₦airaland Forum

adeyinka007:
Mr BrownJ, please it high time we stop saying " we shouldn't care" if doctors don't care do you know how many lives would being lost, if the army doesn't care the world would by now be taken by terrorists, etc. We should care if we really love humanity.

For your information there is nothing like a perfect woman just like nothing like a perfect man, if a man keep searching for a perfect woman am sure he is going to marry in his grave. Nobody is perfect.

bro, stop being a selfish hypocrite!!!! if you think it is ok for men to marry multiple women (due to high libido or what not), then it should be exactly the same if a woman had high libido. whats good for the goose is good for the gander.

biafranqueen:
Herpes na stop by condom my friend and when it break in the middle of smashing what next?

you dont have to have sex with someone to catch herpes, you can catch it simply by kissing someone.... so should we "also" stop kissing?! duh!

talking about having an "accident" such as a condom that breaks during sex, is just as clueless as saying that people shouldnt drive because they could have an "accident". NONSENSE!

this will not stop these bastards from robbing people, far from it, they will evolve to armed robbery. taking them to the nearest police station wont help either as the cops will only ask for bribe money and release them (no rehabilitation here). these boys will simply be even more bitter against the community and more determined to defraud the people who gladly humiliated them.

let me say it again: ONE BULLET is the only answer!

XaintJoel20:
Condom is not always the answer....

condom is the cheapest/wisest tool to protect lovers against hiv/aids.... but if you know something cheaper, pls do educate us all

sarutobie:
That is an African civet for Pete sake! This animal has been all but wiped out in this part of the world..when they are all gone what then do we do? Start hunting humans pronbably.

correct!

@korel9
what would telling him serve exactly?! you are not looking to marry her, neither does he, so enjoy this community toto, and be merry.

XaintJoel20:
Cheerful giver in an era of scarce resources...
Quit before you contract HIV/AIDS. The same way she willingly open her legs for you and your colleague could be the same way she is doing with numerous others...

yeah she may have many other guys in her stable, and so what?! these guy are after her just for the toto, so they shouldnt complain.
and condoms are not made for donkeys.

ungrateful greedy biatch, when so many women out there cant even have ONE orgasm, here she is demanding for multiple ones.
that man should just tell her:" babe i am doing my best here, if it aint good enough for you then why dont you go back to your ex, and save us the BS? i guess, if it was really "all" that good, you would still be with him, and not me, so ush up and work with me here.

its is not entirely MY fault if you cant come more than once, you are to blame too. sex is about two people so communicate with me during sex so you can lead me in the right direction etc. voice it to me when i am doing something pleasant, or if you want it softer/faster/rougher/nastier, where you like me to caress/lick you etc. sex is a partnership and thats the only way i will discover you fully, and possibly find what makes you explode multiple times."

bomasek:
Boss,aside physical abandonment,finance also made the lady cry out. Let's assume if he had been paying monthly stipends to her,this issue wouldn't have pop up in the first place.

Though the kids are too young to stray alone from their mother's nest but I believe an arrangement can be made for us to have physical contact and bond as father and kids. If it means bringing them over to Greece every long vacation,I won't mind.

As for my main squeeze aka wife,I explained earlier that I'm gonna lay my cards bare to her. Explain the circumstances that led to the current fiasco and plead for her understanding. If she's not willing to swim against the tides with me,its no brainer we gonna call it a day.

what you wrote above is the right way of doing things, when you have a "sane" baby mama who isnt hellbent on ruining your life.

adeyinka007:
How will you deal with women being single then?

the same way we are dealing with MEN being single due to polygamy.... we shouldnt care! so many men out there have a tough time finding a good wife to marry, yet here you are saying that it is ok for some men to marry multiple wives. abi you dont see all these desperate single guys out there?

this news is a damn lie, if this was true then most proper news sites will have it, instead of just some BS unknown blog/sites.
gullible people!

if you allow a woman to equally marry 2 husbands (or more), if they desire to do so, then you are making a lot of sense... if you look down on such act then you are making NO sense whatsoever.

no need to click any link, here is the car:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RY15QhoMRAY

Oliviaarims:
Win-win situation for men. How selfish! Free cookie, too. Imagine that.

i mean, you were clueless about why men did that so i gave you a possible reason... which makes a lot of sense. dont you women do things in your lives that are positive (aka win-win) solely for y'all? read again what you wrote earlier on, and tell me how this is beneficial to us men. women dont act any differently here.

U just about summed it up. They want a win win situation. Develop a relationship or get a free coochie. That's why girls won't fall for it. Because they'd most likely be at the losing end.

