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^^bloody spambot!!!!

after reading the OP's point, i have to ask myself:" do men really are THAT miserable in 9ja?!"

@OP
i understand that you may not have easy access to funds, and thats ok, but believing that all your problems (romantic/jobs/life) would be solved thanks to money, is the misconception that most broke [b]a[/b]ss begging people have. chances are, if you have issues when broke, then you will STILL have issues if/when you get some money.

- if you NEED money to show love and care towards your loved ones then the issue is not money, the problem is YOU!
- you certainly DONT need money to be a man. the fact that YOU believe that you do, shows us AGAIN that the problem is deep inside your head. look at yourself in the mirror, do you see a man there or else (and its free). the fact that you want to compare yourself with OTHER men is the problem. again the problem is NOT money the problem is YOU, trying to be who you are not.

- a poor boy can surely enjoy love SO LONG AS he understands LIFE. one of the most important part of life is knowing who you are and accepting that fact. now the important question is: why would a poor boy try to date a golddigging broke [b]a[/b]ss beggar?!

- showing care without money includes: listening to her, openly communicate with her, advising her, helping her physically/mentally, be there for her, be a friend, comfort her, be the shoulder for her to rest or open up, grow with her,be honest to her, carry her on your shoulder when she has no more strength to carry herself etc

-if you believe that this is the mindset of African girls then seek to date other women or better yet, look for that GEM within these broke [b]a[/b]ss begging women.

- if you need to pay anyone (or buy them any kind of gifts) before you make love to them then you guys are not dating, you are just fooling yourself dating a pro[b]s[/b]titute.
the important question IS:"what is worse for you, dating an obvious ashi who doesnt give a damn about you OR having that same ashi's friend label you a broke [b]a[/b]ss man?!"
get your priorities straight!

- what has HARDWORKING got to do with sex?! you do your absolute best in the bedroom, and thats all that matters. if YOUR best is not good enough for any lady, then i suggest you look for someone that is s[b]e[/b]xually compatible with you.

sadly, your brain has been affected by a virus and you need to reinstall the OS. unless you do so, you will always try to be a mugu (thanks to your misplaced ego), because what you wrote about is what MUGU's do!

@OP
if that story is true then you have only yourself to blame for pretending to be a playa, while in fact you were just a weakling.
men who do date multiple women at the same time have what it takes to BE IN CHARGE in these r/ships, to be the DOMINANT male! you sound like a whimp coming here bringing such issues here. grow some balls and face the consequences of your actions!

^^i guess the OP has a hard time accepting the hard truth. . . . . . . . . . . . but i have no idea who that OP is.

although this gal has issues, we cannot forget that NOBODY is forcing these men/ to cheat on their spouses with her. so the problem should be blamed on both part.

just like the great discussion about prostitution we once had, the important question IS: who is to be blamed for cheating? the person who knows their prey has a wife/husband but still does it with him/her OR the guy/girl who is in a union but still decides to cheat?

as to why a lady would prefer mature men (even if they are married), the reasons are endless:
- no bf headaches/stress.
- no insecure "call me at all hours of the day/night" type of shiiit.
- the r/ship is purely physical so when he cant do her right any longer, then the lady can simply look for someone else to do her.
- she can sometimes date other men.
- at night she is sure of where he is at.
- if she is a sugar baby then expect plenty of gifts, rent paid, even a car given to her etc

5-9-10 for me

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=743596.msg8997611#msg8997611 date=1314202490]They banned you too eh?[/quote]yep i just learned that if you type Oxy.contin, Val.ium and Xa.nax in the same sentence, thats an automatic ban.
oh well!!!

no worries man

xterra2:
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Ahahan the guy sef, if he doesnt have money how can he expect himself to maintain a girlfriend?
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just because the OP's gal is A BROKE Bottom BEGGING babe doesnt mean all women are. the fact that you expect a man to "maintain" a woman shows how WEAK your game is. let her maintain herself, thats what a WOMAN with worth would do!!!

I agree with the girl jor, in Naija BBs is the ish if you dont have it, you are a bush person

thank you for clarifying to us all what this girl is (since she doesnt have a BB Torch). let her accept that she is bush rather than pretend to be who she is NOT!
the sad fact is that most of the babes that she wants to copy are probably BROKER than her (bush babes trying to act classy with a BB)

ANd hw should buy two one for him, another for her so they can bbm, and be sending voicenotes
He should also buy a laptop for her if she doesnt have already and pay internet access for her so they can be skyping ,

he should also buy her a car so that she doesnt take the okada no more AND buy her a house so that she doesnt pay rent any longer. NONSENSE!!!

See my girlfriend uses an andrioid device before, htc desire but now she has a torch 9800 i bought it for her so we can be  bbm'ing  but am thinking of buying two bold touch-es 9900 one for me and one for her - it has the best keyboard on a mobile phone - we all live in abuja , and it is cheaper because we bbm all the time, and instead of calling we send vn's and  i also pay for internet access mtn fastlink so we can be skyping
Its all love na  

this is MANY things, but LOVE it is not! get your facts right.

