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Dimaya:
Let me repeat it again. Other men's experiences serve to teach us:
I personally know 8 men who married single mothers.
6 of them are divorced/separated because the wife's baby daddy was still giving her the d*ck. It was ugly.

the above has nothing to do with single mothers and all to do with your friends getting married to wh0res... and we all know there are many of these women out there....but hey, why dont you also tell us how many of your friends (who married single women) how it worked out for them, while you are at it?!?!?

One of them was accused by his 13yr old stepdaughter of inappropriate se*ual advances. He swears his innocence, but his wife left him. She didn't even have kids for him. After 11 years! No one in the church they attended believed him. 11 years of marriage just wasted.

here read this following thread about a great single supposedly virgin that just got married.... https://www.nairaland.com/7121886/man-sends-new-wife-back

The only man I know still married is a pastor. His wife is Tu Face idibia's baby mama.

oh, so some single mothers are actually good women, is it?!?!?!?

If you can skillfully navigate the above risks, then go ahead. But realize this: marrying a single mom in Nigeria is a thankless job. All 7 of the above men swore never to 'rescue' a single mom. These were their words:

"rescue"?!?!? so all of these men believed they were rescueing these single mothers, as if they were lost of something?!?! bwaaaaaaaaah!

' She will NEVER love you. You will only be a wallet. And if the baby daddy attempts to have s*x with her or return, she won't hesitate to jump into his arms. She will always be his booty call.'

insecure nonsense....

Dear friend, the man who fathered a child with her didn't rape her. He chose not to marry her. That child will cost you money. Why should you be the one to save her?

the above says a lot about your mindset on this issue...YOU actually believe that being with a single mother is like saving them in some way, as if they need you and/or your saving. you see, how you are quick to mention that she willingly had sex with someone else, as if that should be any of your concern....it shouldnt!!!!! but you are so focussed on what she did before she met you, that you cant even let go of that small issue. yes that woman had a life before she met you, MOST WOMEN HAVE (even single ones with no kids), and so what?! so what that a child will cost you money?! you knew that from the get go, so you can either accept her fully or walk away....nobody is forcing anybody to be with a single mother, is it?!? i dont get it. you are not saying anything VALID to this discussion...

denobaba:
You claim that you have been with single women and they are great for you, so why haven't you married one yet.

unlike you guys, i dont have to marry a woman to be with her. we can be together for a few years, and then part ways and i go for another woman and she goes for another man. this has nothing to do with a singlemotherhood but all to do with my own desire in life. as i have always said on NL, i dont believe in marriage, and dont believe that you need to marry someone in order to be with them....the last single mother i was with, we lived together for almost 2 yrs.

It's very naive for you to say virginity is not a quality for a woman. On the contrary, it adds very much to a woman's sexual market value. It may be well be the case that you enjoy slack vagina, but you must accept that such a taste makes for an oddity in the general population of men. Make it make sense.

virginity is just that....a toto that hasnt been penetrated yet. now let us all remember that the value of women is not based on virginity... yes it ADDS to her value, but the value of a good woman certainly isnt founded on her virginity. a disrespectful/evil woman attached to an untouched coochie is worthless, same with a babe who had sex with dogs and ate shiit but is a virgin.... so as much as many men put value on virginity (to each their own), never forget that a woman's CHARACTER will have more weight than her untouched coochie!

bonnyhope:
This word "insecure" is what ladies have used to manipulate some weak men.
When someone is sounding reasonable and probably talking from experience you said he is insecure.

are you saying that HIS experience is automatcally better than mine?! are you saying that a man who is obviously judging a woman because he is afraid of a babydaddy that may or not come back to the picture, is not insecure?! then what do you call it then?! everything you guys talk about is the OTHER MAN...why is it so?!?!?!

let us be honest here and stop running around the issue like 5yr old kids....what is it that makes you guys so afraid of single mothers....why is nobody answering that simple question?!?!?! all i hear is baby daddy this and baby daddy that, as if because a man has a baby by a woman, he will control her destiny for the rest of her life....come on! it is OBVIOUS that your "ego" is the problem here, and you cant take it that this woman had a life before she met you, resulting in that child being born!

