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ezelous:
It means you are brilliant and not intelligent.

Alright sir... I'm already tired of arguing this night sir

TheSourcerer:
Well in a non religious community
Those who would be good will be good and those who will be bad will be bad
Religion doesn't curb excesses it makes you believe it does

True, I believe more in personal relationships that congregational, lots of things are happening under the guise of religion nowadays.

[quote author=TheSourcerer post=85450000]Shame , you should consider free thinking[/quote
As much as I consider free thinking, my belief that an omniscient being exists has curbed my excesses. If we lack the fear of God, we become careless, at least the morals I learnt in church has helped me a long way

TheSourcerer:
hmm likewise , are you atheist

No, I'm not

Ugolistikp:
I already have a misconception about you....Hope u are not what I'm thinking.. I hope not...*

Lol, What are you thinking boss?

Oladayo12:
Wow! obviously u must be a guru. just graduated last month frm uni, though narrowly missed first class.

So unfortunate boss, my elder bro narrowly missed it too, I know how painful it can be and frustrating when one is slightly disadvantaged.

God is your strength bro, he will guide us through the home we call Nigeria.

BIDOO:
Hmm, Only Less Intelligent One's Claim To Be Intelligent ! Study Have Shown That Those That Are Intelligent Hardly Claim To Be ! Because They Always Have These Notion That There Is More To What They Know.

If I didn't have the notion that there was more to know, believe me I would have continued my course rather than moving,

Although actions speak louder than words, it's not just a big confidence to know you're intelligent, it is also high self esteem. I'm not a cocky guy that rants about his mental capacity, you would believe if you met me...The topic made me talk... Have a great year..

queenitee:
You are academically intelligent. Not even intelligent self, you are brilliant. Isn’t it what you were taught you read and even if you read extra, it’d still be something related to the course you are studying. But let’s even agree with you that you are intelligent. That’s academic intelligence. The question is are you intelligent in other areas of life? That’s when you can say you are truly intelligent.

And what other areas are you inferring; street wise. Intelligence just doesn't mean the ability to study your book and pass your exams only, that's being a dork. Intelligence means the ability to apply what you've learnt, high analytical skills, diversity, dynamism, the ability to perform in different fields exceedingly well, great conversationist, a problem solver. I can deviate into any field I want and perform without hiccups, it's who I am.

I don't need to prove anything to you before you believe, you don't even know me. And mind you, people who can get into Government owned medical schools in the South West on merit list without pulling strings are not just only brilliant, they are also intelligent, Ask around

MedicH:
I have one word for you man. Persevere. You have the greatest gifts on this planet. That degree is worth more than gold. Sacrifice everything on the alter of ur books for this little time and when u secure that paper you have become a king.

Thanks boss. I look forward to learning more from you

MedicH:
If this is true about u, u be genius.

You are my boss, I still need the motivation, and experience from senior colleagues such as yourself.

Pascopele:
how do you know the bolded?

I got into Medical school 3rd on the MERIT LIST after dumping 300 level of a Federal University with a cgpa of 4.86. The best in the department....I can go on and on...But that's for another day. I get exams to pass

No 1: people think I'm okay to do, because I look a bit fresh and butty, meanwhile local man is broke and is pako to the core.

Which leads to no 2: Girls don't believe I'm single, why do they think you can't be fine and single. Leading to the third.

Girls think I'm player, because I'm gentle, fine,really intelligent and don't relate to ladies. But what they don't know is.... I go knack their akpako if they slip up.. �

Ahamefuna0001:
Matured minds please.

I'm a 25years old guy who who just completed my NYSC and got a job which pays me 50K monthly salary. I paired with a colleague at work to rent a single room self contain.

I have this mixed feeling that am over due to have a fiancée. I don't know if this feeling is wrong. I'm I good to have a serious girlfriend or fiancée at this stage of my life?

My brother, that spirit is the devil. Don't heap unnecessary responsibilities on your young head. Develop yourself, try to make more before you spend more.

I dey here

I'll wait for the elders to arrive, this matter tire me.

Most people don't come here to complain, they come for advice.

No one is an island of knowledge, the thread openers felt they've
encountered a wall and that's because they are inexperienced. All the names Op mentioned are people who have had one or two experiences with women, I don't think one can boast of never falling prey to funny encounters with women.

Experience they say is the best teacher, people grow with experience, it's necessary. Whoever reads Ubunja's miseducation should know this, don't be a loner all in the guise of waiting for ladies to show greenlights. Relate with people, you'll widen your scope, just break out of the norm of talking to every lady you see, set standards, work on yourself, upgrade yourself to a better version, a wiser version.

Note: Being a so called Alpha Male / Real Man is one of the reason you have misfits in men. Being a man doesn't mean you should frown at all times and try so much to exert dominance; leading to violence, it doesn't mean you don't apologise when you're wrong. It's simple, know how and when to give ladies signals that you won't be taking shit from them.

