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 Family › Re: Why Do Women Like Inflating Price For Their Husbands? by mutter(f): 6:39am On Aug 26, 2015 |
That is fraud And it is not the basis or foundation of a good marriage. No one can have all their desires. We need to learn to be content. Sometimes people get into unhealthy competition. This comes with problems. I teach my kid's Don't even start or join then you are free of the pressure to keep 1 Like |
| Family › Re: What Do I Do With Excess Wedding Gifts? by mutter(f): 6:31am On Aug 26, 2015 |
Why keep what you can't use. Give it to the poor. It is a blessing . 2 Likes |
| Family › Re: He's 27years Old, An Only Son by mutter(f): 6:23am On Aug 26, 2015 |
Lineage is. Very important. Family is more than just one individual. The family might have an inheritance material or in material. Should money be a reason for risking the shut down of the lineage? |
| Family › Re: How A Man Could Live Amicably With His Wife. by mutter(f): 6:16am On Aug 26, 2015 |
NatureBoy91:...We are headstrong and energetic in pursuit of our own desire....to raise our children to stand behind our me. We change opinion by illogical reasons..These reasons are sympathy. Fairness. And other emotions. You steer the ship men but remember we paddle it. So of what use is steering without motion? 1 Like |
| Family › Re: I Had Six Abortions With The Consent Of My Husband.no To The 7th by mutter(f): 6:09am On Aug 26, 2015 |
You are a very irresponsible woman. That you can abort a life six times is crazy. I have friends that have spent over 20 years praying for God to bless them.with just one. I have a friend in coma for 2 years from an op to enable her conceive. How can your husband tell you not to abort and not to take precautions. Those two are contradictory. You should have resolved it. Anyway I find this hard to believe because no man is that stupid. Unless he wanted to just kick you out or kill you. The only advice I have for you is that you seek forgiveness from the giver of life. 9 Likes |
| Family › Re: Guys, Can You Go In With Your Wife To Labour Room? by mutter(f): 8:14pm On Aug 24, 2015 |
I thank God that my husband came along with me for our kid's it gave me so much strength. As a woman you may be shy but when real labor starts. You don't even know what is shame or being shy. At a stage you are really between life and death and it is so good to have the one person there who is just as much a part of the child as you are. Also at that time your husband can speak for you and is a witness. .you never know. When the baby comes it is such a wonderful feeling. He takes them into his arms and then gives them to me. That way we the parents are the first to welcome our child together into the world. I accompanied my dil and my son on their wish when my granddaughter was born.. He was so scared. At a stage he said..mum if you don't see me I have fainted and am on the floor...had to tell him to man up and start praying. Lol. 2 Likes |
| Family › Re: Should I End This Relationship. by mutter(f): 4:43pm On Aug 24, 2015 |
To be a man is indeed not a day's job! You want to head your own home? Then start by taking your own decisions. It is not fair to ditch a woman that invested two years of her time on you when she did not offend you. Put yourself in her shoes. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Family › Re: What will you do if you are in his shoe? by mutter(f): 12:04pm On Aug 24, 2015 |
Both. They are both his mother's |
| Family › Re: She cheated on her husband with another man by mutter(f): 2:52pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
She does not need to tell her husband- he knows the truth. It is an unspoken truth that causes damages once it leaves the mouth. So best left unspoken for the love of the man and for herself. This has been happening from days of old. People don`t talk about it. It is a humane solution to a problem. If she did not get pregnant the man would have married another woman who went out to bring him a child. I know a man years back who`s wife never gave birth. A few ladies claimed to be pregnant for him, he would always tell them, if it is my kid leave it with me and go. That way he gathered himself a family together. The wife took care of the kids like a mother but keep crying that she could not give him a child. One day he told her that the day she got pregnant she would leave his house!!!! Sometimes it is not about what is right or wrong but what is humane. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: I Urgently Need Your Advice............. My Wife And I by mutter(f): 2:44pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
What God has put together let no pastor put asunder! The pastor saw you and wanted to milk you and you fell for the plan. When he realized that your wife is an "insider"- comes from a pastor family herself, he developed cold feet. He cannot now say he lied or was mistaken- thus the holy spirit instructed him not to do anything  You are about to wreck your home wit ignorance and fear. If you have faith in God and I mean real faith.. you would laugh over it what this pastor told you and identiy it as what it is - a scam! God speaks to everyone of us.. we only have to listen. 3 Likes |
| Events › Re: Wedding & Turbaning Ceremony Of A Nairalander (photos) by mutter(f): 6:57am On Aug 21, 2015 |
Congratulations. Lovely pictures. Thank you for sharing. 2 Likes |
| Family › Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by mutter(f): 6:53am On Aug 21, 2015 |
