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If the guys you meet online are serious people they will visit you first....nothing is wrong with you woman...

simplelex:
There is more to being a man than just having a penis.

She/He doesn't know..

Brightgem:
The home is a foundation on which a lot of things about an individual’s life stands. Often times an ill-mannered person is asked the question “who raised you?”

By observation, one can say that kids who did not have present and active parents in their lives often times than not have a twisted kind of life.

Parenting is guidance, parenting is support, parenting is devotion, it’s a whole lot of things. With the kind of adults we see these days I believe there is such a thing as dangerous parenting.

So what are some tips parents can employ to avoid raising morally bankrupt kids?

THE CONTENT IN OUR HOMES

In this digital age, what content are kids being exposed to right in the homes? I recall a friend’s annoyance at seeing his nieces and nephews watching the famous Big Brother Naija with their mum. This is a show that many adults don’t even see the need to watch as it barely has anything of value to offer and showcases ill-behaved persons and immoral acts, yet a mother didn’t deem it wrong to watch this along with her kids.

Some leave adult movies lying around carelessly, some do not check what content their kids are watching. A conscious and responsible parent should see and screen the content in form of movies, cartoons and the likes they intend for viewing by their kids to avoid exposure to the wrong content their little minds cannot understand.

TEACHING THEM RED FLAGS TO LOOK OUT FOR IN PEOPLE

It’s not okay for a parent to feel uncomfortable discussing what they think are intimate issues with their kids. In this increasingly perverted world, kids need to be taught what “private parts” mean. It is for you as an individual to protect so that no one violates your body, kids should be made to understand this fact. There are too many damaged adults who were not protected from sexual harassment as children, because these kids didn’t even know what harassment or abuse was.

Kids should be taught to stop adults from calling them things like “my wife” or “my husband” by making it clear to persons who refer to them as such that their parents have said it’s inappropriate. Kids should be taught to clean and bathe themselves early enough to reduce the chances or need to have others do this for them, as this is often the periods where sexual abuse spring from. Kids should be taught when a seeming play from an adult or fellow child is crossing the line, either crossing the line verbally or physically.

BASIC COURTESY AND MANNERS

A child taught properly and given guidance shows good manners. Kids should be taught to greet their peers and adults alike. They should be taught to clean after themselves as it makes them more responsible at an early age. They should be taught table manners, taught to thank their parents or providers after a meal, after a gift or after a service rendered them. This teaches them gratefulness rather than entitlement, which is a problem with many adults in today’s world.

REWARD FOR GOOD DEEDS & PUNISHMENT FOR BAD ACTIONS

Some parents accept and condone all behaviors their kids’ exhibit. So much that onlookers or strangers get irritated and annoyed when a kid is not disciplined. Good deeds should be acknowledged and rewarded by parents, if not rewarded all the time to avoid a kid thinking they must always get rewarded, then a good deed must always be acknowledged as good, this spurs a child to aspire for even more good.

Same goes for wrong doing, a child that gets away with wrong doing all the time is going to be a very irresponsible adult that never sees the wrong in their actions, no matter how much you try to make them see it.

RULES AND HOME TRAINING ARE NOT FOR GIRLS ALONE

This picture below is self-explanatory on this point, too many parents focus more or solely on their female children. Wrong!

MORE KIDS NEED TO LEARN SELF DEFENSE

Since the dangers around us in society is increasing, it’s a good idea to teach kids self-defense at an early age. They can attend karate or taekwondo classes. This they can keep learning into teenage hood. There would be lesser female victims of rape if self-defense is learned by the majority especially at an early age.

UNDERSTAND THE DEITY CALLED GOD

The homes scream religion but lack God Consciousness. A child that understands obedience to God will respect and obey their parents either in their presence or in their absence.

Too many homes now also pay attention to materialism rather than values. Good values are being lost every day. Teach children early in life the cost of good and evil, the reward with God for good and the punishment with God for evil and prohibited acts. Kids who understand that beyond this life is another life and we will give account to God.


