MRBrownJ's Posts

Nairaland Forum › MRBrownJ's Profile › MRBrownJ's Posts

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 ... 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 (of 101 pages)

Romance › Re: What Does She Mean When She Says "You Are Not Caring" by MRBrownJ: 4:58pm On Jan 04, 2016

wkkwl:
I have been dating this girl,i am caring but i don't know if there is another part of caring ooo.

very simple:
Wkkwl's GF: you are not caring
Wkkwl: what do you mean i aint caring? i am trying my best here, i dont know what you want from me, so you need to tell me exactly what you expect me to do (or how you expect me to be), and if i can do it then i will.... but i certainly cant read your mind.

Romance › Re: #6 Reasons Why Having Children Will Negatively Impact Your Marriage by MRBrownJ: 4:42pm On Jan 04, 2016

morereb10:
Do you know that having children in your marriage can negatively and POSITIVELY impact your happiness and love? Most people never considers this issue because our society is setup in such a way that when you are married, within a year, all you are expected of is to have a baby. We fail to understand that, this also negatively and/or positively impact in the relationship of the marriage.

Nowadays, the relationship/marriage might be over before it even began. It gives rise to a lot of things including infidelity and more. So, let us see how children can negatively impact your marriage and how you can work on these challenges.

1. Stress: A new baby equals stress but also JOY and HAPPINESS. It could be financial stress, emotional stress, physical stress, etc. The point is, you as a parent now have a very huge responsibility which you fully well prepared for before taking the decision to have a child. You have a life in your hand that you have to nurture and care for. This could be a bit overwhelming just like it could equally be a FANTASTIC adventure.

2. Jealousy: Some couples report that they feel a little jealous of their partner’s natural attachment to the child. No parent wants to feel left out, and they arent, really. And sometimes, as parents, especially mothers, we are so focused on taking care of the child that we forget our partners need time too but the partners understand that the main priority is the wellbeing and care for the newborn child. Another issue is when a parent feels like his/her partner does not consider them a priority anymore because they now have kids, different priorities require different attention but a newborn child require mummy AND daddy's full attention.

3. Difference in opinions: There are issues you will face as parents which you have never faced before,. You could have different ideas on how the kids should be raised. Your partner may want to do something with the child that you do not agree with. This is normal, because you are both two members of the same team and you might butt head from time to time.
but thank god, thats the stuff you've both talked about extensively before thinking of having a child

FIXED

Romance › Re: Some Character Traits That Places A Lady In The Class Of A Love Peddler by MRBrownJ: 2:09pm On Jan 04, 2016

@emusmith we men must ALSO take responsibilities for the poor choices that we make....

2. Breaking up with boyfriend just because he's temporarily broke and later returning when he's rich.
it all depends on whether that foolish bf attracted this damzel with money, because if he did, then this lady has all the rights to leave if she doesnt get the requirements of that said r/ship. you cant catch a bee with honey and expect it to stay if there is NO more honey.

3. Sleeping with his friends to get at him or for lustful pleasure
this is called REVENGE, and if done once to get back at cheating bf, it cant/shouldnt be compared to love peddlers

4. Dating married men (for money)
s if the gal dates a married guy because he is "cute", will you still consider her a love peddler? and if the guy aint married, is that ok to date men for money?! be careful of what you are saying

5. Exposing body parts to entice another lady's man
ladies will always use what they have to get what they want... whether it be their brains, status or sex appeal. you cant blame women for the poor choices that these men will make.

6. Going diabolical to snatch a guy
being diabolical has nothing to do with being compared to a love peddler

7. Purposefully starving him of sex because he didn't meet your financial demands.
so a wife is considered a love peddler because she uses what she has to get what she wants!? you are a comedian.... let that man be in charge (for a change) and put clear rules/directives in his household

8. Sex-chatting with guys for money or airtime.
call them desperate, broke, cunning etc but they certainly cant be compared to love peddlers

2 Likes 1 Share

Romance › Re: For Those Who Have Cheated, A Question by MRBrownJ: 1:39pm On Jan 04, 2016*

betsy96:
Was the sex "more" than what was typical with your spouse?

the important word in your question is exactly the reason why so many decide to cheat.... TYPICAL (aka a routine or what is expected)

people who have been together for a while tend to get into a sexual routine with less excitement as they advance in life. you get less aroused/reaction from something that you 1st did on impulse and who brought great satisfaction, but now turned into some kind of choreography where you know exactly what your partner's gonna do before they do them. yeah the sex is good but not as rewarding/satisfying as these 1st few months when you were discovering that person for the 1st time. even if that person is the best you ever dream of, you are bound to get used to whatever you guys do, unless you spice your bedroom activities as you get along.

so many cheaters primarily seek for that excitement/adventure, and that lost feeling or arousal, that they will generally get from any new lover, simply because they are NEW and not necessarily because they are better (although it may feel that way).

