₦airaland Forum

Thinee:
All indecent girls were once decent, getting a decent girl today doesn't mean she can't be indecent tomorrow
The question is that what if by playing decent she ends up with someone else after I've stay with her

Stop seeing negativity when there is none.

A girl will leave you for the following reasons.

1. If she notices that you're a chronic cheat/womanizer.

2. You're the type who yells at her and even beat her up whenever you're angry.

3. You lie a lot and you're cunning. Most of the things you told her about yourself, are all lies.

4. You're only interested in sex. You care less about her life, dreams, visions, goals...etc.

5. You don't behave or act like someone who has a goal to achieve. You're so comfortable with your current state and show very little effort in career advancement.

6. You are very bossy, controlling, demanding.

7. She doesn't feel comfortable sharing personal secrets about herself or family with you.

8. She doesn't enjoy your company.

9. You complain and nag over irrelevant issues.

If you're guilty of one or more of these, then change cos she'll definitely leave you for a guy with much better prospects, she she won't be the only one to do so. Other girls will leave you as well.

Thinee:
Okay I get your point my friend, so what exactly is the advise you have for me
Cus I really love her and would love to spend the rest of my life with her.....the only thing I think is giving us issues is sex , so what do you advise me to do

My advice is promise her marriage...keep her close then work on your finances.

She's a graduate, she can look for a job as well, you don't have to wait till you're 30, once you both can attain a certain level of financial stability, you can get married.

If okada and Keke riders can singlehandedly foot their traditional marriage rites, then I strongly believe that you will be equal to the task if you put in more efforts.

themaestro08:
Utter rubbish! Contraceptive pills are safe and effective( if use perfectly could be 99% effective but humans ain't perfect so its at least 91% effective).

Of course it has sides effects, which is unsurprising, considering the fact even paracetamol itself is not 100% safe nor effective. I asked again what's your point?

Name the ones you know that are 91% safe, and wouldn't have severe side effects on the womb when taken for a long period of time?

Thinee:
I'm not sick my friend, maybe when you are in my shoes you will understand what I'm talking about

I can never be in your shoes cos I've been begging God for a decent girl to marry. And if any miraculously comes my way, I'll happily embrace the opportunity and get married to her, rather than defile and convert her into a street girl, then complain of how useless women are, whereas you're the ones making them useless.

Thinee:
If while having sex she gets pregnant, then good luck and goodness also , but I'm not even talking of condoms, I dated a girl for 2years + while growing up, I don't think we used condoms more than 5 times in a period of 2 years , she has a very high libido more than me, she never got pregnant until at the end of our relationship and she decided to terminate it herself even tho I wanted her to keep it.......I told her twas her decision and I was ready for whatever she thought was right

What I'm saying is that we could have sex without her getting pregnant, I'm almost perfect at withdrawing and I despise condoms that's why I don't have random sex just one person is enough for me..

You ain't thinking to her own end , what if she ends up with someone else after I've waited for her or she ends up sleeping with someone else ?? Or leaving me what will I do, knowing I didn't have sex with her and she left for another person

You are selfish and only interested in satisfying your selfish desires.

Tomorrow you will come back here on Nairaland to lament how you can't find any decent girl to marry. Whereas you had them on a platter of gold but immaturity and selfishness made you loose them.

Thinee:
I understand your point also friend, but I see everything I want in a wife in her ,just that I'm not ready for marriage, and that's why I'm also trying to have sex with her cus I don't know what might happen tomorrow, she could break up with me and the next guy she meets she gives him her virginity immediately....and I don't want that

You are seriously sick.

themaestro08:
What happened to protection and contraceptives? Last time i checked this things are available and easy to get.

Don't be surprised this so-called virgin had rode numerous dicks of varying sizes .

Leave contraceptives, only a naiev girl will take that rubbish. Cos constant taking of it can damage the womb leading to barrenness.

If you look carefully on drugs like "Azurette" which is a very strong contraceptive pill you'll see where it's written clearly to be taken not more than once or twice in a month, a situation where he's constantly releasing inside her and she's constantly taking it, and her womb damages will he still marry her?