Parenting is tough, and in the end individuals have the responsibility of deciding what they make of their lives as adults. However it is very important to have this solid foundation. Just as life is unpredictable, anything could happen and parents sometimes die and leave their kids behind, the lessons taught these kids. The voices of their parents is what remains with them for a long time to come.

Visit www.themoralcodeng.com to see more posts on basic morals, values, ethics and more.

Well written article and great advice. Thanks

babamadiba:
Now thats what I call a gangster pipe. Kalashnikov. The last Don.

Good decision boy....now come fly the super eagle you are!

orunmila144:
not in england. in england they recognize and appreciate talent. london is a city that is full of people from all over the world. having a policeman who can speak 9 major languages is a huge asset. just by herself she has covered all the languages of 99 percent of people who live in london. they see her as a huge asset because if you look at her pictures as a met she is posing with top politicians. someone like her can easily be the chief of police. all the criminals who are yoruba or french or portuguese or arabic etc she can communicate with and she can communicate with various communities in london. the white man recognises these talents. she is a huge asset. they WILL NEVER let her go. and she is a minority ? thats HUGE. all minority communities are more comfortable with minority officers
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A lot of people just wish she will be sacked so they could gloat and mock her for participating in BBN. Shame! I'm not even a fan of the show but I wish her well...

TonyeBarcanista:
By TonyeBarcanista

1. CRITICS said Messi was nothing without Ronaldinho, Deco and Etoo.

FACT: All three players left and Messi peaked even at their absence winning uncountable team and individual honors

2. CRITICS changed narrative to say Messi is benefitting from the geniuses of Xavi and Iniesta at Barca..

FACT: Xavi left Barca, Iniesta also left yet Messi keep blazing, winning trophies awards.

3. They said Messi is a one club hero, asking him to emulate Ronaldo by changing clubs to prove that he is indeed a great player...

FACT: Ronaldo left Manchester United(Man U) to join Real Madrid(RM) because RM is a far bigger club to Man U. Ronaldo left RM to Juventus because he was unhappy with RM hierarchy and the way he was treated in 2018 by the club's President.

On the other hand Messi is a Barcelona product and Barcelona is a far greater club to any other team in the world (argue with Barcanista). In addition, Messi is in great shape at Barca and Barca love him.

Beside, Nikolas Anelka is one of the most "travelled" player in Europe but no one is calling him G.O.A.T for his football tourism.

4: CRITICS said Messi should go to another league to win trophy to prove his status

FACT: Messi doesn't need to go to any league to prove himself, he has played all top teams from each top leagues in Europe and demolished them... Neymar has won league trophies with Barcelona (Spain), PSG (France) and Santos (Brazil - where he also won South America champions league), yet no one is saying he is GOAT.

5. CRITICS said Messi should win trophy for his country to be considered G.O.A.T

FACT: Messi led his country to youth world cup triumph, he led his country's men team to Olympic Gold in 2008. He further led his country to Copa America final twice in 2015 and 2016 where they lost via penalty shootout (game of luck). The biggest of all, he led his country to World Cup final in 2014 (where they narrowly lost at extra time) and was crowned MVP for all the aforementioned tournaments.

MORE FACTS:
1. Messi has more goals than all his teammates and former teammates in Barcelona and Argentina

2. Messi has more assist than all his teammates and former teammates in Barcelona and Argentina

3. Argentina is a semi average team without Messi but a team "to beat" with Messi in it.

4. Take Messi out of Barcelona and Barcelona will struggle to win games.

AS FOR FIFA AWARD 2019
Critics claim Messi is undeserving of FIFA Award 2019 but who deserves it more than the man that achieved the following in 2019...

1. Top Scorer in Europe 2018/19 (European Golden Boot)

2. Top scorer in UEFA Champions League 2018/2019

3. Joint Most Goal Assist in Europe 2018/2019

4. Most Man of the Match won in 2018/2019 UEFA Champions league

5. Most player of the Week won in 2018/2019 UEFA Champions league

6. Best Forward in Europe 2018/19

I don't even want to mention domestic individual honors he got but critics can't give us any individual player with a stat to match Messi in 2018/19.

