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@OP
this guys is a weakling and there is nothing we can say or do that will change that.....so he/you must accept his fate and be merry. even a blind man can see the wrongs in your write up, if he cant then so be it.

sweetorgasm:
JUST your honest opinion pls. IS it wrong to have a side chick to replace the main chick or to run to just in case the main chick break your heart?

its wrong on so many levels, but the main issue here is this:
how can you hope for happiness with your main chick, if you dont even trust her fully?!

by having a side chick, you are already losing, and even if the main chick becomes THE ONE, you have already fukced up your r/ship by cheating on her. so either way, this a LOSE-LOSE situation.

btw: your heart will be broken, whether you like it or not, so grow some balls and act right.

keyman0007:
My neighbours younger sister has come to stay with her brother who happens to be my neighbour. The girl is okay, Am yourba, they are igbos, the girl is a good chirstian with virtues every man wld appreciate. She sometimes comes to attend cell fellowship at my place.
Whenever we talk there is the strange feeling of attraction. i dont know if she is seeing someone or single, and me want to settle down quickly dont know if its a good idea to ask her out. The whole thing just seems wierd, dont knw how her brother and her inlaws will take it.
Even my folks and siblings dont know hw they will react. My sister talks to her sometimes. Am not a tribalist oh, but i hear alot abt igbos and hw they like to marry themselves, just want to get it right, cos na big mess up if i move and the whole thing flops. what do u guys think?

i suggest you first make a decision as to WHAT YOU WANT, and then when you are certain of it, follow it through. there are too many IFs, BUTs and MAYBEs here, while life is a bit more simple: you want something, you go and get it. so what the hell do you want?

@OP
fit men can have fulfilling sex with heavily pregnant women, so i dont see why the opposite should be a problem.

@OP
you shouldnt run just yet because you seem to care about this man, you wouldnt still be there if you didnt. so i suggest you start to put your foot down and let him know that you EXIST, you are IMPORTANT and your decision/say is IMPORTANT too. let him discover that side of you BEFORE marriage and let him understand that this is how its going to be AFTER marriage too.

simply sit him down and tell him that this marriage will not take place on the day that he mentionned, and give him the reasons. then let him also know that if he wants to take any decisions for the both of you then he MUST confide in you first, and furthermore that his actions are a sign of trouble, and that you will need more time as you do not feel secure any longer to marry such a man.

this union does smell like this guy will turn into a controlling monster after marriage, but it could also be because he is so eager to marry you that he acts foolishly.
btw how long have you guys been together?

NZEGWUAGU:
Please you guys should respond like you have your heads still fixed on your necks. No woman who wants to be faithful to her spouse watches porn in the absence of her spouse. In fact same applies to men. What happens if she arouses a demon by watching that kinda stuff and a stranger stumbles in? Such a thing can lead to a woman ending up in bed with her butler, her gardner, her driver, her gateman, her electrician, etc. That life style is a recipe for disaster! If I want to watch such a thing I will make sure my woman is around me and if I arouse a demon while watching and even if she's asleep I will wake her up, apologise to her for disturbing her sleep and then hammer the hell out of her and feel better and calm afterwards! Please follow my lead and you wouldn't cheat on your partner. Do not follow that depraved woman!

dude, you have to give women a little bit more credits and have trust in them. the way you speak about them is like some primitive animal that can be led astray at the flick of a switch. now yes, we know they can be quite emotional but you are pushing it.
A) watching porn by yourself has nothing to do with being faithful to your spouse or not.
B) if he/she arouse a demon then they can self-service that demon to sleep. isnt that why they are watching porn at the first place?
C) what can lead anyone into another person's bed is if they are down and dirty like that and will cheat....... and this has nothing to do with watching porn. a cheat will cheat whenever it is comfortable for them to do so.
D) a recipe for disaster is when a man leaves his wife alone at home for a long period, and expects her to not entertain herself at night, the best she see fit.

finally, if a man doesnt TRUST his woman to the point that she cant even watch porn on her own because she might get "possessed" and go fukc a stranger, then this man better tie her to the bed post every morning before he leaves to work because most women can get dikc from just about anywhere in this world....... from the gateman to the gala salesman.

sinizia:
Your embolden words said we can look at it from many ways, so based on the premise that the woman committed suicide while the husband slept peacefully (OP's words not mine), I choose to look at it that the judge is an idiót.

yes, during bench trials, many judges can make mistakes due to the evidences that are brought to them, but i doubt that being "idiots" is what would define their errors.

freecocoa:
wow! And I was thinking you deleted it yourself, anyways, glad there's the option of alternate monikers, the place is almost dead, crawling with simpletons as can be seen on this thread, having intellectuals like yourself around, makes it less boring/bearable.

well, i didnt really know how it happened, although i did suspect that someone at my place did it, but i let that one slide as i wasnt too sure who did it. afterwards it just faded away from my mind, lol!

well NL always attracts some people who are here to just let steam off from their "busy" lives, and i dont think it will ever get any better, sadly.

freecocoa:
Hello there, it's been ages. I must say, I missed reading from you around here, was kinda sad when I noticed you deactivated your original account.

