DenreleDave:
Everything in this world are all vanity upon vanity

Beauty

Frnds

Fiance


1000 diamond rings

All is vanity... What has chi chi gained now? Even the 3 rings that she cherished didn't follow her..
The world betrayed her and gave her up.

Husband will probably re proposed to another with 5 rings.. Within a matter of time, she will be forgotten in history..


This world is vanity..

We came with nothing, we go back with nothing...


Rip chichi Eze...

If you are in heaven, we will surely meet again

But if not heaven, bye bye.

I love this... Ur comment is one of d best i have seen. So.... My reason for saying this is the part u said "if u are in heaven u will surely meet but if in hell bye bye... This sounds funny but d truth is i wonder y ppl say "till we meet to path nomore" I have always wondered....

Lamanii22:



Which scene made you cry.... Because I watched it and no scene made me cry....

faithfull18:
This is one movie that got me hooked, I literally was shivering and had goose bumps. I would really like that everybody sees it.

A life of faith, absolute belief in God..

Here's the link to see it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5mFvb62VMkc

365naira:
I really want to be one of the cases of Covid, i am writing in anticipation that this virua will locate me, I really want die one way or the other, please Covid see me here, come carry my breath away i am tired of waking up the next day.

Paxie55:

Awww. Learnt alot. This summarises the statement that says "A guy that is stingy to you doesn't love you" . Men are natural providers for the ones they love, but when they do not love you, they try hoarding things from you. Thank God your sister ended up well.

That's why I beileve that staying with a visionless and unfocused my is an egregious example of low self esteem.

DebbieBianca:
Popular Nigerian Dj, DJ Cuppy was seen washing her expensive Range Rover car due to lockdown.

In a post she shared online, The billionaires daughter of Femi Otedola , wrote:



https://www.instagram.com/p/CAaG2hjAXfv/?igshid=ne6b0uz79rov

Watch The Video Below,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_a_lbXvv00s

MelaninSkinGirl:


This was a sad read. You took vows and said for better and for worse till death do you part. That means you work through your difficulties and compatibility issues till death do you part.

Society keeps telling everyone their relationship is good but it could be better with some unknown stranger out there. The grass is never greener and the dating world is murky, sinister and dirty.

I would encourage marriage counselling, our parents had difficulties and compatibility issues but they stuck it out.

Being a single parent by choice is unfair on that child,the child needs both parents to give him/her a good start in life. I am sorry if my post is offensive but it's sad to see people just throw the towel and give up. I can just imagine how happy and hopeful you both were on your wedding day

I considered maybe getting a nanny as an option if that should be the case, i don't know

MichealKin50:
My Fiancée Does This. What Does It Mean?

Uhmmm... I dont see it as an issue. I do it a lot,. I even help my wife delete msgs and call log in her phone too. I do not see it as a big deal but well, everyone has their reasons for doing certain things. Please, try not to make certain things an issue. Do not give any room for questions that may likely bring confusion or you worrying. You can ask her y she does and stick wit whatever she tells you untill there's a reason to doubt. She might just be used to deleting msgs except sometyms, for future purposes as evidence if not, i do not see any reason y i shud keep msgs. Again, I still think it depends on ur level of understanding. As for me and my wife, we are okay d way it is.




Good day all.

The lockdown has brought my fiancée and I more closer. She spends most of her time now in my place than hers. While staying with me, I one day carried her phone to make call I discovered she doesn't put password on her phone.


Just few days ago while she was sleeping, I used her phone to Google something online and something pushed me to open her Facebook app. When I open, I realized she deletes chats after conversation. I was looking for the messages I do sent her on Facebook and could not find any.

I can't figure out what this means.

naija1stpikin:

Now add yours. What have you learnt

Nairalanders come and tell us the lessons you've learnt

IamgratefulLord:
6ou have have ovarian cyst, which is common. . Talk to an O and G consultant

Jalinspy:
I love this country so much. I will keep on pushing my luck till i get in there .

muyinet:


No matter what method you eventually employed to rid yourself of this situation...LISTEN to this....NEVER GO THROUGH SURGERY to surgically remove that growth...if you allowed yourself to be persuaded to go through surgery, just be well aware that you have also signed your death warrant.

Herbal remedy remains the best way for you. Start with taking a lot of Ocimum gratissimum juice everyday for the next 3 months religiously. Ocimum gratissimum is called locally, Efiirin in Yoruba. It works. I assure you. But it will take time.

osato45:

Attend the interview for the post of a technologist, if you eventually get the job, take it and put in your resignation letter with access bank. I Know technologist II earns up to 100k which in the long run is way better than your contract job at access

osato45:

Attend the interview for the post of a technologist, if you eventually get the job, take it and put in your resignation letter with access bank. I Know technologist II earns up to 100k which in the long run is way better than your contract job at access

NwaAmaikpe:





I find it weird that the same Femi Otedola who assisted Sadiq Daba and Victor Olaotan looked away as Theodore Anyanji died.
And to think that Theodore was a better actor than those two.

This is considering that F.O has proven himself to be a knight in shining armor for ailing actors.

More bizarre is that Chika Okpala did not put in even one percent of the energy he put in when Tunde Alabi was sick for Theo.

God dey sha.

SmellingAnus:
Tell her to return your 1.5 million immediately or use every means possible to collect it...

I wonder why they love a situation whereby they can eat their cake and still have it SMD

Neymessi:
Is that why almost every Nigerian celebrity is in dubai... Anyway congrats to bamteddy, from toilet to the alter

deltateam:


You seem to lack financial and emotional intelligence as well self control.

