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Suigeneris93:
There's this family I know that the mother always invariably takes the side of the younger child in a dispute because she believes the younger child is quite harmless and angelic but the girls have just a year difference btw them, in that scenario is it right?

that mother isnt raising her children properly, she should only side with the child that she believe is RIGHT, and explain the reason why to the other child

count your blessings that, thanks to your foolishness, you only lost a damn phone, it could have been worse!

of course... when people want to hurt their partner, they will say things that may not be true, in order to impact their partner. thats the aim when most are angry/fighting

thats because some dumbass out there actually think P Diddy was physically behind the mixer producing each and every track that came out of bad Boyz record, same with Birdman and YMCMB. highly laughable!!!!

pinceprinz:
That you're painting this as a rather unfortunate situation is somewhat misleading. That is my point.

You don't want to learn, Issokay

Point blank!

what?! you think i am 5yrs old and you will feed me any kind of nonsense, and i will accept it without using my brain nor questioning your very poor points?! come with some valid unbiased points to the table, if you ever want to educate anyone

Oliviaarims:
Having self-control doesn't amount to pretence. Self-control teaches us that we must indulge in everything we feel like doing. It's not pretence.

when it comes to sexual matters, the minute you use words like "decency/self control etc", is the minute you would have failed... unless you wanna pretend to be someone that you aint (sexually). to each their own

Let's take for instance, In the course of a heated argument, one of the parties might feel like picking up a knife to stab the other out of anger. That would be cold-blooded murder. But self-control would tell him not to, because it isn't right and the consequences will definitely follow. Would u then call him pretentious for refusing to commit murder?

different subject completely.... off course, in this life, in some instance we all NEED self control and in others we shouldnt have any. sex is one of such instance where self control is counter productive for lovers.

Sense of decency. Oh, yes. What's there about being comfortable with being highly promiscuous YOURSELF?

FIXED

Sleeping with both married and unmarried men numbering up to 60sth. That's a screwed up life. No sane person should be comfortable doing that. I doubt porn stars even feel totally comfortable with their job.

that is your opinions and you are entitled to them, but obviously many women dont share your views and are having "much" more men passing through their legs, before getting married. as for p0rnstars, do you know any?! have you ever talked openly with any?! well, the majority are very comfortable doing what they do, very comfortable being nekkid in front of a camera, are NOT forced into doing what they are doing, and would do the same for free, if needs be. yes, "some" of them indulge in extreme acts (and some drug may be used) but its all about playing a role, just like Jim iyke playing a murderer, while he aint one.

i mean who are we kidding? why do you think women and men from all over the globe are gladly and FREELY undressing and having sex in front of their webcams? (check the site chaturbate as an example)

Knowing about ur partner's sexual fantasies and what turns her on is totally fine. But not when they are embroiled in such a sordid past. U want ur woman to lose control with you, fine. But she should have waited to lose it all with that one person, rather than the 60sth she did that with. She can have fantasies, but it's plain senseless going about experimenting them with every Tom, Dick and Harry.

again, pretence and dishonesty will get you nowhere in life.... so what you are saying is that a woman should have fantasies and fulfill them with only ONE person?! thats as crazy as searching to marry a virgin and expecting her to be experienced (in the bedroom) on your honeymoon!

Wait a minute, I don't even get how a person's fantasies can lead to such promiscuity.

thats because you are using your "rather limited" mind to judge her open minded one.... again a different lover every 2 months is NOTHING! pls, look around you.

A decent lady isn't necessarily ashamed of her sexuality and certainly not clueless about her sexual needs.

if she cant be honest about what she desires (aka her sexual needs and fantasies) or let her partner know about them, then she is useless to her lover who will never be able to satisfy this pretending woman.

Having said all that, there's no harm in trying to know ur partner's past, but sometimes, certain things are better left in the past, because no matter what some ppl will never accept them and it could forever maim relationships that would have been perfect if details were avoided.

perfect r/ship?! where?! so let me get this straight, a woman is a former runz gal, she get married to some dude lying/pretending about who she "really" is, and telling him he was her 1st (using the picture below) and they seemingly have a perfect r/ship. do you actually think that this is RIGHT, just because some desperate woman want to be married at all costs?! do you ever for once think of this guy who marry such gal? there are some informations that MUST be told before embarking in a serious r/ship or marriage. better learning before, and having the RIGHT to choose if you want to be with this woman or not, instead of learning through the grapevine that colleagues/friends used to "tap" your wifey because she was a former undercover ashewo...... its called being HONEST and accepting who you are, while standing proudly for the consequences of your actions.

