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I wonder what we are celebrating!

tensor777:
Very good question as to his authority. The guy just de form as if faggotry is not a death penalty offence in the bible.

You have me thinking here. In your post on "my husband is gay" something like that, you said being gay was a mental illness. Why then if I may ask are you saying that the act of being gay is an act punishable by death in the bible? Your sexual orientation is not a sickness. It is a choice one makes. Whether being gay or being a pediophile or what not, all are choices made whether good or bad and man must pay the consequences of their choices.

It is another thing to be competing with a woman. Competing with a man?, it a "no go area". You cant win! sorry. Reason? he doesnt even see it as being gay or cheating. He sees it as just playing sex with a buddy. Tell me, how do you fight such school of thought?

lioncoolst:
HAve you sudddenly forgotten your vows on wedin day so soon?? Just 3 years ago!!! Didnt you say 4 beta 4 worse, , in sikness and in health.
Apparently, your husband is sick and needs to be attended to, but leaving him will not solve the prob, wil it? U need to stay and help the backside-fucker overcome
his sickness that might be psychological,emotional, physical, or spiritual.

Did he forget his vow of forsaking others before going after a man? common now, be real. God frowns at infidelity, not only that, he hates homosexuality. Have you forgotten one of the reasons He destroyed sodom and gomorrah? Having sex whether with a man or a woman is not sickness! Actually, sex is fun. The guy aint sick. He is plain selfish.

texazzpete:
The fact that the man was most likely involved in the despoil of minors isn't important to you, just that the fellow is gay?

My thoughts exactly!

Sagamite:


They should have poured petrol on him to finish him off.

But they tried sha.

[Obviously I don't advocate law breaking, but . . . . ]

Should be done more often to pediophiles!

Oba234:
are trousers the only thing that can make somebody says hmmmmn sexxxy? I have come to the conclusion, that many men are dogs. You can be covered up and some of this men will still try to holler. Anyway sha, I don't believe this story. Good luck to Adeboye enforcing that in the USA because I can say now that it ain't going to work. Maybe in Nigeria, but in the USA. Church service longer than 2 hrs make people walk out talkless of some ridiculous list that bars women from gold, trousers,and dying hair, thats the majority of the women population in redeemed USA. It's only Nigerian churches were there is a debate about nonsense like this.

You got it all out of my mouth. Most men are attracted to decent looking women and not necessarily those in mini skirts or pants. I have heard men say that they feel sexually intimidated when a woman is all dressed up and covered. And hence feel the need to "get under their skirt". Wearing godly looking dresses does not mean that person is righteous. Some are doing that under a pretense to attract un suspecting men to marriage. Quick question for the men. Havent you been attracted to a woman who wore just plain traditional wear-like iro and buba? Afterall, they are all covered up. All I believe in is, as a christian, be moderate in all you do and wear, be it pants or skirts, jewelries or whatever.

PS: As per the dress code, I think it can only apply to members and not all worshippers

I wonder the kind of ceremony you are planning to pull, that you feel you dont have enough. What is wrong in doing a registry? If you must wed in church, what is wrong in doing it in your pastor's office? All you need are two witness. Your immediate family and the bride's immediate family are enough. You can wear native attire not necessarily white and suits. The only thing you need do is pay all the bride price or whatever ( I believe the family of the bride would be considerate), pay for registry, get married, cut the cake-if you have and go back home. Anyone who wants to eat should go home with you and prepare eba for them ( it actually happened in case of someone I know). In short, all I am trying to say is be wise in your preparation for your wedding. Remeber that there is life after that day and all those who would come and chop on that day would walk away and most of them never look back to ask for your welfare. You are on your own after the day. So, call your wife to be and plan the best economical wedding ever.

There is nothing to be scared of. Nigeria is good. After getting out of the airport, you would feel so much at home. My advice. Enjoy yorself. Have fun. Make good use of the time you are spending at home. People at home are ready to be good guest(believe me). Do not be too flamboyant. Do not spend unnecessarily. No need to announce yourself or be flexing euros around anyone ( this way, you dont attract unnecesary attention). Be yourself. Be nice. Forget europe while in nigeria and enjoy nigeria as it is. Do not complain, afterall, you know they have traffic, bad roads and no electricity. Why complain again? With these in mind and in action, you would mos def not be a pain in the a** to anyone.

