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Family › Re: How My Stepsister And Her Husband Tricked Me And Took Egg From My Ovaries by mutter(f): 11:23pm On Aug 30, 2015

freecocoa:
And ofcourse I am not denying that,it is common knowledge that mutter doesn't see a man ever being wrong and this is my reason for that statement as was very obviously implied.

Now what is your reason for saying"as usual" and asking me to leave you alone, telling me to advice the op if I have the best method?

I quoted you, asking questions based on what your post said, please pray tell how I skewed from the explicit meanings of your comment?

Make una stop gossiping me lol

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Family › Re: Bimbo Ayelabola Gives Birth To Quintuplets In London, Gets Let Off £145k Bill by mutter(f): 9:14pm On Aug 30, 2015

aameyah:
People who have babies abroad plan it. And they pick the tabs.

You are reinforcing the fact that this lady meant to scam the hospital from the very start.
I think it's unfair on all who will be turned back by the visa officials because of this....

Don`t worry my dear.
Just make an advance payment of 147 000 Pounds to the hospital and you have your visa cheesy

On leaving you get a refund and the next person after you gets a visa.

Family › Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by mutter(f): 8:31pm On Aug 30, 2015

I would like to advise them.
But don`t you think it is better we made a law forcing all poor people to be sterilized huh

Before you go about advising the poor that are already victims go and advice the rich and the politicians.
If there were enough social structures and Infrastructure no child would be deprived of a life in dignity and education to the best of their ability.
Go and advice the rich that do not pay fair wages.

Your solution to the problems in the world is very simplistic and somewhat inhuman, i regret to say.
If you want to eradicate the lower class of society, who is going to do all the jobs that they do? Can you even begin to imagine the effect of that?
The problem is not that there is a house-help working out there. The problem is that she does not get paid a fair wage that can sustain a family.
Anyone who has a full time job and who labour should be entitled to a wage that enables them live in dignity.

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Family › Re: Bimbo Ayelabola Gives Birth To Quintuplets In London, Gets Let Off £145k Bill by mutter(f): 8:25pm On Aug 30, 2015

The costs incured was for the babies. A situation that is not exactly predictable.
When a woman knows that the pregnancy is a risky one- like in this case multiple birth, the natural thing is to ensure a safe delivery.
It would have been irresponsible of her to remain in Nigeria when she had access to better treatment.
If the politicians didn`t mess it all up she would have preferred giving birth at home surrounded by loved ones.
There is no reason for anyone to make news out of this issue.
Normally any hospital ought to treat a patient even if they cant afford it.
Anyone abusing this woman is not being fair.
Having so many kids and all survived is a sensation.
I tell you if this was a hospital in Nigeria they would have waved that bill and well meaning Nigerians would even have donated.
Well this again is a subtle form of racism.
Now don`t come with the woman can afford it. In Europe with the health care system no one pays such an amount angry

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That is because they are insured.
For those who think they can`t get a visa- you are pathetic.
We ought to be thanking God for this gift of life.

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Family › Re: Attraction Of Babies----does It Happen To You?does It Mean A Thing? by mutter(f): 6:23pm On Aug 29, 2015

Babies see with the eyes of angels. They sence who is good and who is evil.

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Health › Re: Help !!! Help Save Light; A Great Fighter by mutter(f): 2:33pm On Aug 29, 2015

Please permit me to analyse. The situation now is that you don't have passports and you don't have visas.
The baby needs urgent treatment and probably follow up treatment.
To get a visa based on medical issue you need to send in those reports to a hospital.
Most hospitals would require advance payment to make the documents available.
The question being ...what percentage of the fund's are available.
Most NGO S at least in Europe are currently very much involved in the refugee movement so we need an NGO that specialises in this kind of treatment. But whatever the case we can but only try and hope that it works out .
But God makes all things possible .
If only that baby could just be in Europe! It could have access to the best medical treatment regardless of the parents being able to fund it.

Health › Re: Help !!! Help Save Light; A Great Fighter by mutter(f): 1:59pm On Aug 29, 2015

thorpido:
May the Light of God shine upon your daughter.
In view of the test results,it's better she has the surgery done outside of the country and it must be done very soon too.
Please everyone help this baby pull through by your donations.

Please mods,move this to the front page.

