

I ask so we can get a good idea of where you are coming from.

Hello Kobojunkie,

I keep noticing you in Family section giving loads of marriage advice.

It appears also, that you are not from around here, you do not even know the culture nor do you appreciate it.

Unless, you're a psychopath, should it not worry you that you've been leading helpless people down the wrong path? Especially because even you would be lost if you were to be married and resident here.

Despite our economic woes, we are a people with diverse and rich cultures, traditions that we hold dear, and would not toss them out the window just to please some directionless moneybags. We would evolve, like humans do.

So, if you have a motive to indoctrinate Nigerians, it would be dead on arrival.

Just saying.

MoneyGoDrop:
Mordecai

Pray, tell me, who is godfather in Anambra?

You should understand that there's an atom of Godfatherism in every state in Nigeria. Anambra state for example is ran by the roman Catholic Church. Peter obi was the first governor to start this cabal which is headed by the roman Catholic Bishop of awka.

It became a nuisance under this present governor and his wife and will continue with the incoming one.

Lol, it's like saying that Islam is godfather in Kano. Or that the Pope is godfather in Argentina or Brazil, or that Mbaka is godfather in Enugu.

Granted, the Catholic church has always wielded influence in Anambra because the majority of Anambrarians are Catholic.

Also, because of the role the JCA played in keeping people alive during the war, the elder generation will always defer to the influence of the Church.

However, the Catholic church cannot determine who becomes Governor in Anambra State. They never did. Infact, Chukwuemeka Ezeife, the first Civilian Governor of the new Anambra state is not Catholic but from Salvation Army. Ditto Mbadinuju.

The Catholic bishop of Awka has influence on Obiano, but none on APGA. That is the extent of his power. Nothing more than that.

Peace.

omenkaLives:
Funny, really funny.

I those states you talk about, the leaders themselves are godfathers, doing all they can to install their gonsons or daughters in positions of power.

Godfathers only change, they cant be gone forever. The godfather factor in politics is just like matter in nature- it cant be destroyed but can only change from one form (person) to another.

Pray, tell me, who is godfather in Anambra?

omenkaLives:
In all states, people install people. The reason a politician complains is simply because they're not getting fed by the person installed.

Godfathers exist wherever politicians exist. We've gone past this level of sentimentality mr man.

Next.

It's good now, but it was bad when Anenih was godfather in Edo, when Saraki was godfather in Kwara ?

This was the kind of comments by Oshiomhole and Tinubu that fueled the "Edo no be Lagos" decimation of Oshiomhole in Edo State.

Try and be circumspect in your reasoning. Learn to put public interest above your personal political leanings. It won't hurt.

And FYI, godfathers like BAT thrive because of the ease of election rigging. Fix the electoral system up to 60% efficiency and see if BAT, Theodore Orji and other similar godfathers roaches prancing all about won't be swept off with ease.

This thwarts the aspirations of millions of highly capable Nigerians. Officials extract “rent” by controlling access to business opportunities. The objective thus becomes to slow down investment not speed it up.

Aptly put.

Even the Road Safety Officer whose task is to keep the road safe places himself as a road block, endangering road users, just to extract "rent".

Hunters and farmers now declared terrorists by Police??

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Stop mentioning me in your vituperations, please.

It's because of stunts like this that giving custody to bitter women is not advisable.

One can only imagine how much she'll attempt to poison the child's mind against the father if she had custody.

Fight with the man, ridicule him all you can, but making the child an active part in the conflict is sick and sickening.

Infantino was right. Those asking them to put money into charitable causes are ignoring the crux of his message reproduced below:

"We need to give dignity, not by giving charity but by allowing the rest of the world as well to participate,"

Believersgist:
When Haman came around on the next day based on Esther’s invitation, the king quickly asked him about what should be done to the man that he (the king) delights to honour.

Thinking he should be the one, he pronounced the good things to be done to such a man; but lo and behold, he was talking about Mordecai, his enemy.

This is also divine.

Why should he be the one to be asked that question?

Why did the king not throw this question to his chamberlains that were there when that record was read?