I went to Nigeria after such a long time sometime last year. Now, I am so looking forward to make it an annual trip

odereghi:
ThankGod the truth is almost visible

The poster at his latest post said 'i'm afraid of posting my phone no. I'm genuine''

If his story was real and that he needs help; what will stop him from posting his contact?

I think the poster should be judge for the following:

(1) He hid his phone number so that he cannot be caught when the truth is finally out.

(2) He hid his E-mail so that he cannot be reached out to when the truth is finally out.

(3) He has refused to tell us his home address in Portharcourt because he is a fraudster and does not want to be caught.

Nairalanders open your eyes. Go back and read his latest post and you will find out so many things there.

funny, he gave his email addy on the first page of this post.

Confusion:
Is yerimama a senator in the Nigeria senate or in the sharia senate
pls someone should tell him to go and be a cleric in the sharia court
misappropriaton of mind,brain and living

My point exactly. If you believe in the sharia way of life, live it to the core. Not only when it is time for marriage that you believe in sharia while all these while you are ruling/living using the western ideology. If he wants to go sharia, let him resign as a senator and be governed by the sharia law where the people would support his actions. But now as a senator in Nigeria, we the people are against his actions and hence should face the consequence. Nigeria is not governed by the sharia law. It is that simple.

becomrich7:
$24000 is not money in nigeria. Since you are an engineer from a different country. The company is cheating you. Nigerian engineers depending on the sectors you are make more money than 24,000k( including benefit) . Some engineers make less. If you are in the oil industry, you would should have been paid more. I would ask you to demand for more. since you are not a nigerian, nigeria law gives you a different salary scale abit higher than a nigerian. You could get $60000, depending on how you make your demand.

Even with the $24,000 you get, may be the company is going to provide for your house, and transportation. They must do in nigeria, and they would give you a car with thier logo on it. And the company pays for the people working in your house most like. You may get an official driver from the company. Your wife may likely get a house help paid for by the company sometime.

One thing I know is that even with the $24,000. you are going to live a better life, than you can live in any western country. But you would have problem with electricity. It is not constant. But generator is your solution.

You may not even touch your $24,000 till you leave nigeria. But be sure of waiting 6 month before you bring your family, because they may fire you after six month, wait till the six month is over, you dont want to be paid for your stupidity.

If you live over here 24,000K you are living in poverty, by the time they remove the taxes, a person in nigeria is earning more than you. by the time you remove your rent, you have no money. because they have already remove tax in the 24,000k you have made. So the little you get, is close to nothing. And you may end up living on the street. In nigeria , you are likely to keep 95% of the money. But not the same with western country the tax is high.

Company pay less tax in nigeria. Nigeria main problem is electricity and security. Even if you are rich, you dont have security for your life.

You would not miss india, there are many people from india in Nigeria. People from india works in various sector of the economy. Yorubas joining benin republic is even to thier own advantage. Benin republic is the second or third largest producer of cotton in africa. The india companies are mostly textile based in nigeria.

The fact that they are providing accomodation means they would provide the convenience that comes with it. Generator and diesel inclusive. He has food, shelter, transportation, medical and extra $24000. What do you think he would use it for? Nothing I guess but to take majority of it back to India and invest in the indian economy.

Majority of our income goes to what he is getting for free.

Cheef:
@MsTom,
I do not think this is about opportunities; you need to know what we recruiters go through. We have a seriously flawed educational system,

Hence why I stated that the employer may have problems hiring Nigerians in Nigeria cause of the educational system. What about others whether at home presently or abroad who have educations abroad and have experiences abroad? What problem could a recruiter have with that? There are Nigerians abroad who want to come home either cos they lost their jobs or just that they miss the life in Nigeria. They desire such opportunities, i.e desire to work at home. I am not talking in terms of Sid's salary. I guess that is what he negotiated with the company or maybe what he is worth to the company.