BWAAAAAAAAAH!!! so developping a r/ship OR getting a free vacation (and some "good time" ) is wrong for women?! would you rather developping a r/ship OR getting free gifts and money (as you string the guy along)? at least women get something great from the male deal, what do men get from the female deal, if it doesnt work out?!

we must live on a different planet, a man flies you out to some fancy city, he wine and dine you, flirts with you, maybe even takes you shopping (thats the mumus out there) takes you to watch some movies, maybe dancing, treats you like the princess that you are, and in return he expects some warm affection that should come naturally that you will BOTH enjoy... and you see something wrong here?! if feelings aint mutual then fair enough, dont waste any time and excuse yourself 30mins into the date, et voila case closed.

ronald4lif:
MRBrownJ, sorry to ask I don't know if you're a Nigerian or have ever been there but I'm sure you're conversant with the poor security, data base system of her citizen and their non-challant attitude towards rape and other sexual harassment cases from relevant authorities. In light of this, what do you reckon? Is it safe for a lady to make the first visitation move?

bro, there are a few issues:
the rape/ritualist/kidnapping thingy in Nigeria is a big deal.... before a woman can decide to meet a guy she has to be very clear about her intentions. with the way many Nigerian men think, i dont think it is advisable for a lady to visit a guy at his home (that she aint feeling sexually like that). in the mind of many Nigerians, a gal that come to said guy's home is a confirmation that she wants sex... which is a completely wrong way of thinking imho. thats why women should stay away from men's place if they aint ready, and instead they should stay in hotels if they coming from other cities.

whoever has the means and desire to make the visit happen, should do so. but if a man spends money to bring a gal to his city, he expects to get closer (emotionally and physically) to that woman, to score some valuable points for their possible union, or just have some good time together. 1st visitation should happen when/where both are the most comfy to do so, but one thing is certain, they have to evolve (emotionally or physically) after that visit if not then thats a bad investment for the both of them.

also, there has to be a clear understanding between these two people before embarking on such journey as to what the purpose of the travel is. we men want to burn bridges and we have no problems having some bedroom acrobatics on the 1st weekend together... is that wrong really? it isnt to most, and it is all about being honest with what you desire. if the lady can afford it, she can pay for the hotel of her choice so that she is in control, at all time, as to where she stays and how things goes. furthermore, if she isnt down for any hanky panky then she should excuse herself from dinner/movies etc and go back to her hotel (or better yet, not come to visit at all). but we have to be clear on one thing: a man is not gonna fly a gal out just to watch her eat 10plates of amala and then kiss her good night.

so beforehand, women have to be realistic and ask themselves (and these men) the RIGHT questions... and these men have to be honest about their intentions from the get go.

pinceprinz:
Take no11 and 23 as e.g, ain't they taunting. Don't u smell sinister?

Fact is there are some that come in handy yeah, but the taunting one's, don't know d motive.

nah bro, you tripping... flip the script instead:
11: what i hate the most about you is that you have to leave every time we meet
23: i am ME, i dont know if that is seductive or romantic, you tell me... but so long as its a positive thing, its all good.

there are many recovery software out there, Google is your friend bro... and yes Recuva is one of them, if you are on Windows.

@pinceprinz
how can you be clueless about answering these questions about your life? i dont get it, are you looking for someone to give you answers about "your" life?!

Tunchi101:
Most of d so called fixed things are a direct counter to the post. This ain't a debate man.

Nice counters anyways

more like a possible reason why men and women act in such a way, thus advising you not to mistakenly judge men (as using females) just because they do what you wrote above

obvious photoshop BS

Tunchi101:
1. They never kiss you unless it's leading to s*x. This category of guys would never even hold your hand in public a shy guy would do that, or one not too keen on PDA
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 2.  They never make time for things that concerns you. They are only around when its in their interest. My sister, sharpen up; your noting but a cure to his boredom. its called "being BUSY"

 3. If you like, date a thousand other guys, they don't care, so far you are available when they need you. When person no be recharge card so a gal is having a 1000 other guys in her life but "you" are the one using her?! is that one of your jokes?!

 4. They spend much. Most of the time, guys see their spending on ladies as investment. It's unfortunate most ladies don't realise this. This happens to be a bad sign because at the end of the day after spending and you refuse him what he wants, O.Y.O na I'm you dey
so, the gal wouldnt be using the guy if he spent money on her lavishly but got nothing in return whatsoever?!

 5. He Never introduces you to people that matter to him like his family or friends. It's a pity most ladies don't take notice of this cause it's definitely a red light sign its called:"not being ready yet"

6. Conversations with such guys are mostly naughty and having to do with sex. if lady doesnt like it, she can change the subject

 7. He never commits no matter how long it takes. commits to who/what exactly?

 8. He Never (rarely) takes you out on dates. This is because he doesn't want to be seen with you; so therefore, home is where he wants to be. To put bluntly, he is embarrassed to be seen with you. not all women are date worthy, but if he is with her at home, then why should she care? at least he is with her.

 9. Guys like this are mostly interested in chatting or texting because chatting is impersonal. Hearing ones voice has been proven to be a sign of affection; so therefore, they rarely wanna hear your voice. chatting/texting is also CHEAPER and EASIER

10. They only calls or visit when its late. You ask yourself which kind of people are patronised only at night time?? mst married people "also" only spend quality time together at night, is that so bad?