3 Likes

Romance › Re: Should I Advice Her Or Not by MRBrownJ: 1:11pm On Jan 04, 2016

lordprosh:
I was hurt by her kissing anoda guy.. Am jst d kinda guy dat don't knw how to react..

sadly, yes you dont show your feelings especially when its needed by your partner (who may do crazy things to get your attention)... your type is the reason why so many women are miserable in love. its no better than them being single.

M silence ws golden to her..

your silence was WRONG, no matter how you wanna look at this issue.

I tink her reason 4 marriage is jst to enjoy d pleasure of sex without committing sen of fornication.

whatever her reason may be, it makes sense to HER... as a not so close ex, accept that as her choices. you may advise her that it may be too early, but if she is dead set on getting married then accept that

But I ttink drz more to life dan SEX..

thats YOUR opinion and you are entitled to them, and i suggest you use that in YOUR life to evaluate who you seek for marriage.

Pls try nd see tinx 4rm my angle..

i CANT/WONT because it is not your life we are talking about here, its HERS. so only her angle matters, and so far she is ok with it, its all good.

If dz her decision turns out to be a big mistake nd I didn't warn her.. I tink I'll die of d guilt in my heart..

this will be the consequences of HER actions, and thats much better to accept than if she did what YOU wanted her to do, and it turns out to be a big mistake.

The fact she's my EX does not mean we aint friends.. My closes frnd now is one of my EX.. She advice nd help wit my relationship.. Nd I do same to her.. I had an ish wit my GF recently nd she ws d 1 dat help m solve d prob

the important word here is ADVICE, and not enforce. yes, you have all the rights to tel her how you feel about this marriage (as you have already done), now that she has heard you and she still want to go ahead with this marriage, accept it and move on with your life.

Celebrities › Re: Guys What Does Donjazzy Mean By "EGBON"? by MRBrownJ: 12:49pm On Jan 04, 2016

i foolishly thought it meant "brotha", lol

Education › Re: Who Stole The Coke? Come In If And Only If You're A Genius. by MRBrownJ: 12:39pm On Jan 04, 2016

olafirstt:
It was Darius

if it was Darius then 6 statements are true, not 4

@ abumeinben
very simple... BRENDA did it, and all statements (4) that says otherwise are wrong

14 Likes 1 Share

Business › Re: Is Importing From China Better Than Buying From Lagos? by MRBrownJ: 12:22pm On Jan 04, 2016

Business › Re: Is Importing From China Better Than Buying From Lagos? by MRBrownJ: 12:18pm On Jan 04, 2016

@innobarca
sadly, people like the Obynolee are too busy competing with his own brotha instead of thinking on how to grow their businesses with partnerships and business venture

Obynolee:
I am not referring to the Op but the Lagos guy you think that it is your birthday right for him to divulge the secret of his business. I think you're the one that have memory loss here.I am a busy guy and wouldn't gloryfy you with a quote again.

what are you taking about?! are you high on some cheap drugs?! i advised the OP to find cheaper suppliers by asking stores in Lagos where they get their goods from, and you are the one with your narrow state of mind who started quoting me with your nonsense. so next time, advise your fellow man, if they are trying to start a business, or keep quiet instead of trying to bring people down. your type is the kind that Nigeria does NOT need, always trying to keep a brotha down instead of helping people with FREE informations/advices. if i can help the OP with free information/advices, i will, whether you (and your low mindset) like it or not.

