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madlady:
You should  know that I did not post my comment to you.

The poster was not rude in his reply.  You could learn from him. I did not criticize you did that to me. I expected better of you.

the OP agrees with my point and i shld learn what from him again? and yes i expected way better from u of all ppl!

Hairat007:
i knw u dnt mean dat, u love me too much so u wnt do anytin funny

right! love will be outta da window in a second!

ayettymama:
Its not a sensible question, its a dumb question and anyone findin him/herself in this scenario is in kingdom anamalia and should have thot twice b4 walkin dwn the aisle! No1 who refuses to cook cos her husband didn't give her money? No2 who starves because his wife didn't cook?no3 who 'handles' his wife?? I'm sorry poster needs to come up with a sensible scenario- all this is hogwash!

i guess your reply shld be considered sensible, right? SMH!

Akinagirl:
@na2day? Thanks boo 

u'r welcome honey 

Hairat007:
I know if i did dat u wld forgive me ASAP.

try it first and u will see film trick asap!

Pweety4me:
_{Null y r u so intrestred in hearing(reading)my opinion?ki lo de?}

@ topic

i got no problem with gold diggers, my only problem is when they call it "LOVE". If ur gold digging ways get u a man that can provide u the gold, fine and good but when the guy dumps ur azz or cheats on u, u start saying, i loved him, i did this and that for him out of love, wrong! u did not, u did it for the gold. so my question is why complain? he provided the gold u wanted and he wants something else and he goes to get it, so why complain?

ammamat:
Men in the house plz i need a sincere respond from u guys , If your wife took a lone and buy a house in another country without your knowledge what would be your reaction towards her.
Note:
The lone is over your property.

ho can she do that without my knowledge? God forbid it happens but if it does, wahala dey!

justdream:
Ummh sorry if it isnt exactly wat u expected but its like a shortcut,
I just gave my life to christ and discovered tat afta doin so, i feel so light. i dont tink of intimacy and all that. Is is strange?

congratulations! but ur title get as e bi

Akinagirl:
I dont understand why people ate biting at the poster. But I think he asked a good question. What should a man then do?

Well poster, You can sit down with your woman/wife and have a heart to hear conversation of the things that upset you both. Also let it be known what will and will not be tollerated in the relationship. Thrash out the issue so that it can die there, not take it with you to the next problem or holding any grudge

thank u! i always knew u are a sweet heart unlike the high flying hypocrites that will crucify a guy for a post but cheer for their fellow females no matter how wrong they are

Kgdavid:
by now we are all familiar with the thread 'how to beat your husband/man without touching him'. what some of you may not know is that this thread was a response to an earlier thread 'how to beat your wife/woman without touching her'. the contents of the first thread stated that there are ways for a man to handle his wife when she acts up. the second  thread stated that if a man can play games with his wife then a woman too can play games and as such a man should not try any tricks with his wife. the question i therefore put to you now is this; what should a man do when his wife/partner mis behaves?
to put things into context assume that the following scenario occurs:
1. the wife has asked for money and the husband says he does not have right now.
2. the wife then refuses to cook lunch for him
assume the following parameters:
they truly love each other
the wife however has the fault of not accepting the possibility of being wrong
the husband respects himself and as such will not take the blame knowing he is in the right.
the husband is gentle and would never beat his wife

so,again, i ask, what should the man do?

well this can not happen to me as i can cook my own food well but then again if i have a woman acting irresponsible, well, let me just say there are a million ways for me to pass my point across to her. as for the beating, nah, cant beat her, i have very little energy and i need to use it on some other venture unless of course she attacks me physically with a dangerous object(s), then all bets are off!

madlady:
^^Your thread title and some of your write up seems offensive. You need to edit it.

so u think the ladies are not posting stuff that are offensive? learn to be balance when u wanna criticize

Pweety4me:
_{^I'm guessing dat's your opinion on d matter i see}.

and what is ur opinion?

Slimdale:
This is a personal experience, the lady left me when I was faced with much difficulties, to make it worst, this was a lady that used to recived bumper package from me when the stock market was good. Due to the constraints of the market, I lost all of my investments and my job was not bringing in steady income but it is so funny after several months she started calling again trying to walk her way back into my heart when whe got the hint that I now have a job with an Oil Company. Wanted to get her back on the pretext that I have forgiven her, poke her for a long time then dump her but I have a change of mind, since she has lost it, let her miss it FORVER. Would have posted the pics of the B*****in here so that NL guys should BEWARE of such a lady.They are heartbreakers.

i feel ur pain bro, she is not worth the stress, let her go her way and u just live at peace with urself

topup:
I really agreed with the first half of the original post, but then towards the discription of 'true control' I started to feel women like me would be seriously unfairly treated.

I am straightforward, and cannot tolerate games, I am not saying I am not susceptible to all games, but most of them I can tell. I think it is a problem if a man cannot say sorry - ever, simply because he thinks I will laud it over him, because I won't, I know myself and I won't, I am lucky to come from a family where my mother and father's relationship was very transparent, from the age 8 I understood where a man draws his line and what makes a woman tick. It actually makes me respect a man less if he cannot say the words, due to pride or some kind of imaginary lordship he has over me, it really makes me think that "are we still counting points here?".

I've always believed that life is much too difficult to be playing games, having sides and to be on the defense. It is these same guys who will meet women who don't follow the rules, a woman who is level headed, fair, loving and just who walks out on them because of the petty games, and then he's forced to choose to continue 'true control' which lost him the woman in the first place, such a guy who convinces himself that the woman was not controllable hence would not make a good wife might lose out.