N:B. I haven't said she's not redeemable, though. Neither have I said she isn't deserving of a second chance, love and trust. Everybody deserves all that.

what TRUST are you talking about when you want women to lie about who they really are?!

thunderbabs:
Seriously, water to wash face? U must be a joker. Why not use ur bottled water to save d car, fireman? Shitless!

did you miss the part where the female driver was already dragged out of the car safely?! that person wellbeing is what is important here, she could be dazed/burned etc... who gives a damn about the car?

wennysignature:
Who knows about Ehvise Global Resources please.. Got an interview invite from them slated 4 moro. Please help

here enjoy a whole thread about this scam/nonsense:
https://www.nairaland.com/2356635/ehvise-interview-invites

Bisjosh:
Na Nigerians holy pass for Sundays and Fridays but with the wackiest mentality and non-chalant attitude.

i wonder if they believe anything they say/hear in church, or if it is just like a dream where they go through the motion like zombies.

just2endowed:
U are right. From a eye witness in a bus,that was driving behind the sienna car, , he stated that it was a young lady that was driving the sienna car and all of a sudden, the front of the car burst into flames and the car flip over severally on the road. Luckily the lady was pull out before the entire car finally caught up with fire.

good to hear there ARE good samaritans out there

Aremu01:
If you were dr, what kinda help would you render?

thunderbabs:
Who u tink say u be sef, Saviour abi? If na you, u go com down for d commuter bus turn superman bah…mk una no dey talk wetin una no fit do…always to quick to criticize.....taaahhh

Eldorado01:
what help do you think can be rendered to that vehicle at that state? what can only be done is preventing do fire from spreading

Sagamite:
With that level of fire, what am I stopping for?
If they are not out of that, they are already dead.
What equipment would I use to help while on 3rd Mainland Bridge?
In that kind of situation, you aint saving no life, you will just be risking adding yours to it. The best you can do is to call Fire Service, if their is a number for them.

as much as the fire is huge now, i assume it started as just tiny flames, therefore help could be given.... and i will at least STOP and ask if any help is needed.

btw i ALWAYS have a big bottle of water in the car, so it could help the lady clean her face or throw it on her possible injuries.

Oliviaarims:
She has no self-control and sense of decency.

self control?! you mean pretence to be who you are not?! who needs that?! i want my woman to lose control with me and be HERSELF at all time.

sense of decency?! its called being COMFORTABLE with who you are as person. why fake it?!

Oliviaarims:
Honesty about such matters doesn't cover up for a whole multitude of other short-comings. That a girl wouldn't lay out her sordid past in like manner doesn't have to mean she can no longer be trusted. Certain things are better left unsaid. That woman telling a potential spouse about such a shameful sexual past does not guarantee that she'd be a good and faithful wife is future.

Old habits really die hard!

i dont know about you, but I want to know every single desire/fantasies that my partner has... because thats the only way i can possibly help her fulfill them (aka have a rewarding/satisfying sexual life). i certainly wouldnt want a woman that is ashamed of what turns her on, and therefore pretend to be who she isnt, in order to fit in or whatever.

btw her past is part of who she is TODAY, and knowing what she has been through can help understanding/dealing with her better.

pinceprinz:
lol. Its not ego cmon! it in fact is doing what should be done. In simple economic terms its about drawing a scale of preference and tackling each as soon as the means to cater for em comes in handy. So simpleton, don't complicate it.

bwaaaah! you are confirming EXACTLY what i have been saying all along. just because these men dont yell help doesnt mean they dont desire a wife, it simply means that finding a wife is not high on the scale of these men, because they "think" they dont have the tools yet to cater for these women (aka deluded mentality)

Its not necessary to bring on a replacement, its like ridding yourself off a bad habit or saying Shut up! ..Learn

again, if you have nothing valid to bring to this discussion then just say so, instead of trying to shift the goal post by answering a question with a question

Excellent! But I still maintain that an African man that agrees to polyandry is an outright BASTARD. Its my opinion and I don't need your consent. Ciao!

and you have all the rights to your opinions

Sagamite:
Help who?

