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Family / Re: My Husband Is Always Running by MsTom(f): 8:37pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
iamsaved: I am extremely confused at this point as I need to plan my future and my kid(s) future. Please go ahead and make plans for yourself and the kids. I see your hubby as unserious and not ready to be responsible. A man walking out for months on his wife and kids is not serious and would one day walk and not come back. In your pursuit of security, talk to counsellor or pastors(depending on your religion) to see if something can be done. I wish you the best. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Dad Begs For Forgiveness For Defiling His Daughters. by MsTom(f): 8:25pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
taryour: You talk like this probably because you are not in a situation where you are forced to leave the kids with their father. He is their father! How can one know he would molest his own kids especially when he never did before she left. Remember, she left the kids with her mother. The man went to get the kids. She knew he went but hey, this is Africa/ Nigeria! They would fight the woman saying the man is the father. "Why would you want to take them away to another man" Don't you think at that point, his family will be solidly behind him to get the kids from the woman or her family. It happens. Happening right now to someone walking by. The woman has no fault. I pray that they release the kids to her soonest and pray for healing for the girls. Meanwhile, the man should never be oppotuned to see the girls again. 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: Ribadu Is Acn Flagbearer by MsTom(f): 7:16pm On Jan 14, 2011 |
Personally, I feel Ribadu would do way better in EFCC or its like rather than in Aso-Rock. |
Politics / Re: Ribadu Is Acn Flagbearer by MsTom(f): 7:00pm On Jan 14, 2011 |
Becomrichn: why do we bring tribe to issues? even to election? Cant we look beyond this and vote for someone who is ready to serve the people and be accountable to them, be it yoruba, igbo or hausa? |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 12:03am On Jan 14, 2011 |
aysometin: I know that feeling |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 11:17pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
interesting! |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 8:09pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
Dr Know: My thoughts exactly! |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 8:03pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
jason123: Nice summary!!!! |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 7:48pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
jason123: Do we need new universities? what about the old ones? |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 7:43pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
Timehin: Why are they wasting time? The party was supposed to do that b4 the speeches started |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 7:39pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
You mean GEJ is yet to talk? |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 7:21pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
jason123: thanks jason123. Did Atiku say the above? |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 7:15pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
Wumine: . Is he still blabbing? |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 7:13pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
Wumine: can someone please escort him back to his seat! |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 7:10pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
Dr Know: My conscience says NO TO ATIKU!!! |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 7:07pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
Dr Know: what is he saying? |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 7:04pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
jason123: lol. you kidding right? |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 6:58pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
binhozie: |
Politics / Re: The Official People's Democratic Party Presidential Primaries Thread by MsTom(f): 6:57pm On Jan 13, 2011 |
@all, thanks for the real time updates! |
Family / Re: I Regret Bringing My Wife Abroad by MsTom(f): 3:50pm On Jan 05, 2011 |
TewMuch: That is so not true. Most often than not, It is the Nigerian men that are to be blamed for the seeming change in Nigerian women when they get abroad. In nigeria, you have maids et all to help the women out. Therefore,as the man you go to work and come back to find out that the house is clean, the food is ready etc. Who do you think did all those? your wife? think again. Most times, it is the maid of whom you pay the salary from the income you make. Over here, there are no affordable maids, there are no help even from families. It is every man for his own. The woman struggles to do all by herself. She Cooks, cleans, care for the kids and to crown it up, she does 9 to 5 and most times overtime just to help the man with the bills. Some nigerian men who most of the time gets home b4 their wives expects her to come home, have the strength to cook, clean the house, train the kids, help with their assignments and still have s.ex while they (the nigerian man) wanting to use the Nigerian mentality, just sit in front of the tv doing nothing. Tell me, dont u think such women will feel pushed to the wall and hence would want to fight back? Are these your reasons why you said they changed? Nigerian men who marry nigerian girls already in america/Uk or what not knows that the woman would expect him to do stuffs at home as a reault, they forget the nigerian mentality and help around the house. Why dont you treat the women whom you claim "imported" from nigeria the same way as you would treat the women whom you met here? It is a basic rule. Nowadays, you cant treat women in Nigeria like crap anymore. Not to talk of a woman you brought abroad. PS: Not all women brought to abroad change. Most times and often, it is the men who changed! You forget you aint living in nigeria. @OP, I dont know what you mean by sole signatory. Is she a beneficiary of some sort or a sole signatory to the family income? If the second, who works? what law says that a woman should be the sole signatory cos you are filing for her? Or did she file for you? seems you are not really open about the state of the finances and immigration here. |