In response to some of the rules you gave for 'total/true control' I certainly would have no problems walking out on such a guy (as I already have done so before) - unless he showed me the very thing that is forbidden in that game - true love, compassion, protection and more. .

I am 100% in favour of a 50:50 relationship, not all things must be shared equally all the time, but the balance MUST BE THERE at the end.

If you're going to hurt me, you're going to have to apologise.

And when do the games end? If we're talking long term, husbands and wives, children, do the games continue, should the mother explain why the dad might not be coming home from work in time to make the child's birthday, should she keep the children anxious because he is trying to be this unpredicatable, in control man? Bad analogy I know, but really, games are for those who don't trust, who cannot trust, and why be with someone who you can't trust, or who cannot trust you.

I could go on and on. . .

then u are not the typical nigerian girl. most nigerian girls i have come across fall under what the poster described, once u show them much attention they take u for a ride and trample upon u. so u have to understand, most guys have gone through this and most begin to form an unconscious defense just the same way girls form their defenses after a bad r/s experience. so what do we get, a vicious world of hurt, suspicion and a love game gone south!

3ndy:
lol
i beg pls no bcom iceblock we babes of nairaland no fit do without your HEAT

thanks baby, i know u can see my value

nellaluv:
hmmmn you know i want you baby, i know u want me 2, keep dreaming

dreams come true

.NET:
From my recent experiences, I now know that the right women are not attracted to Men who profess Love and give Money. They may see such men as JERKS. I WISH I KNEW THIS 10 YEAR AGO. Instead, they prefer POWERFUL, SUCCESSFUL( in career) & INTELLECTUAL Men.

Dont wanna be in Love again till I work on my self to attain the latter status.

.NET

good talk bro

nellaluv:
riiiiiiiight, internet studs, i just love them , go and play with your wives, i'm way 2 kul for u boy

stop forming, u know u want me

daduke2k:
Jungle men hav d lowest IQ ever.  Dude, just 4k off aint gat time 4 fake a$s cats like u. Am outta here.

really? yet they have better survival skills than u. i see what is happening here, u are one of those that think attending village school makes u brilliant when u cant apply your knowledge in real life. u better run b4 i set your balls on fire! 

nellaluv:
i can't fit shout i don't share husband besides all your wives are market women i'm 2 sophisticated to be in their midst, u no what i mean

nah, my women are classy, sassy, sexy, hot, on fire! sum1 call 911

ayettymama:
guys take your convo elsewhere, this was meant to be a serious thread!

and we are having a serious conversation here, do u mind?  how market? u don lose weight? u don get round butt now? is the figure 8 coming out well or u are still at figure 0?

daduke2k:
In my silly little world, every mugu adheres and kips 2 time. Tanx 4 letting us knw u live in the jungle. Arseh¤le.

so the jungle doesn't have a time zone? thanks for showing us ur low IQ

nellaluv:
na by force i say i no fit, e pass me jor. Go and play with your wives

aint u one of them?

Ebonyeyes:
Okay Na2day, you are the most bearrifulest man on earth

now we are talking. so when are the cats moving so i can move in


@ topic

so what is the word so far, have u decided to set up ur goals and see a personal trainer at ur gym or u want me to come work it out for u?

mama-gee:
[color=deeppink]All these dumb "April Foolers" sef, Can someone please ban them.
Anyway, thanks for bringing that to my attention.[/color]

that is what happens when u are quick to judge ppl and yes, u are always quick to judge and curse out folks

daduke2k:
Dude, does      <04:51:55> pm   feel like mornin 2 u? Get real fucka.

i guess in your silly little world, everybody lives in the same village, mugu!

mama-gee:
[color=deeppink]More like Fat troublemaker, no exercise.[/color]

hater! ! !

dominique:
pls what's the purpose of this thread?
the next reply after this should give me one good reason not to lock it.
cheers

u mean u never heard that toasting and s3x are very intensive workout regiments?

nellaluv:
I will mind her, infact wetin eye see hand no fit type am .

oya, wetin eyes see, type am now now!

Lamii:
why not just break up with her. . . and find someone else who prefers to be "controlled"

most of these advice on here are telling you to play mind games with her. this is juvenile behavior to say the least and very ironic considering the topic of this post. it will only work with a less or equally silly juvenile girl. and that my friend will make the most silly, juvenile relationship. lol

girls, guys, every1 play mind games. girls drop hints here and there, tryna see if u love them, or if u will get mad that they spend too much etc

rawswagga:
Na2day who are ya.u are jack of al trade master of none.

i dont have to master nothing bcuz the angel of my heart abekeade has mastered me, she knows my buttons and how to make me get high and feel like i am on top of the world. she always puts a smile on my face, she is like a drug to me, can't get enough of her, so why master her when she has total control and i am not about to make her relinquish it 

daduke2k:
gud morning?

u dont know what good morning means?

nellaluv:
keep deluding urself what are feeling like, abegi, i'm sure u couldn't stay away from your wives, and being a nuisance is this true,lmao

i am not deluding myself, it is the fact, if u don't believe me ask Seun or Mukina2 as for Mhismole just bcuz i dumped her sorry azz bcuz she was not good in bed she dey vex, no mind her jare

ayettymama:
tollu u are wicked!!!

black people can blush!!

sworn enemy, what's cooking?

nellaluv:
^ ^ yeah right i already know the  energizer bunny of my life and it definitely aint u . by d way i tot u retired from NL, wetin happen

seun was on his knees begging me to come back b4 NL collapse, out of the largeness of my heart i decided to come back to help seun so that recession won't hit his pocket books