₦airaland Forum

CaptainAyub:
That is another means to call for help too

School the fellow.
He didn't know this.

Golan007:


Her priority was twitter.

No,it wasn't.
Saner Climes have SOS.
She needed help!!!
She tweeted it to get help! But instead people were dishing out Insensitive statements.
How else would you have known if she didn't tweet it?
RIP Chinelo.Nigeria failed you.

eTen94:
They would have allowed him to pick the call and put it on speaker maybe it is the buyer that was calling him

I saw the post on a lady's page on FB yesterday morning.She said "the corpse is the man's mother, he put her in the bag because he couldn't afford an ambulance and coffin".I guess this explains the man's confidence.

mrbenjame:
Please I need an honest opinion. I’m not saying there’re no good women. But the rate at which women who marry their abroad hubbys and thereafter go to join them overseas and start misbehaving gets me very worried and sometimes afraid. The question is

1. How often does this happen?
2. Should a guy go on to take his chances?
3. Should he marry someone already abroad?
4. Should he settle entirely with another Nationality totally?

Guys make una input o make we know where we Dey.

All this questions tho,smh,
If you love ur spouse as yourself and vice versa,
I see no need for these questions,
Except you plan on becoming an oppressor instead of a companion,
This talk no suppose hard bikonu,

yemite100:
Dear Nairalanders
I just finish my OND,but I planned going for my HND but there is no helper that could help because my both parents are late, and it is just me and my other siblings and I just manage to have ND.

I planned to get a job so that I can save up little to start my HND.

I have search for job but could not get any, so i just got this opportunity and I want to seek your advice on which one I should go for

The bank Cleaner is 17k per month and I will spend #200 daily for transport, the petrol attendant is just few kilometer to where we stay and the basic salary is just 10,000,and #150 for feeding daily.

I am just a bit confused on which one I can choose.

Please no insult, I just need advice...
Thanks.

Urgent Opening
Position: Quality Control
Industry: Card Manufacturing
Job Type: Full Time
Job Days: 6 Days (Shifting)
Salary: N60,000
Qualification: OND
Location: Isolo - Lagos
To apply, send cv to delerecruits@gmail.com
Interview comes up on 25th Nov 2021

Aparche:
To get remote job, you need the following:

1) A skill: what service(s) can you offer?
Example: graphic design, web design/development, UI/UX design, 3D-animation, social media management, data entry, lead generation, copy/content writing, proof reading/editing, transcription, appointment setting, Admin Assistantetc...there are so many services you can render.

If you don't have any skill, I'll advise you to choose one based on your interest & the need for it in the market and learn it.


2) A Laptop: the type you should get depends on the skill...if you're into programming or 3d animation, & maybe graphic design you need a higher grade laptop than if you're into writing.

3)High speed Internet: You can buy a modem, use wifi, etc whatever works for you.

4) Dedicated work space in your home/room: basically comfortable table & chair, so you don't develop back pain.

After getting all these things, you can then do the following:

5) Sign up to Freelance Marketplaces such as Upwork, Fiverr, People Per Hour, Freelancer...there are so many of them.

6) You can focus on any two of these...set up your profile and optimize.
And be truthful while at it...if you're from Nigeria, state that as your Country and use your real name...

7) Start sending proposals on these platforms everyday...send as many as you can, it's a game of numbers.

It won't be easy initially because you're just starting out, but if you're consistent you will get clients.

And most times, if you do a great job for them, they will keep coming back to patronize you...some may even beg ask you to become a permanent team member and offer you a salary.

Also on some of these platforms, you'll see some agencies or businesses advertising for positions... if you apply and get the job, you don get guaranteed long term remote job be that.

7) For payment: Most of these marketplaces have escrow services, which means your client pays money to them, they take their share and give you the rest...you can link your local bank account to receive your funds.
You can open a Payoneer account, you can open a domiciliary account etc...there are so many you can get your money.

Finally, anyone can do remote work... it's not for a special group of people.