Let's not be selfish with our advices please, these are people's children you're trying to ruin and it's very bad.

Thinee:
I'm not a selfish person , and I also consider a lot of stuffs also, the issue now is that what if while waiting for her she jilt me and end up with someone else ...and I'm also ready for the responsibilities , just that marriage is not yet in my agenda now, not cus I'm promiscuous but cus I'm not ready to let a child suffer ...we could also have sex without her getting pregnant

Read what you just wrote...you're not ready for the responsibilities yet you want to disvirgin her. She has told you she isn't ready but nevertheless you still want to do it. Isn't that selfishness?

Disvirgining her will only be beneficial to you since she isn't ready and you aren't ready to bear the consequences of whatever comes after it. That's selfishness.

And you claiming not to get her pregnant is just laughable cos there's no way a girl will live with you and you'll keep using protection every time you both have sex. Protection works when she's visiting not when you both are staying together, how long will you keep buying condoms before you damn the consequences and start diving in raw, most especially when it's the middle of the night and you've run out of stock? And you've already acknowledged here that you've got a very high libido.

Like I said, respect her decision and let her be. For her to to graduate from the University as a virgin means she's decent, I don't know how else you want her to prove it to you. So stop pestering her everyday for sex, or you'll give her the impression that her virginity is the only thing you care about and leave you for good.

Whenever you're financially ready, you can go and see her parents. That's what responsible men do when they meet decent girls.

You've not saved up enough money to get married and have children yet you want to have sex with her?

You sound very selfish, you only want to satisfy your urge but isn't ready for the responsibilities associated with your actions.

Leave that girl alone until you're financially ready to settle down then go and see her parents.

Before I say anything here, op are you a Virgin?

haryorbarmie83:
This government is clueless, instead of them to invite the families of the account holders or their next of skin to come claim the money reverse is the case here in Nigeria.

By 2023 this administration will start collecting tithes on behalf of churches

Don't you have any self worth?

How can you degrade yourself like this and expect her to date you?

She obviously sees you as a hopeless romantic, who can't control his feelings...

That girl is a thousand times more mature than you, she just hasn't been lucky with men. Don't waste any more time with her, cos she wouldn't date you.

Buhari-led Government To Borrow Billions Of Naira In Dormant Bank Accounts, Unclaimed Dividends From Nigerians

The Act states that the monies transferred to the trust fund will be a special debt owed by the Federal Government


The President Muhammadu Buhari-led government will be borrowing from Nigerians unclaimed dividends and bank account balances unattended for at least six years.

According to the Finance Act 2020 recently signed into law by President Buhari, the unclaimed dividends and deposits in dormant bank accounts will be available as special credit to the Nigerian government through the Unclaimed Funds Trust Fund.

The Act states that the monies transferred to the trust fund will be a “special debt owed by the Federal Government to shareholders and dormant bank account holders”.

It also said that the original owners of the money can claim it at any time.

It read, “Any unclaimed dividend of a public limited liability company quoted on the Nigerian Stock Exchange and any unutilised amounts in a dormant bank account maintained in or by a deposit money bank which has remained unclaimed or unutilised for a period of not less than six years from the date of declaring the dividend or domiciling the funds in a bank account shall be transferred immediately to the trust fund.”

The operation of the trust fund will be supervised by the Debt Management Office (DMO) and governed by a governing council chaired by the Finance Minister and a co-chairperson from the private sector appointed by the President.

According to the Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC), the value of unclaimed dividends hit N158.4 billion at the end of 2019.

Some bank accounts have also become dormant after the owners died or the accounts have been left unoperated for years and the owners did not register for bank verification numbers.

According to a report by the Debt Management Office, Nigeria's total debt stock (foreign and domestic), as at June 2020 stood at N31. 01 trillion ($85.9 billion)- 8.31% increase when compared with N28. 63 trillion ($79.3 billion) recorded in March 2020.

Lalasticlala mynd44 Dominique

http://saharareporters.com/2021/01/06/buhari-led-government-borrow-billions-naira-dormant-bank-accounts-unclaimed-dividends

Do people ask for hugs?