The few companies that hire Nigerians as expartrait offer them way more than that. The salary scale is compared with that of america in terms of education and experience. ( I used America as my example cos I know people who did that). We need more of that. That would encourage some people to come back home and invest their knowledge in Nigeria.

harakiri:
This country is not encouraging it's citizens at all.All over the world in the professional field, Nigerians have excelled themselves time and time again.In the medical and engineering fields, we outshine others.What on earth are we doing with expatriates when we have a lot of brains wasting away here. . .jobless people who would be more than glad to work for less than 10% of what these "expats" are being paid.We complain of racism but we are more racist to ourselves.When will we learn to respect ourselves.No wonder our youths are travelling to the most mundane of places in search of that pot of gold they may never find.You see our people wasting away in Malaysia, India, Iran,North Korea, Angola, Trinidad and Tobago. . .even Haiti! Na wa oooo!

@poster

I have no advice for you.Don't take this personal but we have more jobless people here for me to worry about your condition.

End of!

The thing is we even have Nigerians outside of Nigeria who studied and have experience outside of Nigeria and these ones are ready to come back home. Why cant these companies hire them as expariates?! That is my question.

kushe:
no 2,it is this indian guy that is being cheated.how much is 24k in the first place??but coming from a population of over a billion with an emphasis on education and particularly IT,i guess he should thank his stars and get on the next plane,cos if he dont the next amtab will withouut noooo apologies and plenty gyrating of the head on the axis of the neck

and for those of you who feel more valuable than an indian,in my own experience they are multiple times more value for money per capita than any nationality i have interracted with including americans and britons wey no dey gree go school.

We never know how sid got his salary decided. He could have negotiated to that value. After all, he stated that he was earning $14, 000 before now. To him, he might not be cheated.

aasog:
@dem_people

Good point but also a little naive sir. No company will just "employ" anybody because they are a national or Africans.
Nigeria might be 150,000,000 [b]but we are just a brain-dead nation. Its difficult to find any one in this country who could globally compete with experts from countries like India, Malaysia, the UK and US. You can come up with some yadayada excuses but the truth remains, our problem as a nation is because we just dont value what it takes to be ahead globally. If you look at our yearly  national budget where does it go? Construction goes to Julius Berger, Hitech, Bulletin, CCACC etc, all foreign companies.
The food isnt produced here. And cars arent manufactured down here. So what gets manufactured in Nigera? Nothing. And we are all happy with been the consumer nation.
Our problem sir, is individual. Not government. How many commentator here has what it takes to get Sid's job and make him feel like he needs to go back to school or learn from them? No matter how good you are after going through a Nigerian institution, you always feel inferior whenever you meet other foreign professionals. It has happened to me a lot when I interacted with other engineers from India or any of these countries?

About just 2% of our enormous bulk has what it take, or less. With this our "Get Rich without plenty work" mentality. We just have no value for what really matters. And an average Nigerian spend too much energy on getting comfortable rather on getting ahead,
Problems like this isnt going anywhere. Not when 80% of our budget goes out under our nose and we are all happy about it, and no Nigerian is bothered about getting a big lion share of it.

You cant push out the foreigners and their policy when they remain the only people who can build you bridges, sustainable and green homes; when we depend on their imported food. We will always be at their mercy until we have like 1,000,000 or more Dangotes and Adenuga's within the country.[/b]

I beg to differ. Nigerians are not brain dead. They simply DO NOT have an opportunity to prove themselves. Nigerians in other other countries have proved this point. There are hard working and ready to learn professionals who surprisingly have their degrees from Nigerian Universities. A lot of graduates of Engineering here in the States who would jump at the offer sid had, leave the shores of america to work for these IT companies. Tell me and please be sincere, how many of these IT or other companies  would want to hire a Nigerian from America not to talk of a Nigerian from Nigeria. Even though he is well qualified. ONLY FEW. The problem is that these companies have a form of inferiority or maybe they have little or no confidence in the Nigerian Educational systems. These companies hire nigerians who work diligently for less only for the company to go bring in someone of other nationals who probably are less qualified to be the head of department. This is wrong and needs to be checked.

The reverse occurs in other countries. I have seen instances where an american who is less qualified is made to be the head of department. We may call that racist but then, these heads of departments could also be black. Only that they are Americans. Do you blame them? I would not. (Why should I let my people leave my country?) Even though we have other nationals as heads of departments in America, majority of them are citizens of America. The only reason I could think of why another nationals should be the head of department is if the company has its origin from another country.

