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Family › Re: In Need Of Advice From Wives And Mothers by mylove4him(f): 11:31am On Aug 23, 2019

ImaIma1:
Why so many people staying with you And you still want to bring in another.

These people staying aren't consistent..my nephew works and his work place is closed to my home. Jets in and out anytime he likes cos of shift work. Niece is in school, comes around during holiday. BIL stayed for two years and leaving for school to be coming during holiday. Maid must always travel around December. Having different people jare. Just wanted someone that can come stay and grow with my kids while going to school.

Family › Re: In Need Of Advice From Wives And Mothers by mylove4him(f): 10:12am On Aug 10, 2019

This is dicey. Some people are lucky and some people aren't. Talk with your husband that any misbehavior from the girl she will go back. Bring her in treat her like a family. Please don't buy her phone o. Let her speak with her parents from your phone whenever and infront of you. I know that won't deter cos she can still call them from a pay phone to pass information. Sha treat her well and try be without blemish. So that whatsoever decision you will take in future. Your conscience will be free.

I am considering helping one like that but they haven't brought her. Her case will be enjoyment cos I have a maid and I have nieces and nephews and also inlaws living with me. Just to get someone that will always be around my children. Maid will go for Christmas. These other ones go to school or work. So they ain't consistent. Make sure you have your husband on your side in whatsoever you choose to do with them

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Nnpc Test Update by mylove4him(f): 10:07pm On May 22, 2019

Houston17:
Drop your mail let me forward it to you

caringcherie@yahoo.com

Travel › Re: See The Environment At Tin Can Island Port (PHOTOS) by mylove4him(f): 4:02pm On May 21, 2019

AutoJoshNG:
Tin Can Island Port in Apapa, Lagos, is one of the two relatively active seaports in Nigeria.

The second one being the Apapa Port, also situated in Apapa.

Nigeria currently generates about N1trillion from ports operations across the country.

About 75% of that amount is generated from the Apapa and Tin Can Island Island seaports.

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Some school of thought believes that the amount generated from the ports could have been more if the Apapa roads were in good condition.

Another school of thought believes that several trillion more would be realized from the ports in the country if the other seaports in the country were made more active.

Now, that is a story for another day.

Meanwhile, a visit to the Tin Can Island Port reveals an environment that is a picture of disorganization and filth.

The environment – especially in front of the gates – is populated by traders, clearing agents, different law enforcement agents, touts, long trail of parked trailers, etc. All of them hustling for attention, or to gain entrance into the port complex, or trying to extort patrons of money, etc.

All of these, together with the dirty environment, makes this port – one of Nigeria’s major non-oil cash cow – an eye-sore.

See photos below.

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Source:

https://autojosh.com/see-the-environment-at-tin-can-island-port-photos/

This is not the true state of the place now. It is worst than what you are reporting.

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by mylove4him(f): 7:09am On May 16, 2019

rosety:
Got some baby furniture and no baby. Make me an offer if you're interested.
Location is Surulere, Lagos

Do you have a drawer for clothes for kids. Send a PM let's talk some more.

Family › Re: New White Baby Cot Bed for 35k by mylove4him(f): 9:03pm On Apr 02, 2019

Best price. I hope it won't collapse.

Family › Re: In Need Of Advice From Experienced Wives, Mothers, men Or Couples by mylove4him(f): 3:00am On Sep 18, 2018

TonyeBarcanista:
Good! I know the kind of family I'm from. My wife is covered but she must not make any attempt to create a wedge between my home and my family. She mustn't! It is highly unacceptable!

She's safe and protected nevertheless

No one in their right senses creates a wedge unless the woman has witchcraft spirit. It is the things that has happened in the course of the marriage that people might interpret wrongly.

I still insist that you shield your wife no matter how good and sincere your family is, so you might not be able to read everyone's mind. I have seen kind gestures and comments being misinterpreted. Everyone is not well read like you and everyone can't think like you. So if you can sieve the good ones and endear them to your wife and shield her from the bad ones. You can't tell me everyone in your family is 100% saints.