A good write up but as someone said above how many Nigerians does this relate to. As regards youths getting a part time job. I would have loved to do that as a student but where and how in Nigeria. In England or America according to the OP youths work but he forgot to mention that there are structures in place for this to happen. Laws that regulate jobs taken by minors, age, hour and nature of job. Also there are jobs available for minors and students in the holidays and there are opportunities to get at those jobs. The also the pay is worth the job. MY son at 19 has a part time job in the holidays and he is going to have about 2000 Euro at the end of the holidays. As a student it wouldn't be taxed so he gets to keep the whole amount. I also have to add that the cost of cloths and feeding in Euro is much cheaper than in Nigeria - if you compare this with the amount of money they have access too. Also the standard of living for the youths is much higher because the infra structures are simply in place. If the Nigerian Government would put all the facilities in place parent`s wouldn`t be in this dilemma. |
| Family › Re: Please Help Me Judge This Attitude Exhibition By My Fiancee by mutter(f): 2:34pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Your mother is right. Your girlfriend is also right. The situation is somehow embarrassing for her. You guys overdid it. You should have been sneaking about a bit and your mother would have pretended not to see but you left her no option but to do her duty as a mother. So don`t blame your mother. The solution if you are so desperate is to start the traditional... But this sneaking and hiding is the sweetest time. Just enjoy it you have years of sleeping in the same room ahead of you.  6 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Help, My Girlfriend Is Pregnant And She Would'nt Remove It by mutter(f): 2:29pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
You have no right to ask her to terminate the pregnancy. You cannot demand of anyone to take a life. Respect her decision and live up to your responsibility. If you put a shovel into the earth to dig a hole. You should be able to lift up the shovel. You have planted a seed, seeds sometimes grow into trees. Congratulations!. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Everyone On Campus Knew She Had Been Raped... by mutter(f): 2:22pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Feranchek You and deliverer and anyone that thinks like you both ought to be ashamed of themselves. Rape is a criminal offence and a serious one at that. There can be no justification. If a girl visits you that does not justify you raping her. As for your insults.. I take them with grace... From the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. I have had male friends since I was a child and most of them have remained my very good friends till date. We have very good friendships and they never laid a finger on me with or without my consent. Platonic friendships between the opposite sex do exist and today our kid`s play with one another and visit one another. 17 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Everyone On Campus Knew She Had Been Raped... by mutter(f): 11:55am On Aug 20, 2015 |
DDeliverer:She may appear normal on the outside but only God knows what is going g on inside. No one can take away the pan. Sad that it is the victim that gets punished by the society. 7 Likes |
| Family › Re: Everyone On Campus Knew She Had Been Raped... by mutter(f): 11:53am On Aug 20, 2015 |
DDeliverer:SHAME ON YOU 23 Likes 4 Shares |
| Family › Re: A Lady Said She Was Disvirgined With No Blood Traces by mutter(f): 11:49am On Aug 20, 2015 |
podosci:I was quite a tom boy as a kid played ball with the boys, clime and rode bike better than most boys. One day at about nine I noticed my undies was soaked with some blood. I was scared to tell my mum.brcause I imagined they would think something else and that they would scold me or beat me. So I hud the undies and threw it away. There was no more blood so I forgot about it. However it was disappointing on my first night. No blood no proof. I felt bad about it but it was not my fault. If only I had the courage to speak to my mum. If only I was living in a society and at a time where the darkness of silence did not cause more harm than good . I also know a girl that after the first time. She did not bleed immediately. But later on her way home her cloths were stained. It is very important that we jump over this huddle of narrow outlook and realise the impact on innocent girls. It is really sad for a girl to give up her virginity without it being acknowledged. 4 Likes |
| Family › Re: I am about to break The Promise I Made Years Ago To My Wife by mutter(f): 5:44pm On Aug 19, 2015 |
Do what you like. Who cares. If the wealth God blessed you with has turned your head then go ahead. God blessed you with it so that you can make those close to you happy but you choose to cause them pain and heartbreak. A man that goes flirting with his friend secretary! ! And then the you mean that the money you have invested justifies your not letting go!!! This is what I call logic . you are a wicked man. |
| Family › Re: ''What Should I Do? My Child Steals From Everyone'' by mutter(f): 7:01am On Aug 19, 2015 |
