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vjsmiles:
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there is no crime for a mother of 4 watching porn?....
let me ask you this frigging ? if your momma watches porn will you be yaah?[/size]

my mother can do whatever she pleases in the privacy of her own bedroom, so long as it aint anything criminal. again, there is nothing wrong with watching porn, the only problem here is that she sould doit it in the privacy of her bedroom so the little ones dont see it.

@OP
there are a lot more of them out there that you may think, and he/she is definitely NOT the best looking one out there (you should come to Brasil to see how stunning some of them are, no homo).

i use to personally know one very well Denmark, he/she went to Miami and spent $20K on the procedure to become a woman, and guess what? if he/she is nekkid and opens her legs in front of you, you would STILL not know that this person was born a man. he/she now dates and have sex with men, and they dont even know that this person was born a man...... true story!

most straight men would be turned off if they knew that he/she was born a man, and thats why she does not tell them.

@post
these were not his gf, they were his victims..... this man is a serial dating scammer, and since Chinese women are desperate to find a man, he used that to defraud them.

vjsmiles:
[size=14pt] what the fhvvvck did you just post?

what moral jistification encourages a mother(a mother with 4kids) to watch porn?[/size]

what is wrong with watching porn? is that a crime? do you believe mothers cannot entertain themselves the best they see fit, in order to quench their sexual thirst?

[size=14pt]what is she deriving?sexual pleasure?[/size]

the husband is away, and this lady is possibly feeling lonely (and/or ho.rny) and therefore she uses porn to "cool herself off"

[size=14pt]then that will be a fhvcking ego dent on the husband prowess in bed....[/size]

since when does watching porn equates to a partner not performing right in the bedroom? but as you wrote it, let me just say that, if a lady desires a certain sexual act and her husband does NOT want to do it then she has the right to watch porn in order to satisfy herself while fantasising of what she is lacking.

@OP
there is nothing wrong if an adult watches porn, the only problem here is that she should do that privately. i suggest he talks to his mother by letting her know that he has seen her and that she should do that privately as the little ones might see her to.

Monicasque:
yes u r right. Couples shud forver b working on demselves in order to develop and keep marriages happy. So do u think there is a hidden reason y de brother in dis thread went to court?

if a guy goes to court out of the blue without telling wifey about what is bothering him (in order to try to solve the issue) then yes, there would probably be something fishy.

justmetoday:
Tejumade, Tell ur friend to take a break from d guy,there are alot of responsible guy dat will respect & cherish her, around.

you actually think it is easy to bring sense into the head of a too emotional/desperate woman? she does not want break from this guy, she believes she can "change" him, like many other foolish women do.

she wouldnt notice the responsible guy even if he was to smack her in the face, because she still believes that she is in a r/ship. would you rather she cheats to be with these "responsible" guys that are around? this woman is damaged and it will take some time before she gets back on her feet (thats if/when she decides to drop this no good brotha). sadly, many women like this one will now turn around and say:"all men aint sh.it" and therefore treat future men (that come in her life) poorly

pcguru1:
if they call me stingy i don't care I have helped female friends in terms of financial issues and so. The same way females helped me, though my dating experience is not much but with the little i have had, they spend on me, so really i find it absurd when it becomes a responsibility for me to spend and you don't that's not 50-50 i thought women wanted equality. anyway can't spend excessively on a babe that's not my wife yet it means am grooming someone else's wife unless the babe is a very very good friend i cherish then i can. abeg no mind them jare. Economy is bad who got time to spend to impress a babe.

well said, but sadly some deluded women out there believe is our responsibility to feed them, clothe them and care for their daily upkeep SIMPLY because we are interested in them. the majority of these women have absolutely NOTHING to offer a man (apart from their cootie cat) but because they know that many men are desperate to find a mate, they act upon it and scam/con these desperate guys.

they use their cootie cat as a tool in order to get whatever they desire/lack in life, and sadly these men fall for their tricks, not knowing that toto is FREE, has always been FREE and will always remain FREE!