And help with what? Your bare hands?

Stop where people are driving 60km/h and where there is no hard-shoulder?

Stopping to further exacerbate the traffic hold up?

bro, come on!!!!
1st these flames must be seen from far back so people will slow down
2nd so a car crashes in front of you, possible unconscious people trapped inside the car, and you will just go about your business?!
3rd who cares if the traffic is 10miles long (because you stopped to help) if you can possibly save a life?! oh yeah, i forgot, having a fluid traffic is much more important in Nigerian than possibly saving a life, right?

MOST IMPORTANTLY what would you want people to do if YOU had crashed and was possibly trapped/unconscious inside the car?! drive by while taking photos and making sure there is no hold ups?!

Suigeneris93:
Not so much when all we've been trained to do by society is to 'shrink' ourselves and deny our basic sexual instincts

do so at your own risks, and be ready to live a miserable sexual life, constantly yearning for more and settling for unsatisfying bedroom activities

freshness2020:
whats there to help broo. that car is already in deep flames.

busy 3rd mainland bridge, so the car just exploded into flames and there was no car behind or nobody in the vicinity to help in any way (even if just to throw a bottle of water on the flames)?!

you mean to say that "casually driving by while taking pics" is the thing to do?!

Apostlelong:
na fire service them be?

samphemmy5:
Pls tell us how they should help when they are not fire brigades
This is petrol and engine u know?
It explodes severally

the same way you will help if/when your home is on fire.... or would you let it burn to the ground until (or IF) fire brigade arrive?

Bisjosh:
That's Nigerians for u. Even in traffic where robbers are smashing someone's windows, they just turn to the other side instead of hitting those robbers with their cars.
Before the burning degenerated to this, am so sure there were motorists passing by but chose not to help

exactly, the fire must have started small, and i am sure someone could have helped. yet here is a country where churches on sundays are filled with people who wouldnt even help thy neighbors, kai!

pinceprinz:
MrBrownJ
Excellent! Their is no void then since largely, no man is yelling for 'Help'

as i wrote earlier, the ego of these men coupled with misconceptions about making money before finding a wife, is the reason why you dont hear about such issue. a brain is all what is needed to understand what is going on here

On the contrary its a tactic to completely debase a rising point without much ado. Go figure.

debase a rising point without bringing any valid points to the table?! oh well

. That kind of individual doesn't deserve to be called a man then, A pus.s.y, nitwit or nincompoop would fit better . BTW, I doubt u know the tenets of polyandry tho, Do u?

we are not here to judge people, and i couldnt care less what you think of such men, because that is NOT the issue. who suddenly made you the authority on who is a "real" men or not?!
if some men want to marry just 1 woman, fine! if some men want to marry multiple women, fine! if some men want to be married into polyandrous union, fine too! its their choice, their lives, their problem.

to each their own!

Suigeneris93:
Hmmmn...u hv a point there, so does that mean you'll marry that kind of woman?

her sexual history is only part of what needs to be considered before marrying someone, but i certainly wouldnt dismiss her just because of what was posted about her here.

here is something to think about... how many women out there are fully honest (to their partners) about their deepest/nastiest fantasies?!

and people are driving by, without any attempt whatsoever to help in any way.... kai!

Suigeneris93:
As seen on "Get Captivated" by Jerome Onipede:

I recently fell in love with a lady who told me about her past life two days ago and it was a bad one indeed. She confessed that she has had sex with 65 men in her life and out of that number, 50 are married men. She is 31 years and according to her, she was doing this without condom. Worse still she said she even masturbates when chatting with me on the phone. After she made this confession, she told me that she is a born again christian now despite all she has done and is still doing


My question is, can one marry that kind of person who has a very wild libido and has broken many marriages?

A) lets do the math, so this gal is 31yrs old, and and if she started having sex by the age of 21 (i am being generous), that means about 6 different lovers a yr OR a different lover every 2 months. in my humble opinion that is not much, when we have COUNTLESS sistas that will have sex with different men every weekend.

B) how did this lady broke these marriages?! did she blackmail these cheating men into sleeping with her?