Just set your mind on it, and gradually it will start falling into place.

Thanks for taking your time to pen this.
Can you assist teach/guide on how to write proposal?
Thanks in advance.

Aparche:
To get remote job, you need the following:

1) A skill: what service(s) can you offer?
Example: graphic design, web design/development, UI/UX design, 3D-animation, social media management, data entry, lead generation, copy/content writing, proof reading/editing, transcription, appointment setting, Admin Assistantetc...there are so many services you can render.

If you don't have any skill, I'll advise you to choose one based on your interest & the need for it in the market and learn it.


2) A Laptop: the type you should get depends on the skill...if you're into programming or 3d animation, & maybe graphic design you need a higher grade laptop than if you're into writing.

3)High speed Internet: You can buy a modem, use wifi, etc whatever works for you.

4) Dedicated work space in your home/room: basically comfortable table & chair, so you don't develop back pain.

After getting all these things, you can then do the following:

5) Sign up to Freelance Marketplaces such as Upwork, Fiverr, People Per Hour, Freelancer...there are so many of them.

6) You can focus on any two of these...set up your profile and optimize.
And be truthful while at it...if you're from Nigeria, state that as your Country and use your real name...

7) Start sending proposals on these platforms everyday...send as many as you can, it's a game of numbers.

It won't be easy initially because you're just starting out, but if you're consistent you will get clients.

And most times, if you do a great job for them, they will keep coming back to patronize you...some may even beg ask you to become a permanent team member and offer you a salary.

Also on some of these platforms, you'll see some agencies or businesses advertising for positions... if you apply and get the job, you don get guaranteed long term remote job be that.

7) For payment: Most of these marketplaces have escrow services, which means your client pays money to them, they take their share and give you the rest...you can link your local bank account to receive your funds.
You can open a Payoneer account, you can open a domiciliary account etc...there are so many you can get your money.

Finally, anyone can do remote work... it's not for a special group of people.

Just set your mind on it, and gradually it will start falling into place.

Thanks for taking your time to pen this.
Can you assist teach/guide on how to write the proposal?
Thanks in advance.

O di kwa very risky.
Body odour,halitosis and bad attitude can't be discovered online.
I can't can

Prob 17:25.
His parents would have been better off childless.
Efulefu!

Hello Clubkonnect.
I funded my wallet on the 27th of Sept 2021 with #3000.
It didn't reflect on my wallet yet
Your customer care and text line isn't responsive.
Kindly assist resolve.
The reviews on Nairaland isn't encouraging and that's sad.

buygala:
Could be an advanced case of Clamydia or Gonorhea ...or any other STD..those things when advanced, cause similar facial rashes



Ask her if she has other vaginal symptoms... Like vaginal rashes or yellow discharge..


She should go run tests in a hospital and narrow down the cause instead of looking to treat the symptoms while abandoning the ailment...

Abeg where you study your own medicine??
Na wa oh.
OP,your sister should visit a dermatologist.
I've had sth similar reaction in the past. I didn't know what caused it too.
I took drugs(i don't know the name,a doctor prescribed it) after which i focused on clearing the spots it left behind.
She will be fine.

My Head of Unit at work.She will always say learn to manage your expectations.
This has helped me not to be surprised at whatever attitude/character people i call friends display.
I just smile and move on

If this story is genuine,it's appalling then.
I think they should stop saying "till death do us path" when exchanging marital vows.
Divorce and separation from ones spouse is better than killing someone you claimed to have loved.
If you have to see a person hurt before you separate,then it wasn't love in the first place.Love isn't selfish.
Too many horrible news on the media.There are still beautiful marriages out there.So i refuse to feed my brain with junks

temmypotter:
Gosh, suffering dey this country

How do Nigerians survive on 30k.. 40k... Per month?

I'm actually in disbelief.. who can explain? Like.. is their a different market things are cheap or it's the same market we all go to where 40k can't even take care of foodstuff

It's really depressing.