And I don't see why Op mentioned MrCork, the guy's a nuisance and doesn't have anything to offer, admire him at your peril.

Happy New year..

Doctorwhite:
HELLO NAIRALANDERS!!![color=#990000][/color][url][/url]
Season greetings to you all and a prosperous new year 2020.
Please advise me!
I meet a young girl who is 24 years and I am 27 years, since November 2017. We have been together! We do a lot of things together. She respect me so well! I was working in an oil and gas company before the company loss it contract with chevron. We have many things in common! I am a calm and reserve person, I don’t talk much, for a few months since I lost my job! The girl I always see as my future wife have completely changed, she do no longer respect me as she was, before whenever she does something I don’t like I use abusing words (are you crazy) she will keep quiet. Now whenever I speak to her she returned it back to me immediately! She even called me fool yesterday, I was so shocked! I was really planning to settle down for life with her, I still love her but I don’t think I can marry a girl who will insult me publicly! I feel ashamed! I told let end it here is over! DO YOU THINK I MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION?

Please, what was the nature of your job in the defunct oil and gas company?

You can't come here and kill us egbon.

Brock202:
Answers
1)She's still an undergraduate
2)Online and whenever we're together too we barely talk about serious issues. Few weeks ago she complained about how i stopped chatting with her on WhatsApp and i said it to her face that i'm fed up of bringing up topic everytime, she nearly cried that day she said its not her fault that she don't what to say i should teach, that's when i sent her some books for women
3) We are not from same region

It's simple.

You're young lovers, just dating for the sake of it or for the so called mutual attraction you have towards each other. You are trying to make an impact on her life but she isn't ready, believe me it woulda been easier if you were from the same department or you had ideas about her course of education (I might be outrightly wrong) . Example: what do you expect a law student to teach a medical student if that medical student isn't interested in other things.

Your relationship isn't one that'll lead to anything, you guys are just together for the fun of boyfriend and girlfriend, sex and the material things you can gain from one another. There isn't a girl that doesn't talk in her relationship, if she doesn't my brother you're dating yourself. You have seniors and juniors you don't know about yet.

When it's not 2go love.

Op just used his girlfriend as a case study from the sample size called "most uninterested Nigerian ladies".

How can you ascertain for a fact that she isn't intelligent ; because she doesn't bring up topics?

Answer the following questions
1. Is she a graduate or an undergraduate?
2. When exactly do you initiate conversations? When she's tired or energetic ; online or one on one?
3. Do the both of you stay within the same region or do you have a lot of things in common?

A lot of girls aren't as bright as they seem on social media, so they borrow hashtags when they post and reply with the archaic 'K' during conversations. But you can't really blame them, they have very little exposure to books and other sources of knowledge hence, they turn blank on most occasions. Ask them about BBNaija, the latest social trends, and voila, their cerebrum starts firing on full cylinder.

Op, you are not dating a mute, it's either she is a very quiet type; but if she likes you to an extent, that problem should be alleviated if she has feelings for you or she is not really interested in the relationship and is just enduring you and your excesses (I too know).

Bro, since you think highly of yourself as a very intelligent male of the human specie, it is expected of you to move more with people of the same calibre, intelligence wise since you're seeking a partner that can challenge you in conversations, tickle your intuition and widen your scope in whatsoever field you might be attracted to.

SUMMARY : The questions are for you to think about what you might be doing wrong. In layman's language : what you seek isn't in the vessel you call your partner, find another. Goodluck

Riele:
Yes I'm the one and I'm not done yet.
Merry Christmas

And I wish you a blessed New year in return... Take it easy on the guys my dear... Their hearts are fragile

Local man can still benefit one or two goodies.

so this is the Riele that has been terrorising some guys on Nairaland. I now know why she's on the neck of guys

icenti:
We had S*x December 13 around 1am. In the morning when she woke up, I made sure she took post pill in my presence before leaving. Her date is supposed to be Dec 17 but today's 23 and she hasn't seen her flow yet.

Should I be worried?

Effect of post pill, if it worked..
I didn't know condoms have become so expensive, don't dabble into things that'll give you serious headache later in the future..

Abeg, they shouldn't stop. How will romance section be fun if we don't encounter people with romantic problems?

Romance section is always interesting.
Most times, the reports that reach us is about girls breaking men's hearts. Not often do you see a guy break a lady's heart.
Actually the heart is meant to pump blood and any other thinking process including love happens solely in the brain, so hearts aren't broken, a loose bolt in the brain just needs screwing.
Op beat your chest three times and say 'Odeshi, my heart can't be broken'
I wish you success on your next step in the journey of life

My question is, how sure are you that there are just two? You don't know anything

Malaria loading ;DMalaria loading

Niorte:
I am ashamed at such a decision.

You want to destroy the lives of 5 students because of just one incident.

The university is supposed to be a place where young minds are trained to be better.

It is better they had disciplined them in whatever measure than expelling them.

Will expelling the students make them better citizens.