3 Likes

Business › Re: Is Importing From China Better Than Buying From Lagos? by MRBrownJ: 10:59am On Jan 04, 2016

Obynolee:
You are wrong, what if you don't need partner?,you need to understand that there are great difference between theory and practical.

nonsense, do you have memory loss or something?! the OP has a mini importation business and problems with transportation, while getting the goods at much higher price than they are in Lagos, because he doesnt buy in bulk. ..and you are here telling us all that he doesnt need a partner?! then how can he buy the goods cheaper OR lower the cost of shipping (if he doesnt partner with anyone)?

you are making very little sense and your way of thinking is the reason why so many of these mini importers are failing miserably. mini importers should work together and lower costs in all spectrum, instead of working against one another and having the Chinese manufacturers laughing all the way to the bank.

TV/Movies › Re: Nollywood Is Really Changing.. Don't Miss This by MRBrownJ: 3:25am On Jan 04, 2016

imho, the big problem here is that this lady "thinks" she can act while it takes much more than just a good script to become an actor. as much as she is passionate about this, she can just let the chosen actors know what she is trying to portray here and they will recreate that.

it takes a LOT to become a proper actor.

Jayboy124:
Sly did it. Why not.

but Sly is/was an actor when he did, while she isnt

Family › Re: Is It To Go Back To Him Or Get A Divorce? by MRBrownJ: 12:45am On Jan 04, 2016

you certainly dont need to be married to this man any longer, and since he doesnt care about you and these kids, there is no point continuing this charade.

i just dont understand what you called this reconciliation for?! after 16months, there is nothing to "reconcile"

8 Likes

Romance › Re: Why Do Girl Of Nowadays Love To Date Guy That Don't Love Them? by MRBrownJ: 12:19am On Jan 04, 2016

donfreshest6:
I just observe that ladies of nowadays do not give attention to guys that love them for real, Instead they will rather follow the guy that don't even love or care about them. and keep saying this pissing statement. " I really love him, and i believed he loves me too".. Imagine that statement? Guys what do you think about this?

dont solely blame the babes and instead also blame the guys.... the reason are many:
[b]- you actually think a stranger loves a gal "for real" while, the truth is, he doesnt and only uses such lying sentence to get to the gal. i mean, lets be real here, how can you love a stranger?!

- even if the gal chose that deluded guy who "supposedly love her for real", are you saying that, in the course of this r/ship, this guy can NEVER change and stop caring for her?! so yeah, at the beginning she chose a caring guy who can possibly turn out to be a jerk.

- you actually think that jerks come with a sign board that says "i am a jerk". while the reality is that the jerk will do all the right thing until he is comfortable with the babe.... thats when they let go and show their true self. by then it may be too late and the gal is hooked, thus trying to hang on to this failed r/ship.

- the guys with good intentions believe that they shouldnt work hard to get the gal simply because they have "good intentions" while others dont... but the reality is that just being yourself is not good enough. they need to work HARDER than any other guys out there and be on top of the game to impress the gal, and if a gal chose the wrong guys then blame it on yourself for not raising your game to the level of the competition.

- the reality is that it is a 50/50 decision, and sometimes women win, and sometimes they lose... because at the start, we men are all the same, both the jerk and the guy with good intentions will say/do pretty much the same things to get into the gal's heart.

- who is really complaining about this? is it the gals who were fooled OR is it the guys with good intentions who realised they will have to settle with the jerks leftovers?![/b]

as for the people who blame money as the reason for their misfortunes with women, then i would ask:"would you really want to settle with a woman who values men by their pockets, anyway?!"

2 Likes

Romance › Re: Should I Advice Her Or Not by MRBrownJ: 11:41pm On Jan 03, 2016

@lordprosh
how can you say to someone (that you havent seen for months) that getting married to the man she desires is NOT the best option?!
obviously, from the start, we can clearly understand that you guys are not meant for one another, as you desired different things in life, and you didnt care about what this gal was doing (whether kissing other guys or getting marriage proposals). her ultimate dream is to GET MARRIED, and now that she is about to achieve her dream, you want to derail that?! how selfish of you. let her leave her life with or without the dreams she shared with you

Romance › Re: 30 Years Old Lady Got Pregnant Without Marriage by MRBrownJ: 11:15pm On Jan 03, 2016

she should discuss the issue with her BF, and if she foolishly decides to raise that baby on her own, then she should sit and evaluate if she is emotionally, physically AND financially ready to care for that child for the next 18yrs. desperation due to body clock or whatever, shouldnt be a reason to bring a child into this world that one would be unfit to properly care for.