Stop converting the money in your mind!
It's not easy anywhere,choose your hard!

franchasng:
Op stop listening to hearsay from people on issues of marriage, especially people on the internet aka social media platforms.....most of them will paint marriage as one evil institution or another maybe out of their own failed experience they then go about generalising.....whereas millions of people around Nigeria and all over the world are all enjoying blissful marriage, so aspire to be those enjoying being married and that's what you will get because "law of attraction" works in life. You can use the power of attraction to attract all the goods things you want in life to your life, and you can also attract the negative to yourself. So always focus on the positive.


Now talking from my own personal experience as a young married man.....I have no single regrets....in fact I am enjoying being married than being single because it seems my life is now more organized and purposeful than when I was single. Mind you, I was doing well financially when I got married so I didn't marry out of no choice, I married at my own pace, not that I was a rich guy as in million million dollars oh, but I think I should be considered among the buoyant guys Nigerians see as rich; 2 tokunbo cars, live in a flat, own some landed properties being developed, owned my own business and few travel experience lol......but despite all that, when I look back at when I was single and compare it with now that I am sweetly and happily married, I can boldly say that my life is more organized and peaceful now than then lol.


I and my wife didn't officially court for a long time, we were on and off boyfriend and girlfriend all thanks to my stubborn and womanizing self lol, and her too much shakara too. I liked my wife when I first met her, she was so sexy like I desire my ladies as in, but this girl was not yielding to my moves....she indirectly accepted me oh but to fully put herself into the matter was an issue, which pushed me away to other ladies....and I always tell her that she was lucky cos I almost married another chick like that if not that she failed my final stage tests and all that.....pls ladies if you like a guy stop doing too much shakara for him cos you can lose him that way, my wife was lucky or maybe it was destiny that we would be couple at the end if not, her shakara was too much that pissed me off a lot.


But in all these, we still dated; officially for 2 years, unofficially for 4 years.....when I leave she will be the one to reconnect via Facebook chats or WhatsApp chats, especially during festive seasons, she must send me season greetings and ask how I was doing, which always got me confused and happy somehow lol. She was doing shakara but still giving me green light not to go that she likes me lol. She said her mind told her that I was a playboy that came to play her, so she was just scared of committing to me; I found out after we got married lol



So back to topic; if you are single guy, especially today, please and please, focus more on your finances; this is very important in having a successful marriage.....work work work work.....when I say work, not going around looking for job when you can't find one, if you cannot find a job, create one yourself. This is not impossible.....start something no matter how small......internet has even made it easier to start business today without any shop or office.....just have an online presence, find a business niche and be consistent and patient in your niche, it must pay off. Don't jump from one business to another just because some of your friends or people you know are making big money from it.....stay on your own lane and master it and be consistent.....and then have a clear vision of what you want, dream big oh......and always confess your heart desires without fear. Chase your dream.....while you lie down on the bed be visualizing what you want in life, I hardly sleep and it has become a part of me since teenage hood. This worked for me.


Working in an oil company or communication company or IT company or Bank or Telecom company or medical field or wherever is not the only way to be financially successful in life.....people are becoming rich from all fields of life, I am a living witness.....I have friends in virtually all fields of life and these guys are killing it money wise.....even in the things you despise and look down on.....I have a friend that's rich today through scrap recycling business......another in sound business......another in construction.....another in farming.......another in normal market trading business.....another is doing excellently well as a teacher, yes teacher......he now runs an online tutoring platform coupled with the fact that he owns a lot of physical tutorial centers in 2 different states.....so there is money in all fields of life, find a field and master it, dream big, introduce unique ideas into that field, monetize your new ideas.......multiply whatever that's working and keep doing it and you must be rich with time....remember success takes time. I started desiring to be rich from when I was a teenager lol....it may sound funny.....but while I was in higher institution, I was running businesses; extra morale classes for first year students, doing runs lol for WAEC, JAMB, etc students God forgive me, owned a call center, a photocopy center, game center......this was all as a student. I went for NYSC and launched a laptop selling business where I was serving and sold lots of laptops to fellow corpers lol