Health › Re: Help !!! Help Save Light; A Great Fighter by mutter(f): 1:59pm On Aug 29, 2015

shaybebaby:
Please do, I am thinking of contacting the British heart foundation to see if there is any help they can render. Do let me know so we do not replicate efforts and I can divert my efforts to somewhere you have not tried.

Will look into it. Thank you for your help.

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Health › Re: Help !!! Help Save Light; A Great Fighter by mutter(f): 1:55pm On Aug 29, 2015

shaybebaby:
I have emailed a couple of charities but as it is weekend, I will have to wait to see if I get a response during the week. In the meantime I am trying to set up a crowdfunding page so friends and family can donate. Ayolight, are you on Facebook? If you are, text me your Facebook details so I can add you as soon as I have set up the page.
Hugs to Light.

Still thinking .....my fear. Is that this method might take too much time...time we don't have.
The baby is struggling every day.

If only there was a way to get this baby here where the help is. It would have been so much faster to access treatment.
Will mail you ...

Health › Re: Help !!! Help Save Light; A Great Fighter by mutter(f): 11:37am On Aug 29, 2015

Please is the baby safe to fly? Can it stand the flight in this condition. Secondly would you be willing to send pictures and medical report to me if I make a headway? I stay in Europe and can Contact some Ngos here. How much time do we have to organise this.
Please I cannot promise results but I am willing to try.

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Family › Re: Do I Keep It Professional Or Not? by mutter(f): 9:07pm On Aug 28, 2015

A bag is not a necessity but a luxury
If she can't afford it she doesn't need it
Please keep it professional.
I'd you give her the bag and she does not pay it would be the end of the friendship.

Family › Re: Wife Makes Hurtful Comments (curses?) To Me. What To Do? by mutter(f): 8:25pm On Aug 28, 2015

You have it in your hand to turn this marriage around.
Your marriage is not under any spiritual attack and neither is your wife responsible.
This is simple how it can get in life. There comes a time the bad luck just does not let go. A you are trying to get out of one pit you fall into an even deeper one. Some have even committed suicide or had break downs because it just gets from bad to worse.
But this is life. Carry your cross. We all do. I have been there myself it is like a trip to hell .
Please don't put pressure on your wife to pray. It has to come from withen her. By praying and living an exemplary life she will start to emulate you
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Your wife is fighting g so hard because she is in pain. The truth is you believe she has brought you bad luck and crashed you
I don't think any woman can handle that
You know the devil plays with our minds
I can sit down and think of all the things I hold against my husband. By the time I am through I would be ready to end the marriage
I can also sit down and think about all the good things and feel I gave the best man in the world.
You see only you are paddling this boat. Turn around and paddle back to the shore and let your wife on the boat.
I have this feeling that on the shore there is a very hurt woman waiting for you.
Her actions are merely steered by frustration and pain. You seem to give everything a much deeper meaning
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Family › Re: Wife Makes Hurtful Comments (curses?) To Me. What To Do? by mutter(f): 8:24pm On Aug 28, 2015

You have it in your hand to turn this marriage around.
Your marriage is not under any spiritual attack and neither is your wife responsible.
This is simple how it can get in life. There comes a time the bad luck just does not let go. As you are trying to get out of one pit you fall into an even deeper one. Some have even committed suicide or had break downs because it just gets from bad to worse.
But this is life. Carry your cross. We all do. I have been there myself it is like a trip to hell .
Please don't put pressure on your wife to pray. It has to come from withen her. By praying and living an exemplary life she will start to emulate you
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Your wife is fighting g so hard because she is in pain. The truth is you believe she has brought you bad luck and crashed you
I don't think any woman can handle that
You know the devil plays with our minds
I can sit down and think of all the things I hold against my husband. By the time I am through I would be ready to end the marriage
I can also sit down and think about all the good things and feel I gave the best man in the world.
You see only you are paddling this boat. Turn around and paddle back to the shore and let your wife on the boat.
I have this feeling that on the shore there is a very hurt woman waiting for you.
Her actions are merely steered by frustration and pain. You seem to give everything a much deeper meaning
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Family › Re: Describe This Husband...!!! by mutter(f): 12:16am On Aug 28, 2015

DollyParton1:
What is disturbing about this picture?
The fact that he is painting his lady's nail or the fact that he is shirtless.?