Monicasque:
my love. I wud not be doing these things in order to spite him. I wud b doing them so dat i develop myself. Obviously i was responding to a man who is in court divorcing. Not a man who sat with his wife and told her his concerns. If he were to tell me his concerns instead of running to court. Obviously i wud do these in order to save my marriage. Bt if de brother already ran to court witout consulting me. Its also still fine. I wil let him. He knows better

but no sane man goes to court hoping to divorce his wife, without trying to solve the issue with his wife first....unless there is a bigger issue here and her look is just a cheap excuse. if upgrading yourself to the best you can be is easy then that should be the aim of men AND women all the way through marriage.

thinkdip:
you only quoted me to indicate ignorance one what have posted, sorry if it hit you hard. But the post is very clear to understand na. okay do me a favour, read my topic title and understand the body perfectly and you'll see you didn't really make good point as u might believe you did sir. graces

i quoted you to point out where i disagreed with what you wrote, and therefore brought up my view on the matter. yes it does it me hard when i see such one sided post.

Cutehector:
It amazes me wat would make a girl love a guy whole heartedly.....
Dat wen he cheats on her, she still loves him..
Dat wen he beats her, she still loves him

What r d reasons for this?

I think I'd need to create a topic on this.

bro, love is a strong feeling and you cannot turn it off, just like that. the problem here is not that she loves this man, the issue is that her BRAIN should have detected that she is being taken for a fool, and therefore, disregard anything that comes from her heart and run from that evil man.

you should only follow your heart if/when your brain comes along and confirm that everything is ok!

^^^bro, sadly women will be quick to call a man stingy when he is smart with is money, and they will try to make it look like its a shameful thing to be stingy in order to force you to pay up, lol! i wear my stingy badge with pride to let any woman knows that there is no free meal from me.... and if there is ever a free meal, then it will be because i believe that this lady DESERVES one, rather than because i am ashamed that i may look stingy.

but by all means, if some guys out there want to spend like that (and create such a monster) then so be it. life is too short

^^^^Sista Monicasque, if your man tells you he has a problem with the way you look, then why you should do all the great things that you wrote above "in order to save your marriage", instead of doing it out of bitterness because he finally wants to divorce you because you were lazy and comfortable with your poor state?

The things you mentioned you would do, in order to spite this man, is what any woman should do in marriage to keep the fire and passion alive in their union, whether her man wants to divorce her or not.

it all comes down to whatever is important to each and everyone, and as a wifey, you would have known that looks were important to your man and therefore act upon that fact.

thinkdip:
1. There’s too much emphasis on instant gratification.

you should focus on compatibility before anything else. if you guys aint compatible, because you are not into "instant gratification", so be it but dont automatically assume that we all do. not everybody is in a r/ship in the ultimate aim of being in love.
here is a clue: some people date just in order to get laid.

2. Drugs and alcohol are used too heavily.

ANY addiction is bad for you whether drug/alcohol/food/sex/smoking/gambling/shopping/work etc...
the worst enemy of love is hate/indifference, get your facts right.

3. Sleeping around is on the rise.

why would you automatically assume that having sex with strangers is not special? it isnt to "you" but that doesnt mean it aint to others.
sexual satisfaction is very important when it comes to being in love, and many can achieve that with just about anybody (so long as their partner do the right thing in the bedroom)

4. People are into themselves more now than ever.

there is a need for people to love themselves before they can love other, therefore i believe there is nothing wrong with being into yourself, nor that you would lose any ability to fall in love because of this.

5. Dating happens because it’s what you think you’re supposed to do.

ahahahaha before you said people are too much into themselves and now you say you should love yourself. make up your mind, you either love yourself or you dont....

6. It’s harder to make compromises.

falling in love in order to find a partner with whom to have a family is just one more ambition in your life long ambitions. why cant people handle it all at the same time? you are making it sound like its difficult to focus on finding a great job while falling in love?! these are two separate things that should interfere with one anther, and if it does then you should have the maturity to make the right choice on what is more important in your life, at that particular time.

7. Being in love is a fairytale to some.

again, this has all to do with COMPATIBILITY.... and 2 people who look for that fairytale loving will be perfect for one another.