My whole point is, you need steady income to run a successful marriage today. But if you have done all your best and the money is not stabilizing the way you dream, please don't let it stop you from getting married.....but then, you must marry your friend to succeed in that situation if not, she will chicken out with time. Marry a lady that understand your vision in life, who also believes in your vision and efforts. Marry a lady who believes in time, who is also patient with life. Not all ladies are patient. Not all ladies believe that it will be better tomorrow, so don't marry such ladies......which brings us to communication during dating or courtship.....talk talk talk...don't keep mute around your partner while dating.



I have friends who married broke but today they are almost rich. Don't do this unless you have the inner conviction to do it, and like I said you must marry your friend to succeed in that condition and she must believe in you and time. Avoid lazy ladies....she may be working today but if you examine her, she is lazy. She maybe unemployed today, but if you examine her closely, she is not lazy.....avoid lazy, entitled, prideful and greedy ladies,they will frustrate your life.


Sometimes, marriage can bring you fortunes.....it can bring you luck, I don't use to believe in this, but ever since I got married, I started seeing my efforts yield more fruit than when I was single....and the moment we gave birth, it was as if my life entered a high speed.......things started working faster.......more results like its a charm lol.....I still give God all the glory.



Marriage is sweet if you marry the right person and if you prepare financially as a man. Don't have the mindset that you and your wife will share all bills....plan to cater for your family all by yourself and God will empower you for that....my wife works but I have never asked her to bring a dime for any of our family expenditure......not that this is ideal, but this is what every woman wishes for in life, even Billionaire Mrs Alakija wishes for this, and when you as their husband give them this, they will give you their best......but she must not hide her income from you, if she does, its a sign of worry. I know how much my wife earns even though she doesn't contribute, but sometimes I will jokingly tell her that I know she is planning to build a sky scrapper for her kids.....that its good....I also encourage her a lot to help her family members that stood by her while growing up....and to help people in need wherever she meets them with hesitation. But don't ever put your whole eyes on your wife's income if you want peace in your home, pray to God to empower you financially not to depend on your wife's income and you will enjoy peace in your marriage.



Before you marry, prepare financially....marriage today is financially draining if you want a standard family.....you can manage things also, but prepare, and tell God how you want your family or marriage to be, God is real oh, no let them fool you say there is no God, there is a supreme being above all humans oh.....I no be born again oh, but I tell you there is God. You don't even need much prayers to know your wife, just observe your inner piece and use your wisdom. If you are struggling financially, don't marry a jobless or unemployed lady, biko dont do it, its suicidal.



You see all those fashion designer ladies, they are good for marriage oh, that their handwork is good.....you can invest in her.....its far better than marrying an unemployed graduate lady hoping that she would secure job with Shell soon lol.....jobs don cast.



I am married but still feel like I am single.......no stress....my wife gives me freedom, peace of mind, space but she is also a monitoring spirit lol. The only thing she doesn't trust me with is beautiful ladies with big big ass because I love beautiful ladies with killer shape eh, na only that thing fit carry me go hell fire in case any of una see me for hell fire oh


and to the last part of your question, yes it remains....my wife didn't change.....in fact her love and care is even increasing to my fear lol.


Some ladies love more when they get married....so it all depends on the lady you married and how you take care of her.....but most importantly, marry a friendly lady with less baggage and keep working to have a steady income, it makes marriage sweet. Be positive and you will marry the best. I never imagined myself having marital issues while single....I use to ask friends then that why will I be fighting with my wife na.....that it cant happen and its what I am experiencing......and always encourage your wife to keep fit and watch how she eats......you must help her monitor her tummy, ugliness of a woman starts from the tummy, apology to all ladies struggling to keep their tummy flat, pls forgive my use of this word


As for house chores, I was lazy from childhood when it comes to house chores, that's the only reason my father flogged me then, but my mom always defended me then and I love her to pieces for all that she did for me then lol.


