₦airaland Forum

Neemee:
That's the problem with these girls. There's a girl I have come to love without reservation, but, guess what the obstacle is? She got a guy she's been dating for years now, a guy that hasn't even formally paid a bride price on her, promises her love on earth and in heaven. I have tried everything to make her see my own side of the story, but she wouldn't even oblige me neither a date nor a brief meeting, all because her heart, body and soul are fixated on some else line, hook and sinker.

Ladies, a little descent friendship with the other guy wouldn't bit; otherwise, u never get to decipher who your suited hubby is. Stop falling in love on emotions or for the wrong reasons.

so are you saying that women should just settle for ANYONE who ask for their hand in marriage, without a say on the matter? she is in love with some dude, and although they aint married yet, she believes in him, and is willing to wait for when the time will be right. go find another babe jo!

abbey621:
Yes people do but if you speak to any marriage counselor or any couple that has been married for over 20 years, you'll learn it takes much more than physical attributes to make a successful marriage. Physical attributes will fade over time but mental attributes and personality lasts a lifetime. Agree or disagree, the fact remains simple, responsible guys look for way more than physical attributes when seeking a life partner!

the above in bold is the main point of this issue.... a responsible guy knows a liability when he sees one, and if these babe are overlooked by "all" responsible guys then something must be really fishy about these leftover babes.

rallymento:
Have you guys ever seen a professional in these field of study cry for a husband? All the Doctors I know are married including the ill mannered, ugly and religious ones. Same applies to nurses , air hostess and engineers(not all sha)! Most female bankers are considered prosti...., while those in business are considered not homely! Plz I am not disputing that ladies with other professions don't get married on time. My point is this " a lady's profession determines to an extent 'if she will get married or not'! I have a doctor friend,from age 24 till now (33) suitors are still coming for marriage but all she wants is to pass one exam or the other. While on the other hand some ladies her age will fight to get her kind of suitor. I also think she is a virgin.

ALLELUJAH!!!! the good women never stay too long on the market... and thats a FACT!

ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha this must be made as a comedy, definitely NOT po.rn

ucheokpara100:
my man to the best of my knowledge iam, i said this things are hapening but not every where, they have hot areas and cool areas, i gave example north is hot does not mean the whole nigeria is like that, out of how man provinces they have tell me how many places xenophobia occured?

then where exactly do you think these xenophobic issues are worst? was it not in Johannesburg (and also Durban) that the worst of the worst happened few months ago? is J/burg safe for Africans ?! what was done to fix this lingering issue about these South Africans racists who attack and kill africans (en masse) every few yrs?

btw: you didnt answer my question:" are nigerians labelled as criminals/drug dealers or not (thanks to the little few bad apples)?

ucheokpara100:
my man i hope u believ me now, from my experience i swear no matter what has happened this people are not treating us bad if u see what our people are doing here u will feel sorry for south african. one example among many south african like dressing half naked when they pass where alot of nigerian are nigerians will be shouting making them feel shy also we are so desperate for women and money here which is not good i guess because of pressure from home.

come on man, now you are not fully honest with us....these xenophobic attacks didnt start today. what we saw 2 months ago was just ANOTHER episode of the ongoing xenophobia of SA. it happened in 2008 where they killed 42 people, in may 2009, didnt the local business people of Khayelitsha sent letters to Somali traders threatening them if they did not move out of the area within a week? and also in 2013 where they killed countless africans in renewed xenophobic attacks?

before they used to focus on people from Zimbabwe and Mozambique, but now they blame their problems on EVERYBODY....... and the drug problem in SA is blamed on Nigerians.

i personally know this guy back when he moved to China to expand his vodka business from the UK to Asia....... we partied at Bar Rouge and Mint like there was no tomorrow in Shanghai, back in 2007/2008....no dull days nights with Ladi!

btw: Solid Vodka was founded in the UK where Ladi was raised (not China), before focussing/moving to the Chinese market.

DeeTus:
Are these girls really good? If yes, i'm willing to talk with one of them.

come on bro..... if everything was RIGHT/PROPER with these women, they wouldnt still be on the market? here is the question you should ask yourself: WHY DO ALL MEN THAT APPROACH THESE LADIES ONLY WANT SEX FROM THEM, AND NOTHING MORE?!

these are damaged goods, some way or another....whether it is their minds, their reputation or their expectations!

ucheokpara100:
i dont get your point man.

you said that in Malaysia, they will be discriminated upon because you are African, but over there in SA many are also discriminated upon because they are Nigerians, dont they?! that 9ja accent will blow your cover and they blame all their drug problem on Nigerians. are the Nigerians not viewed as the criminals/drug dealers of SA?

agarawu23:
i freindzone babes, no babe in this earth can friendzone me

we are the boss in the game

you yourself dont believe the nonsense you just wrote above, because you open this thread with the following statement:"I've been wondering if I actually came out of friendzone"

so i guess, the only boss you are is in the fantasy world in your head

tell the lady exactly that:"i would love nothing more than to start working with you but, in my present situation, it is not possible. my monthly needs are about 15K and to leave where i am currently working, i would need to earn at least 20K"

if she really believes in you and want to help you , she will pay you at least the 15K that you are earning presently.

