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bebe2:
Pls am in Lagos for a few days,
Pls someone shud recommend A good fashion designer that I can give my clothes to sew.

Also, my cousin said to fix weavon in the saloon she uses is #4,500 . Is this reasonable? Can u recommend another place?

It's urgent pls.
Tnks

Babe u sent me a PM. Kindly respond

bebe2:
Pls am in Lagos for a few days,
Pls someone shud recommend A good fashion designer that I can give my clothes to sew.

Also, my cousin said to fix weavon in the saloon she uses is #4,500 . Is this reasonable? Can u recommend another place?

It's urgent pls.
Tnks

PM if u need a good fashion person. Good and affordable.

ipobbigot7:
I quiet understand you, to me i didn't see anywhere here where you painted your husband black though different people could have a different view of it but i for one see that you sincerely seek solutions to the unnecessary bickering in marriage.

My marriage was also in this kind of situation at the early stage and we both were not enjoying it. Men most of the time men tends to assume they can subjugate their wives by unleashing the beast in them on her by shouting her down,is a wrong approach because they only succeed to wake up an equal beast in the woman in response, after all you don't beat a child and tell him not to cry. As i said we were not enjoying the marriage and i think my wife got fed up with with it one day called me to a discussion and told me to stop shouting at her that she's not my maid but my wife and my partner, that shouting will not bring the best of her out for me to enjoy. That was it, my eyes were opened and prayerfully stopped shouting at her, then i realized that one of the way to accord respect to her is to relate with her calmly no matter how wrong she is and with that i can always drive my message in easily.

I think you should sit down with your husband and discuss with him too, am sure he also is fed up with the bickering, and i sense you both love each other.

Thank God u learnt. Some have refused to learn and they put strain on their marriage.

Mayflowa:
This is a very wise comment. True, some partners in marriage deliberately set out to frustrate their spouse. They won't seek divorce yet they don't wanna mend fences with their better half.

This selfish and devilish. Like you said, such people don't have business marrying!

My brother you have written well. Some partners are out there to frustrate their partners. They won't seek counselling cos they are afraid the counsellor will tell them what they don't want to hear. Some will say don't go wash your dirty linens outside. And if the tables were turned they wil be the one to throw tantrums. So like I always advise don't put too much happiness on someone else.

Mayflowa:
Does the wife wanted the marriage saved but doesn't know how. The couple should see a marriage counselor. People are surprisingly oblivious of their role as a spouse in marriages. Counselor helps to bare out anger, douse tension and direct a feasible path for the couple.

Most people of such personality as the wife will never try marriage counseling cos they feel at peace with what they do. If the hubby had always been the one doing everything to keep the marriage she wouldn't want to leave the comfort of that space.

I have repeated severally some people don't have businesses getting married. If you have so much pride and ego. Stay out of marriages. Those two have ruin marriages more than infidelity itself.

He is somehow right though but not totally right. Beware of pretenders. I am a woman but I know some women that won't do some of these things but they have an awful character. Becareful of a woman with a judgmental attitude. They will see everything wrong with someone and everybody.

buygala:
The bae has very nice skin tho


The girl be like


Hmmmmmmmm .........This one wey Edet don propose come put am online, what will I now tell Nsikan, Ekpeyong, Udofia, and the other ones wey I don agree to marry them privately?

See as dis Edet wan scatter my parole shaaaa

You are a very funny dude.

Have seen all except 6 and 7. They are really good and educating movie to watch. Everyone needs to see those movies you listed. Dstv 139 is showing Temptation, the confession of a marriage counsellor every now and then. Learnt a whole lot. God will help and heal all marriages that are going through one storm or the other.

favourmic:
Your love for me right?... Lol don't mind them Jare ife MI...... Lol

Love kwa

This is how a man abuse himself and thought he abuse me. I saw a trouser in Yaba market and I looked at it and he said buy o. I responded that it isn't my size. As I walked away he said "if you can't afford something u will say it isn't your size" and I ignored. He thought I have gone and he said whether someone from my tribe can afford to buy a trouser. That is when I got mad and went back to tell him the piece of my mine. I blasted him for speaking ill of my tribe. Told him because he saw me in the second hand market pricing jeans means I can't afford a trouser. His fellow market people had to come and start begging. I wouldn't want ro mention the tribe of the stupid guy but they know themselves in that Yaba market. I can feel and sense this guy's anger. If not that I controlled myself I would bought the whole of his stall.

kceewhyte:
Is high time I joined this MmM

Come and register under me.