Also, the fact that Sid is coming in from another country and is to be paid in dollars with all these benefits shows that he was hired as an expatriate. Believe me, he would NOT be coming in for an entry level job. There are Nigerians in America or UK or even in India sef who could have be hired as such. Why didnt they do just that? Only few companies in Nigeria would hire Nigerians as expatriates.

***Speechless***

Funny, I kinda feel sympathy for the family. I guess they have now come to terms with his death. Eh ya

It is so sad that this is still going on after years of marriage. I bet you mum hung in there because of the the kids (you guys). Nevertheless, You need to talk to your dad to stop that violence. You are all grown up and you should be able to talk to him as an adult. He needs to respect her now even if he never did before. Both of them are getting old and they would need each other at old age. If that does not work, I would advice you to get your mum out of the area and let her stay with you for a while. She needs to live to see her children succeed in life and to see her children's children. If she dies from such depression or from the violence, your father will marry another woman before you say jack robinson. Your mother took care of you. Take care of her now!

I have seen and interacted (even has as friends) with Hausa women who are in these professions- medicine ( doctors and nurses), Architecture, banking. The thing is most of them live in the north and they are doing good in their chosen profession

My lesson learnt from the death of someone close to me (my brother):

Life is short. Make the best of it while you are alive. In the process, touch the life of someone near you for good. Always say how much people mean to you while they are alive cos tomorrow might just be too late.

Never knew him or heard his music before until the day he had the accident. The way people talk about him means he was a lot to people. I just pray that God grant everyone the fortitude to bear the loss. Da Grin R.I.P.

~Sissy~:
MsTom, who said beans isnt a healthy meal?

Guess you got me wrong. Beans is healthy but I dont eat it. Right from childhood. Now, burger and fries , I can eat but I dont cos it is not healthy. Hence why I asked for examples of other healthy meals.

Interested in this topic

Fhemmmy:
Beans and lots of it.
Burger and fries with ice cream to top it up

Beans? Not for me. Please give examples of healthy meals.

chiogo:
Excuses!!

So, the stories made him jump on the tyres of a plane?  And the Nigerians in America now weren't told stories too, how come they didn't do like this one? Even a 10-yr-old should be able to discern when a story is being sugar-coated not to mention a grown man.

Actually, my response was not in reference to the man's action but in reference to the person who asked why Nigerian are so desperate to go to America at all cost. Some may not be this crazy, but the things you hear people do to travel out to America is almost close to this madness. Besides, from the story, we read that a woman did the same and she was successful. Can you even imagine the wordings of the reporter to this matter? It is like he (reporter) was not surprised. It is like he(reporter) was trying to portray that this man's action is common in Nigeria but this man was just unfortunate.

I dont not think there is anything wrong with our educational system. The problem of education lies in how we get educated. Under stress. No light. No chair. No tables etc. I have noticed that Nigerians who studied in Nigeria and eventually go abroad for future studies are the best in their classes. We compete with other educational system and we come out on top. That should speaks volume. The fact that we have accents means that we speak other languages. If you are white and were raised speaking spanish, you would have accent. I repeat. Whites have accents espcially those in the southern America. Some are bad that I, would strain to understand them.

See, one of the best attorney in DC is a nigerian, an Ibo man( cant remember his name). He gets interviewed even on CNN. One of the best writer in the world are nigerians. Soyinka makes words for the dictionary ( so I heard). At a point in time, I heard that one of the best doctor is a Nigerian. All of these men had a form of education in nigeria.

The indians have accents too. Guess what, they are overtaking the IT and education industry. As long as you can deliver and communicate, accent is no problem. Even the scrabble champion on this forum must have made some grammatical error at a point in time( please correct me if am wrong). Even the best english teacher must have made grammatical error. Everyone makes such mistakes. Most especially when they are nervous.

The most important thing is to be able to pass a message across and deliver the message.

I would not judge anyone. A lot of people in America live a life of lie to their families in Nigeria. They boast of things they have which is a complete lie. Some are rentals. It is lies like this that people see/hear that makes them want to go to America by all means. They send pics of these lies to someone in Nigeria. How do you convince that someone otherwise?

larimo:
[size=14pt]Does anyone have the link to this story?[/size]

Besides there haven't any international flights to the US or have there?

Thanx

Yes. If flying directly to US.