 11. Constantly request for n*de pictures from you. Some d*ft ladies would keep sending them thinking it would make him love them more. I laugh in hebrew what does nude pics got to do with love?!

 13. He really never has anything meaningful to say when you are together, so all you do is sex. if that gal has something meaningful to say then why dont she say it? sex is a "meaningful" thing to do anyway

 14. Always trying to get you drunk. I don't have to tell you what is most likely to come next any smart respectable man knows that having sex with a drunk gal is rubbish

 15. He would never open up to you i.e discuss things that matter to him with you. And some girls still stick around it takes time to TRUST and pen up to someone

FIXED

sadly, too many women believe that if a man is not ready for marriage (when they are) then he is automatically using them

krett:
Them girls be like I rader sleep with a rich guy than a broke nigga

thats because its easier to wake up the next day in silk sheets, rather than some dirty stingy sheets thrown on the sofa of broke guy's best friend.

bomasek:
Boss as an Ijaw,I won't leave the upbringing of my kids to my baby mama alone,its gonna be a big family with the lady I eventually settle down with. It's about me informing her of my past "mis"deeds and telling her upfront my intent to have my kids around me. If she's not cool with it,no point settling down with her. My kids are a part of me whether she likes it or not.

how are you gonna have Ukraine kids around with you in Greece?! do you actually think bitter baby mama will just fly them away to be with you, just like that, when she is on social media claiming that you've abandoned your "family" in Ukraine?! be real now

if the issue is not settled with baby mama in Ukraine then there will be no peace here, and the upbringing of these kids will be 110% by baby mama in Ukraine.

cutieisme:
so i do know have not cheated with someone else's wife..

lie lie lie!!!! you knew she was married and had sex with her, so stop lying to yourself.

as for her being busted by her husband, she got what she deserved for being a cheating rat.

bomasek:
Even God knows I can't abandon my kids wedlock or not.

Nigga,I think u ought to take care of your kids.

pls enlighten us, lets say you are a professional football player who is playing for Dinamo Kyiv and have a baby mama in Ukraine, then you get transferred to Greece and find a woman to marry there. what will you do about your kids in the Ukraine (apart from sending money)?

Oliviaarims:
Lol. U don't get it. The girl hasn't professed love or the sort. They talk on very neutral grounds. Sometimes, the conversation doesn't get past exchange of pleasantries.. And the dude will still think it okay to be inviting her over. Whatever for?
If she does ask him to come over, then yea. That could be regarded as a greenlight.

Let's however not lose sight of the point. Some guys just make unnecessary invitations!

i think you are the one who doesnt understand us men... you see, since there is some sort of connection here (however small/formal it may be), that man wants to try his luck and stop wasting time with this back and forth long distance BS.... so he invites the gal over. if she comes and they get along like a glove then they can continue making sense out of this thing (and possibly have a great r/ship), if they dont get along then at least he would have possibly gotten some "free" coochie.

so as you can see, it is a win-win situation here for men, and certainly not unnecessary invites..... it becomes unnecessary when the gal dont give a damn about the guy but keep stringing him along for online chit chat that goes nowhere, and where everyone can pretend to be who they are not, since they never met in real life.

now if that gal doesnt want to meet, then fair enough, and let that guy not waste any more time with you... but sadly we all know that many of these women CRAVE for men's attention.

RHEMAA:
Sir, she schools in Anambra while I school in Benin. we don't see for months sometimes. just on holiday period and festive seasons.
I just pray heaven will have intervene in this issue. cultists are really disturbing her in school. one said he must bed her by hook or by crook.

and you are still here wasting time on NL, instead of making sure she never return to this evil place?!

Oliviaarims:
That's the issue. There aren't mutual feelings. They might just be acquaintances or perhaps the guy's claiming to be in love. If it's a proper relationship or a prospective one, I have no problem with that.

if there aint no mutual feelings then the lady should tell exactly that to the guy and spare him the journey. if she tells the guy:"i cant come to your city but come to mine" then this is a green light.

n

kai

Oliviaarims:
It would only be permitted if the meeting is ultimately necessary. And of course it's different. As long as u're in ur comfort zone, u call the shots and determine what happens. U decide where and when to meet. Have a couple of ppl know what's going on and whatever else is necessary.

ok so what you mean is that ultimately the whole friendship/affair (or whatever) is about YOU and your wishes, without caring one bit for that person's wishes? it sounds more like a nervous interview rather than a date between 2 people who like each other. isnt it 50/50 in your world? what about meeting the guy half way in this quest for affection?

lolguy:
I have been hearing about female condom but never seen one, so pls if anobody here male or female has used it in the fast let us here your experience.

much different but feels better IMHO... i just dont like the fact that you wont know if the gal is wet, dripping wet or dry as the desert.