If I'm friends with you why should I have to request for a hug? I can just hug you even if it's not a full hug.

Men are so cheap these days, women knows this that's why they've upgraded their game.

Many men lack discipline and and self control. I've seen guys, married guys who won't blink if the opportunity presents itself for them to sleep with a hawker, maid, even their wife's sister. I mean who does that?

We tag girls as being cheap yet we have more sexcapades than them, and we're so proud and even brag about it. A responsible man should have principles, not sleeping with every hole you come across. Men who fall victims of this kayamata stuff are the worse fools on earth, and I don't feel sorry for them, let them suffer so that they can have sense.

Akuruoulo:
Working class female admirer can do what ? MAYBE IN THE MOVIE

You should go out more often.

Only the ones in marketing do this. They do it with customers in order reach their target. Any other banker sleeping around is doing so cos it's in her nature and has nothing to do with her job.

Akuruoulo:
HIS/HER WHAT ? WHICH FEMALE ADMIRER CN GIVE U SHISHI ?

The working class ones can do it.

vivaciousvivi:
I will collect both and remain with my main oga.

It can cost you your relationship. Haven't you thought about that.

Ishilove:
E be like sey women don show you shege. See as your dropping wisdom like it's hot.

We all have our good, bad and ugly experiences from relationships. For me I've had my fair share seen all the sides, and like the old saying, that goes thus betrayal from loved ones are the ones that makes us wiser and stronger. I've become stronger and wiser.

NextD18:
I don't like been gifted, because I will end up not using it.

Depends on the gift bro...if it's something you need, you'll definitely use it.

virginprincess:
No matter how cheap the gift is, i will accept it wholehearted from my lover, before an admirer gives you something, know that he is after something, maybe dating or even your body, in this life nothing is free not even in free town.

Well said.

Op how old are you?

How can you even call for this cheap scam?

Glaring red flags...

1. The fraudster can't even compose good English. Any company whose CSR is chatting with you on any social media platform would be very professional, their English would be organized and properly composed. this one sounded like a secondary school drop out Yahoo boy.

2. Fake site. Since he told you that the scheme was from sporty bet, the first thing to do was to Google sporty bet, check out the original website if such promo actually exist, if your curiosity isn't satisfied, you can search for their customer service number and give them a call.

3. ATM details, why would anyone ask you for your card details online? Why can't they ask you to transfer the hundred naira then request for your account details to credit you with the 330k. Apart from trusted merchant websites like jumia, konga... etc, I don't submit my card details anywhere. Scammers are everywhere looking for easy targets.

I'm sorry for your lost. You've learnt your lesson the hard way. I believe you'll be much wiser next time.

I just decided to ask this question...I've seen people gift their admirers, iPhones, cars, even cash gifts of up to 5m.

So would you as a girl or guy reject an expensive gift from an admirer for cheap gift from your lover that comes from his/her heart?

This isn't news. Most celebrities have broken homes. It's terribly difficult to manage your social status along with a home. One must give way for the other. Your fame or your home. Most choose their home and retain the fame.

DNA tests are expensive, very expensive. The only way for it to be effective even to the common man is if the government can purchase the machines in all government hospitals across the country, then subsidize the fee, only then would it work. Meaning once your wife delivers in a government hospital, you would be given DNA test results, blood group, genotype, finger and foot prints... etc. The subsidized DNA fee will be added to the total delivery expenses.

As long as private hospitals are the only ones with the machine, patients will have to pay through their nose to access their DNA status.

HIV test is almost free in government hospitals because the price has been subsidized, even the retroviral drugs are free of charge.

If the government can step in it would be quite easy.

Asking an average man whose salary isn't even up to 100k to pay over 300k for DNA test is way overboard.

Paternity fraud is evil and should be frowned upon.

AnonymousRebec:
I agree with this your post. God is not an author of confusion. Even the Bible says it. So who are the real people that heard from God and who claimed to have heard from God

That's the problem, we can't identify them bacause everyone out there is claiming to have seen or heard something.

