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candieangel12: Yeah true that. My parents steady talk down on their friends that allow their children to marry outside of the Nigerian race but they will be shocked when I marry outside of the African race lol. My mom keeps tellin me how non Nigerian men are no good and how they believe in divorce. She says she will have a heart attack if I dont marry an igbo man and that I will bring disgrace to her n my father...but I think they are over oreacting. I won't sacrifice my heart just to save face and please them. I tell her all the time, that she is just gonna have to learn to live with the fact. No specific race gaurantees a happy marriage.

carefreewannabe: Listen to your heart girl!

candieangel12: To me "love is color blind"
I think african american men have amazing sex appeal. I dont mind dating or marrying an African american man, white man, italian man, etc but my main preference are white men mainly because they're more romantic and know how to treat a woman good.
I've told my parents right from time that I wont marry an African man because I am not attracted to African men, I told them I will likely end up marrying a white man. My parents hate this idea because they want me to marry an igbo man lol but like I told them, they have no decision when it comes to matters of my heart.

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I am not always in agreement with your analysis either Drusilla. Excuse me but, me always being in agreance with you and you me, that is neither here nor there and tha goes for you to Donzman. However Drusilla, I respect your opinions and I trust your judgments because you love black people and it shows in what you write in nairaland. I know that A.A women suffer the same things but in the context I was speaking of was in reference to what Hero said.

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Heros quote:



I was responding to him, giving him my thoughts on the hypocrisy of justification in how it is okay for Nigerian men to marry other women but not okay for the Nigerian female to do the same, unless in rare cases, very rare.

How else do you explain that there are more Nigerian men marrying white women than there are Nigerian women marrying white men or any man born outside of their tribe, black or white.

I love you to death Drusilla but some times I get the impression that, in your quest to show your faithfulness to Continent born Africans, you over look a lot of things. While over looking, you always have to make your non agreance known when it is not always necassary.



Drusilla, I am very aware of that. The burdens of the Nigerian women are not any worst than the burdens of A.A or any other black woman. However, at this time we are adressing the hypocrisy amongst the Nigerian male thinking in referance to dating or marrying outside of the Nigerian woman. I don't see how you could have over looked. In another discussion area, I forget the one, you made it a point to respond to my reference of Continental Afrcans and A.A's but you over looked that I said all black people are suffering the same. No black people is worser or badder than another group of black people, we are all doing equally bad. Do you remember that?



Well, the white man has done a good job, this situation may be the hardest to over come because through the white mans plagiarized Christianity with additionals of white supremacy added to christianity, before a black woman even thinks her sexuality should be happy, and fun loving, she will first think of her self as impure. Her thoughts of being impure is a direct result of what she had to do in order to survive. As long as her survival becomes dependant upon her sexuality and the price being paid for it, she will never be able to forgive herself and she will always see herself as impure, and the battle becomes even harder to win. I sure as hell better be specific, this goes for all black woman.



If one knows the reason why one does something negative, if one really cares, one will change. If one does not care to change or is scared to change, one will stay the same.

You said in the above, you don't think. If you don't think, you sure don't know the resons why either. Neither do I. My King statment  was an implication, I know now that I should have been specific. I don't think African males really deal with the source of why they do what they do either, but I have heard many Nigerians saying that they have control over their Nigerian woman. In fact, I have heard Africans from Mali, and Ghana say the same thing. So, my implication was, they think they are king, an African male arrogance.

A.A men have this arrogance as well but it derives from the myth, that there is a shortage of black men. A.A men take advantage of that myth and A.A women fall for the myth. The differences between how A.A mans arrogance manifest is what makes Nigerian men feel that they are better than A.A men. And, for the A.A man, the differences make him feel as though the continent born African thinks he is better than the A.A man. better meaning that the continet born  African mans manifestation of arrogance does not go as far as to put a woman on the streets. When if you look at the core of both arrogant differences, they are the same, they both can lead a black woman to date and marry white men or they both can lead a woman to the streets to sell her body. In either case, it was the black man, black husband, black father and black brother who's negative image distorts the black womans thoughts of him, as well as the thoughts of her self.

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You are right A.A men can be some pretty good sweet talkers but that can't be any different from the way Nigerian men sweet talk. In a lot of reported cases, Nigerian men sweet talk so good, that they sweet talk their self into American citizenship, get my drift?

So, lets stop putting the A.A brothers down, I detect hating.

Black women need to watch out and use critical thinko

ing when dating any kind of black man. And, black woman needs a brother, no matter what part of the world he was raised in.

Flashaldrin: ummm, i asked two questions. . .

Flashaldrin: What is african american??
And why cant i marry anyone i like??

Golden Lady: I think you meant to quote blogger1.0

Golden Lady: I couldn't care less what "friends" think about my significant other, family either to a certain extent. I'm a grown woman and very good at making decisions.

Now if they have some proof of something unacceptable they can let me know. I'll take it from there.

dont8: Leader of the feminist movement, I hail o

AB10: Nice, but most Nigerian men entice women with money. So...