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Family › Re: In Need Of Advice From Experienced Wives, Mothers, men Or Couples by mylove4him(f): 12:24am On Sep 18, 2018

TonyeBarcanista:
True, it isn't by force to marry and FALSE everything doesn't revolve around me but I also know that I cannot shut out my own blood out of my life or start restricting/regulating them just because I married one lady.

Marriage is a Union of two families not two people, otherwise, we wouldn't bother seeking endorsements of both families.

Do you know what love is? If you know what is and if you are a Christian you will understand the meaning of "brotherly love" that Jesus preached. You will understand that Jesus married the Church to God His Father and Holy Spirit, He didn't marry the church exclusively. Same way I marry my wife into my family and not exclusive to myself.

And submission means loyalty, I, on my own part will show love and care BUT she must not contest my authority with me nor try to misbehave when it comes to my family. She must be a virtuous woman

I understand all what you are saying but I must warn that you don't expose your wife to undue family pressure. Yes if you have an understanding family there is nothing wrong in you running this kind of home but you have to thread with caution.

My marriage almost went soar because my hubby has your mentality but I must tell you from experience. You may be a good man with good intentions but you can't vouch for orders.

My hubby is a good, selfless man that goes all out for his family. Before they sneeze he has covered their mouth. You know the disadvantage, they felt he always had so if they come to my house and I am like please let's manage. It looks absurd cos they didn't believe he could be looking after them so much and I am complaining. So they felt I was the issue.

So please before you tow that lane, make sure you protect and shield your wife. Don't ever think because you are a good man every other family will be good.

It is just an advise.

Family › Re: In Need Of Advice From Experienced Wives, Mothers, men Or Couples by mylove4him(f): 9:16pm On Sep 17, 2018

TonyeBarcanista:
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Not really!

A woman should have say in the home but not to the extent of contesting authority of her husband.

I believe a woman's worth should be taken advantage of to the fullest for the good of the home but when such woman begins to contest or protest the rights of her in-laws in their own Son's/Brother's home or when she tries to dramatize over certain fundamental issues that has to do with family, then she must be called to order and made to know her place.

Like I posted days ago, my family is my family for life, my nephews/nieces are my kids as well (not that they are like my kids), my parents and siblings are my parents and siblings for life, and they enjoy UNRESTRICTED/UNREGULATED access to my life and my home.

My wife must understand, realise and accept this fundamental FACT!

Hey bro it isn't by force to marry because from the way you speak everything revolves around you.

Marriage is a union of two people. If you feel the only way a wife can be submissive is totally accepting your words without questions. I say hmmm.

Remember before submission, the bible gave mandate for husbands to love their wives as christ love the church. Please read about Christ's love for church and gave himself to the church. Read with understanding and not sentiment. I wouldn't have quoted you if u didn't say you are a Christian.

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Family › Re: In Need Of Advice From Experienced Wives, Mothers, men Or Couples by mylove4him(f): 4:18pm On Sep 14, 2018

Treasuredlove:
you are experienced

After all these years. One has to learn.

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Family › Re: In Need Of Advice From Experienced Wives, Mothers, men Or Couples by mylove4him(f): 4:06pm On Sep 14, 2018

Acidosis:
Your in-laws should be ready to accept whatever discipline, food, clothe, and anything you so decide to do with the child. There is no right or wrong approach. When a child comes to live with you, the parents automatically lose the right to dictate what to do with the child in your home. If they're not satisfied with the way you and your hubby run your home, just leave the door open for them to walk away.

Family › Re: In Need Of Advice From Experienced Wives, Mothers, men Or Couples by mylove4him(f): 4:05pm On Sep 14, 2018

Acidosis:
Your in-laws should be ready to accept whatever discipline, food, clothe, and anything you so decide to do with the child. There is no right or wrong approach. When a child comes to live with you, the parents automatically lose the right to dictate what to do with the child in your home. If they're not satisfied with the way you and your hubby run your home, just leave the door open for them to walk away.