C) this is certainly not a wild libido, and more like someone being fully honest about her desires (aka natural libido)

D) why shouldnt a man (who possibly has equally high mileage) marry such VERY HONEST lady? at least you would know right from the get go the type of woman she is, and you will be able to handle her accordingly. thats much better than the gazillions who pretend to be tear rubber and then discover after marriage that she has been doing undercover ashewoism all through her education

bro, do you really think our sistas are stoopid?! this is what you wrote on NL 3 days ago:

inthack:
Happy holidays to all the married and searching women on NR, it's not a good thing to be starved for sex, I am married but needed a good married woman for coded sex...... my woman doesn't like sex, and I have to get satisfied elsewhere.... if your husband isn't giving you the right satisfaction, let's hook up for the real thing, clean and mature ladies only... whatsapp 08160016242.

or a week ago:

inthack:
Sometimes, what we envisioned in life don't always come in packages as we want it,Its so sad that I end up marrying a woman who doesn't like sex, I don't want to cheat or been seen around fooling or tanisshing the image of a responsible man, I would rather looking for unsatisfied woman who is going through the same, who's husband is a travel or don't have time for her...

If you re in this shoes and you think we can meet or hoop up around LAGOS, whatsapp on 08160016242

i see a messy/nasty bathroom, some dirty looking clueless woman breastfeeding, but certainly NOTHING sexy here... imho!

pinceprinz:
The exact void Polyandry is coming here to fill is what I can't still just get myself to see. Hope you've an Eye-opener their wd u? Needing it.

just because you dont see it, doesnt mean it aint there. since men are marrying multiple women, it is obvious that there is more single men than women in Nigeria. sadly, these single men are so focussed on "making money" (thinking that this is the reason why they aint got a woman) that they dont talk about this void.

Fast forward to your Food for thought in red, The answer to that question is another question.

answering a question by a question?! thats what people who have nothing to say in a debate do

WHAT KIND OF MAN WILL ALLOW THAT HER WOMAN MARRY MULTIPLE MEN?

the kind of man that thinks like the millions of women who gladly marry polygamists, duh!

pinceprinz:
I see no iota of coherence with reality in this submission. If you're Nigerian, Pls kindly point outjust one tribe that has 'evolved' to support polyandry. Then will I bow in my wow. For the time being, your point to me is better off as a member of the dustbin.

in today's Nigerian society, polygamists are marrying 2/3 women or more at a time (and we know there is equal number of men and women in that said society), thus creating a certain void, so POLYANDRY would solve such issue naturally. stop using sentiment to judge such case and instead use what you have between your ears.

the reason why you will never see reason here is because in your mind you believe it is "ok" for a man to have multiple wives but think that it is blasphemy if women do the same, lol! yet here you are trying to have an unbiased debate/views here. here is the important question you should answer: IF A WOMAN WANTS TO MARRY MULTIPLE MEN, AND THESE MEN ARE OK WITH THAT, WHY SHOULDNT SHE?

pinceprinz:
Are U from a society where polyandry is a culture? Its not where I come from.

society is evolving naturally, the fact that you would want that same society to STOP evolving, while we can clearly see that change is needed, is what is alarming here. i guess, if we'd listened to people like you, we would still walk around butt nekkid with bones in our noses, hunting dinner with spears.

Odunharry:
Lol.. ladies are selfish in nature.. from observations and what people say..
Ladies want all the good qualities in a man yet they don't bother to check themselves if they have some of those qualities.

It's sad many women reason like that.. they think they are doing guys a favor by offering the cookie when in reality many enjoy it more..Infact it's a two way thing, they both enjoyed each other and nothing annoy me most when a lady says she was use by a man when in reality she used the man.
The man give cash for upkeep, get a new phone for her, recharge cards, gifts etc which we all know that many of them let say more than 50% enjoy this benefits not to Talk of constant hitting and drilling of her cookie for their satisfaction yet they claim bn used.
What do some of them offer, prolly gift once a while, washing and cooking and maybe cash in few occasions which we all know.