The confusion in Christianity here in Nigeria is so annoying.

Yamiriflathead:
Nigerian men will Never have Sense
I don't Pity them one bit because they would always see the signs but usually continue in their search for non existent love and completeness from people who are incapable of giving them.
You will imagine an idiot saying "I feel i'm compatible with her". Or " I find completeness in her".
You're a fool, na the same time Dem born una two?
You went through primary secondary and tertiary institution all by yourself without bothering about unicorns and suddenly someone u just met is so important that without her you can't find completeness?
This is Simping and bluepilledness
That's bullshit man, you can only find compatibility with yourself, any other forms of compatibility and search for unicorns soulmates, the right one will always bring you premium tears like the idiot of a man in the OP's story as well as death like tunde Thomas.
Nobody dey gree say e woman na devil until Dem don show you pepper, by that time you go kom confirm.
Tunde Thomas would never have believed his wife was capable of what she did.
He once sought completeness in her, she was once amongst the rare 10% of good women out there.
To Simps, every woman is amongst the rare 10% of wife materials and it's not "their portion that their wife or gf is amongst the 90% of women with terrible attitudes.
That's why you see them saying stuffs like "there are good women but they are rare" or "make money and look for a good wife". This is how SIMPING starts because women are professional pretenders
Men who seek for love, completeness, compatibility and other abstract things in a woman deserve to die of heart attack like tunde Thomas

I agree with you...most times the signs are there. Just that many men are blinded by a non-existing love. A woman that will divorce you after just one month in marriage will actually have displayed such glaring signs but most men foolishly choose to ignore them.

I learnt one bitter truth in relationships. Who isn't yours isn't yours, never force anyone to love you.

Never endure anyone who's character isn't compatible with you because you love them, it will end in premium tears because people don't change they only get worse.

Never invest heavily on a partner to win her heart, your investment will earn you her body but not her heart.

Never go into conflict with your parents or siblings because of a partner. You'll be on your knees begging when your relationship goes south. (This one applies to females as well)

Never try to change or rebrand a partner, you'll end up getting frustrated. Go for the one that exhibits the characteristics of what you want and date her.

Never fall in love with a girl you love, rather fall in love with a girl who loves you. When you fall in love with a girl you love, if she doesn't feel the same way, you'll spend all your time in that relationships trying to gain her affection. She will torture you emotionally, drain you financially, manipulate you into doing things for her against your wish... etc. But when a girl geninuely loves you, she'll go any length and give anything just to be with you. Flee from home, borrow, make sacrifices...just to make you happy.

Finally, men should be wise, flying your spouse abroad isn't bad, but make sure she has earned your loyalty, trust and love.

The thing is men should avoid dating broke and lazy girls with high taste.

Any girl that can't independently take care of her basic needs doesn't deserve to be in a relationship. How can you be dating a guy and be asking him to buy you sanitary pad, cream, soap, data... etc. Haba, It shows that you're highly irresponsible, lazy and can't effectively manage a home.

Sadly most average girls have this silly mindset. That's why men see them as sex tools

Sometimes I don't frown when churches like depper life, MFM, choosen... etc. Send people like this home for indecent dressing. Cos it's obvious that they didn't come to church to worship God but to seduce weak men, destory homes, pull down pastors and church workers.

This woman keeps sounding like a terribly depressed person. She claimed she doesn't need any man in her life, yet her loneliness is getting so irritating even to the general public.

She spends her life poking her nose into other people's affairs, from davido who's young enough to be her son, to wizkid, to fatoyibo...etc.

Madam kemi go and get married, have a family and loved ones you can call your own, that way you wouldn't have time to vomit meaningless comments on a daily basis.

Realtord43:
Reading this now is making me to cry. we don too suffer here all due one NIGERIA. I will surely move out if i hardwork and with GOD GRACE

I never knew I was suffering until the day I left Nigeria. That's what a friend of mine told me when he relocated to Canada.

Nigeria is a mess...the best any youth can do for himself is to leave this shit hole.