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timilehing: My gf would not even pick at all. She'll flash after 10missed calls or more

What is flash?

Konnektions146: i hate to be ignored.....wen i call, kindly pick.....not cos i will do anythin to yu if yu dont but it just pains me from de inside .

if i call and yu miss, yu have to reply with voice call, sms, IM oor anythin but just acknowledge that yu saw my calls though i try not to call so many times cos some people may find it irritating.

I can understand where you are coming from because my husband try to call me between breaks and down times....but knowing your partner's schedule and whereabouts can help gauge how often you should call....it some situations...you should call as often as you can but if she is at work or school...dial it down to once until she is off.

[quote author=sangamania2008@]Indeed, it hurts especially when you are truely in love and you just wanted to hear her voice or know how she's feeling.. Am currently experiencing this with a girl now but i just wish she knows how sad i feel about it. I have confronted her but she came up with flimsy excuses.......am not the type that give a damn about how am treated by ladies cos i have a handful of them but believe me, she has a soft spot in my heart![/quote]You have already express your concerns and she ignored you. You have two options...either to deal with it or move on. She is not that into you and you deserve someone that care and respect you.

This is my being nice day so take advantage of it.

Whoa! I knew at some point that some people are having some issues with phone calls according to some threads and offline conversations.

However...It is obvious it is not a male or female thing because both sides are having communication issues regarding the device we all know as cellphone/telephone. It is obvious that some couples are not establishing phone rules regarding to how one should respond or expect when a call is made or not answered.

In America....some women expect not to call a man as soon as she receive his number because it appears that she is desperate and some guys wait three days to call a woman to see if she is still interested. I am not sure how it is in African countries but it is apparent that many of you take the phone calls serious.

To answer to some questions that were asked of me...of course you have to answer the phone to see if the calls are important but the question was toward the caller...do you think the person have to answer the calls if you feel that YOU HAD NOTHING IMPORTANT TO SAY or they should have answer regardless?

What is the appropriate amount of rings should a person wait before answering?
How long should a person return a phone call?
Would you accept a text message call back instead?
Do you feel that text message is a platonic thing and that couples should call their partner back instead of communicating via text message?

This is deeper than I thought but nice comments/thoughts. Keep it coming because many people are learning and made aware of this trend.

At first I thought it was just a girl's thing that their guys must answer the calls but I have noticed many men are complaining that their chicks do not pick up calls at first or second ring.

Is this a new trend for the men that their chicks must pick up calls and must return calls less than five minuts tops Is it important to you that your partner answers the phone even if there is nothing important going on as long as they call before sunset?

Your thoughts?

BlackPikiN: Ohh you want to know my kinda job before you fix a date. lol

I will send a mail to your inbox to tell you the kinda of job I do.

You like?

You sound desperate as hell. I thought Nigerian men do not like mixed Black girls

souldust: i read a thread like that on the website and i wasnt sure. so if you think so, why dont you let us know why you think so

I would bite this time. Why would you ask a forum full of non-Black Americans if they think Black Americans are the strongest Black force in the world!!!!

Of course they will disagree and say that Nigerians are the strongest force in the world minus of few of them that think that Whites are superior to them.

Let me answer the question for you base on MY perspective...Blacks period ARE NOT the strongest force in the world. Yes, I said it!

Blacks period ARE NOT the strongest force in the world. Many of them too busy worrying about dumb shit like who is pure Black and who's cultures better than who's cultures.

This is by far the funniest thread I have ever read! Aha! I have a topic for my diary in the diary section!

AmBeautiful: Hello hon,

Please be careful especially with Nigerian men!

Look before you leap .

Some could be VERY HORRIBLE!

[quote author=D-Explorer]Then i think you need a personal experience and that might just correct the minus [/quote]No thanks. I am content with Mr. Chima.

penelope9: My friend do not love her husband no more,When she have sex with him she feels nothing,when she hug him she feels nothing, when she chat with him she feels nothing, when she lay on the same bed with him she feels nothing.What are your opinions.

There are millions of marriages similar to your friend's. People want to harp on this fad that divorce rate is low in this country and that country not realizing that low divorce rates doesn't equate to happy marriages.

There are some people who have common sense to leave a failed marriage that has no life or potential. I am not saying that people should divorce over simplest thing but how many time should a spouse endure adultery? violence? disrespect?

I know some regions look at separation as a bad thing because it means people are planning to divorce not necessarily!!! There are people who are married have separated five or six times without divorcing and are still together.