Why should the king wait for Haman to come around before seeking for an opinion in that matter?

Already it is clear that Mordecai’s honour would suppress Haman’s honour, but the king decided to wait for him to pronounce this.

Praise God!

Haman’s greediness paved way for the magnitude of Mordecai’s honour.

He wanted to see himself at the highest height in that kingdom, but he ended up doing it for Mordecai.

Your enemies will pave way for your upliftment if you remain faithful and prayerful.

Those who plan evil against you and who are at the same time exalting themselves against you, will soon become your stepping stones unto exaltation, in Jesus’ Name.

The good things that your enemies are wishing for themselves against you will become your materials of exaltation, to the glory of the Lord.

Haman had to obey the golden rule, but it

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Oga, why do you keep mentioning me?

Mynd44:

Why?

Imagine this. The government spends billions subsidizing education for you all, free primary school, free secondary school, cheap universities(compared to other countries) in the hope that when you graduate, you will advance the country but you want to travel out (japa) with all the financial commitments the government have done for you and you still expect this same government to make it easy for you to travel out?

Imagine you spend money sending a woman/man to school thinking when done two of you can marry and be happy but alas, the person falls in love with someone else and says you are below his/her standard but still expects you to foot the wedding bill.

Or you as MD spends money training staff and the staff decides to just up and leave yet expects you to pay for transportation to the new firm.

The Nigerian government owes you nothing in this IELTS fight.

Wrong. So wrong.

Diaspora remittances is the almost the largest source of foreign exchange in Nigeria, second only to crude oil.

The forex from crude oil gets stolen by government officials and somehow find their way back out of the country illegally, but a large percentage of these diaspora remittances actually go into growing our economy.

In 2020, CBN actually tried to make policies that would take advantage of these remittances to crash the dollar rates. Till date, they pay N5 for every incoming dollar.

When Okonjo-Iweala was Finance minister, she once mooted the idea of Nigeria formalising policies to officially become an exporter of labour.

In a nutshell, the Nigerian economy actually gets far more in value from those travelling out than it ever gave them while they were here.

Now, the economy is spending forex it does not have on IELTS. Why should the government not take necessary steps to reduce it?

Who knows how much blood he spilt to make these charms?

Authorities need to commission research into these juju practices, and subsequently review our laws, to enable the state prosecute ritualists that kill or harm other humans.

Only fools deny that these things don't work and their denial is giving government the boldness to look the other way while criminal minds are increasingly killing citizens for rituals.

FreeStuffsNG:
Why do you think e-invoicing is being used to replace humans who were hired to handlie the process ab initio ? Lack of transparency and suspected criminal active connivance with the economic saboteurs.

If you think those minerals and precious stones just fly out through only unofficial routes then you are the funny one .

Here is an analytical report on how it is done through same govt channels and FG-registered mining companies , perhaps will now abate or reduce significantly with this policy
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/business/business-data/373931-analysis-shady-practices-by-registered-mining-companies-cost-nigeria-billions-of-naira.html

To submit a Form M today, invoices are attached.

With an e-invoice, the only difference will be that once the invoice is uploaded and submitted, the various parameters in the invoice, e.g. price, item, invoice number, hs code, date would be uploaded to a database and these invoices, aggregated will assist NBS in mining data later.

Hitherto, invoices were being checked before approval of the form M. The same people will still do the same checks before approval.

Another instance was the assumption that the e-product certificate will enhance quality of goods imported into the country.
We all know better today.

In a nutshell, the government just gets to make money from invoicing of goods, and get statistics of all invoices in a relational database for use later.

That's all that changes.

safarigirl:

Which mother? Somebody is in IDP camp, it has not occurred to you that she may not have a mother because she was killed?

Like I said, YOU cannot say what was wrong and what was right

You were not in her head, you did not know her state of mind and if you read the news, you would see that she stabbed herself IMMEDIATELY the ordeal was over. There was no moment to think on it

Trauma can make you go MAD. When you are insane, wrong or right is not something you have any reasoning over. You are just mad

If you have any inkling of psychology, you would not be talking about what is wrong or what is right in this situation. It just is

That is the only right thing to consider here. State of Mind

My comment was not about right or wrong. Maybe you should reread it again.

