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jay bee:
awwwwww suga. . . That time of the month again. Oh well, what can we do to help?

You can start by rubbing my stomach and rub my back it relaxes me.

Mz Dark,

Me and Jaybee have this attraction to one another but we can't act on it because I am married and he is involved. You know how that go.

jpworld:
I am married to a Malaysian, we have 2 kids, 1 more on the way, she cook, and wash my cloths, she cry when am angry, she never challenge me, she is far better than Naija woman, I have relocated my family to Lagos for the past 6 months, And we are living happily Lagos,

Okay, I am not Malaysian nor Nigerian however just because you got you a piece of asian meat doesn't mean she is any better than the African sister. You like what you like but you do not need to tear the others down to justify your reasons of liking skewed cat roast.

Mygoldie,

You can have Jaybee he is starting to irritates me.

Excuse you, Jaybee? Are you calling me a liar? I have been behaving myself accordingly and you still say I am not listening to you?

I don't understand how you African women deal with these African men I swear.

[quote author=MzD@rkSkin link=topic=586790.msg7544507#msg7544507 date=1295206789][color=#0055bb]@Kay, I'm fine sweetie  , so it 190 and how are you?

@Pinky   I understand sweetie. btw that thread Mrs.Chima created was my idea, she is not
being hypocritical, it was really a parody of another thread.

@Chima, I understand sis. She is emotional like me I see but she will see soon enough.
Some battles are not to be fought because some people no matter how nice you are to them
will not wish to make peace or like you. I like to discuss our differences as AAs, Jamo/Islanders, Africans
but when I sense envy/tribalism/hatred, then to me it's a wrap. I won't indulge in it. [/color][/quote]Word!  I hear you sis.  I don't mean no offense to what you said about in order to understand African men we must learn from African women. I do not mean no disrespect but NO ONE can teach me about my husband but my husband. Not all Africans think alike neither does all AA think alike. The best teacher to teach you about the person you are married to or dating is the PERSON YOU ARE MARRIED TO OR DATING.

Okay.  You basically saying the same thing I am saying Jaybee.  Men!  Now again, why was you frowning was it something I said?  You did tell me to stop fighting people and I haven't really fought nobody. (Please don't go to the do nigerian men stay faithful to oyindo thread)  

Why are you frowning Jaybee? You are not attracted to akata women?

Mz Dark,

That what I was trying to tell Pinky that the Nigerian women who do not have boyfriends or husbands chasing southern women do not care and don't give a Bleep.  There are Nigerian women that all for LOVING WHOEVER LOVING YOU and some that do not think African men should cross over.  

I came to her defense and she call herself catching feelings when I stated that who are Nigerian women to tell Nigerian men who they should be attracted to or chase after?  

But, I forgot not everybody on this thread have the essential comprehension nor the ability to know that not everybody against them.

The New Age Movement referred by AA community as the shift in NUCLEAR BLACK FAMILIES. I didn't mean to lecture. You should know I hold many seminars and lectures in my field. It a natural thing please forgive me.

I am also an essayist. I will write a sentence and it will become a book by the time I am finished. Hee hee.

ZimbaDude:
@joyblinks

I'm uninterested in your hiccups, follow my advice and stay safe.

@Mrs Chima

i think you are a wonderful mother

(Giggabyte)

Did he just called me a mother?!!! I beseech you to kiss my arse!

Monobyte!

ZimbaDude:


I'm hopping off too and wish you all a delightful 2011. Stay safe and make sure you use

PROTECTION!

Cheers and Good Luck!

Giggabyte)

That the brightest thing you said since!

aminalib:
who says african women and AA are not in relationships? there are many, just as African men back home who think everything about america is good, there are african women who will just want to be with an aa man because of what they see on tv, thought most african women would not want to date AA men after being here in america and seeing for themselves, alot of african women view think the normal stereotypes of AA men, they do not work, cant take care of their kids, are very disrespectful towards women and want to use women for money and have no goals, there are good AA men who have great careers and do good by women and those are the kinds i would date, mind u on a daily basis even when i was single i wold have AA men, chinese, u name it try to talk to me, but i would rather date an african guy or carribean, someone who is familiar with my culture.

Thank you for your answer sister. It is much appreciated.

Pinky,

Why are you getting defensive? I was on your side saying that who are Nigerian women to say who Nigerian men should be attracted to? I also said the Nigerian women do not give a Bleep about who Nigerian men are attracted to. If they are not dating nor married to the Nigerian men that are chasing southern women why would they give a Bleep?

I see you in a fighting mood and having a boring day. Good luck staying alive in the midst of this war you caused.

Jenifa,

I do not have an honest answer for the reason why African women not marrying nor dating AA men. I do believe white men will most likely to be sought out more because of the representation of wealth that society placed on white men.

I am not saying that African women chase white men, but I am saying that in society's eyes AA men are not high on the totem pole when it come to success and prosperity.