Even while single I hated house chores, it made me eat out often while in school to avoid washing plates and pots lol. So my wife know this before we got married and she never expected much from me and all thanks we have few domestic staffs that assist. But whenever I am around and in good mood then, I make her room bed lol, maybe dust her mirror stand, etc, but I bath and dress my little boy often (I cherish doing this one a lot)

Well said! Lengthy but worth reading! Keep enjoying marital bliss!

SegFault:
It feels okay. The only thing you need in this life are friends and family to love, that so called love between couples is a scam and does not exist, when the person becomes old and stops looking appealing watch the butterflies in your tummy digest.

That's why you don't go for physical looks,they fade away.Even the bible said it,beauty is vain!
Love is not Scam, we may have difficulty meeting the right ones but when we find them,it's one of the best feeling ever.Let love lead!

CHOPbeating:
You are a healer, but healers of your type of calling may suffer serious set-backs because of those you're destined to heal. If you don't do so, you're likely to suffer in the end.

The road I see before you is very tough. If you run away from them and run to those you think are not troubled,,, that means you are about to start your own new generation of troubles.

Solution: You need to go extra-miles to consult the God of your own destiny. Offer your pure sacrifices as it may be demanded (this is not same as juju/dark powers --- be wise).

Be conscious of your revelations (they usually come to you).
You won't deny that you have your own troubles too in your family.
You equally have mad characters and you're well-known (you need to expunge the bad characters, but be wise).

Never stop helping people even though it's not always soothing (...but be wise in helping). Share gifts to children and orphans and try to make out time to offer them most dominant of your gifts,, e.g. teaching, singing, drawing etc... This will serve as a guide-light and shield that will direct you to your destiny and you should emerge victorious. Remember, a lot of people pass through this journey and end in misery. God will be with you.

Digest this little piece and grow more understanding yourself.

...from experience.

You sound like all this prophets in Nigeria Movies.

24kmagic:
I visited my sister recently and where she lives, there's this couple. The husband of that lady is the most useless husband alive. From sunrise to sun set, he'll be inside the room with this heat lying down like a log of wood. The wife will be the one to go out and hustle. This woman takes every rubbish this man throws at her and none of her siblings is aware. She praises him among her siblings and they respect him. But the man is an asshole. The only thing is that he's not violent. He's just useless. When I inquired about this lady to understand why she's enduring all these, I got to understand that she's from a troubled family. Her parents kept breeding children without plans for them. The father gave birth to ten children although two died. They didn't have the best of lives growing up. Their family house is nothing to right home about. In fact, the sisters are also hoping to get married in order to leave that house. This lady can't go back to face the troubles her sisters are trying to run away from. In fact, they are looking up to her. This is just one example out of many in this part of the country. There are so many of such troubled families across 9ja.

Marrying a girl from that family will be of great advantage to you I swear. The reason is because she'll do everything possible to remain married in order not to end up like her siblings. She'll endure every rubbish you throw at her because if she remembers that her father's house is not any better, she'll mellow. She'll want to be the only difference among the girls in the family.

OP, if the present one is a good girl, marry her. She'll make sure your children dont end up like her siblings.

There are some families you marry from and you can't tell the girl rubbish cos you know where you took her from. Whereas there are other families where you'll insult your father-in-law and your wife will still be the one to beg you just to stay in your house.

After the story,i thought something valuable will be said..until i read the last paragraph, you no try

ExAngel007:
l lost a dear friend back in 2016 because we took her to a prayer house where she spent 3 weeks. no prayers could save her.

That's when I know all those pastors are scammers, keep collecting money for stupid reasons

Who pays money for miracles? That's error number 1

Toks2008:
Every man should do a DNA test for his children especially first child who does not really look like him. Don't get me wrong, it is not a must that a child looks like the dad but if there is no form of resemblance at all i will advise the man to do a DNA test.