...

But then, safarigirl, we can tell what is wrong. We always can tell. We know for one, that the horrible act of rape is wrong.

We also know that Aisha Umar's death was tragic and wrong too. For heaven's sake, she lost her virginity at the hands of a slowpoke, lost her sanity too. But her life still had potential, despite what she must have felt. She was not finished.

Insanity, justifiable or not, has never excused killing oneself.

So please, stop romanticising suicide.

Tomorrow, when someone gets raped, they do not need to feel it's okay to end it all.

At that point, when it feels like its all lost, that is when they need hope the most. And your emotional justification of suicide will point any impressionable mind in the wrong direction.

I hope you clear your head and correct yourself.

safarigirl:



Walahi, you're very stupid

SHE made the wrong choice?

The animal that raped her did not make the wrong choice by raping her, but SHE, the VICTIM, made a wrong choice?

Have they raped you before? Do you know how dehumanizing it is, for someone to pull you, pin you down and rape you while you scream for help and beg for mercy? Do you even know the state of mind she was in before that animal stole the only thing she had left to hold on to? Do you know how difficult it is living in an IDP camp to begin with, homeless and possibly without family, only for an animal to take the one thing you have to call your own?

Do you know the state of hopelessness she was already in, before that guy took possibly, the last thing that kept her sane? You're sitting comfortably at home, nobody has attacked your village, killed your kin and made you homeless, so, you can come online and talk about choices you may never have to make.

Once again, you're very stupid if this was the first thing you could come up with about this case.

The rape incident was very tragic and unfortunate. We hope the pig that perpetrated it gets the deserved punishment.

But that lady shouldn't have taken her life. It was not the end, no matter how horrible it appeared to be. She reacted emotionally, but you, safarigirl, should not. You also know it does not have to end there.

Imagine you were the mother to that girl, wouldn't you want your daughter alive, the state of mind notwithstanding?

Many persons in this same country have moved on from that pit of despair and become a beacon and the reason why many others fight to live after experiencing such.

Keep your emotions aside safarigirl, and reevaluate this. She did not have to kill herself. So you should watch your rhetoric, so you do not pass it along to your fans (yours truly inclusive) that suicide is okay if one gets raped.

Pass on two messages rather - that for the pig, it should be the end, and for the victim, that it does not have to be the end.

JooEeL:


Hmmn you want me to go to Jos, one of the most crisis-ridden place in recent times, courtesy Fulani Jihadists.

Or you want me to go to Maiduguri where Boko Haram are testing their bombs?

From the beginning of your comment, I been think say you like me o but guyyyyyyyyyyyyy...

These places you mentioned are home to millions of persons, including your people.

Shake off the fear, it's not as bad as you think in the North East, at least for now.

If I ask you to go to the North West, you can then conclude I don't like you

JooEeL:


People traveling to other countries when they become separate strictly becomes their pregorative. They are only a minute fraction in ratio to those who choose to stay back in their home (region).

On the flip side, Nigeria remaining as one country is what gives terrorists all the way from Mali, Niger and Chad to come kill my own tribesmen in their villages, farm settlements razed and my own people displaced. This for me is the bigger picture.

Anyone who still wants to travel to North or anywhere else can do so on the basis of a visa. Also know that I'm acutely aware that the North is not one homogenous entity but that's not the focus of this talk.

Besides even if the North was one hell of a peaceful tolerant place, that doesn't make us one with them. Canada is one of the most consistently peaceful and prosperous nations in the world, yet Quebec, one of its provinces, wants to secede from there. And they even held a referendum in the 90's which they lost.

So there doesn't even have to be a problem of coexistence before deciding whether its best to chart our own course or not. Talkless of the incessant bloodletting, stupidity of this country and blatant tribalism of its inhabitants. Abeg make everybody go answer hin papa name. No be by force abeg.

Dear Jooeel,

I can feel your passion on this issue. It's very evident you are convinced on your expectations and desired outcomes. That is something commendable, given the penchant for nonchalance by Nigerian youths.