Family / Re: Who Is To Blame For Broken Marriages, Man Or Woman? by MsTom(f): 2:30pm On Dec 30, 2010 |
The man and the woman |
Crime / Re: Police Shoots Man For Laughing by MsTom(f): 2:28pm On Dec 30, 2010 |
WARNING!!! Anytime you see a police man, do not laugh |
Family / Re: NYSC Member Arraigned For Abandoning 14-day-old Baby by MsTom(f): 2:26pm On Dec 30, 2010 |
, And where is the father of the child in all these!!! |
Family / Re: Forcing My Mother-in-law To Leave My Home by MsTom(f): 5:14pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
harakiri: Yes I would. I gave it and will still do. And I also followed that step too. Love is complex and not fully understood. Hence why we say people act stupid. Love conquers all they say. From me, it does if it is alive. If he tried and it didnt work, hey, at least he tried. Never assume until you try. If dead and gone, I would never advice him to go back home. It aint worth it. |
Family / Re: Forcing My Mother-in-law To Leave My Home by MsTom(f): 5:06pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
BonnyFace:True to that! |
Family / Re: Forcing My Mother-in-law To Leave My Home by MsTom(f): 4:57pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
harakiri:Actually, it is men like you who sing a differnt tune when such happens to them. What is the unrealistic things that I have mentioned so far? I did mention that I am faced with the same tribal issues as him. So I know what I say. I bet the part in which you oppose me is where I made mention to the guys who told him send the MIL packing to get ready for their wives to send their mothers packing too. Most of the time, the MIL who sticks around is usually the guy's mother. And Why not? afterall, he was adviced to do it to his MIL. He waited 4 years and 9months too late to want to do that and aslo when his marriage is almost falling apart. He cant handle both now. Everyone will forget the fact that there is potentially another man is in the picture. Marriage is not a do or die affair. true. But if you want it, then be ready to work for it. Hence why I continous mention that if he loves her, he should go back home and talk. If not, dont go back home. You think all women will call if their hubby walks out? Dont you think she could be somewhere angry and thinking that she was not treated right? Now that he left, did he find the peace? If he did, he wont be on NL asking for advice. He needs to face it head on and quit being an ostrich who buries his face at the site of trouble. I made mention earlier that marriage needs understanding and respect for each other not necessarily control. How many men on here can sincerely say that they control your wife? or would you say you act smart so your girl thinks she has the control? I still stand by this;the couple need to talk and know where they stand.He cant just sit at work and assume that she would call. she wont. And knowing women, I bet they are planning how they would discredit him and tell the other family that he is out with another woman. |
Family / Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by MsTom(f): 4:27pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
pannyman: Others are: David AQrquette, George clooney, Eddie Murphy, David Schwimmer, Reggie Bush, Michael phelps, Adam Levine, John Mayer and many more. Waitresses are women who wait on tables to earn a living. There aint no stooping low in that |
Crime / Re: Trusted Home Help Kidnapped Sharon! by MsTom(f): 4:09pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
keep thinking why a woman would get a man as a house help knowing that she has 2 girls? |
Family / Re: Forcing My Mother-in-law To Leave My Home by MsTom(f): 3:48pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
ElRazur: Lol. Now you know how it is when your mothers are in the house too. We cant scream on top of our voices when we reach there. |
Family / Re: Forcing My Mother-in-law To Leave My Home by MsTom(f): 3:32pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
carnal:please let is always be never to the bolden parts. It causes more harm to walk away than to talk it out! |
Family / Re: Forcing My Mother-in-law To Leave My Home by MsTom(f): 3:26pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
To all the men asking this guy to throw the MIL out the door, I hope you will be ready when we/ your wives throw your mothers out the door too. Things like that can not be done by one person. If he does that, he creates room for more problem. Put yourself in his shoes. Easier said than done. There is a greater problem at hand. His marriage! He needs to work at that and when that is sorted, the place of the MIL is automatically sorted. Even the daughter will be the one to ask her mother to go. @Poster, go home. Dont allow another man toast your wife. A woman's heart can be fragile esp if the hubby aint nice to her. I wonder why she is listening to another man. What are you doing at that? I think communication is lacking and she needs someone to sweet talk her. You are busy typing on NL from your office when you should be working it out. If you love her, go home and talk. If you dont, continue to sleep in the office cos no one is gonna call you. |
Family / Re: Forcing My Mother-in-law To Leave My Home by MsTom(f): 2:07pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
Blazay:you are funny! |
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