2buffagain:
This stuff is real bro.
The effects of being used may not manifest exactly like OP had said, but rest assured that when an ignorant fellow becomes spiritual meat, If their life is still normal after that, then it is because their life was meant to be far greater than the normal they go on living.

But they might never know as that greater part has been stolen. Save God has mercy.

is this not what happens all over the world....and therefore, unless you believe oyingbos/chinkos/latinos are affected by this too, the more plausible reason for the above is that this is what LIFE IS ALL ABOUT?!?! some win, some lose, some jejely go through it unfazed&untouched....

denobaba:
You have no clue. You assume single moms could have great qualities that are completely exclusive for single ladies. How does that even work? Lols

what qualities a single woman has that is "exclusive" to them (aka that a single mother cannot possess) apart from virginity but that aint a quality....??!?

Deeace01:
As it's popularly said that experience is a very good teacher if not the best even.
As long as the father of the child involved is still alive then future vicissitudes is far beyond the sexual part, sadly and bitterly as it may sound....the father of the child is usually a cross on the new man coz there's usually unforseen circumstances that may befall the new man through the old one

as much as your English is great, you are saying nothing valid to this issue. you are now placing your misplaced ego in the way of your common sense. as much as a baby daddy can certainly have contact with his child/baby momma, that person has NO VALID leverage upon the r/ship you have with babymomma. so i dont know what circumstances you are talking about, but its evident that you are talking from an insecure man point of view....therefore you are looking down on a woman because of the possible unforessen circumstances that may or not ever happen. that would be as foolish as me saying that i wont drive a car because many have died in car accidents. highly stupid wouldnt you say?!

ogene144:
I pray you didn't fell into this single mother hand I didn't pray 4 my enemies to marry single mother they are evils and wicked

kai, come on bro....the above is far fetched. been with countless of single mothers, and can only say great things about them. just like there are great single women out there, there are bad single women out there, and same goes for single mothers.

MaxInDHouse:
But i thought you said you are HIGHLY EDUCATED?

Well let me TEACH you!

God rescued a nation out of slavery in Egypt and gave them rules that will make them different from all other nations {Exodus 19:5} afterwards He told them all these laws can't lead them to everlasting life which He purposed in the beginning it can only guide them to the time the model man will be born in their midst, it's this model man that will lead them to Paradise! Deuteronomy 18:19-19

So CHRISTIANS followers of Christ have no business with the laws given to the nation of Israel since we knew Jesus through the preaching and teaching of his disciples not through the ancient prophets of Israel.
Galatians 3:19-25 compare to Romans 10:2-4

That's why Jesus taught his own disciples what totally contradicts the thoughts former prophets infused in their hearts {Matthew 5:43-48} he even told them never to raise weapons in settling disputes! Matthew 26:52
In fact that's why his people rejected him because his manner of reasoning sounds totally strange to them! John 10:20

So you only READ the book (Bible) you never STUDIED it, CHRISTIANITY has nothing to copy from the attitude of ancient Israelites all what we need is in Jesus Christ of Nazareth!

how dare you look down on "the law" and try to disregard its message?!!?!?! isnt it your own jesus that clearly stated that:

Luke 16:17
It is easier for heaven and earth to disappear than for the least stroke of a pen to drop out of the Law.

Matthew 5:18-19
For truly I tell you, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished. 19 Therefore anyone who sets aside one of the least of these commands and teaches others accordingly will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven.

Matthew 5:17
“Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them.

so you either stand by Jesus words or you dont, but dont be a selfish hypocrite to take only what fits your agenda from your holybook!

do you want me to post here more of the things that your holybook is clearly against, yet you hypocrites gladly partake in!?!??! dont get me started...

denobaba:
Seems like you are out to do PR stunts for single moms. If you have a son would you approve of him to marry one? I'm not saying there's anything intrinsically bad about single moms, but please answer the question why any man should choose a single mom over ladies without kids.

i have absolutely NO DISCRIMINATION towards single mothers because i do believe that being a single mother doesnt make a woman a bad person nor does it makes that woman a future bad wife nor a future bad mother, therefore why should i/we discriminate against a woman with a child?!

being with a single moher is 10x better than being with one of them fancy single ones you see out there, who go to Dubai every weekend that may have been fukced by dogs and eating excrements.