You want to marry and the first thing that came to mind was 'loan'! Your supposed fiancee that was to advise you even had to chunk out #200 000 to add. All for what?

You weren't ready to marry and yet you were firing her on top gear.

Beatswim:
bros as a counsellor.. I married without a job for 5 years before God openwd a big way for me this year.. I married a nurse... So respectful... Highly tolerant and very understanding lady.. The question i need to ask u is dis... Are u a Christian? If yes then i dont feel u know about seeking God's face before u choose a woman... From inception this marriage is quite faulty.. U are going to this marriage because shes pregnant... That a bad foundation..that lady will frustrate you..beta accept her child and seek God's face for a life partner

pappy2000:




now she is everything i dont like in a delay i am even thinking of commiitting sucide because she conplains that i am not a man . I just cry and cry all day , i have no tears left in my eyes. she is just irratioanl always asking me for money.. she is very unloving , i am planning to ivorce her as soon as i marry her.

Satoshi2019:
The man provides. The working woman supports

kittykollinxx:
It's your character that would see you through the marriage not God

DeraNwamazi:
Who knows what the lady did.

fukushaki:
I and my wife keep having issues on this Dakolos matter. I told her that Dakolo is the most stupid husband I have ever seen. Rape case is not easy to prove even if it occurred last Sunday talkless of 20 years ago with no evidence and òlópòló èjá Dakolo opened is already widened mouth to tell the whole world how Oyinbo gave her wife doggy style at the back of his car. Does that makes sense ?

Donald3d:
Marriage hmmm....
As I always say every problem(s) has a solution .
My advice would have been different if you were not married yet.

And from your story she was "perfect", cooks, financial supports and all that before marriage. I am also assuming there was also no sign of insults to you or your family before marriage....

The first sign of trouble(according to you) was the birthday issue, after that multiple issues followed.

There are two possible sides to this, she is either a pretender(faking being good at the beginning) or she changed .
If she was faking her good character, to be honest, its almost impossible to resolve this.
If she changed, there is a chance things can be fixed, thankfully, you are showing signs of willingness to fix things.
The next thing to do is to find the root cause of what the issue is.


Please do not listen to people trying to make you violent . As much as they deceive themselves into thinking they are " Alpha Males " , as I always say, a true "Alpha Male" is one who knows how to neutralize situations before they escalate, who knows how to earn respect even with silence, who knows when to be tough and when to act like a fool (yes !, like a fool !), you have no idea the things you can learn and the problems you can avert just by keeping quiet and not reacting. Also a true Alpha Male knows how to Listen !!....He handles issues with wisdom and logic, he understands how to create a balance

No matter how this is viewed, she was/is wrong on all levels to be disrespectful to you and your family. But you are in this already, it can be fixed (if you both are willing to) . Pause your travel plans for now .And remind yourself about this, a good number of women act "emotionally" and not "logically", so you should be the bigger person here. Remember this advice is coming under the "impression" that she was not pretending to be a good woman and she actually just "changed", I am also giving this advice under the notion that this is not a case of pre/postpartum disorder/condition.

Do you remember this statement :



From all you wrote, you are a good man, but I want you to please Listen better, pay more attention. Take her out, buy her gifts, send her romantic text messages, leave hidden notes around the house to make her feel appreciated and wanted, ask her how her day went and be interested in her daily activities, even ask her how she prefers sex !, create time for her and remember to [b]Listen attentively to every single verbal and non verbal message she sends across[/b] ......The gifts and outing doesn't have to be very expensive(it can if you can afford it), just show you care, buying her something she loves as frequently as you can. I used to know a lady that would be swept off her feet when you buy her this chewable chocolate called Parago, it used to cost just #10 Naira. I know it sounds crazy but that's what she loved. What does your wife love Sir ?. What sweeps her off her feet ?

Now to the most important questions, most men always fail to ask their wives . Have you asked her "Baby what do you want , what do you need, is there anything I am doing wrong, is there anything you want more of, is there anything you would like me to improve on". Sit her down and in a calm way ask her these questions, you would be very shocked at the replies you would get.

The thing about marriage is, sometimes we think we are getting it all right and we are perfect, but from our partners perspective, there is something we are not doing right, or they just probably misunderstand us. Asking her the questions above, would bring to light the things you probably need to amend and also bring to light the things she is misunderstanding that you need to clarify to her.

Remember, speak softly and act wisely while you do this, get her in a good mood, probably by buying things she likes.

Again, I am not justifying her actions, if she changed and she was not pretending to be good at the beginning, something might have caused her to change, and she is just handling it the best way she feels it can be handled, although badly.

Dear husbands and wives, if your spouse is doing something you don't like or not acting or living up to your expectation, please stop trying to pass non-verbal messages. People don't talk and communicate anymore !!! why !!!. Tell them how you feel !, call them aside, have a heart to heart talk with them about what you don't like instead of going on a rampage and acting up !!. Above all learn to be tolerant too, you don't have to react to everything, especially the things your spouse is not directly responsible for(your mother did this, your sister did this).

Let's all act in wisdom please.Remember that love and marriage cannot work without massive amount of commitment, sacrifice and selflessness....At one point or the other, you or your spouse would have to be the "fool", the "subdued", the "sacrificial lamb" to make things work. Be selfless.

Another important thing is boundaries, once you are married or committed to someone, understand that ex partners have to be eliminated in all possible ways from the picture.Make this known to your spouse and have an agreement on it

And OP remember to pray too, for God to touch her heart(Proverbs 21 vs 1), but also remember that just praying without acting is useless.

I pray your marriage is restored.

NB:I purposely left the child and suspected infidelity issues out, since you said you now trust her and she trusts you.