How many inlaws agree to this my brother. See it is the women who run the home that sees a whole lot of things. I have been termed a bad wife because I provided a type of meal that didn't sit with everyone. How do u go separating pots for different people at the same time because each person does eat differently. Especially when you are a struggling young couple with other responsibilities such as their education. Are you going to spend your whole savings on food?

You leave the door open for them to walk away and they but continually stay to make you look like a bad wife and tells everyone that you are a bad wife. So others coming behind have already formed an opinion about you. Some go extra mile to make snide comments because of what they have been told.

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Family › Re: In Need Of Advice From Experienced Wives, Mothers, men Or Couples by mylove4him(f): 3:34pm On Sep 14, 2018

Acidosis:
Jesus! So loving ones in-law has even become a thing of "if you could"?

How do you guys do it? Marry a man whose family you dislike/hate? Any marriage built on that foundation is going to crumble. You guys go around marrying men with the intention of hating their families. This is evil honestly.

My brother don't quote me wrong. Nobody marries into a family to hate the family. It is the things that happen on the course of the marriage that open your eyes to a lot of things.

I am not denying the fact that there women that wants to burn bridges from day one or before they even marry them. But I must tell you the greatest problem of some inlaws are entitlement spirit. Some don't bother to know if you guys have money to eat. The day you don't provide, you are a bad wife.

I still insist most marriages will stand the test of time if we have less family interference. I personally put my people in their place and just one phone call you are out. For inlaws no matter how they misbehave, if your hubby is sentimental and weak. OYO is your name. You will fight the battle alone. So most times for the sake of peace, you just have to take a lot of trash.

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Family › Re: In Need Of Advice From Experienced Wives, Mothers, men Or Couples by mylove4him(f): 3:01am On Sep 14, 2018

I personally won't take an eleven year old child whether my niece or my husband's niece. It isn't even easy for me to raise my own child talk less of raising another person's child.

My marriage is more than half of a decade and I must tell you I had inlaws living with me from the third month. As one is going another is coming. All these didn't help my marriage at all. It has breed bad blood and a whole lot of things had gone down. I must say I haven't recovered from all the troubles.

Some of the inlaws have entitlement mentality and tends to misbehave. The wahala is that you have to thread with caution, unless you have a sensible man that knows how to put them in their place. Most times the men are incapacitated because they can't stand to hurt their family thereby putting you in the front line to take all the bullets.

You will be surprise that an 11 year old has been indoctrinated. My sister I have seen things and it isn't good to air all your dirty linen in a public forum.

Love them from afar if you could. My candid opinion. Inlaws can make or mar marriage. Mine is still standing today cos I bring in a neutral person to handle my home n my child so I don't need to depend on them. The only thing I owe you is to feed you. If I love you I will send you on errand, if you try to show yourself i just put you in your place. One rule is that you must tidy up after you. My help isn't to serve you.

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Family › Re: Issues With My Help. Advice Needed!!! by mylove4him(f): 6:30am On Apr 12, 2018

jusRadical:
Get someone that comes to work at your house on daily basis (Mon - Sat). She closes say 5:30 or 6, depending on when you get home and where she lives.

I always prefer live in. Those come n go can decide not to come and leave you stranded. Moreover I won't always be home before 7pm. And if I need to be somewhere on Sundays nko I will be dragging a toddler everywhere

Education › Re: OAU Reacts To Richard Akindele's Sex For Mark Scandal by mylove4him(f): 6:27am On Apr 12, 2018

Adesolomon2014:
Can u vouch for him?

I count vouch for any man when a woman matter is involved. Thank you

Education › Re: OAU Reacts To Richard Akindele's Sex For Mark Scandal by mylove4him(f): 10:23am On Apr 10, 2018

Kai this man form my hand. He taught me HR during my MBA days in OAU.