Any African women want to share the reasons African women and AA men are not in relationships?

Well, Jenifa.

I understand your annoyance but allow me to share this information with you if you mind.  Back in 1930, America suffered a great depression when the economy crashed.  The president FDR created an act called "The Great Deal" which is modern day welfare system.  The welfare system were created to aid WHITE WOMEN with children.  The act was later modified to help black women with children shortly after the first act was passed because it was unconstitutional to create a federal program for a specific race because the federal government represent all and not parts.  

The stipulations of these programs were:

Single
Children
show great deal of financial need

A woman who apply for welfare at the time could not hold any marriage license and no male were to be present in the household when social workers visit the home.  This movemnt caused a division with the NUCLEAR BLACK FAMILIES.  Black women were becoming head of house hold in the 60's during the Jim Crow Era because black men were put in jail for protesting against the unjust.  Jim Crow caused such rift amongst black women and men that the marriage between the two dwindled and women having to step up providing for their children by depending on the welfare system.  

You have to understand that in 1960's blacks were not allowed to ride the bus with white people unless they were in the back.  Blacks were not allowed to drink from same water fountain as whites and so on.  I also want to share with you that black women hid their marital status in order to get help from the government.  The government did not support married women because it were the men responsibility to provide for the family at the time.  In order for the government not to have records of such union they were often married in private halls by the preacher and under the Islamic tenet, you were married under Allah and witnesses.  The blacks took the same tenet and made it work for them.  

Now we are moving toward 1970's during the New Age Movement, the nuclear black families were completely destroyed and black women became head of household after black men were sought out by the police force because of riots and protests.  So since 1970's black women maintain the head of household status and highest graduates with children than any other group of women.  There are black single mothers however there are more black single women with no children.  Black women unfortunately are choosing abortion as routine birth control.   So the numbers are declining for single black women with children.

[quote author=Jenifa_ link=topic=586446.msg7543711#msg7543711 date=1295196089]@mrs chima,

I agree with your last sentence. I think black women are some of the strongest in the world (especially outside of africa) in terms of preserving the family.
I was reading the news in haiti (fertility rate tripled since the earthquake. partially due to despoils after the earthquake) and just wondering how these women survive this.[/quote]It is interesting to see how AA/African women are portrayed in the white media circuit as being unmarriable and too dominant. I have studied some characteristics between white, AA, and African women for some time. I have noticed that black men in both Africa and America will opt for white women when it come to making an easier choice. You stated that American women are more likely to be hunt down by African brothers than African women because "I deserve better" attitude. I do not believe that is the reason.

I have read multiple conversations by African/AA men and each of them painted white women as wealth and prosperity. They have also painted African/AA women to be more difficult to "manage" for better lack of word. I was at this function previously where a black woman confronted her boyfriend with his white mistress saying "you actually thought I wasn't aware of your cheating adventures?", The guy responded "I don't love this white ho, I am just milking her for all I can". Now you can imagine the horrific look on the white people faces and the sounds of Oooh damn from the black people mouths.

I have stated many times that there are few black men who actually love their white women and not using them for all they can. Now going back to what a brother said on this thread that the reason Akata women are sought out by African men are relatively different from the reasons why Oyindo women are sought out by African men. If we were to compared the two groups of women married to African men, we will see that Oyindo women have the largest marriages to African men than black women. Not because they are the largest group of women, but because of that man's personal reasons.

It is sad what happening in Haiti and my heart goes out to the women that are dealing with the devil's aftermath.

Hey Mygolidie! How you be sis?

I am married to a Nigerian man and because of that alone.  I am forced to stand up for Nigerian men on this thread.  


Look here Poster and look good!  





Nigerian men are,    But the Nigerian sisters really don't give a Bleep about the men running to the southern women.  If that what a Nigerian man wants to cohort with then what give the Nigerian sisters right to tell them they can't.  I am sure Nigerian women find southern men attractive and appealing.  Then again I could be wrong because I just seen a sister say southern men look like drunk cockroaches.  Oh well.

I don't see why there any beef with Nigerian women?    Maybe I am meeting the wrong Nigerian sisters then because the ones I know don't give a Bleep.

I will be glad when someone get them some KONDO! Seriously.

Orton,

Why are you repeating yourself twice? Do you think the poster slow or something?

Why do I need to grow up because I am turning in a subscription form?    Do I sense a little guilty conscience that you are trying to start some shit?

Awww! It beautiful Livedit. Yes, indeed! You will look beautiful on your wedding day without or with makeup. If you do not need it do not wear it. Make up can make a woman look ugly who doesn't need it.

L.Reed are you speaking from your kondo again? You men like flashy things and make up is one of them. Shame on you sir!