The deed has been done.....corrective discipline should be enforced, not destructive ones.

Mr. Man what are you saying?
Are they in secondary school? What discipline do they need that shouldn't have been given from home or secondary school?
What's the difference between what they did and assault?
If the lady in question were to be your sibling, you might even ask them to be thrown in jail if you are powerful enough. It's in the school's rule book. There's no offense without its repercussion, a society without laws breeds ground for anarchy.
If they were given a lesser punishment, they are still the ones that will be flaunting... What is bad is bad? There are no two ways about it

FOR THE OMITTED
1. Check if Omo Onile will not disturb your life...you might even be forced to double your money when it's time to build
2. Check if there isn't any dispute on the land...It might be a scam... We've seen or heard of houses been sold to more than a single body or people selling lands that are not theirs.
3. Ask for all the required documents, ask again...Then ask again...Then make your research
4. For the believers... Seek the face of God concerning the land
5. Don't do pass your power...

Not shocking... Started from girls only/ roomie/ bestie....
Na dem Sabi jare...You can take a bushman out of a bush but can't take the bush out of him

mickeyenglish:
See eehn, I swear down, if i was your big bro or kid bro, i would have beaten the shit out of you and even if i can't, I'd definitely arrange boys for to treat your monkey ass .. I know you're about to get married hence, you're older than me definitely but sometimes, you need to be very extremely logical with life,in relation to people and the bizarre web of intricacies therein.

DON'T MARRY THAT BITCH (I'm not sorry to call her that) and there are tons of reasons for saying such.

Firstly, she's a very dangerous hypocrite. You had initiated a no-sex relationship with her. Guess what, immediately you did that, a sincere lady would have voiced out her resentment on such a stance but, she kept cool, meaning she had found a FOOL.

Secondly, she broke up with you just to get an independent sexual exploitation with her would-be baby daddy(unfortunately for her, he denied the ownership), knowing fully well that you may eventually get wind of her sexcapades.

Thirdly, it's all about psychological warfare against you, the foolish would-be husband. she knows that you're a wannade "serious and disciplined man" thus, her so-called "confession" before marriage. She knows you cherish "truth" and "fairness" hence, her little mind tricks with you, knowing that if she opens up her so-called "confessions" to you, you'd eventually admire her new truthful stance and repentance.

Fourthly,she doesn't love you one bit. She broke up with you for no reason and instantly went into another relationship. She was even audacious enough to engage in a no-protection sexcapades.

Now, my opinion :

The other cool dude she went into a relationship with after the break-up with you, is actually her lover. Here's the trick ; if the other guy had accepted the pregnancy, she would have glady been his baby mama. Unfortunately, the dude refused such ploys employed by her to tie him down and they broke up . Now, she's out in the cold and, here come the STUPID knight in shining armor(you) to her rescue.


Secondly, she most have been promiscuous even for the level of the other dude that he couldn't even trust the pregnancy if it was his or his other friends, who she might have been digging to his knowledge hence, she had to bow out of the relationship and abort the pregnancy in shame.

Thirdly, she's done with whoring and sees the negative part of it. She sees you as a naive "serious man", who doesn't know what goes on "inside life". She knows you're getting closer to getting married due to your over serious nature hence, her ploy to mentally impress you with APC's sort of CHANGE. She just wants to come and drop herself as a baggage on your life. Again, she knows the best way to eventually get you into her traps, is to come out "very clean", so that you, the DIMWIT would-be husband would start viewing her like the "virgin Mary".

Finally, your consequences :

If and when you stupidly wife the LovePeddler, she'd go back to her whoring ways in no time.
Don't be surprised that she'd even go back to that guy and his friends that initially bleeped her RAW and IMPREGNATED her, which led to the ABORTION.

You would eventually get multiple Sexually Transmitted Diseases, even HIV/AIDS, no thanks to her adulterous lifestyle.

You'd always be very judgmental about her. You'd never believe her.. You'd always doubt whatever she says till death takes on of you away..

Your children may eventually turn out to be bastards.. Snows and Sands like the Game of Thrones..

Never make a LovePeddler a housewife *TuPac Amaru Shakur

Post No Bill

You spoke my mind, word for word...
Don't be surprised to see a thread that says how do I satisfy my wife or my wife is cheating on me...Person wey don ja don ja....Find someone who'll give you peace of mind

But OP try o... Monitoring period.. Period master, Time keeper...
I don't know why people like to be in relationships devoid of trust, always suspecting their other half. Postinor no suppose affect cycle 4 months later if it didn't have an immediate effect...
That's like saying your head knocked after taking your first weed four months ago...
Mama started teen age afresh...
Please, I didn't say she aborted o...I am not she...
OP....Do whatever eases your mind....Las las you won't let the sleeping dog lie
Why everybody dey bring relationship problems come Nairaland nowadays?
IN OTHER NEWS:
who noticed the recent heatwave...e be like sey Christmas don near..
Oloshi NEPA no dey bring light