1 Like

Family › Re: As A Married Man, What Will You Do If Your Wife Tells You This? by MRBrownJ: 11:09pm On Jan 03, 2016

who knows what goes on between these 2 individuals?! if this man accepts such poor treatment from his wife, then so be it. nobody knows why she can say such foul words and the hubby is quiet about it.

Business › Re: Is Importing From China Better Than Buying From Lagos? by MRBrownJ: 10:34pm On Jan 03, 2016

Obynolee:
No,everybody does it,it is just like asking dangote to tell you the secret of his business or asking coca cola the same question, they won't tell you all.That is the truth.Even you will do exactly, it is natural.

so you actually do think that there is a "secret" formula to success?!?!?!?!?! BWAAAAAAAAH, very funny!
telling someone where they can get bulk items in China is NOT a secret, far from it, as this info is all over the internet for all to see.

sadly, in any businesses (whether big or small) you have to use your brain at all times and work towards improving the business. so, if having a partner can help your business with A) sharing the cost of shipping and B) lower the cost of that said bulk product, then why shouldnt you tell people where you get your products (and possibly have a partnership with them)?

there is nothing "natural" (or rewarding) about not wanting to tell someone where they can get a product in bulk, while YOU dont sell in bulk. it makes absolutely NO sense!

3 Likes

Romance › Re: Never Knew She's A Lez by MRBrownJ: 10:15pm On Jan 03, 2016*

DeeTus:
She should let a guy hot bang her and after that, her lez will go.

here is the #1 misconception about lesbians... thinking that a good fukc will change her, while a man has absolutely nothing "good" that will turn her on, to begin with.

Romance › Re: Boy Or Girl: Which Would You Prefer For A First Child? by MRBrownJ: 9:52pm On Jan 03, 2016

people should desire an HEALTHY INTELLIGENT child

1 Like

Business › Re: Is Importing From China Better Than Buying From Lagos? by MRBrownJ: 9:47pm On Jan 03, 2016

Obynolee:
Try to give advice base on what you know,you think they will divulge the info??,so that you will come and chance them??.Business is secret bro even here on nairaland they still sell eBook.

such state of mind is the reason why they will remain at the bottom, while if they'd joined forces, they could buy more and get prices down

2 Likes 1 Share

Romance › Re: Never Knew She's A Lez by MRBrownJ: 9:43pm On Jan 03, 2016

its funny how some people will quickly bring religion/god/jesus etc into these matters as if this is the answer to all these issues.
wasnt there lesbianism etc during biblical times?! why would anyone think that something that has been here for SO LONG, will suddenly disappear with prayers?! so people havent prayed against lesbianism since biblica times?! of course they did and it changed absolutely NOTHING! if anyone believes that this is the act of the devil, and we all know that god is powerless against these acts, then why do you still think that prayers will solve anything against such act?

god is indeed powerless against the devil because if he had any power whatsoever then the world wouldnt be in the state that it is (aka innocent people dying left right and center, evil people doing devilish acts etc).

2 Likes

Family › Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by MRBrownJ: 9:12pm On Jan 03, 2016

Suigeneris93:
Alright cool. But I've seen cases where mothers don't correct the older child(whether right or wrong) before the younger to save the older child's face and retain the respect and distance of one for the other

these parents have lost the plot on raising children properly (like so many out there), over respect between siblings. respect and righteousness are 2 different things, and shouldnt be mixed. you should always "try" to respect your elders, but you certainly shouldnt stand for anything wrong, ever.... because someday "respect" and "righteousness" may clash, and your kids MUST/SHOULD always make the right decision. RIGHTEOUSNESS over RESPECT, always!

whether older or youngest, what is right is RIGHT, and nothing can/should change that. parents certainly wont be fair if they instill some kind of immunity of the older child, whether he/she does right or, most importantly, WRONG. there should be only one authority in family, and thats YOU (aka parents), but even at that, you are not immune from being reprimanded if you do wrong.

teach your kids the value of right and wrong, so you dont have to worry about respect as they will always act RIGHT.

1 Like

Romance › Re: Most Nigerian Guys Who Have Been In Sexual Relationship Are Guilty Of Gray-rape. by MRBrownJ: 6:54pm On Jan 03, 2016

the important question IS: should a man have sex with a woman that refuses to have sex with him (for whatever reason)?!

