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Ayauche:
Congratulations.
Those drugs are not necessary just breastfeed your baby according to doctors but those our mothers that gave birth in the 1990s will be hammering on the drug like its the pathway to heaven.
For the BCG I got for my baby a week after I gave birth this is due to the fact that there's a day scheduled for immunisation. L
Take care of baby and mummy.

nniero11:
that your line "TALKING WITHOUT CONTROL" really got to me. i don laugh tire!

Tolerance is key! you can make some one that doesn't like you to like you. It requires time and skill though and this every woman should learn.


Just like you can never detest your birth mother no matter what don't detest your mother in-law too.

The truth is we humans have not come to grasp the true meaning of the word "LOVE"

Love is a very strong fortress that can withstand any attack. When some one deliberately tries to make you cry but you end up smiling and doing good in return to the person it will get to a point where he or she will begin to treat you with respect and adore you like a god. The only problem is can you endure the bullshit in the beginning?

Marriage is a beautiful thing but because of our crude nature arising from lack of love it is now a very deadly contraption which has killed many innocent people and has given out evil to our society.

The fish cannot survive outside the water and the plant can't live outside the soil but man a spiritual being wants to survive outside a deity.


HUMANITY HAS LOST IT ALL BY PLAYING GOD!

ImaIma1:
I am sure you know what I mean by interfere. Once a man is married, the mother has to respect the marriage and allow them be. She cannot come and make decisions in the house or exact any kind of authority.

If they need someone to mediate, shouldn't it be a neutral person, and not someone that would take sides? Definitely not his mum. The father is even better.

I for one respect my MIL. That's why I maintain a safe distance. Getting close to her is difficult because I have been burnt several times. Even she herself had to apologize to me when she was leaving our place after omugwo because she knew she offended me and I was cool about it.

For some people, respecting them is putting them at a distance so that you don't speak your mind and spoil everything. My FIL is the one I talk to more.

okoroemeka:
I was in a such dilemma when I wanted to marry,we have six flags building with me and my mother and househelp occupying one,my wife bluntly refused even for us to shift to another flat,we lived together with my mother, and my wife was driving her to work every morning before going to school,it continued for six years before my mother died suddenly of stroke in 2006,they lived together happily like mother and daughter and I was privileged for her to name 3 of my children before she died,osodiemeaku RIP.

frozen70:
You need to get married, live with your wife and your mother for just one year, then you will come back with a good point

nniero11:
So if his mother is old and can't help herself what would your husband do then??

Your comment is making my heart to bleed!

You can't live with someone that raised your husband

finally make God forgive me because na CONTRACT MARRIAGE I GO DO

AS A WOMAN YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO LOVE YOUR HUBAND'S FAMILY JUST LIKE YOUR BIRTH FAMILY.

HUMANITY IS FINISHED!

Rubbiish:
U want someone to leave his own house & become a tenant simply because he wants to get married? Can u afford one bag of cement?
Senseless thing!

Rozcol:
Go and rent a place for you and your wife alone before you pave way for seeds of discord between them.I can never agree to live with a mother in-law no matter how good she is,never.

stephanie11:
POLITICSNIGERIA.COM


https://politicsnigeria.com/breaking-billionaire-captain-hosa-okunbo-is-dead/

Hugged:
Source: https://dailypost.ng/2021/08/06/man-to-die-by-hanging-for-killing-wife-in-jigawa/

smallsmall:
Where did this one crawl out from?
Go and get a job and stop trying to use the Children as your Passport to easy Money.
Obviosuly, these Women dont love the children and cant take care of them but they see them as their ATM to easy life from their Father.

Hoes everywhere,
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BRATISLAVA:
The typical Nigerian man at work.

Their only joy is to try and claim the children, always, even when they know they aren't ready to be fathers and mothers at once. Anything for revenge on the woman.

Once they have an issue with the woman, "give me my children, give me my children", not because they love their children that much. But because they feel it's the most hurtful thing to do to her. They are ready to dine with the police force and welfare units and courts to punish that woman. Then dump the child on any other female afterwards. Because they never loved them to begin with.