There are pictures you don't allow to go public. This is one of them. It is just not ok. The man without a shirt. What does the picture say?.
No one can see if it is his wife. People should be careful with what the publise.
For those who see nothing wrong...prove it by taking a picture in a similar pose ]

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Family › Re: Why Do Nigerians Hate Cats? by mutter(f): 12:11am On Aug 28, 2015

TheSonOfMark:
If this an attempt to garner more sympathy for cats then it's working. Nice story.♦

It really did happen. That cat rook care of the baby like it was her own. Still amazes me till today but animals are like that.
In my early twenties I had a dog. Once iI was seeing a visitor off. As I opened the door the dog just sprung up ran towards the door pushed me out of the way. I was about hitting the dog but she stood in front of me barking. Right at the front door was a gigantic snake. The snake was almost two meters. I and my visitors screamed . I would have stepped on the snake. The snake headed straight into the house. The guard heard our screams and came and killed the snake
When my father came home he burnt the snake.He probably felt someone sent it. Lol
Anilmals are very faithful and protective if you show them care.

Family › Re: u by mutter(f): 8:58pm On Aug 27, 2015

Longing for her own child
Be careful it does not go too far. Start putting your foot down.
You have a responsibility towards your baby to protect and give your best. Don't let your kind heart stand in the way.
Please let her know her boundaries now, it would only become worse with time if you don't do that.
Many people keep wanting to tell a first time mum what to do but being a mother comes naturally.

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Family › Re: When Is The Right Time To Employ A Maid/house-help? by mutter(f): 8:32pm On Aug 27, 2015

If you can afford it and you are ready to pay fair wages and give fair working conditions you don't need to justify it to anyone.
You are obtained in services and paying for them.
Please you home is private and therefore you need to screen properly and ask for refrences.
I wouldnt take a stranger I can't locate later.

Family › Re: How Do Women In Polygamy Cope by mutter(f): 8:14pm On Aug 27, 2015

You know that Islam permits it and yet many Moslems all over the world no longer practise it.
But did you and your husband discuss this issue before marriage Did he promise you never to remarry? Are you his first wife?.
Prettysassygirl has given you the best advice. It is difficult and no woman likes it. It is also painful bit you learn to handle it.
Since you don't live under the same roof it not so difficult.
As a true Moslem woman you would put your trust in Allah and have faith. This would not be an escuse to stop being a good wife..

Family › Re: Why Do Nigerians Hate Cats? by mutter(f): 8:03pm On Aug 27, 2015

I love cats. They are so faithful and carry themselves with elegance.
The last cat I had saved my baby's life more or less.
I brought my baby home from the hospital but it kept throwing up.
I had a hard time with the cat she insisted on being not only in the room with the baby but was constantly jumping into the baby bed
I kept throwing her out but she was so persistent. Since she didn't do it with the other baby I decided to let the cat have her way . She would lie at the foot of the bed and stay there. One day I was in the kitchen cooking. The cat ran in frantic. Meaww!!! And out. Came in and out I just had to follow her. She ran to the baby bed and the baby had thrown up and was choking on it. She watched over my baby like her own., always called me once the baby was awake or started throwing up.
My cat was a house cat though. Wouldn't like a cat that left the house near my baby.

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Family › Re: Question Of The Day by mutter(f): 3:38pm On Aug 27, 2015

HenryDion:
Is that a question? Mitheew. Am disappointed. Anyway, it doesn't matter whether is my bro or whatever. As long as he's there to do his job by delivering my baby. No problem. What wud he see that he hasn't seen before?

I agree. It now is professional. He is just doing his work.

Family › Re: Describe This Husband...!!! by mutter(f): 3:34pm On Aug 27, 2015

Feranchek:
Sweetheart, I'm pretty sure one of them posted this pix.... you know why? Cos they wanna continue their fun here through OUR views!! They'll be like
Babe: "Hahahahahahahahahaha! I told you it was a silly thing you did"
Guy: "can't you see that other comment?!

And the fun continues.....

Sorry I think more than just the moment. No responsible man in Nigerian society will circulate a picture of himself like that. If he were a musician maybe but not with a so sober profession.
I asked my kid's what they would think if they saw a picture of their dad that way. The response was obvious.
What might be fun of the moment for you is detrimental long term.

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Family › Re: Describe This Husband...!!! by mutter(f): 1:20pm On Aug 27, 2015

Feranchek:
Fun.....fun.....fun!!

No wonder all men keep remaining the same to you

And that is... huh

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It is not what the man is doing but the picture that is disturbing. Would you like a picture of yourself like that go public.