The summary of this epistle is that Lionel Messi is the GREATEST SPORTSMAN OF ALL TIME... This is a fact that even his critics know but ashamed to publicly admit.

Even as a non Messi fan, I understand and appreciate your post. Respect to the great man!

strangest:
Nairaland looks wierd this evening... My eyes OOO

I refreshed and refreshed thinking it was my phone oohh

cooooooks:
What does pursuing mean? I don't consider the word "pursuing" and the phrase "showing interest" to be the same thing.

If you show interest but she's clear that she's not interested, why continue to disturb her.

If she eventually 'settles' for you, small thing and she might say "na you beg me to marry you".

I think you should marry/date people who have a genuine interest in marrying/dating you too.

I agree with you.....maybe I didn't put it well, but the "pursuing" I'm referring to is the basic wooing a man does when you meet a woman and you are interested in her. It is not all women that will agree to date after a first or second "toasting" abi?

everyone's journey is different!

cooooooks:
Just don't be desperate.

Never force anyone to date or consider you.

Chase girls you think like you.

Allow girls to chase you.

Don't cheat and don't tolerate cheating.

The key word for me here is not to be "desperate" like you said. But I don't think there is anything wrong pursuing a woman who is worth it and showing her true affection. If it's meant to work fine, if not, then move on after sometime is she is not forthcoming. But pursuing a virtuous woman is ok me thinks. It doesn't make you weak!

presleYzzi:




I love this guy, he's a typical example of "hardwork beats talent".


Messi may be naturally gifted, but this guy is a Trojan horse.

If Ronaldo wasn't in the picture, Messi wouldn't have stayed in the lime light this long, as south Americans don't last too long in the scene before being overthrown!

To all those castigating him, if you work half as hard as this guy works, you won't have the time to throw shades at other people going about their businesses!


They said "everybody lives 15mins in a different time zone", but this guy has been on a different time zone for 15yrs.

Some of you all throwing shades at him don't even have a working wall clock.


Modified: I have not told you that Ronaldo is better than messi, or vice versa, I'm just saying that if you hold very strong opinions about who is better, that you perceive it as indisputable, then you shouldn't go about ranting about it on every thread and posts that messi and Ronaldo is mentioned!


Before you come throwing shades at me, I'm a strong fan of Z. Zidan seconded by Ronaldinho, and not these two.


PEACE

I agree with you...and I'm a fan of RONALDO da Lima and THIERRY Henry!

Acidosis:
You married a slay queen na.

A[b] slay queen can never be satisfied with the attention, care, love and money of ONE man.[/b]

A virtuous woman cannot turn slutty overnight. At 24, she was a slay queen, and a slay queen she would forever be.

Exactly the point. Her dressing well, being in shape and looking lovely is not a problem, the issue here for me is her still craving attention from men on social media and wanting to still live that single life. Marriage should bring a lot of changes. When you agree to marry one, you have agreed to sacrifice a lot to be with that person and crave only for their affection and love... I guessed she hasn't accepted that yet even after 10 years!

24kmagic:
Shameless bitch.

She's not even ashamed she's telling the world she's about to be d!cked

Shamlessness at it's peak but they will tell you it's freedom to express themselves and been "confident in their skin" bla bla bla...

BravoDe:
What did u just spill out?
Are u truly a gunner. Where were u when they beat us 4:1 this season

3 - 1

francis5051:
The rice is not looking appetizing

At all...as par rich man house

munex007:
When you leave arsenal you shine better.

Arsenal is a social experiment designed to test how long people can endure pain and disappointments.

Sanchez and Welbeck are shining "better" too right?

Anything to do with exes after marriage is not advisable except in certain innocent cases. Even at that, it's better to avoid.

Sorry about that, the Lord strengthen you. It's not easy at all to be in an unhealthy relationship not to talk of marriage....

The perfect man to go stop the rot at Real Madrid....

I suspect Wike may eventually decamp to the APC in the future. These guys (politicians) always make moves that favours them at the right time. You can never catch me loosing sleep or having vain arguments defending politicians. Never!

chariisGRACE:
Wow!
This is awesome. The costume and the Family are so Beautiful.