We see enough of that rubbish in male comments all over this forum. Why they are suddenly against FFK for fulfilling their fantasy, nobody can rightly tell.

Probably as petty as tribalism.

justosee:
Will she be able to care for them financially, or you still expect the man to give her money for their upkeep?

Itzlinda:
How aboout someone that's 28 with no msc?

Toks2008:
Especially when the pressures of finance comes in.

Hmmm! If sapa hold you, even to get hard on for a man go be problem and it is one thing if sapa hold you as a single guy but when you have a MUST Do presponsibilities... You will hardly think of sex.

MadamVanessa:
So true.


I wonder what people rush into marriage when they're not ready to be there to satisfy their partner anytime and any moment

To some men and women, marriage is all about answering Mr and Mrs and also making two to five babies. After making babies, sex chapter is closed in the marriage and they start living like siblings in house. Nonsense!

God should never give me a dull husband, that's not sexually active, because as I am this active, i maybe forced to do something silly if he's dull.

Lamanii22:
I met his ex there... I was furious but I kept my cool... I am not someone that's quick to speak... I just observe situations... She left after a lil while and never saw her... Didn't even ask my DH about it I just let it slide....

Grayoso:
Igboho did not cause the death of anyone. He did not seek to spread 'eye for an eye' style war of death, violence, mayhem and attrition as Kanu sought to do.

Igboho's brief was that murderous Fulanis should leave Yoruba forests and all corners they hide in to launch killer attacks on Yorubas going about their legitimate business in their own land.

Pray tell which sensible person would say Igboho does not have a right to such agitation in the face of the many, many,many,many inactions, complicity and open biases of the Buhari government that seems to be giving rogue Fulanis the platform and support to carry out their murderous attacks everywhere.

Have several frustrated prominent Nigerians, fed up with the inaction of the Buhari government, like Danjuma, not asked Nigerians to arm and protect themselves ? Why were they not arrested for their open instigation against the Nigerian Government if the Buhari-led regime is fair and consistent?

Do you not see this is about the regime of Buhari, scared of Nigeria's break-up, choosing to intimidate the agitators of secession in the SE and SW rather than doing the right things to bring solutions and shut up the likes of Igboho for good?

If you are fair then you would admit many valid solutions to insecurity have been proposed and Buhari ignored them all. Yet you have no problem with that. Igboho is your biggest wahala on Earth.

Also, if you are a sensible adult you will appreciate Igboho's stance that Yorubas cannot get protection or justice in Nigeria when even officers of the NIgerian Police force confirm "orders from above" always instruct them to never arrest or detain Fulanis whatever the situation.

Bruv, you are just something else abeg. Some of us were fans of Buhari who worked for his victory. Yet, unlike you, we know when to take a stand for what is right and just for the great good of society.

Chibuezem:
jealousy go kill you which of your sisters wey be lawyer. Be here and be answering ekuke

Fountainofyouth:
Your mother bled too right?

Xilsbridalhouse:
I suspect he could be a cheat too. You know these things brings out the beast in women.

Ishilove:
He is a nincompoop. He did not ask what I was referring to in my post. Some women take good men for granted and they only know the value of these men when they lose them. This is what I meant in my post, but being the dumb donkey that he is, he was quick to quote me to type the same trash he ejects from his grimy anus.

Rozcol:
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not here to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww

hosemujica:
That last one na coco. Thats why most guys want a child before they even say yes these days .

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

SimplyFacts:
There's no need crying unnecessarily. Benin Rep is not Nigeria, so let their law take its course. We can start all these drama after he's declared innocent & acquitted there. One of the security agents in Benin claimed Naija govt does not have a say over them.

There's no need for tension.

Nikeballer:
Clown......werey Sorosoke shebi tithes and offerings don dey reduce na with the way lots of naija don dey japa.....

You didn't move abroad cos Americans are not as gullible and ignorant as naija peeps wey dey find miracle up and down and your "ministry" wouldnt have been this big

Rather struggle and suffer in a working society with good infastructure and healthcare than this shithole country that thinks our problems/suffering will be solved in their religious gatherings after paying offering, tithes and donations to build schools that average nigerians can't afford....