But thats just that, although she bought me Hp envy 14 beats edition to replace my spoilt macbook she bought me xbox 360 kinect with fifa 11 and black ops plus other numerours gifts, her dad is a house of reps member so i get some of the legislative money   We spend on each other

there is nothing wrong with buying your gf/bf a gift, but the minute she DEMANDS for gifts in order to stay in that r/ship (or keep with all the fakeness around her) thats when this person should be royally dropped.

But point is [size=14pt]Its not easy to maintain a girlfriend [/size]

you mean, its not easy to maintain a broke Bottom begging gal who cant do for herself! whoever said that maintaining a woman was what is needed to be in a r/ship?!

Dont spend on her she DUMPS you simple

who wants to be with a woman that puts the value of their r/ship on how much money you spend on her?! that's NOT a gf, thats a pay as you go who.re aka PROS.TITUTE. again, get your facts right!

even if someone had that kind of cash (about $4Billion), they certainly would have to WIRE the money and wouldnt have been able to bring it in cash. . . . . . . . . .  these kidnappers were definitely amateurs.

do they even know how BIG 1Billion dollars in cash is (let alone 4Billion)? that pile of money down here is "only" $22million dollars, that mean they wanted to receive about 200 times what you see in the picture below!!!!!
****MBJ does the sign of the cross before leaving this thread****

@Claremont
you are making it sound like these babes NEED a BB phone, NEED a Gucci bag etc
i am sorry to say that these gals HAD a choice but decided that they would rather be like the Joneses (even if it costs their lives) rather than focusing on whats important in life.

what this girl was clearly saying is that her life is worth 350K!!! these sick politicians are looking for clean girl to cure them of whatever diseases they carry and these dumb assss biatches are quick to go and spread their legs unprotected to receive whatever these evil man got.

its called GREED, they wanted everything NOW, rather than work for it. they are no better than the drug couriers or 419criminals who would do anything to become who they are not.

i am not ONE BIT sorry for them, its called PAYING FOR THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS.

the report said that AT THE TIME OF HER DEATH she had no ILLEGAL drugs in her system, it didnt say she NEVER did drugs. get your facts right. also there are many LEGAL PRESCRIPTION drugs that are just as bad to the system as coke and Heroin. try Oxy.contin, Xa.nax, Va.lium etc

@poster
may i ask: does your sad friend even own a BB torch or such to begin with?!

i would have understood if she had some important money issues but buying her a BB just because others have one is the lamest excuse. thank god she doesnt hang out with people who drive BMWs!!!!

@poster
in a country where "most" women are attracted and can be lured with money, i understand why your weak friend think the way he does.

there is absolutely nothing selfish about not wanting to "BUY" a girl, you are simply a SMART man. many sad guys will gladly pay for their pros.titutes gf upkeep and shower them with gifts in order for these girls to stay with them but the sad fact is that these girls will never be theirs. the minute some new guy with MORE money will give these prosti.tutes better gifts, then these girls will dump your friend.

so the important question IS: would you rather be single or dating a pros.titute disguised as a princess?!

many men dont have what it take to keep a woman, they dont have nothing in them but money, so thats what they showcase to attract women. . . . . . . . . . and the golddiggers will come like flies on shiiit. flaunt what YOU got: your charisma, your fun attitude, your swagg, your intelligence etc. thats what should be important to these girls, and if it aint to them then you should run from them rather than trying to date them.

a biatch deserves only dikc, NOTHING ELSE!!!!! the minute a man gives her money for what she happily gives to any fools out there FOR FREE then he automatically becomes a MAGA!!!

busygirl:
I think the poster has a point somewhere. I will not speak for everyone, but I will speak for myself. A lot of people do say I am pretty and often get surprised when I say I have been single for ages. In fact my relationship life is really sad, and I'm so far from being happy. One of my fears is that even with all this beauty, I may end up being alone for a long time because I see people who are no so pretty getting good guys. So right now, instead of paying attention and conscious effort to the physical, I'm trying to get to know and build the woman within. That's because beauty radiates from the inside.

open your mind sista, even handicapped/dwarf women get married so stop comparing yourself to uglier women and believe that beauty has anything to do with your unhappiness.
here is a clue, no sane person will honestly stay with a women with traits such as a NEGATIVITY/STOOPIDITY/DISHONESTY/UNTRUSTWORTHY/INSECURITY/CONCEDED/MEAN/INSANELY JEALOUS/ etc etc etc

you certainly need more than just beauty to be happy BUT, if you ask anyone to choose between a girl :
A) only beautiful on the outside
B) only beautiful on the inside
C) beautiful outside and inside.

then we definitely know what most would choose.

upendo 98:
This dude cant just do away wth the wife.They have kids who adore their mother so he has to put that into consideration.
Is money an Antidote her? to neutralize the poison? He will nevr be happy.
Exposing the deed wont help him neither will accepting the money. He will be equally as guilty.
Its good at times to just forgive and move on.

BWAAAAAH!!!!!! you sure are a comedian!!!!!!
A) being married to a women doesnt automatically mean you will stay with her forever. . . . . . . . . .whether she messes up or not.