Your friend need to find out why she is unhappy and deal with the source of that. I don't think it has anything to do with her spouse but more so her. She need to find happiness within herself and not look at her spouse as her source of happiness because she will be unhappy for the rest of her life. Our spouse is our partner and part of us...but they do not make up our personality, opinions, views, perspectives, and upbringings.

She need to take that time for herself to figure out what she wants and once she make that decision then she need to live with it. I don't think people should be in the same house if they are unhappy especially in the present of children. Children are bright and usually underestimated. Children knows when parents are unhappy and it interferes with their stability and security. It will show in their behavior at school, church, family functions, and playground.

I think anyone in their right mind would want spouses to enjoy being with each other and not tolerate them just because they do not want to be looked down as a divorcee or separatee.

Good luck!

You can forgive someone but not forget.

Once you forgive...let it go.

[quote author=D-Explorer]All attributed to African men? I think you've got a story to tell [/quote]Why are you catching feelings? Did it struck a cord with you?

By the way...I have no personal story to tell regarding African men but I have friends and associates that do!

I do not have lock code on my phone but I live in a house where people respect privacy so no need to lock my phone.

drnoel: beside what do they do that is not done inother countries

I guess what he saying is although women in other countries do it as well but Nigerian women are pros at it.

inas911: weda african or not. All na wash wash! B[size=22pt]etter shine your eye[/size]s.

True.

[quote author=Atheist:-D]It is best to go into this with an open mind. Be very mature about everything. I believe you should consider it if there is no major issue putting you off. Here are some benefits of African men (mostly Nigerians):

1. Responsible. Africans are generally more responsible than their African American, Black British/French/European and Jamaican/other Carribean counterparts.
2. Cultured. Culture makes a big bonus as it can give a very strong backbone to a family unit.
3. Lower divorce rates.
4. Less promiscuous. (Better believe it babe. Africans cheat less than the other black groups. Or rather, all black groups cheat alot).#
5. More financially capable and successful (this is mostly for Nigerians however).

The list is endless.

Your choice. Goodluck[/quote]You forgot to add liars, murderers, thieves, adulterers, rapists, ignorant, misogynists, whores, fake bible thumpers, and opportunists.

I have more but you get the point.

Let me get this right....because a chick takes off her clothes...it justifies a man acting like a nigga

It is her body...what does it have to do with you

Orikinla: [size=28pt]

Nigerian men must stop patronizing them.[/size]

Who else would Nigerian men patronize in Nigeria Most foreign women in Nigeria are with their Nigerian partner....so you want Nigerian men to patronize Nigerian men

Like they say....behind every trifling woman....is a trifling man.

Oops!

This thread proves that many Black men prefer hoes over class. I am not saying there is anything wrong with wanting hoes...because I believe hoes need and deserve love too. After all many of the male chatters' wives were hoes once before and some women chatters are recovering hoes.

My thing isn't about the hoes (really) it is the men that have spoken in volumes of how they prefer class and elegant but toting around with trailer park hoes. Confused huh?

Granted there are women that are extremely attractive and intelligent....which are hard to find these days I will admit. But....at the same time what is important in the long run? Quality lasts a long time....President Obama knew that. I am sure he could have gotten a Kim Kardashian (I am talking about her attributes not her looks) but he settles for someone that ages well and carry invaluable treasures.

But as I stated...nothing wrong with bringing a ho to meet mummy. Maybe she can teach her a trick or a hundred.

kokoye: Na una sabi.

Some people obviously think so and that's why this thread was created.

Not everyone thinks exactly like you...or me!

The joys of anonymous forums

[quote author=Mynd_44]I aint black. How can I be when I aint Ghanian[/quote]You ain't light either.

SMH@MBJ.

jay bee: Only saga's ... can bring da girls to da yard

And you can't

Why are you defensive and grabbing straws boo boo???

It is not that SERIOUS.

[quote author=trae_z]MRbrownJAY Why do you say if after a few yrs that person is THE ONE, then PROPOSE TO HER. Why a few years? Isnt that too long? How about 13 months?[/quote]I agree that years doesn't have anything to do with if the person is for you or not. I have a friend who only knew her husband for six weeks before she got married and they are 33 years strong.

My aunt married her husband only in two months....they are 12 years strong

My coworker married her husband after two weeks and they are 22 years strong

My friend is divorced after knowing her husband for 5 years before they married and married for 2 years.

My coworker is divorced after knowing his wife for 7 years and married 1 year.

It is about the person and if that person is in agreement with you. Human time is different from God's time and when God in it...let no man put asunder what HE brought together. Amen!