Family › Re: Urgent Matter Please by mutter(f): 1:16pm On Aug 27, 2015

Tell him you need to be more informed before giving an answer . People don't just jump into business ventures.

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Family › Re: Describe This Husband...!!! by mutter(f): 1:12pm On Aug 27, 2015

Ridiculous and absurd . What kind of man does this and then let's the picture circulate.

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Family › Re: Apology And Update Regarding July 2015 Thread ' Paternal Grandmother' by mutter(f): 8:08am On Aug 27, 2015

golamike:
At this point, I think all that matters is getting ur kids back. Apologizing to them is a good move IMO. I just hope some "overzealous" nairalanders will not rekindle the fire that's about to quench with their comments. Pls let's allow the sleeping dog lie so the woman can happily reunite with her kids.

Very good advice.
Please I am sure the whole of nairaland will help you to apologise if that would make the most happy.
Amobi family please return the children. Children belong with their mother she was desperate.
Op I wish I saw this before. I might have been able to help. I handled such a case years back. In Nigeria such cases are solved by p pass p.

Family › Re: I Had Six Abortions With The Consent Of My Husband.no To The 7th by mutter(f): 3:43pm On Aug 26, 2015

GHoJes:
She should, she could, she... If the man asked her to sin and she did, she is the one that condemns them both.
When you were advised submit in all things you didnt tell her some are sins, now you turn to blame her for irresponsibility. When you also blamed that girl her to be mil told not to sleep together with her fiance under her roof for not being discreet with her fornication, it was not sin, now submission has gone sour you remembered something called sin. My ish with you is absolving the man of any blame.
I just exhausted the time i have to waste.

I am not absolving the mam of any blame but he is not the one seeking advice here.
You misunderstood me.
I meant no man would be silly enough to ask a woman not to do birth control and yet to abort. The man is trying to kill her or get rid of her. If she continue s at this rate she will be risking her life .
Hence I described her as irresponsible . The man for me is a killer.

Family › Re: I Had Six Abortions With The Consent Of My Husband.no To The 7th by mutter(f): 2:54pm On Aug 26, 2015

GHoJes:
If she had come here to complain the first time she was asked to abort you would have told her to be submissive and keep her marriage. She has been submissive like you, now you call her irresponsible so that you can live comfortably in your world where man is god and blameless. Abortion is killing, yet the man that took her to his doctor for abortion is blameless because by you, no man is silly.

A woman that is submissive to her husband is hopefully more submissive to the will of God.
If your husband asks you to sin are you helping him by sinning. ? No you are condemning both of you.
She could have involved the family.

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Family › Re: You Are Nothing Without A Man.... Ladies!!! by mutter(f): 2:46pm On Aug 26, 2015

bukatyne:
LOL!

But they did not have a 'physical' family they came home to daily.

I have nothing against marriage (I am married), however, I feel it is wrong to 'pressure' people to do so.

Trust me, when the person needs the companionship, no Jupiter will stop them.

No pressure but focused and praying for the things that matter
Most women in Nigeria are even ready to marry half a man. When they don't find one they talk marriage down .

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Family › Re: I Had Six Abortions With The Consent Of My Husband.no To The 7th by mutter(f): 2:32pm On Aug 26, 2015

GHoJes:
You are beginning to churn out meaningless posts, life was better when you laid low.
It is very possible for her to be irresponsible yet impossible for any man to be stupid.

Take your finger and remove the log from both your eyes before you face me.
Irresponsible is a mild way of putting it. Aborting is puting an abrobt end to a life.
And sorry I wasn't laying low...just too busy.

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Family › Re: You Are Nothing Without A Man.... Ladies!!! by mutter(f): 2:23pm On Aug 26, 2015

bukatyne:
Would you say Mother Teresa was not fulfilled?
What about Apostle Paul (in the Bible)?

Married to the Lord.. No comparison.

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Family › Re: You Are Nothing Without A Man.... Ladies!!! by mutter(f): 12:38pm On Aug 26, 2015

Tick tick tick tock!!!!

Do you hear that sound? The biological clock is ticking.
So wake up fast.
Of what use is money and fame if you can't share it with husband and children.
The greatest joy of being a woman is that after being the boss outside and making an impact you come home to your husband and kid's
A husband and children are the most valuable treasures.

Without a husband you are buying the foot mat without having a house Same advice for the men.

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