May the love that bonds this family together wax stronger.
Amen.

Amen!

pocohantas:
Earlier on I saw a thread on the cash-less policy, though it had so many wrong information.

Please lets get some things clear while reacting.

A:- The policy is aimed at reducing (not ELIMINATING) physical cash in circulation. This will encourage more electronic-based transactions.

B:- The charges are on the EXCESS of the amount. Not the principal (for lack of better words).
-The charges are 3% on withdrawals and 2% on lodgments for INDIVIDUAL accounts.

-5% on withdrawals and 3% on lodgments for CORPORATE accounts.

-The CUMULATIVE limit is N500,000 for individuals and N3m for CORPORATE accounts.


C:- Unlike stamp duty charges that hits the beneficiary’s account directly, the cash-less charge on DEPOSITS is borne by the depositor. Except you are also the depositor.

ii:- The charge on WITHDRAWALS is borne by the account holder.

D:- The policy was only REINTRODUCED, it has been there before, but was halted at some point. The pilot stage of cashless policy (withdrawals) took off in Lagos on March 30, 2012 and spread out to some major states (Abia, Ogun, Rivers, Anambra, Kano & FCT) by October 1, 2013.

E:- It is a CUMULATIVE DAILY LIMIT on all CASH transactions. So, don’t pay in N500,000 and come back with N50,000. Use alternative channels.

ii:- The charges applies to all transaction that involves CASH- irrespective of the CHANNEL. This includes ATM and 3rd party cheques cashed over the counter. However, 3rd party cheques above N150,000 can no longer be cashed over the account.

F:- The policy has taken off in major states as at Sep 18th, 2019. You don’t know this because you probably do not have N500,000 to withdraw or deposit- CASH.

G:- The Reps have however told the CBN to pause on its implementation.


IT IS NOT ALL BAD NEWS AS THERE IS AN ADVANTAGE IN THIS POLICY FOR ALL PARTIES INVOLVED

-For Consumers: Increased convenience, lesser risk of cash-related crime, access to out of branch services, more banking services option and financial inclusion.

-For Corporations: Faster access to capital, reduced cash leakages and cash handling cost.

-For Government: Increased tax collections and economic development, greater financial inclusion.


EXCEPTIONS TO THIS POLICY
The policy applies to all accounts with exception to Government revenue generation accounts, Embassies, Primary Mortgage institutions and MFBs.



NOTE: You can avoid these charges by using alternative channels. Please contact your financial service provider for these channels.

Well explained.

MASTERCHIEF0847:
People have too much expectations from other people and people are shit.
Lower your expectations from people and be happier.

End of discussion..

MasterRahl:

The women who should respond to Alibaba's post should be female doctors, female IT experts, female pharmacists, female academicians, female boutique and supermarket owners, female nurses, female hoteliers, female programmers, female civil servants, & other numerous females whose profession adds value to human lives. These glorified oloshos who call themselves actresses are NOT SUCCESSFUL in the true sense of the word.
By success, I mean those who have felt the brunt of the Nigerian economy and still rose above it.

Agreed!!!

Good one...

Duggedised12:
Cant even trust your children with their fathers,smh

I taya ooh.....kaiii

ReeLoaDead:
May Arsenal win Europa this season ...

Amen! We need am

[quote author=ikorodureporta post=82335625]the only flesh of my flesh blood of my blood I know. [/quote

Yes ooh my niggi!

9jaBloke:
See Tacha

Lmao....I thought I saw her behind Tiwa too

As soon as they see money the next thing that comes outta they mouth is "Baby I love you"....smh

cescky:
Thats why most of yoh are simpletons...they know how to use you peoples brain.

I for one believe this two never dated, iyanya and yvone neslon..

The dude used her name in his song as per some one he was crushing on...then you follow follow followers concocted a story by yourselves and believed by your self...that they were dating...they being celebs or people you look up to and whose lives depend on publicity by reason of their jobs took advantage and rode the wave...you lot need to be wiser..

At last, somebody who has a mind and brain of his own like me !…you are so spot on