Marriages of those days was based on endurance and women tolerating men. The women were totally dependent on the men for food, shelter and also training their children. As they couldn't fend for themselves so they had to stay and endure. The marriages weren't based on love but endurance and tolerance.

This modern women can stand on their own so they tend to stand on their own without tolerating sh*t from a man. They work and they are independent. So even if they divorce they can stand on their own. Cos they are financially independent.

gocac:
All of you should shut up..! Politics is simply a Game of interest, So what's wrong about beating up Tinubu's wife? Or is it now a crime for two senators to Fight? The same useless Remi Tinubu refused to shake the senate president..did heaven fall? Remi should better know she is a woman and Should Mind the kind of utterances she makes to male senators. If not I bet you nothing will happen as long as it is on the floor of the senate Remi would receive a dirty slap one day.

I am so shocked this is coming from a woman but I chose to give benefit of doubt that you are a man. Cos no sane woman will say this.

Bari22:
yes is true

What is true?

They are very right. Women should learn to stand up for themselves. Violence against women is no more a family matter as the police will term it. Speak up now and silence kills faster than the violence

DevGuru:
This is just to assure all Nairalanders on this thread that I am still standing. There have been further developments which I can't type now because my phone battery is low. I'll update all you wonderful ladies and gentlemen as soon as I get home. Cheers

Oya come and update us na.

O boy see the people that are viewing the thread.

Op may God give you the wisdom to handle this matter and forgive her totally. I am telling you that you won't be able to forget. Marriage isn't easy o. Some have head but no cap and some have cap but no head.

Mod, why take this to front page? You are calling teenagers to this thread. Please keep it where it is. We don't need this real life issue to be spammed.

5minsmadness:
Pls is there any guy that read those posts and understood it Was she even speaking English

Honestly I wanted to ask the same.

bablononi:
my sister, nah lie, scam, i got exactly the same message
The debit notification you received is for a successfully completed airtime purchase transaction initiated on 15/04/2016. On the stated date, you were not debited but the funds were held which is why you may have noticed a difference in your account balance. The debit has now been passed and the held funds will be released. Please be assured that it is not a fraudulent/unauthorized transaction. We sincerely apologize for any inconvenience caused.

I wouldn't know.what to say sha. Let me release the money in the book balance. And my money will be complete. Maybe their machine malfunction or who knows what happened.

The same thing happened to me yesterday and I tried calling gtconnect and they put me on hold for about 5 mins and I got pissed and ended the call. Later I twitted at them at their twitter handle @gtb help. I got a debit alert of 1500 in 1000 and 500 category. Before then I have noticed that there was a difference in book balance and available balance. Sha this is what GTB had to say when they replied the tweet.


"Hello, the debit notification you received is for a successfully completed airtime purchase transaction initiated on 20/05/2016 and 18/05/2016. On the stated dates, you were not debited but the funds were held which is why you may have noticed a difference in your account balance. The debit has now been passed and the held funds will be released. Please be assured that it is not a fraudulent/unauthorized transaction. We sincerely apologize for any inconvenience caused."

We women are worst enemies. Support your husband and here you are thinking it is right to take care of you all round, Kai some women sha.
Banjolek, just don't anymore to.the twenty thousand. If j am to advise I will say reduce to 10k. If I may ask this money she is saving, have you guys talked about it and how it will be used? Na wao some women are lucky.

Don't stop doing what you need to do for your family. Also intermittently sends money to her family when you have.

Let her bring her 75k and help to pay the bills in the house. In fact contributing for food also.

Women should learn to help their man and also plan together. In this harsh economy, someone will seat down somewhere and say me n my money Kai.