I will say some are just pretenders.

such women can never carry their own weight in a r/ship, and those that do, are gems! a lot of these demanding women have nothing to offer a man, apart from the coochie (its like their everything), so i certainly understand why To THEM, handing it over is a big deal.

funny enough, these women dont know that there is coochie AND coochie...and that some cootie cat have better value than others. here is MBJs chart:

- EMERGENCY COOCHIE:
thats the toto that isnt appealing, sometimes even dangerous, not the freshest, mileage is worst than a Lagos taxi, tightness inexistent, the gal is possibly ugly but she has a great aass or tittays, going down on her is NOT recommended, she is not a good acrobat in the bedroom, often complains as you hit it, 2 condoms must be used at all times, she never cuums and instead fakes it badly all the time; but good enough when desperate men are h0rny/drunk and need to quickly bust a nut, she stays for an hr or two maximum.
aka club gal, friendly givers, bootay call, FWB etc

- COMMON/ORDINARY COOCHIE:
good toto, the gal is a 5, the body is a 7, smell is ok, tightness is limit, you can go down on her after she passed the inspection, she isnt the best acrobat in the bedroom but she can easily be upgraded after intensive training, she sleeps over but leaves early in the morning, making her cuum is optional, condom use mandatory
aka new gf

- SEASON COOCHIE:
thats the same coochie as the above "common/ordinary" coochie but because you only hit it once in a while, it always feel like tear rubber.
aka long distance r/ship

- TOP SHELF COOCHIE:
clean and fresh toto, low mileage, the gal is beautiful, she has a nice body and likes to please you, heavy pre-intimacy is a must, she can "dance" well in the bedroom and you wanna treat her with care and affection; you know how to handle this toto perfectly and she usually cuum once, no condom used with this toto.
aka wife/serious gf

...and then finally there is the UNICORN COOCHIE: thats the toto that common men only dream about, and that they meet once in a lifetime (if they are lucky). such toto is always wet and ready, feels like honey when you lick it, not too tight but equally wrapping securely around your congo, the gal is a 10 in the face and the body is BANGING, she is a tiger in the bedroom and GENUINELY loves nothing more than to please her man each and every way he so desires; she is a freak and wouldnt mind swinging from the chandelier in a catwoman outfit, just to spice the night; she is VERY active and can use the kitchen top or outdoor to play, open minded and with a lot of stamina; she is submissive and knows when to switch and take charge; and last but not least, condom is not used with such multi orgasmic punany while cuuming inside her feels magical!
aka that p0rnstar you fantasize about

the sad part is that many women are clueless about which coochie they have!

Odunharry:
very true..lol @ drivers servicing madam..

one statement I think many guys say which annoys me is " we are polygamous in nature" and sadly many women Hav to buy that.
I sat down to think about it and I concluded within me men aren't polygamous in nature..The creator never made it to be so I said to myself. He can't possibly be bias by making men polygamous and women otherwise...I concluded it is a ploy used by some men to encourage cheating., sadly, you see many of them making reference to Abraham and some other Bible characters etc

How can change happen? how can we change someone Lik the op?

Any woman who believes men are polygamous in nature and sees no biggie when her husband cheat is not wise.

yes, sadly women have accepted this notion that "men are polygamous in nature thus they will cheat"... and so, men have their free pass to cheat and "blame" that on their natural instinct. highly laughable! but this is just an easy way for women to blame cheating on others, and not blaming themselves for the cheating, while we all know that a good deal of men cheat because their partners are lacking and dont want to upgrade.

here is where i fully disagree: whether men are polygamous in nature or not (this is a whole debate in itself), it shouldnt stop them from doing what is RIGHT. so if they wanna be with other women, thats ok, but they should do it proudly and not hide/crawl like rats. they should go and face their wives/gfs, look them dead in their eyes and say:"well babe, i am going to be with Caro my new boo this evening, dont wait for me". unfortunately, we all know that they are too coward to do so. cheating is such a childish lack of respect for yourself, your partner or your r/ship.

another blogger writing rubbish to try to bring traffic to their NONSENSE blog, here is the video of that party, yes they are DANCING!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39dibz0fJl8

hamzakito:
good evening nairalanders. my friend babe asked him a question and his confused. she asked him that how will she prove the love she has for him? please nairalander's I need your answer urgently pls

by her everyday actions, and the minute she fails, then all what she did in the past will be irrelevant.