ucheokpara100:
u 'll make more money in south africa than malaysia in malaysia when they see u they know u are from africa u 'll be descriminated, then another country i 've been to is Ghana, it's better u stay in nigeria than going to ghana.

but then again, as soon as you open your mouth, dont they know you are Nigerians.....and are Nigerians not "viewed" as the criminals/drug dealers who are supposedly destroying SA? (its always easier to blame their shiiit on others)

she chose me over her parents

there is no number because we ALWAYS learn and "the one" can turn into "NOT the one" over time. if even married people divorce then "the one" is just in our head. until the day you die, you will never cease to learn from the opposite sex (unless you have been with ALL types).

instead of enjoying life, these soon to be old cargos are focussing on the wrong things in life..... they will always be miserable because of this marriage BS, and what man in his right mind want to settle for a miserable being?!

some people seriously need to sit down and look at themselves, and see if life is even worth it!

Braaad:
this is a true life story brother...

i am sorry, ok then there will be only one thing to do: contact the association of witches and wizards of 9ja, and tell them that you want to launch a complaint against one of their members. if they cant help you then call Harry Potter he will be able to help with this issue that was started by some people dead set on messing with the satanic world.

emilykel:
why does sex feel like it never happened after you just had it??

it was definitely NOT fulfilling sex then....... did she left you wanting for more?!

possible replies:
- I am good and you?
- not much, and you?

super story script for the latest Nollywood blockbuster!!!!
nonsense!

his son, of course!

tell you friend to desist from hard drugs and/or any other herb he is smoking!

no be witch, na Harry Potter who visited him.

it all depends on the type of family you got....some will say yes without even blinking while others would say NO.
many questions need answers:
- what is the project that the father wants to do?
- why doesnt he ask his employer for a loan then?
- before giving him the money, will he be ok if they inform the governor then?
- is that money not for this young couple to start their married lives?
- is she willing to get into a war with her father?

i certainly understand why she is angry with her dad...... i would have also been angry if this happened to me.

call that "cousin" at night and ask him that you want to speak to your wife....et voila!

if a man trusts his wife he should allow a real cousin to come over, providing it is for a proper reason... but if a man does NOT trust his wife then he shouldnt A) be married to her or B) leave her alone during the week while working away.

what photo bro?!

ucheokpara100:
i expected to come here start serving whites get paid convert my money to nigerian currency and be rich, when i was passing through these things i wrote here i regreted coming here but after i sold my business and bought the one iam managing here now iam happy i came here, the life iam living now is far betta than my life in nigeria.
iam considered one among lucky people here.

nice....with the situation that is happening in SA now, and which has been brewing for quite a while, would you advise anyone from 9ja to go to SA in this day and age?

nothing wrong with the outfit........

@Gidzbobby
whatever you decide to do is irrelevant here, your mum wont let go of that man now...... she is the problem here, not you nor him. if she had said NO to that lazy man from the get go, then all would be well today but she has left your dad get used to freeloading all these yrs, to not giving a fukc about anything.... and now, you want to change anything?
good luck with that.

Realwvn:
If you’re anything like me, you think of dating as a skill that is to be learned, practiced and perfected and if you’re single, then maybe it’s time to change up your dating routine with some fresh advice.

1. Dating takes time-“if you choose to date sequentially, on average, it will take you longer to meet “the one”. On average, a woman will date 27 men before finding Mr. Right. Assuming the average number of months you date each person is 1 (this is a very conservative estimate), dating sequentially would mean an average of 10 1/2 years of dating to find your beloved!”

2. Dating is a learned skill- “the more you date, the better you will become and the better you become, the more you’ll enjoy dating”.

3. He’s dating multiple people- “The reality of dating is that, whether men are honest about it or not, MOST of them are already dating aggressively — however, only few disclose it.”

4. Comparisons allow you to see who stands out- “when dating aggressively you can see how they stack-up against the competition”

5. Employment: If you live in Nigeria where a boyfriend plays the role of a father and godfather then you will understand the need for having dozens of fathers

6. Backup plan: you have to admit, not everything goes according to plan. It’s only considerate not to put all your eggs in one basket.”

And if you get caught in the end and lose all, feel free to direct your rant to me on twitter @theplethoranews but hey, nobody gets caught, only the dumb people do

these are the type of thread that make me say it ONCE MORE: EDUCATE YOUR CHILDREN!!!!!

some women focus on only money....how the man got the money is irrelevant to them.

@OP
may i ask: did you expect a different life?! what did you expect exactly? did you think SA was a country where you could pluck money from the ground and get rich? and finally, is the life you live now in SA, washing plates while being surrounded by people who despise you, better than your life in 9ja?

faqir:
an 80k salary earner, wanted to rent an apartment of 200k per anum, hope he is not overdoing it. pls kindly advice him

how much does he have saved at the moment?!