It's good to see you again.

hey Sista, thanks, although i have seen that NL has changed a bit. yeah my account was deleted, and since i didnt have a clue how it happened, i just let it slide like that.

sinizia:
Judging from the OP's post, can you point out the evidences please?

i am sorry if you couldnt understand what i wrote, so i will try to be a bit clearer......for your own sake.

judging from the OP's post you should have understood the following:
this is fictional and simply a test case study brought by the OP. so we can look at this case in so many ways, and that's what the OP wants us to do in order to bring some discussion to the table.

therefore.......... if it is a trial by jury, then a skillful lawyer with proper evidences could sway the case in whatever way they desire, and if the husband is found guilty then how would that be the judge's fault?

if you had read my earlier post, i clearly stated that the law is making a grave mistake, but sadly, we all know that the law is not always just.

sinizia:
I can't answer your question because it's not possible for the husband to be sentenced. It has never happened before. The judge has to be a first class idíot for that to happen.

the judge does not need to be an e-diot to sentence him to death, its all down to the evidences and how the case went in court.

mstik:
I don't know...
But the idea of a mum watching porn is disturbing

here is something even more disturbing: your parents having fulfilling sex. yet we all know our parent did the deed. so why are we trying to play holier than thou here. our parents are just as lively as we are, even though people here think that being older means you lose your appetite for life, your will to have any type of fun etc. come on!

bashbabe2:
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This is the best response so far, what is this world turning into self. This is immoral and religiously wrong,either she's watching in private or in the sitting room. What rubbish move is she practicing or learning again after 4 kids. The mother is just feeding her perverted mind. It's evil and no two words for it. And people are here condoning evil act.I am not a saint but there are things we should not be doing.End time is definitely near, this is why things that are wrong are seen as normal.
May God save us but it's left to us as individual as well to stop any form of immorality.

sista, as you can see, this lady dont remotely give a damn about what the bible say regarding entertaining herself at night.

it's sunday, i was wondering when the bible carrying holier than thou people were going to come and preach to us about how bad is this act.

Sile12:
4. If the guards replied "same door" how do you decide?

how can a guard answer " same door" to the question which door is the exit?

20. Am not sure.

think about it: the father said that the slowest camel will inherit the money, so if you ride your brotha's camel to the finish line, as fast as you can, then YOUR camel would automatically be the slowest one. got it?! so the wise man just told the brotha to take his brotha's camel to the finish line before his, in order to win.

Cmanforall:
So you'll support a 70+ old man marrying a 15yr old girl? With respect to your 'rocking boat' theory...

nah, i am talking of adult people here, so 15yrs old is not right BUT 18yrs old and 70 is ok, so long as they are both happy.

@OP
the only person who is "unfair" here is the dead wife who cheated on her husband and then had the audacity to kill herself, and put her husband in so much trouble.

the LAW making a grave mistake and trying this man for murder is also in the wrong here.

Thissonofman:
we all hear this every now and then, "he stole my heart" or I hate her "she broke my heart" I want to know how this happens, how a human will allow another human to steal his/her heart and also go further to break the heart without he/she resisting or fighting back. pls explain.

bro, you make it sound like people knowingly fall in love with people who have a sign on their head that says that they will break their heart?!
before you get to the negative/heartbreak part of any relationship, you have the beautiful/positive times that most people in love go through, the great moment that you guys share, and when the r/ship starts to go down south, a heartbreak is inevitable.

sadly, there is no cure (fighting back) for a heartbreak, if you do love someone then if they hurt you emotionally in some way, then you will be heartbroken. the important point is to find the strength to get back on your feet and move on with your life.

the only way to properly avoid a heartbreak is to never be emotionally involved in your r/ship, and never put your heart on the line (like many cowards in love do) but if you do that then you will never find the beauty of falling in love with someone.

@OP
may i ask:
- what reason do you give this man when he pressures you to have sex with him and you refuse?
- why do you automatically see the act of TWO people making love as you "submitting" your body to a man? is that how you see sex?
- tell us more about your r/ship with this man in order for us to understand what seem to be the issue.

finally, if his aim in this r/ship is to move up to being sexual while your aim aint, then i suggest you let him know and go on your merry way instead of you both wasting your time.