Ooooooh! They came back fighting! (turning in my subscription form)

misanho:
@mzdarkskin,Africa is God's own continent, we abide by not only religiouz law, ethical lawz but also tradition which analogous,

Bath a pig,comb a pig, dress a pig it still is a pig,

Wen U r in america bhave like an american, and wen in african u bhave lyk an african,

9ja men r smart nd wud go 2 any lenght 2 get a stay in d so called civilized nation whether it meanz marrying a non-9ja, bhavin lyk d indigenez, havin a by a non-9ja or reducin dere age, after which dey get d STAY, MONEY, etc dey really want n bcome who dey really R, get a divorce, collect dere share nd come back home 2 settle wit our obedient, lovin, carin African Queenz,

If hw many 9ja nd non-9ja marriagez really work? Mayb 1%, lol

So basically what you are saying that all those OYINDO WOMEN that have created posts about I LOVE MY NIGERIAN HUSBAND, I HAVE MARRIED A HUSBAND NIGERIAN MAN, I WANT TO MARRY MY NIGERIAN BOYFRIEND, I HAVE BEEN CHASED BY MY NIGERIAN BOYFRIEND AND HE ASKED ME FOR MARRIAGE, I AM PREGNANT BY A NIGERIAN MAN, MY NIGERIAN BOYFRIEND PROPOSED TO ME, AND I WANT TO VISIT MY NIGERIAN BOYFRIEND HOMELAND BUT I HAVE TO BORROW MONEY will not have a successful marriage with a Nigerian man?

Just asking.

Of course. Mobo hates the fact that we will not fall for his bullshit. Keep digging mugu because you dying.

Mz. Dark,

It clear that SOME people are paying heavy attention to CNN, you and I know that CNN is WHITE AND REPUBLICAN. Enough said.

Everybody else,

I understand that SOME of you think that Akata is running around having children out of wedlock and sleeping with multiple men. I understand and it is not your fault for the information THAT SOME OF YOU GET is purely from MEDIA SOURCE. I don't blame you if you are not able to experience the information personally so of course you will reply on the independent source such as the WHITE MEDIA CIRCUIT. Remember this, anytime you see a person WHO IS NOT OF A PARTICULAR RACE created an informercial about ANOTHER RACE please do not fill your recording pen with that bullshit.

Here is the CORRECT information that SOME of you were not PRIVY to.

Every region in the WORLD has a baby 'mama" cliche. In USA, white women has the largest group of single mothers with children followed by African American women. A large percentage of these single mothers have children by black men. If you pay closely attention to what being going on you will see that the highest group of graduates in any level of SECONDARY EDUCATION are black women. A larger percentage of these black women are successful and single followed by white women. Now the statistic states that white women hold the largest amount of marriage license which make sense seeing that successful black women are opting to improve their career goals rather than their personal love goal.

Please do not be fool by the fact that white women hold the largest amount of marriage license without taking in account that they also hold the largest amount of divorce decrees. In my opinion, divorce decree is an embarrassment when one is judging single women for not being married. I know a lot of single black women who has no children and are very successful in their field. Do not believe the hype about black women being in ghettos and on welfare. IF you go to any AMERICAN UNIVERSITY, you will see more black women than white women in college. Many of these women either have small children or adult children and are pursuing Master's degree. Do you think you can juggle motherhood and get a Master's degree? My hat go off to those strong black women who are holding down the fort and making sure they are providing for their children in the midst of oppressive adversary.

You need help whooping Dsense's arse sis? I just bought a bigger can of whoop arse.

English Writing 101---------MANDATED in 2011.

I have tried to sit in the mind of the poster because that shit SHE WROTE was upsetting. Did she say that the guy chased her and begged her for sex until she finally gave in. He took what he was chasing and now he is gone?

Of course little boys who does not respect a woman right to have her own opinion will call me a feminist.

Queensmith,

I hear what you saying about exploring other race of me. For me I do not find other race of men sexually attractive nor appealing to me. Don't get me wrong there are some nice looking men in other races but that it.

There are a lot of AKATAS who will not date less than a brother. It should not be look at anything different than the fact that it is a preference. You have a preference of any man as long as you are interested in him. That your right. There are women who will not date anyone but "the preference" and will have nothing against other "not their preference".

I have always been attracted to African and AA men there is nothing to explain but the fact that it who I want to be with. There is a difference if there is hate crime involve then that would be a different story but a sister choosing not to date out of her race is merely exercise of preference.

I hear you though.

aminalib:
chima, where do you get that most of the baby mama are white females and on welfare, from what i have read most of them are blacks, being that black women have the lowest rates of marraige in America,

I have a family member who works at the welfare office and their data states that MAJORITY of the women that are on welfare is white. You do realize that white women are the largest group in America and it could be that the marriage rate are higher and so is the divorce rate among white women. I will see if I can get cyber reference for these claims.

Although white women have the most marriage licenses doesn't negate the fact that there are many black women having abortions than white women because of eugenic movement.