Mendy101:
Bros they are different, the father if alive will always be in the picture. If he is no more then mother and child are free to create a lasting bond with you but if the father is there after all his Bleep up, he can come and cry both mother and child will blindly forgive and leave you that have been struggling to cater for them for years.

and whats so wrong about that?! its not like he is gonna continue fukc your wife or sleep in your bed, is it?! remember, you are just a "surrogate" father at best to this child, and nothing more. dont try to play "captain save a child" here as this is NOT your child. so whether he has a father still alive (or not) is irrelevant here. sadly, your misplaced ego is giving you funny thoughts and you are so insecure that you believe that the baby daddy could come anytime and just tell your woman to :"lets go" and she will just follow the yeye dude. come on!

denobaba:
Nothing in your posts suggests even the remotest connection to reality. It's either you are very naive or you just wish to be disingenuous.

It's a well established fact that women divert attention to kids as against their husband. If this is the reality of many fathers, tell me how it could not be potentially worse in the case of marriage to a single mom.

Granted, a few single moms may find men who would commit to them for the long-term but don't try to misinform the public of the likely risk that could crystallize. Marrying a single mom will never be a first cause of action for anyone.

come on now.... even with your biological child and his mother, you could suffer the same above fate... so instead of telling us stories, why dont you guys tell us EXACTLY What you are scared about?!?!?

CaptainLora:
Wahala!
Why not just a regular girl without all these baggage and have peace of mind? That shitt is too complicated abeg.

many women out there may "seem" that they have no baggage but they will carry more load than a single mother (all them Dubai sista that are all fancy and beautiful but get mounted by dog and eat shiiit). again, you guys are not being honest about what really is bothering you with this single mother issue....because it is obvious, the flimsy excuses you all give here on this thread doesnt sound valid....especially when good women are scarce in 9ja.

MaxInDHouse:
You guys are raw illiterates claiming educated simply because you follow the whiteman's line of reasoning.
The Bible isn't just about morals as misinformed religionists taught you Sir, it's about how you and your neighbour can cohabit without raising weapons against one another.
So whatever makes you team up with anyone to think of fighting against another group of persons with WEAPONS shows you're not educated at all.
Education should first make peace reign between you and your neighbour before you can claim you have something worthwhile to be proud of as KNOWLEDGE!

funny that you should say that, because as history taught us, that same xtianity religion has been the reason for countless wars/crusades, extermination of entire civilizations etc....but you have the audacity to call this religion of peace, you must be truly misinformed!

BTW isnt it your "supposedly" peaceful holybook that teaches that
Deuteronomy 21:18-21
18 If someone has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother and will not listen to them when they discipline him, 19 his father and mother shall take hold of him and bring him to the elders at the gate of his town. 20 .” 21 Then all the men of his town are to stone him to death. You must purge the evil from among you. All Israel will hear of it and be afraid.

Exodus 21:15
“Whoever strikes his father or his mother shall be put to death.

Leviticus 20:9
“‘Anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death. Because they have cursed their father or mother, their blood will be on their own head.
Leviticus 20:10... If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife—with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death.

Deuteronomy 22:23-24... If a man happens to meet in a town a virgin pledged to be married and he sleeps with her, you shall take both of them to the gate of that town and stone them to death—the young woman because she was in a town and did not scream for help, and the man because he violated another man’s wife. You must purge the evil from among you.

Leviticus 21:9... If a priest’s daughter defiles herself by becoming a prostitute, she disgraces her father; she must be burned in the fire.

Deuteronomy 22:20-21... If, however, the charge is true and no proof of the young woman’s virginity can be found, she shall be brought to the door of her father’s house and there the men of her town shall stone her to death. She has done an outrageous thing in Israel by being promiscuous while still in her father’s house. You must purge the evil from among you.

Matthew 5:29-30... If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

Matthew 5:30...And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.

let me correct you abeg.......A) that song is FUTURE ft Tems and Drake... and technically it isnt hers, she is just featuring on the song. and B) if you want to count featuring songs then WIZKID on Drake's one dance debuted at #1 on the billboard hot100 in 2016, therefore Tems isnt the 1st Nigerian artiste to reach #1 on billboard hot100....

i think you meant first FEMALE Nigerian artist, therefore you should edit your title...