OP
here is what i think
- min age difference: so long as they love each other, whatever age difference rocks their boats
- max age difference: so long as they love each other, whatever age difference rocks their boats

4) i would ask any of the guard:"what door would you say is the exit"....... (both will tell you the same door)
6) put 25 white marbles in one bowl and the rest of the white marbles in the other one . do the same thing with the black marbles and you will have a 50% chance of picking the right marble one marble in one bowls and all the rest in the other, so that either way you have a 50% chance of choosing the white marble.
8 ) the room with the lions because they must be dead by now
9) round shape objects
11) 2 mins
15) father and daughter
17) the letter E
18) the name Eve
20) jump on your brother's camel and race it to the finish line.

Ogbeche77:
You're back from a self declared hiatus.. I can smell you thousands of miles away

back for a while, at least, to see how the situation is on NL.

richardmentor1:
I don't think its a lie cos the doctor and nurses confirmed she was still a virgin.

bro, let me educate you for a minute: if a "proper" medical doctor confirmed that she was indeed virgin, then there is only ONE answer to that..... someone played with her, tried to penetrate her but when he reached the hymen he couldnt break it but was so excited he came inside the entrance of the toto.

as crazy (and possible) as what i wrote may be, it is a much plausible reason than this mambo jambo holy ghost fire BS of a snake.

MrsChima:
Something like that! Lol. I got fresh meat too! They haven't figured out I will fight until I see blood!

You know you cheated on that debate contest. Lol.

sista Chima, MBJ never cheats. what debate are you talking about? i have had so many on these shores of NL, and i did win a few with you lol!

kunlap:
Thanks folks for the feedback even those that are insulting.
Mrbrown raised some issues: First what did I do to let her like sex?

I have been having long discussions about sex with her before and after our wedding. I told her I like sex ooo,

i dont think long mathematical discussions, in order to tell her how much you like sex, is the way to go about this issue (this will only put unnecessary pressure on her). what i wanted to know is what did you physically do to make this lady feel comfortable around you, to relax and let herself go. obviously she is blocked somewhere and you havent been able to break that wall.

she quickly told me her parental values instilled on her made her disliked sex so much such that she remained a virgin because she was scared of sex not necessarily because of any religious stuff.

ok so, if she is scared of sex due to how she was brainwashed then it is your duty to reassure this lady and make sure that you show her the right way (if she doesnt trust you in the bedroom then you are going nowhere). this lady is sexually broken and you have to try to fix her. it actually starts in her mind though.
since you knew she was turned off by sex, how did you guys prepare for that big wedding night?
your first time should have been really slow and gentle, but as we know you were hor.ny as a bull, i doubt it was a pleasurable experience for her.

i told her she can overcome this gradually as we progress.

i think you were wrong here as she should have overcome this before you let yourself "in" her. you should have made everything right till this lady asks you to mount her. we all know that the first night is painful to most ladies and your job was to make her be positive about the

At first I begin to introduce her gradually and seriously it was difficult because she was practically running.

you failed to realise how big her issues were and thought it would be easy while it certainly aint. if she ran then either A) you didnt not prepare her well enough B) you were hurting her a great deal or C) this lady is simply not into your sexual practices..... or you.

i refer her to her elder sis who I called to consel her,we go online and swe read alot of discussions about sex and she gradually begin to pick up

Ay caramba!!!! how could you bring her family into this matter?! was she "that" close with her sister? was her sister not brought up in the same family unit that turned her into the zombie that she is today?

The crux of the matter is that she has added so much weight and I am discussing with her because of her eating habit but she wont listen.she said its her body and she can do anything. She cant cook alot of food and she dnt care even when I try to discuss with her.

most women put on weight after a baby, but their ability to lose it lays in their desire to still be attractive to themselves and/or their partner
if i was a woman, forced to have sex while i detest it, then i would probably do the same thing. she fully well knows that the uglier/fatter she is, the less she will have to perform her duties.

btw if you dont listen to her when she tells you that she doesnt want sex, why do you think she should when you tell her to eat less?

lastly we had our baby 5th jan,2015.since then no show.

kai!!!!

MrsChima:
Damn! Where have you been mofo?

When my account was deleted mysteriously, i decided to step away for a minute... but i am sure you are still kicking people's butt in this place, lol.

Lisaflex:
She doesn't luk comfy to me... I fnk she did it cos she didn't hv a choice

we always have a choice, whether people are brainwashed or not.

any excuses are good for people to blame strange things on the devil and what not........ NONSENSE STORY of a gal who probably got fukced by the gateman and then came up with this BS!

@OP
as i have always said:"if you could put yourself on the line and fall in love with a second woman, then you were not in love with the first one, at the first place!"

IMHO, you CANNOT love two people at the same time...... now the issue here is that many people mistake care/likes for love.

Lisaflex:
I doubt any1 wld be comfy wt smtn lyk dt

the lady in the picture seems to be

what is there to do but love your child regardless?