Romance › Re: Never Knew She's A Lez by MRBrownJ: 6:40pm On Jan 03, 2016

joliyp:
am really so sad about. my friend who just opened up to me that she is a lez and really want to stop !!!! she has been my gud friend and good advicer on relationship ,never knew she is a lez her hatred for men I always tout was due to only galz school we both attended

how do I make her stop this act ? bashing and reasonable comments allowed

sadly, you cant!! she is who she is and, no matter how much she decides to "fake it" and pretend to be who she is not, at the end of the day she is a LESBIAN. she hates men and is attracted to WOMEN. there is nothing that can be done and i seriously do feel sorry for the man who will settle for this fake hetero woman.

here is something for you to do, ask her these simple questions:
- why do you want to stop being a lesbian?
if she gives you any reasons such as family, religion, social/peer pressure etc then she is fooling herself.

- how long do you expect to fool people that you are hetero (and subsequently be miserable)?
if women is what she desires then she will be NO good to any men, as she will be a bitter miserable person in a loveless/careless/emotionless r/ship. and yes, she can possibly fake it for a few months or years, but eventually she will have to go right back to who she really is, and what brings her joy.

- do you think being a lesbian is a choice?!
does she really think that her sexual preference (what brings satisfaction in her life) can be changed at free will?! that her brain can start reacting differently to how its formatted?!

3 Likes

Crime › Re: My Horrible Experience by MRBrownJ: 6:13pm On Jan 03, 2016

drstan:
ye bro, just that am too quick to trust, just hoping for the best.

its not wrong to be too quick to trust, but it is very dangerous in Nigeria... kidnappers, body part salesman, ritualists etc

Family › Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by MRBrownJ: 6:10pm On Jan 03, 2016

Teespice:
all shades of wrong.

what happened to her being fair and neutral. taking sides in an argument comes with slow consequences, one of which is the seed of discord that would be planted among the siblings.

how can you be fair to the child who is RIGHT, if you dont stand by his actions?!
why should you be neutral, if a child is RIGHT and the other is WRONG?!
every actions in life (whether RIGHT or WRONG) have consequences, and a parent siding by a child who done right is appropriate
have we lost the meaning of RIGHT and WRONG that we cant even stand by what we (parents) believe is RIGHT?!

2 Likes

Family › Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by MRBrownJ: 6:03pm On Jan 03, 2016

Suigeneris93:
Should she even be seen taking sides with anyone of them whether they're right or wrong?

OF COURSE!!!! she must teach her kids to ALWAYS side with righteousness, at all cost. teach her kids that there is no reward for doing what is wrong and that she will never stand by wrong. as much as we all love our kid, standing (aka taking side) by a child who is right doesnt mean we are abandoning a child who do wrong, it just means that we stand by what we believe is RIGHT..... always.

1 Like

Crime › Re: My Horrible Experience by MRBrownJ: 5:57pm On Jan 03, 2016

drstan:
bros if you were in my shoe,I bet ,you will do same

sadly i cherish my life too fukcing much to be following strangers into some dark alleys. if they had no money then A) you leave and ask them to contact you when they do and B) ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS meet and stay in a public place!

1 Like

Career › Re: Did I Make A Wrong Decision ? Pls Help ! Before It's Too Late. by MRBrownJ: 4:02pm On Jan 03, 2016

you did what you believed was RIGHT by you, and thats all that matters. there are always obstacles in the path of life, nothing is easy but you must have a POSITIVE mindset. i can sense nothing but negative feels in what you wrote, and as much as your situation aint the best, i am sure there are many positive things in your life that you can be proud of. so count your blessings, and take a step (in the right direction at a time. keep your head up and keep doing what you are doing

as for you saying that you are single because you have no money, let me (be blunt and) say: OH SHUT IT!!!! your financial situation has nothing to do with your r/ship status. if that was true then there wouldnt be so many poor people out there happily married and having families. your LOW SELF ESTEEM and MISCONCEPTIONS are the reason why you are single. the minute you start to value yourself and love the man you see in the mirror, is the day you will have any chance of going forward in this issue (or any other).

Sports › Re: Which Website Can I Access The Life Streaming Of EPL by MRBrownJ: 3:43pm On Jan 03, 2016

rojadirecta is one of them

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 ... 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 (of 101 pages)