B) having children with a person doesnt mean you have to stick to them regardless of their actions. if you can still provide AND visit the kids, ever so often, then its all good.

C) believing that children automatically adore their mother, OR BETTER YET, dont adore their father more than their mother, is the lie women carry on to feel better about themselves.

D) even if these children loved their mother and couldnt be separated (never heard that before) then answer B will sort that out.

E) yes, you are right there is a poison, its called BEING A LovePeddler and, unfortunately, this is incurable AND permanent.
some that have that in them can go many yrs without showing signs of the disease but anything such as argument/need for attention/alcohol/need for money can make it resurface.

F) i dont know if that man will ever be happy in the future, but i am 150% sure that he will NEVER be happy if he stays with that demon lady!

G) you have to expose it all and look at reality rather than trying to live a fantasy life. . . . . . . . . . .but hey thats what most 9ja women do: live fantasy lives that seem perfect to the whole wide world, while deep down, they are unhappy and miserable!

H) to forgive someone, they have to 1) repent, 2) truly be sorry for their actions and 3) have done something that is forgivable to YOU!
each and everyone has the right to decide what is acceptable or not in their marriage.

last but not least, here is a quote from MBJ that you can take to the bank: i'd rather be guilty of all the crimes in the world and TRUE TO MYSELF than being seemingly perfect while living a dishonest/disrespectful life!

^^ you said in your first post that "HIV doesnt scare you because you know how to prevent it". . . . . . . . so why are you asking us on what to do?
if your are hell bent on dating this guy then be as careful as possible and be happy.

Emmyk:
You need a clean sheet, man

everytime i have been banned on NL, its for spambot reasons. just type the wrong word, ET VOILA!!!!

@Upendo98
i dont understand how taking the money can be viewed as WRONG?! explain this to me pls. . . . . . . . . .
someone did him wrong and is willing to compensate him for the "inconvenient" they caused him.

the compensation is not to make things RIGHT, its too help this guy move on with his life (like a sort of therapy after such a shocking news). . . . . . . . . . . some sort of compensation for all the money time and energy he spent feeding/clothing and caring for that biatch.

hell, let him take the money and go and get drunk for a month, if he wants to!

@poster
there are few points that you need to clear:
- what kind of r/ship you got with your SO? if you know that she doesnt FULLY trust you then i suggest you keep these meetings in public places during day time.

- what kind of life do you see for the future with your SO? if any friend of yours that is good looking is automatically viewed as a threat to her then you need to reassess this r/ship OR only get FUGLY/MARRIED friends.

- why dont you bring your SO along next time? at least if they know each other better, she may feel less threatened by her.

- answer this question truthfully: would you hit that if she offered?! if you had a crush on this friend before then chances are that you wont be strong enough to turn the toto away, IF (and thats a big if) it ever comes to this. so you might as well walk away from it now for the good of your r/ship. we all know how powerful some totos are!!!!!

- why do you ask US if YOU did something wrong? if you truly feel that you didnt do anything wrong then, you shouldnt ask us for our views but rather, explain to your SO why you firmly believe that you didnt do anything wrong.

as for me, yes i have a bunch of friends like that, sometimes we cross the line with innocent kisses/touches etc (but no sex) and thats where i draw the line. the CATCH is i know i didnt do anything wrong . . . . . . . . . . . but deep down i know that the minute i would be single, i would bust these asses!

i dont mind that my gf has such friends, so long as she doesnt cross the line. hey, whats good for the goose, is good for the gander.

dating rule #4672 THOU SHALL NOT TRY TO TURN WHORES INTO HOUSEWIVES.

so you guys were dating and you caught her in a bar with some sugar daddy, then she deleted all the numbers in her phone (to please you) and then STILL went on to fukc that man. . . . . . . . . . . . and the cherry on this huge pie is that you still want to marry this ANIMAL?!

and the winner for worst James Bond's actor goes to. . . . . . . . . . . . . . Timothy Dalton!!!!!!!!!

^ŵere they not dating?
her record company is trying to salvage what they can while having her perform around the globe. this train wreck is about to crash, very soon!

@Upendo98
to sue the guy he needs a lawyer (and they aint cheap) . . . . . . .  so his best option is to go directly to the source and take what he would have been awarded from a court (aka compensation for the stress that this sin has caused him)
et voila, CASE CLOSED!

i dont know about BEST airport, as i always plan to spend the least time possible there, but as for the WORST, i have had the pleasure to visit Moscow's Sheremetyevo and let me say that it takes the 1st place. . . . . . . . .followed closely by Hanoi's Noi Bai airport.

unfortunately, whatever he does, it wont bring back his reputation which is already down the drain.
if he doesnt take the money then how the hell will he leave/divorce her since he is broke?

@poster
to each their own BUT, if he REALLY MUST take a loan to marry her then, at least, both their names should be on the loan application!

A) this man should focus on his WIFE'S cheating ways rather than the boss.
B) what would "going public" gonna serve? i dont get it?
C) since they are struggling financially, and wifey already did the deed, he should take the money as settlement, divorce the animal he was married to and learn his damn lesson!