Keep in mind that the path between two points is not always a straight line. Knowledge is in understanding the terrain, the topography as well as the climate, weather conditions and sociology of the area between the points.

Wisdom is in the application of the knowledge gained in navigating from one point to the other.

I am only asking that we gain full understanding of all the variables involved. It will greatly enhance the applied strategy, and give you valuable insights, some of which you would never imagine or believe, were I to lecture you on them for hours.

So I invite you to do what the OP did, and also visit Gombe, and/or Mubi, Potiskum, Ganye, Yola town, Fufore, Maiduguri, Machina etc. You can then add Jos, Keffi, Bauchi, Tafawa Balewa, Lafia, Dukku to the mix.

After that, mention me, and we can discuss this issue again. I do not expect your desired outcomes to change, because it is an existential one, but you would not remain the same, I assure you.

JooEeL:


I know from your name that you are Yoruba. So service carry you go North? And you go? Ki lo man se gbogbo nyin gan na?

Can't you redeploy? Is it until you become a statistic that you'll understand the times? Nigeria is not one. Stop forcing it. It is an enterprise created purposely for the looting of our natural resources. What is wrong with us in this part of the world?

There will NEVER be peace and unity because we have distinct approaches to life and value systems. I dont know why some of you are just arrogantly stubborn.

Peace without justice is nonsense! Igboho's aides were killed, Kanu was renditioned. But Gumi walks freely and the Nigerian government prevented US from extraditing the IGP Abba kyari?

And you're telling me peace and unity? God punish the Nigerian version of peace and unity! Nonsense!

Even if we are separate countries, people will still travel. People will still migrate. As for you, the only reason you haven't visited the north is that life hasn't directed you there yet.

And if you haven't lived there, and understood them, you cannot fully grasp the politics of what you wrote up there.

Just wish him well, brother.

Odewaleadesoye:

Currently in Gombe now Sir.

Aight. Stay safe, bro.

Odewaleadesoye:
Did you know that Biu and Chibok is not far from my area.

Please pray for us at this hard time.

North is seriously burning.

Uba Kumagum, Garkida, Michika or Mubi?

Shimmaa:



You mean it's childish to try reconcile with someone you love by patching things up or what?


You guys just open mouth and want to talk when you ain't putting yourself in similar position.

It's one thing to love.

It's another to be in a love relationship.

You are in love, but you're not in a love relationship. So there's nothing to patch up. If you can't see that, then you're either a slowpoke or childish.

I don't think you're a slowpoke. I think you're emotionally, still a child.

Well, since you were willing to rent a place for someone that has no feelings for you, it won't make a difference if you can get any other neat lady to take over the place, and keep it tidy for the rest of your tenancy period. Then use it whenever you're in town.

And do not tell your ex about it, or ask for permission or try to explain your actions. Just do it and move on.

Immediately she hears another lady is now living in the flat, she'll reach out to you. But this will be the true test of your maturity - don't explain yourself to her, and don't be bitter towards her either. She's only looking out for herself, just like you and I.

Shimmaa:


How?, back your claim with explanation

Very childish.

pocohantas:


Please stop seeing nonsense and take a break. Hypocritical elements that can’t take the same treatment they dish out. Stand by you indeed. How many women have Naija men stood by? Always wanting to collect till they leave a sister drained and gasping for breath.

Haba Madame Poco. Look all around you. Naija men have been standing by their wives. To buttress my point, Peter Okoye has stood by Lola. Countless others do too. You really need to stop sounding bitter. Men still love women and will always do. Women love men and will always do. Don't be on the unpleasant side of the fence.

Ishilove:

Kobojunkie, when you have an 18 year old relative living with you, feel free to allow her play with all the ragamuffins in the neighborhood and even invite them for sleepovers. She can even give them some of your property since she is exercising her freedom and dignity, but leave the op to curtail her excesses the best way he can come come up with.

You have made my morning, dear.

Evil!!!

Meanwhile, has Magnoliaa seen this news? Not really expecting any comments from her.
Just need her to acknowledge that male rape is a thing, and does not come up only when female rape cases go viral.