8. We just aren’t that great at loving.

your problem is that you dont respect love and therefore you think that you can/should fall in love with just about any donkey out there, come on bro! love is a special feeling and therefore you need a special person to share it with. if all the person in your life aint love worthy then i suggest you look within yourself as to what is wrong with the people you choose.

@post
mad woman who couldnt handle the dikc!

tejumade14:
There is this friend of mine who complains bitterly to me about her b.f ,her complaints is all about her b.f cheating on her. She had done everytin within her means to stop her cheating b.f by sitting him down and talking to him. He promised never to cheat on her again. Anytime he cheats he begs nd due to the love she has 4 him she forgives him. The last one which broke the camel's back was that he cheated on her wit her best friend. She came crying to me that her b.f is at it again wit her best friend and has being begging her. I told her to dump him bt she said she can't do without him. Now am in a confused state. I dnt know more else advice to give her. What more would u tell her if u were in the position of advising a friend.no insults Pls.I know some pple will still insult Becos it is in the blood. But mind u it does nt remove any strand of hair 4rm d body.

FAIL #1 she actually believes that sitting him down and talking to him will actually change anything.
FAIL #2 she actually believes him when he says he will never do it again.
FAIL #3 she actually believes that this man has any respect for her, after fukcing her best friend.
ULTIMATE FAIL she actually believes that she cant live without this deceitful, disrespectful, untrustworthy, lying and cheating man.

NEWSFLASH: there is nothing a woman can do to stop her bf from cheating.... if he does not want to stop ON HIS OWN, he will never do!

@op
the colour of a person should not make any difference on the matter, so long as they both care/love for one another

Strongfaze:
Here we go Nairalanders. Based on social beings we were discussing about relationships. A guy was trying to woo a girl and the girl kept saying "i'm in a serious relationship" even when the guy in question was not engaged officially to her. The question then came up: Who really determines the seriousness of a relationship, is it the Ladies or the Guys? Thanks

each and every person should decide what is the seriousness of their r/ship, and then they should later both evaluate if they are on the same mindset and want to continue.

iwatch:
Your opinions...please?

spending on a lady is just a sign that this guy is trying to impress this lady. some men have nothing else to offer a woman than gifts..... sadly, if thats "only" what he does then that union is not on a good course, unless you are looking for a GD (GoldDigger) or someone who only values you for what you can do for them financially.

Lisaflex:
If culture says a lady should appear lyk this on her traditional wedding day....

Ladies would you obey?

Guys what would be your reaction if your bride cms out dressed like this on your traditional wedding day?

if "we" are both comfortable with it then no problem at all

herdeythoun:
I need someone who will love me for who I am.who won't care about what people think about us.who will just be there for me.

may i ask:
- what do people love you for, if not for you, since you need to specify what you want to be loved for?
- what do you mean by men being there for you? shouldnt you write: be there for "us"? or is that relationship/friendship just about you?

@OP
your write up shows us exactly your poor state of mind towards women.

She actually came over
this is the reason why so many women get ra.ped. a woman comes to your house and you automatically assumes that she wants to sleep with you, without ever thinking that she could possibly just want to discover you, befriend you, talk to you, or simply spend some friendly time with you.... sadly, sex is the only thing in your mind.

She laughs at your jokes
if you are actually funny, EVERYBODY will laugh at your jokes, whether they want to fukc you or not. if smiling at your jokes is what you take as a sign to want to fukc someone then you need serious help.

She is always smiling at you
being HAPPY does not means someone wants to fukc you. a smile is just that, A SMILE! not everybody is a sad miserable person

When you get close she doesn’t ….
you get close and she keeps her distance, and you want to take that as a sign that she wants to mount you?!?!?!?!?!??! oh lawd!

She goes to the bath room
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA going to the bathroom is now a sign that someone want to fukc you, bwaaaaaaah! have you ever wondered that maybe, just maybe, she wants to actually take a dump or pee......... or that she uses that so that you stop what you are doing?

@OP
legs shaking uncontrollably during sex is a good sign.

@OP
A) what would you want your friends to do if YOU were the wife in question?
B) says a lot about your husband, if he thinks in such manner and sees this as something funny.

kunlap:
Hi5 folks,
I got married sometimes last year.the first wedding night was not fun at all cos she was on her period and I only got to know on that wedding night. Meanwhile we ve never had sex before.

dude, if you have waited for so long to make love to her then a few more days shouldnt have been an issue, really.