I ji kwa ego? If only you know how much it cost to run DNA test on a person,how much more children.Besides the day your spouse hears you did such a thing,ah your marriage is in trouble. You know what that means? You are insinuating that your wife sleeps around and you have no trust in her.

Ofemmanu1:
I've made my mistake, and I'm carrying the cross now.
I've married a broke idiott.

Hope your spouse doesn't see this shaa.

purpinkx:
The problem most humans have is seeing things in extremities, black and white, no middle ground.

[Some] Rich people [I've met] are greedy.
[The] Women [I've met] are wh°res.
[The] men [ I allow into my life] are dogs.

Etc.

We don't like to use the words in the brackets because it exposes something about us, and it makes our argument invalid.

I saw a research on coaches and training facilities.

According to the research, when a coach, for some reason, likes a player and ‘thinks’ that they can go far in life, the coach gives them more training opportunities, corrects them constructively, freely offers useful tips and tricks, as well as become interested in their progress.

The player feels encouraged and, most times, becomes successful.

However, if the coach, for some reason, doesn't like a player and ‘thinks’ they don't have what it takes to be successful, he doesn't invest( or ’waste’) his time on the player. After all, they'll be no good.

Subconsciously, the player picks up on this and behaves accordingly. A few see it for what it is, do all they can to prove the Coach wrong, and they succeed.

A real life scenario. There's this shop I usually Barb at. There are two barbers in the shop, but I like one more than the other.

Even if the barber I like makes a mistake in my hair, I still feel dope AF. But, the other barber could give me a clean hair cut, maybe even better than that of the barber I like, and I'll feel my confidence drop until the hair grows back. I even had to get the barber's number so I'll schedule a haircut with him before going to the shop.

It is what it is, we are humans and we all have biases.

Could it be that you are projecting your expectations of these people on them? Or that you're attracting what you think of?

Nicely thought! I like the way you reason.

Abouwaza:
And what about the under200,000 odds
Lol were government
Everybody for Yankee go collect palliative even Bill Gate
Sometimes you just have to sit and think if this is a Country or Corntree ?
Anyways, we go dey alright someday

It's a CORNTREE oh

Nukubib:
very valid question. They still have money to be printing papers and purchasing weapons.

The cafe where they printed that letter should have been the first to raise alarm.

Flyingngel:
Seriously, I don't know the type of clay God use in creating us.
Tell Nigerians a particular thing over and over they will continue to do the opposite.
Greed is the number one problem of so many Nigerians be it politically, religiously, academically, and otherwise.
I pray God help us.

Kato PolyCap!
Difficult human beings,tueh.When they don't care about their own lives,what do they expect from the government.

Dybala11:
Move on with your life, there are many fishes in the river.

What if your eyes is on that particular Salmon

Freehuman:
You are a disgrace to men across the globe. It's a shame that people your age are working from home and improving their financial status but all you do is chase an unromantic amoeba you call "girlfriend". You spend your meager but diminishing and scarce resources on a stupid , useless and shapeless Nigerian female creature who will not only run your "3 zeros" bank account dry but will not also hesitate to dump you for a higher bidder.

You're very jobless . How can an intelligent man type a long epistle just for a worn out passage not only his tiny needle passes through?

Wreckormend you are useless. Your old man wasn't wrong!

You are hate filled and it's only right you get some form of therapy before it hits you harder than this.Ndo!

KingAzubuike:
You are a very big disgrace. In this trying times you still have time for jokes

Disgrace? How did you come up with that word? You that have taken the period serious.Hope you've gotten a vaccine for the virus already?Don't even annoy me

sagitariusbaby:
Oh please! I've been doing this with my staffs since 2015

Staff not Staffs

Agugbadin:
Is it not better to remain single than see what some are seeing in their marriage

Are there no good marriages you can look at and emulate? Let's learn to look at the good side of life too!!

simple250:
Divorce cases will increase after the lockdown ...

I beg to disagree,rather bonds will be strengthened among couples.Couples will see more reason to support their partners in domestic chores, kids upbringing and even in their finances.