It may be a condition that needs medical help. But your child could be killed for stealing in Nigeria. The nob there is very aggressive. You need to put a stop to it . This stealing starts when you don't respect other people property It starts at home by taking without asking. That is why I am very. Strict. You don't enter another child's room without asking or in their absence and you don't take anything or use without asking IF you do I go for one ovf your most valued treasure. That way you learn the hard way. My first son was always fiddling on everything at age seven and then one day he spoilt my sewing machine I had just brought it back from being fixed. I did not say a word took his valuable toy and spoilt it. It was a hard decision but he learnt a lesson. When a child at a young age steals. Never let it keep what it stole. Make the child return the thing and apologise. . If your kid comes home with anything. Confirm from the parents. I don't l let anyone give my kid's things without my knowing no matter how small. .. 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Baby's Right Leg Broken At A Creche In Lagos(photos) by mutter(f): 10:38pm On Aug 18, 2015 |
It actually is sad. But even more sad is that a child this age is away from the mother who has to work. Not blaming the parents but the system . Bad enough parents have to make this sacrifice and then something like this happens. This is more than negligence. It is criminal. |
| Family › Re: Dads and mums In The House,what Will Be Ur Reaction To This by mutter(f): 7:24pm On Aug 18, 2015 |
When a child does that it is a great show of thrust and confidence in you ad a parent. We should never forget that.. I would thank her for comming to me and trusting me. Then I would carefully advice her based on all the circumstances and the boy in question. Then I will get on my knees and start praying real hard. I have tried to raise my girls to know they are worthy of love and to be patient for the right time and the right man. But however it goes. I will always be there for them. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Wife Shocking Confession That Ended Her Marriage Of 5years by mutter(f): 6:40pm On Aug 18, 2015 |
freecocoa:And then how would you feel if after five years of tears and prayers you found out that your husband knew from the onset that there would never be a child. Meanwhile five years he pretended to you, acting like there was hope? 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Would You Marry A Feminist? by mutter(f): 2:17pm On Aug 18, 2015 |
SisterCaro:I agree 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Wife Shocking Confession That Ended Her Marriage Of 5years by mutter(f): 1:56pm On Aug 18, 2015 |
koife:The other way around sir..satisfaction of the flesh is the bonus. Children are not a bonus. They are life. The very essence. 3 Likes |
| Family › Re: Wife Shocking Confession That Ended Her Marriage Of 5years by mutter(f): 1:28pm On Aug 18, 2015 |
freecocoa:He has a right to divorce her not because she hid something from him but because she hid something from him that is the very essence and reason for marrying. She did not only hide it she lied . Because they must have been making baby plans. ..Our first child will be called ... and she lied and lied five years long. She lied constant. And yes marriage is for procreation . 2 Likes |
| Family › Re: Wife Shocking Confession That Ended Her Marriage Of 5years by mutter(f): 1:16pm On Aug 18, 2015 |
Kachisbarbie:No a marriage is for better or worse...whatever comes. In this case the woman was aware of the condition. It was not a probability but a certainly that the marriage would be childless. The man was under the assumption that childlessness was a risk like in any other marriage. A woman that does not give birth to a child deserves even more love and tenderness because she is in pain. However when a woman really loves her husband she would encourage him to take a second wife so that he can have kids. 3 Likes |
| Family › Re: Would You Marry A Feminist? by mutter(f): 1:07pm On Aug 18, 2015 |
SisterCaro:Sorry her husband is a Nigerian born and bred. He is also rather conservative and both have very good backgrounds and upbringing l I can bet my hat that she is a very loving wife. 3 Likes |
| Family › Re: Would You Marry A Feminist? by mutter(f): 12:58pm On Aug 18, 2015 |
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| Family › Re: Wife Shocking Confession That Ended Her Marriage Of 5years by mutter(f): 12:50pm On Aug 18, 2015 |
The man had a right to divorce her. The purpose of marriage is procreation. It was really evil to tie a man up so long and waste his money. . 31 Likes 4 Shares |
| Family › Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by mutter(f): 10:22am On Aug 17, 2015 |
What you need to do is talk to your wife and tell her the truth then together you might come on a humane solution. If your first wife has been a good wife why would you want to send her away? Children are a gift from God and God alone decides when . As for the second woman- would you want to raise your child as an illegitimate child, deprived of growing up in a home? Is that child not entitled to having that privilege. You do not have any child and yet you are not ready to offer this child the best  You are now between the devil and the deep blue sea! Our culture allows for a man to take more than one wife and it was also like that in the old testament. Please do the only right thing in this situation marry her but make sure your wife gets her respect as the first wife. You must make it clear to the mother of her child and her people that you will not compromise on that. 1 Like |