Xbox222:
Why do you expect him to apologize for going through her private part, did he not pay for it?or was the marriage done free of charge?
Moreover he is the one paying the bills

Pay for it kwa. These men eh. May God help us

manie:
He does that with the consent of the wife, it is very possible for a husband to rape his wife. If a man goes through his wife private part without her consent, it is not out of place to apologise.

Yes it is possible for a husband to molest his wife. Chats in marriage aren't privates so also private parts. The bible says two shall become one. So what belongs to him belongs to her. No apology is needed if a man touches his wife phone and vice versa

1kinggy:
I believe if he goes through you messages, he's find offensive/suspicious things too.

Talk to him about it, and don't forget to apologize for reading his private chats, yes. APOLOGIZE.

Apologise for wetin? I am not sure you are married because if you are, you won't give that kind of advice. Does he apologise for going through her private part? So if he can go through there without apology why does she have to apologise for going through his chat. So chats has become privates to married couples. Nuffin where person no go see for this marriage.

tearoses:
Yes I do ma

Ma I have quoted you two times and yet no answer. I want to know whether you still have the drugs and how can you deliver it. Thank you

tearoses:
Yes I do ma

How can you deliver?

Youngetskilz23:
silence is the best answer for a foooool.. im done with you mma.

Good for you kid bro and remember silence it not always for a fool but it can be lack of knowing what to say especially when you don't have the knowledge. Done with you too.

Youngetskilz23:
its your mother thats nton. idiot.. i jst went through your profile and saw you got anger manangement. so deal with it. single jobless pained soul. itid uka

Tadaaaa anger management since which year? Kid bro grow up and please don't bring mothers into this. I respect your mum and wil never haul insults at her. So face me kid.

Afo a to ikot awo adi. Ka ke kpeb danga see kpono eka mba Owo. Nton ke afo ado

Youngetskilz23:
am not suprised. things like this only happen in akwa ibom.. they can even use 3months old baby as house girl. mtcheew.. BTW you would locate your family IJN.

Your state nko? Afo no nton

This is a very dicey situation. In any inter tribal marriage you need both families to.consent to it. It is easier if it was your parents that were foot dragging and the guys parents accepted you. In this case, it isn't that way.

Marrying into an igbo family you need his parents consent cos when u marry them you marry all of his family.

There is even a red flag as the guy as u describe him isn't firm and can waiver when the issues arise. Marriage is sweet when u have a supportive husband and a supportive inlaws. When you have a fiance that waivers and tends to listen to other people more omo you are on your own. I tell you the journey will be lonely and u will be married but single.

I know it is difficult to walk away after 5 years but you need to have a rethink. If he says all those things you wrote there. He has already told you the relationship is over indirectly but he doesn't have the 'liver' to tell you to your face.

Pray about it and if after that you still don't have inner peace. Girl, you have to take a walk. Painful but what can you do? I feel your pain. You better go somewhere you are accepted than going where u ain't accepted. Marriage is deeper than what you see outside. Think deeply. I wish you the best.

tearoses:
Yes I do ma

Please how can I get it? You ca send me a PM

laraoge:
A billion likes for you babes....am just so scared of what am picturing if we get married.Being married to him means forever living with an egocentric and proud kind of man which I am the opposite of.dunno ow he could change that cos aside the anger issues he's got, he's wonderful.where one is coming from (upbringin) really play a larger percentage in forming a person's attitude to life and issues.I'd really like to learn more from u o cos I can't enter one marriage now and start sulking over my man's inability ti say the simplest SORRY to me.

Dear ain't trying to scare you but he might or might not change. Saying sorry in a relationship is very important. It's diffuse feelings of hurt, but how do u handle wen one partner doesn't say sorry. Like Ewuro4 said, you have to always be the one to say sorry. How do u intend to always do it? I must tell u resentment will come n you will feel empty. These kind of men like your partner have issues with tone. They will interpret everything they say or do, to the way they are or the way they were brought up. For God sake if you want to remain the way you are stay unmarried. You can't want to stay married without changing somethings in your life.

Babe this thing is broad, send me a PM