Odunharry:
very correct..
Blame that on the society bro..
A guy can f**ki everyday, it's no one business but a lady with higher sexual urge who decide to go down everyday is seen as a LovePeddler.
The earlier people see women with high sexual urge as normal the better.

The society too has made many women stay low and giving them no opportunity to express themselves same as guys..

Good, thing are changing and women are really going for what they want or feel will make them happy.
Ladies u have the right to be happy and you are responsible for that, ur happiness isn't tied to a man or what society think.

If he cheats and doesn't want to change saying he is a man and he is free to do so, Cheat on him too.
No time

sadly, such theory doesnt go with the OP, he is only seeking to satisfy men on this issue, and disregard women completely. it is the way many Africans, middle eastern people think. "oppressed" women in such society are the worst. give them a tiny chance to cheat and they will in a heartbeat. those meguard/drivers are servicing their madams all over.

Odunharry:
ladies, it must favor dem o.. they don't care if the guy is comfortable or not

ahahahaha and then when i bring a point that favour us men, they will quickly say we are selfish, as if they think of our feelings when they do what they do.

which one is free cookie? won't the lady get free dick too??

dont even start on the free cookie bit, obviously having sex with us men is an activity that is "only" beneficial to us (and not women), and therefore it is a favour from women, which needs to be rewarded/repaid in some kind.

adeyinka007:
You ain't answering my question, how do we deal with women singleness? Stop avoiding my question. If we have 5 men available and 15 women available. As you are suggesting if 2 of the 15 women married the 5 men available, what will happen to the 13 women remaining? Do you expect the 13 women to just fold their hands and be looking?

If we have more women than men, am going to suggest each woman marries 2 or more men.
Note: Kindly think it thoroughly before you reply me.

Stay bless.

stop writing garbage online in order to try to make sense here.
A) there is much more single men as there are women out there. just because women are more concerned than us men, and publicly voice it, shouldnt be a reason for you to believe that there are more single women than men in Nigeria.

let me educate you further, the 2013 census revealed that there was MORE men than women in Nigeria (roughly 90Mil males for 86Mil females), so an "intelligent" person will simply understand that, since men in Nigeria marry multiple wives (while women dont marry multiple husbands), it is statistically IMPOSSIBLE that there is 15 single women for every 2 single men in Nigeria, as you claimed. yet, here you are telling us whatever fables in the sky on NL, in order to put you very weak point across.

who are these men marrying?! donkeys?! so lets say we do have 3 million single men for 2.8 million single women, and 1 million of these men marry 2 wives, then the remaining 2 million single men will have to fight over 800K single women that are left. do you see how your theory makes NO SENSE? and do you understand why the only way to fix this problem (and restore the balance) is to let women marry multiple men?

if you only allow men to marry multiple partners then the pool of single women (compared to single men) will always be significantly smaller, and more men will struggle to find a wife (let alone multiple).

B) the fact that you would even believe that if/when men marry multiple wives they will stop cheating is another one of your misconceptions. men cheat for many different reasons but the main issue here is that they cheat because they are WEAK. because they cant resist, say NO and stand by the vows they made to their partners, and subsequently respect their partners too. such man will cheat whether they have 1 wife or 20, because there will ALWAYS be a younger/finer/sexier woman than his wife (or wives) out there, that they wont resist.

the main issue here is the feeling of mounting a new toto, which is what drives us insane. it is not really about that person (although it helps if she is sexy and beautiful) but much more about that unmounted toto (yet); the excitement of chasing that prey (aka babe) and finally catching her. real men will normally recycle the toto they have at home and add some sparks in their sex life in order to turn their old toto into a brand new one, but the truth is that nothing will ever compare to that feeling of mounting that seemingly tear rubber (for our mind) toto. this is why many men out there will gladly sleep with their ugly stinking maids, the babe aint better than madam, she is just "new".

C) ok, lets assume that if men marry multiple wives they wont cheat any longer, how exactly is this going to solve the problem of WOMEN CHEATING ?! your solution doesnt solve the problem with women cheating, far from it, since there will be so many single men available. your solution is narrow minded as you only think about men and dont really care about the women part of this issue.

i am not even gonna talk about the fact that having multiple wives cost lots more money, and thinking that just about any man out there can have many wives is a damn joke!