After few days we eventually had it and indeed she was a virgin.after much unsuccessful effort to make her like sex I got frustrated. Now we ve a baby she seems to ve added too many pounds and I am now unattracted to her sexually coupled with so many domestic flaws and the reluctance from her to be corrected. .how do I overcome this.

1) pls do explain to us all what you did to make her like sex? or did you think that as long as the dikc enters, there must be pleasure automatically?
2) did you ever sit and talk to her about the issue that is bothering you?
3) maybe, just maybe, what you desire sexually is not what she does (and therefore you guys aint compatible in the bedroom)?
4) pls enlighten us all on the domestic flaws that you are talking about.
5) why do you automatically assume that she should be corrected? shouldnt you guys work as a team?
6) did you use to "correct" her easily before marriage, that you now expect her to be "corrected" after marriage?

@OP
you have to find a wifey that has the big tittays that you desire AND the perfect personality that goes with it. you cannot possibly settle for someone less than that because you would be lacking from the onset of your marriage. dont rush, and instead search for that pearl, no matter how long it takes, but i suggest you never settle for less in life!

now here is my 2 kobos: you are doomed! some of the major issues with big tittay women is that A) them tittays look great in a bra but as soon as the bra is off, the huge ones look hideous, B) if they are truly big and firm, they head south very quickly after pregnancies and look like damn slippers that hang all the way pass their belly button, and C) if your girl has big tittays, you have to be really secure as a person because most of the male that will hang around you probably stare at them intensely, lol!

@OP
no matter what you may say can change the mind of your sister, so just give her the best advice you can on the subject, et basta!

fellis:
That means there is nothing wrong with divorcing a man because he lost his job or lost his money and is now poor.

Especially if the wife married him due to his financial buoyancy.

NONE WHATSOEVER..... if that is what your aim was when you went into this union.
If you go into marriage for money, like many do, then when your partner loses that money, you have the right to leave because what attracted you to this union in the first place is not there any longer. there is no shame in this, so long as you let your partner know exactly what time it is.

many men are foolishly spending money (that they dont have) lavishly on women in order to woo them. so these fools should know that the main ingredient here is MONEY, and therefore these ladies would have the right to leave if the reason they came into this union is NOT there any longer. simple mathematics!

chibic:
it goes both way man. Men are also blamed for not satisfying their wives whenever the hoes starts sleeping around. I mean, how can a woman cheat and the husband gets the blame? I've seen that a lot in this section (esp from women).

bro, you are talking of two different things here: on one hand you have women who looked fantastic and turned into something their husbands is not attracted to, yet they want these same husbands to STILL be attracted to whatever they turned into...... highly laughable; and on the other hand you have who.res (men or women) who decided to go and cheat, and subsequently blame it on their partners for not looking great...... BS!!!! if your partner does not attract you then you siit them down and tell them excatly what the problem is so she/he can try to "solve" the issue. if that partner does not want/make any effort to solve the issue then you DIVORCE or DROP her/him, and go on your merry way. There is absolutely NO justification to cheat, even though a lot do cheat using this lame excuse.

some people out there would cheat even if they are with the best looking woman out there, and this has nothing to do with their looks, but all to do with boredom!

the responses on this thread shows us all how bitter some women are, and how they foolishly expect "all" men to settle for the possible baby whale that they may have become, simply because that's what they would do (with these pot bellied bastards that they've ended up with).NONSENSE!!!!

This is an insult to all the hardworking married women who STILL make the effort to be attractive, sexy to their husband, and work however they see fit in looking as hot as these young biatches out there that are ready to fukc married men. if a married lady does NOT turn her man on, physically OR se.xually, then SHE (and only she) should be blamed for that, and vice versa.
MBJ

if that person had the best friend during courtship and there was no problem with that, then the same should apply after marriage. they may not hang out together as much as before but their friendship shouldnt change after marriage. all insecure people who are getting married should get real!

that person would be coming to your place for dinners, go on outings all together, probably babysit your kids etc........ so why the low self esteem?!