Family › Re: Issues With My Help. Advice Needed!!! by mylove4him(f): 6:35am On Apr 10, 2018

richyblink1:
I had 3 before her. They are always full of excuses. They often want to go home

That is the way they are. No matter how one treats them well. They always want to go. Just thank God if they have stayed 1 year. Some people advise I take a small girl to train. I can't deal with a girl below 17 sef. When u finish training, the parents suddenly remember they need her for something at home.

Family › Re: Issues With My Help. Advice Needed!!! by mylove4him(f): 10:24pm On Apr 09, 2018

My help of two months said she is going for her great grand mums burial. I told her I don't approve of it, omo I was at work when my niece told me she has packed all her belongings to go. She left without my consent and after three days she was calling me. I never bothered to return her call nor pick. All my money for test and transport gone down the drain.

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by mylove4him(f): 4:04pm On Jan 06, 2018

DeLioncourt:
Who has those plastic water drums for sale in Lagos??

I have. Send a dm

Family › Re: See Why This Woman Is About To Be Thrown Out Of Her Husband's House by mylove4him(f): 10:45am On Jan 04, 2018

pcguru1:
It makes no sense an employed man wants to marry two wives, he's dumb if you are going to be on that route , having your own business and side hustle is the only job security. It's obvious the man is easily swayed by the family. Rubbish

I feel the same way too. But you know mentality of some men that believe that of their family isn't pokenosing in his family matter. That makes him less a man.

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Family › Re: See Why This Woman Is About To Be Thrown Out Of Her Husband's House by mylove4him(f): 6:52am On Jan 04, 2018

You see why some men needs to be careful. Second wife isn't afront of wealth but pure stupidity. You have money think of diversifying it and now the job lost has come you won't be panicking.

Women let's learn that most of us are spiritual covering to our husbands. Never be pushed to say anything negative to your hubby during anger. Be watchful of what you say whenever you are angry.

Now the family is accusing her. She needs to talk to her hubby and both should sort it out. But the man that is allowing his family to treat his wife anyhow is still a baby man not a real man. A real man puts a protective covering around his wife.

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Career › Re: Any HSE Professionals In The House? by mylove4him(f): 7:05pm On Dec 02, 2017

1stfamous:
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If I do NEBOSH, will I get job sharp sharp?

It isn't a guarantee. But it is an added advantage

Family › Re: Plz Help: Anger Is My Major Problem by mylove4him(op): 1:02pm On Sep 12, 2017

gbadexy:
I sent it to this email: unbridledpassions@yahoo.com

OH that is hubby's email. Please if it is targeted at me? Can u send me a PM. Can't drop my email here.

Family › Re: Plz Help: Anger Is My Major Problem by mylove4him(op): 9:04am On Sep 12, 2017

gbadexy:
I sent you an email for an enquiry about a poster that contacted you, please kindly check your mail and revert

Haven't seen your mail.

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by mylove4him(f): 10:45pm On Sep 04, 2017

Omotofineo:
is this still available and how much it

Pick it up for 40k

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by mylove4him(f): 8:06am On Sep 04, 2017

Tombrook0:
Can I pay 45k to pick tomorrow
.

Nope the laptop is almost new dear. It can't go for that value. Please check the market value

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by mylove4him(f): 12:34pm On Sep 03, 2017

kaydee:
Still available?

Yes still available. Kindly send a PM

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by mylove4him(f): 6:16pm On Aug 29, 2017

kingshrd:
hello can you kindly provide battery duration details ,processor type,storage and RAM details and your location thank you

Location Surulere

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by mylove4him(f): 6:19am On Aug 29, 2017

AnaCheks:
Ladies and pink...beautiful though

Thanks dear

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by mylove4him(f): 8:50pm On Aug 28, 2017*

Hp laptop for sale. It is good as new. Price 80k
Location Surulere

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by mylove4him(f): 5:25pm On Aug 13, 2017

Have this for sale. Packed it up cos I need space. It has a center table and three others.

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