MaxInDHouse:
That's really hilarious!

Highly Educated but can't live peacefully on the same planet with your own specie.
Educated indeed!

are you saying that because i dismiss what a xtian says, it means i cant/dont live peacefully on the same planet with y'all?! i have no issues with xtians/muslims etc. you do what you do and i do what i do, but when you bring your xtian message online, in a public forum, we can discuss it openly.

BTW aint you the ones trying to force feed us your views/opinions every time someone has premarital sex, smokes/drinks etc?!

big tittay wahala...

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again THOU SHALL NOT DATE/MARRY CRAZED PEOPLE; AND IF YOU FOOLISHLY DO, DONT TEMPT THE ANIMAL!

the only way to be able to counter any rubbish a xtian says, is to be highly educated in their holybook.... no two ways about it!

sukkot:
am serious bro. deead serious. maybe i will film it

for the purpose of documentation and education, YES you need to film these "witches" in action.

6pack:
I broke up with my ex 3 months ago. I have not been able to get her out of my mind.
She moved on got dumped by the guy in less than one month and she contacted me 5 days ago and I responded today. I tried settling it out and she said I responded late. That it can't work now. She even said she was going to see another guy . Like wtf.
What type of useless mind game is this please.
The fact is I love her so much. She is not the type that is after money or material things.
And I don't believe in double dating. We have been moving alone for 5 years now. I don't know how to get her off my mind. I have watch countless YouTube videos on how to get an ex off your mind but non is working. I have tried having sex with different girls just to get her thoughts off but its not working. This thing is affecting my hustle seriously.
Damn , let me drink some beer.
Life has been unfair to me relationship wise

pls ALWAYS remember the reason why you broke up with her, and never look back towards her ever again. she is trying to play games with your head, and by the look of things, she is succeeding. why would you even care how/what/why she does that?!

whatever weed you are smoking, it is too strong for you...so i suggest you reduce your intake so that the fullmoon witches hallucinations you get will disappear from your window!

this one isnt a new thing na.... many millions dog owners out there are doing this same thing after the dog don lick his nyansh etc!

majority need these items like a DO OR DIE in order to look like who they arent, to get the attention of men....some women out there cant possibly face a man without all the yeye make up, lashes fake hair etc on their heads.
thats the society we live in today, where the person you meet out there is not remotely who that person really is...you need to wake up with her after a long night of bedmatics to remotely see the real person...and even then, you gotta check her when she is deep asleep.

also, let us remember that when you dont work for your money, you spend the money recklessly!

kai...from war zone to Africa. some people who used the war to try enter the UK will be sorely disappointed! let them blame Putin for their Rwandan vacation, lol.

the need to trend at any cost... but that boy hungry sha, he aint letting go of that sweet looking tittay!

if you dont work and spend all day being served/take care of by people, you tend to live longer than most...as your stress level will be very low.

see as the queen of England is getting healther as she is aging, compared to baba Jide the street mechanic!

so you are saying that after taking her clothes and her being ready to be mounted, you didnt have an erection again? and thats "her" problem?!?!?

here is the solution to your problem: next time, TAKE HER CLOTHES OFF WHILE SHE IS PLAYING YOUR "FLUTE"....or ASK THE BABE TO TAKE HER CLOTHES OFF BEFORE YOU START ANYTHING...et voila!

if your husband puts his whole marriage foundation upon your virginty, then the least you could do is to BE A VIRGIN!!!!

to all the virgin hunters of NL, come see your brotha...lol.

McDuncan:
Your last sentence wasn't funny.

wasnt supposed to be... that was a FACT from your holybook!!!! jesus mother was a single unmarried mother.

would love to see the evidence presented to the court, but then again, in these days of rituals and kidnappings...

lol, what craze person would even stay there continuing singing?! he didnt even unplug the guitar/mic and just started running away, lol!

shattap you to faced olosho!!!! wasnt it that same "small" man you were showing your tittays to, in order to try attract this h0rny goat in robe?!?!

by far... RELIGION!!!!...then BANKS... then INSURANCE COMPANIES... but RELIGION!!!! takes the ultimate crown over and over again!